Ever felt like invisible barriers are holding you back in business? I had the pleasure of welcoming back the brilliant Vivienne Joy, who shed light on the pervasive issue of mindset blocks. Together, we tackled the deceiving 'presenting problem' that many entrepreneurs mistake for their main obstacle, when in fact, the root causes—like self-worth or money mindset—are often hidden deeper. Vivian shared her insights into identifying these under-the-surface issues, paving the way for us to discuss her transformative coaching strategies that can propel any business owner forward.
This Mindset Monday, we didn't just skim the surface; we dissected the language and behaviours that reveal why we resist certain tasks. Viv broke it down into fear, lack of skill, or lack of value, and offered actionable advice to help us move past these sticking points. She even let us into her own world, sharing a personal struggle with blogging that many of us can relate to. By the end of our chat, it was clear that understanding whether we're stuck in freeze, fight, or flight mode is crucial, and Viv's approach could be the catalyst you need to ignite your full potential and drive business growth.
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Ever felt like invisible barriers are holding you back in business? I had the pleasure of welcoming back the brilliant Vivienne Joy, who shed light on the pervasive issue of mindset blocks. Together, we tackled the deceiving 'presenting problem' that many entrepreneurs mistake for their main obstacle, when in fact, the root causes—like self-worth or money mindset—are often hidden deeper. Vivian shared her insights into identifying these under-the-surface issues, paving the way for us to discuss her transformative coaching strategies that can propel any business owner forward.
This Mindset Monday, we didn't just skim the surface; we dissected the language and behaviours that reveal why we resist certain tasks. Viv broke it down into fear, lack of skill, or lack of value, and offered actionable advice to help us move past these sticking points. She even let us into her own world, sharing a personal struggle with blogging that many of us can relate to. By the end of our chat, it was clear that understanding whether we're stuck in freeze, fight, or flight mode is crucial, and Viv's approach could be the catalyst you need to ignite your full potential and drive business growth.
My recommendations: Want to get booked more and get more out of your guest appearances? Join fabulous podcaster & Podcast Guest trainer Kelly Mosser for her signature Program Hell Yes Guest get 10% off the program with my link plus some extra bonuses from me check it out HERE FEA Create Simple all-in-one web, CRM, email system For graphics Canva For Email Convert Kit
Want to Guest? Apply here >>FORM Edited and produced by Donna Eade
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Speaker 1:
You're listening to the Mindset in Action podcast, the place to be to grow and streamline your business. I'm your host, Donna Eade. Let's jump into the show. Welcome back to the podcast, everybody for this mini Mindset Monday. I'm your host, Donna Eade, and I am joined again by the lovely Vivian Joy. Welcome to the podcast, Vivian Joy. Welcome to the podcast, Vivian.
Speaker 2:
Hello again. Thank you for having me again.
Speaker 1:
Okay. So last time, guys, we talked a little bit too much. But this is the problem with me and Viv we're both talkers, so you know we're gonna I'm gonna have to try and to rein us in this time because it is a 10 minute Monday Minute Mindset, so we are going to jump straight into it. Vivian, today we're going to be talking about our mindset block. So this is what we're saying, we're working with, this is what I talk to all of my guests that come on, I come and I say what has been your biggest mindset block in your business and how have you overcome it? And that's what we kind of talk about. So how do we actually discover what our blocks are? What are some of the things that we can do to kind of work out what it is that's actually getting in our way? Because I think oftentimes we think it's one thing and when we dig deeper it's actually something else entirely.
Speaker 2:
Absolutely. We call it in coaching or therapy, which I'm both the presenting problem. The presenting problem is I haven't got any clients, and so they think that the answer to that is to go and find out how to get clients. Actually, what's really going on is something else underneath, something to do with their own value, something to do with money, mindset, self-worth, a whole load of stuff. So how can we discover it? Fantastic question. First off, Donna, Thank you very much. It is one I could talk about six days with, so you definitely love to keep me in.
Speaker 1:
But you know the thing is when you talk passionately about what you do and you really feel passionately.
Speaker 2:
It comes across, doesn't it? Hopefully, so how can you discover them? Well, there's a few clues. The first one is your own language. No-transcript is telling you what you don't really want to be doing. And once you discover what you don't really want to be doing, you can work out why you don't want to be doing it. And there's three reasons why we don't want to be doing it. And there's three reasons why we don't want to do things. You've probably heard me talk about this before, if anyone's heard me before. The first one is we're scared of it. It's fear. The second is that we don't have the skill, which is usually covered by training. And the third is it's just not valuable enough, ie, it's not valuable enough to get out of our own way. We don't want to move from safety because it's too certain. So, therefore, we have to work out which one of those three or there might be a combination, and sometimes all three, in which case, good luck. You need a coach.
Speaker 2:
Uh, you're never going to get three of those if it's not valuable enough and you're terrified and you don't know how to do it, you will sit in. You will sit and freeze, you absolutely will whereas actually your fight if you think you can get the skills and you can move forward, even if if you're scared. But if it's valuable enough, you'll fight. So you can hear how that combination of those three things really important to understand for yourself. I do an exercise with my clients that have got masses of overwhelming to-do lists, which most people have in business, because there's such a lot to do, and I literally just go through your to-do list and just mark on each one. Which of these things is stopping you through your to-do list and just mark on each one which of these things is stopping you. Yes, there's some stuff that you're going to do today, but there'll be stuff on there that's been there for weeks, months, maybe even years. Ironically, blogging was one of mine is sat there for donkeys, honestly, and one day I did this for myself and I worked out um, it just didn't have any value. I couldn't work out why it was going to be important for my business. And then I had. I went on a networking session and there was a woman did a talk about the power of blogging it was probably the best thing I ever watched to help me get out of my own way with this and she was talking about what it does for your website, what it does for SEO, what it does for positioning. She increased, she turned up that value button and all of a sudden I thought I'm going to do it and I've now blogged and vlogged, probably at least twice a week. Then the last five, six years hence, there's a lot of content on my website. So you have to turn up the value, turn down the fear and get into the skills, because once you get those three, you will do it and you will absolutely do it if it's valuable enough. You know, I say you know, if you've got kids, you know, don't say I won't pick them up from school. Today, it's quite valuable to pick the kids up from school, but actually, oh, I won't write a blog or I won't record a podcast or I'm not going to go to that. Networking it's just not valuable enough is the main one in business. So and the fear that sits behind that could give you that excuse. So definitely have a look. But yeah, how can we discover them? So the first one is our language number one. The other thing is when you start to think about doing these things so I'm just going to take podcasting as an example, since we're here If you start to think about podcasting, your brain will give you a whole load of feelings, thoughts, words.
Speaker 2:
The unconscious will bring forward all of the excuses as to why you can't do it and really take notice of those. Because if you've got stuff that is either really loud or in glorious technicolor or it brings up a feeling, then we've got a belief sitting there that you probably don't want to have. It's a belief of I can't or I shouldn't, or I mustn't or I wouldn't, or last time. So we've got a whole library of stuff that sits in the back, of reasons why we should or shouldn't do things, and that's what the brain refers back to every single time. Every second of the day, your brain is doing this. So when you get that information, just try and hone in on it, allow yourself to sit with it. You know this whole mindfulness thing. Sit with that and just see and hear and feel as much of that as you can, to try and work out what that was, because there'll be a little aversion of you that decided something and it probably wasn't true. And if you do need some help with that, reach out to somebody that can help you, because you can only ask the questions that are in your head, whereas a coach will ask you questions that get you out of your head and into things. So they're the main things is your own language and actually what your brain is showing and telling and helping you feel, because all of that are the biggest clues and cues as to why you are or are not moving forward or doing something.
Speaker 2:
It's a bit like having a tricky conversation, that whole feeling, you know, handing you notice in. I don't know if you remember why. That's the most terrifying thing on the planet. I've got no idea, because you're about to bloody leave, but for some reason or breaking up with somebody, or telling a friend how you feel, these kind of things what the brain does is go back to all the experiences you've ever had and the outcomes you've had, be them good or bad, and weighs up what's going to happen and it'll probably stop moving forward.
Speaker 2:
So you know, negotiating, following up clients this is how it shows up in business, or best not. I've already followed them up twice. They'll think I'm being spammy. They'll think I'm being salesy. They think I'm desperate. Actually, what it is is they've probably completely forgotten and you've gone down their list on messenger and they'll probably be glad if you message them. I know when someone messages me I'm really happy because I'm like, oh, I've nearly forgot that event. I don't think, oh, they're spammy. Oh, how dare they. So I don't have their mindset. I have my mindset and my life. They have their mindset in their life. So your blocks are your own. They're only created in your own head. They're not created anywhere else, and that's brilliant news, because that's where you can change them too.
Speaker 1:
I love that. I love that. So, guys, that's something that I think is a big takeaway from today is to grab that pen and paper and just note your language. And if you're like me and you work on your own at home by yourself and you're not really actually talking very much during the day which is why I over talk on podcasts, I think because I just need to get it all out it's the things that you're saying in your head.
Speaker 1:
When you come up against something and you in your head say, oh, I can't do that or I shouldn't do that, note those down and do a little bit of work around it. And if you come up against something and you think, oh, that could be something, I want you to come over and drop me a question. I want you to drop me a question for Viv, and when we start getting questions in, we will start answering them on the podcast and giving a little insight from a pro coach NLP practitioner who knows her stuff. So, yeah, if you want a little bit of advice, obviously it's not going to be as in-depth if you were talking to her in person in a session, because she doesn't know you, doesn't know your background and stuff but if you have questions for Viv about certain blocks, we can certainly do a talk on those blocks. So drop your questions to me and we will have a great old time digging into them for you. Yeah, it'd be great, wouldn't it?
Speaker 1:
So that is it for today. Guys, make sure you grab that pen and paper, make notes. What are you saying you shouldn't, what are you saying you can't, what are you saying I don't want to about? Note all those down and let us know and we will speak to you in the next one. Make sure you are subscribed where you listen, so you can come back and get some more mindset tips from Viv. Thank you, viv, for coming on the show today and we'll see you all soon. Bye for now.