022: My Top 5 Priorities to Fight Fear, Build Confidence, Gain Clarity and Transform Your Life!

If you're over the overwhelm, done with doubt, and fed up with fear, then this episode is for you! I'm giving you my first 5 strategies to help you take back what's been stolen and restore your faith. You were made for so much more! This is only the beginning of your comeback! So get ready to take some notes, because your victory is coming!

We're sneaking behind enemy lines and revealing the tactics that have been used against you. You will no longer be your own worst enemy. You will no longer be a victim of your emotions and thoughts. I'm teaching you how to recognize the behaviors and patterns that have kept you stuck and giving you steps that will help you move towards God and your healing!

Enough is enough! Your purpose is higher than the pain you've experienced. Your creator is bigger than your highest mountain. If you're ready to take your faith to the next level, God will meet you there! Let's make it worth it, Sis!

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Michelle Remington: 0:00

If you enjoy worth it, consider joining the worth it squad Facebook group. Imagine finding a community of believers where you can experience genuine human connection and true fellowship. We unashamedly focus on God and His Word. We pray together, celebrate each other. And through all the things that are going on in your life, you are surrounded by friends who understand you, and remind you of your value. This is the essence of the word that squad Facebook group. So take a moment look up the word that squat on facebook and join your squad today. Dishwashers washing, clothes are drying, kiddo is having some chill out time. And I am feeling pretty fancy today because I even made my bed. Oh, yeah, pretty fancy. And as I sit down here for just a moment of quiet time for myself, I really wanted to have a conversation with you about priorities. So let's just take a minute for you, me to have a conversation about you, and how to prioritize you so that you can be the healthiest you that you can be. grab a cup of whatever it is that keeps you going, my friend. And let's have a talk.

Worth It! Intro: 1:25

Welcome to Worth It! The podcast where we answer anxiety, deflate fear and shut down shame, because ain't no woman got time for that you were made to thrive. My mission is to help you get deeply rooted with God and reclaim your weapon that the enemy of God has been using against you. After going to battle for my own mind three years ago, I realized that there is a war going on for our minds. A battle that begins with how we think says you have much more control than you realize. With each episode, you'll learn how to fight back and become more confident and the truth that God already knows you are worth it. I'm Michelle Remington, Christian mindset coach, thought strategist, and warrior Mama. Grab your sword daughter of The King, it's time to unleash your inner warrior princess.

Mental Health Disclaimer: 2:24

Before we dive in, I do want to say that I am not a mental health professional. I'm simply sharing from my experience with depression, the strategies and steps that helped me. So first and foremost, I want you to know that you are not alone. Reach out to friends and family, tell them how you're feeling. Don't be afraid to ask for help. The world is so much better with you in it. If you need help, or resources or just more information for yourself or for someone else, I encourage you to reach out to the National Suicide Prevention hotline. their phone number is 1-800-273-8255. That's 1-800-273-8255

Michelle Remington: 3:16

Welcome back you beautiful, absolutely gorgeous creation of God who does not make any mistakes? Yes, I just went there. Whether you believe it or not. It is the truth, my dear. So I sit here really actually starting to get excited about this conversation we're about to have about prioritizing you. And just FYI, this episode is really just like all about giving everything that I have to give to you to hopefully set you up the very best that we can, in spite of anything that could happen. These are things that it doesn't matter what's going on in the world around you. You are in complete control of sounds pretty crazy. But Praise Jesus, it is true. I got my cup of coffee here. So let's go ahead and dive in. I want to share with you today five priorities for a healthier you. And this is all about prioritizing you and your health. Because this doesn't just cover mental health, it covers everything. Because I think it's safe to say that you and I know that if our mental health is not there, nothing else is really going to fall into place. And we're going to struggle in those areas if that is not there. So the first priority that I would urge you and encourage you to make is your internal conversation yourself. Talk, whether audibly or in your mind, the conversation that you have with yourself is so important. And so telling. So, if your conversation with yourself tends to be negative, cynical, there may be some things that you need to deal with. Generally, there's at least one and usually more main thoughts that you have about yourself. Now, you could be in the thick of it, I have been in the thick of it myself, and you could just kind of really listen to what those thoughts are, and let those sink in. Or you could just take a step back and be patient with yourself as you move into this new area of awareness for yourself and pray about it as well. Because this is all going to work so much better as you're gonna see lasting transformation, when you include your God and Creator in this conversation. And in this transformation, people can transform themselves by themselves. But lasting transformation comes from God. So I encourage you, if you don't already have a relationship with God, or maybe you've it's kind of been on the rocks, maybe this year has kind of made it, you know, not as good as it could possibly be. It This is not the end, you can restart this, you can return to God. Now, let's really dive into this self talk. So as I said, before you normally have about one to 10, let's be honest, one to 10 thoughts about yourself, that run through your mind, some of us may have 20. I mean, it really just depends on where you are. But I can tell you today that you have a choice, you have the choice to first either listen to all of those thoughts, and beat yourself down with it. Or you have the choice to step back. And really analyze these thoughts and where they came from. And I'm going to encourage you to write these things down, whether it's a journal on your phone, where however it is that is most comfortable for you to just have a free flow of thoughts and ideas, is where I want you to put this stuff down so that you can see it. And it's going to help you work it out better. So take those thoughts, those main thoughts that usually come to your mind in the course of a week, and start writing them down. And then you can really look at those, analyze those, pray about those. And when you pray about those have an active conversation with God. Like when I was doing this, I was like God, I feel like I am worthless. And what is your word, say? Am I really worthless, and I just get into God's word. And really get into it and find out what God's word says about me who I am, who I was created to be. And just really let God open my heart, open my mind every single chasm, open it all up, and let God begin his healing. Now the next priority that I want you to focus on is how you talk about yourself. This is when those mental internal conversations that you have with yourself start to start to pour out into real life. And this is where things can really start to get damaging. Because it's one thing to think these things about yourself. But then when you start to say these things about yourself, it's coming out of your mouth is being spoken. And then you are then hearing your own voice speak these things. That's extremely damaging. And it's deteriorating to your self worth to who it is God created you to be. So how you talk about yourself not only affects you It affects how people treat you and how people think Think about you. Now you don't have to go on the complete other end of this spectrum and be like, I am so great, I am awesome, I am so much better than you know, we never, ever, ever want to put anybody down. But always seek to speak the truth about yourself to yourself. Number three, and as you're gonna see, this is kind of a progression of what happens. So number three is how you treat yourself. So first you have your internal conversation, then you have how you talk about yourself, that's something that you hear, and the rest of the world hears the people in your circle here, and then it starts to degrade more. And then it falls over into how you treat yourself. And that gets into like, because there's so many people seeking like self care, how do I take care of myself more. And partially, it's just the busyness of life. And then, especially for women were just like, you know what, I'm just gonna take other, take care of others, before I take care of myself, you know, I'll just take care of that later. I don't need that right now. And we really don't pay attention to those kind of warning signs that we're getting from our body. And we just continue to push and push and push ourselves. But then also, how you treat yourself is sending a signal to you mentally and emotionally. That it's, it's like this vicious circle, you're sending this signal mentally and emotionally, in how you're treating yourself. And then that's only feeding into that negative self talk. Number four, how you allow others to treat you. As I said, this is all a vicious cycle, you can see the circle turning and how this all comes back to to basically destroying yourself. So how you allow others to treat you comes partially from how you treat yourself, and then how you talk about yourself. Now, this also, on a side note gets into how you allow others, not only like to physically treat you but also to talk to you. So when we talk treatment, it is speaking to you, and how they are physically, like treating you in conversations in everyday life. If they're like abusing a friendship, or if they're being abusive in general, verbally or physically. This is very big, because I mean, the signal just gets bigger and bigger and bigger to your mental and emotional self. When you continue to allow these things and you allow people to treat you badly to speak to you badly negatively to abuse you to to just be a rug under people's feet. God never intended that. Can you hear me again, God never intended that. God never intended for his people, his followers to be doormats. And this is a sensitive area to approach. That is why I highly suggest that before you approach this subject of how other people treat you, what you first want to do is start with number one, yourself mental talk, and then go to number two, go to number three. You want to address those first because there's going to be a healing that occurs. And as you read God's Word in how you treat yourself, you're gonna get into familiar scriptures like the fruits of the Spirit. Love is patient love is kind. You're going to get into those familiar scriptures. And remember that that note only applies to how you treat others. It also applies to how you treat yourself. So then once you've got that healing going on, then you can really address that situation. But above all, pray over these situations and rather than confrontation, if at all possible, just remove yourself, or just kind of back off back away from those that treat you badly, which On a side note, with all of the quarantines and everything like that is kind of make it a lot easier. Okay? Number five, keeping your promises to yourself. And this one really applies to just everyday life, things that you tell yourself, you're going to do, whether it's a to do list, or whether it's new year's resolutions, or just saying, You know what, I am finally going to lose that weight, or you know what I am, finally, I'm going to go back to school, or I'm going to really get into God's word more, and then life gets crazy, and it doesn't happen. But let me tell you, you are sending a humungous signal to your mind to your emotions, when you do not keep your promises to yourself. Because it's basically telling yourself that, you know, I made a promise to myself, but it doesn't matter, you know. And then it's really saddening being very blunt here, a signal that says you're not worth it, you're not worth keeping that promise to. And as you can probably tell, that's quite damaging. So that's why being very intentional with setting goals, even even if it's a to do list. That's why it's very important to be intentional with this. Now, I'm not saying don't make a to do list because I make to do lists. But give yourself grace, and mercy when you are making that to do list. So if you're going to make a to do list that spans like, two or three pages, don't expect yourself to get that all done in one day, and then try to beat yourself up about it. But then, also, make sure that you write down the things that you've done already, the things that you would normally already do, in taking care of yourself, your family, your house, like I can say, made my bed, check, do laundry, check, do dishes check. And that way you actually have a real picture of the things that you've accomplished. And then it's also training yourself, like better time expectations on yourself. Because I think a lot of times when we make those goals, those to do lists, we think if we don't get this done in a certain amount of time, then we have failed those with low self esteem. That's a reality. That it that's something that they battle with, because they haven't set those boundaries for themselves, they and they haven't given themselves grace, and mercy. But then they also have not dealt with those negative thoughts and emotions that are just breaking them down, internally. So as I said, this is going to be just kind of like a summary of all of these five priorities that you can make to help yourself get healthy this year. And this can span into not only mental and emotional health, but also your physical health as well. Maybe this is something as you pace yourself and you give yourself grace and mercy. Maybe you're finally going to achieve your fitness goals. Maybe you're finally going to achieve your business goals, your family goals, your personal goals. This is a building block to help you succeed in whatever you set your mind to wherever you are in life, whatever goals, whatever dreams that you have are yours, and they are yours because they are given to you by the Almighty God that has given you these talents and abilities that have fueled your passion to create those dreams. As you know, like we usually do, we're going to go ahead and end this out in prayer because any lasting transformation that you want in your life is not possible without God. So, Lord Jesus, we thank you so much for the just the ability to the mind, Lord to talk about these things, the work that you are doing in us to bring us closer to you to break down all of the stuff that has piled on over the years from the world into really be able to break that down, strip all that extra off, and just really get to you, Lord. And I just pray, Lord, that with the information shared today that this would be a blessing to whoever hears it, that they would be able to, in the best way possible, really learn how to take care of themselves. And taking care of yourself isn't just a physical thing. It's, it's the mental, it's the physical is the emotional, and it's the spiritual. So I pray, Lord, that You would help each person that begins to practice these five priorities, that you would help them through that journey. Because there are things that we're not going to be able to deal with on our own. And to truly have that lasting transformation. God, we need you, Jesus. So I pray, Lord, that You would help each person through this process, help each person as they're beginning to think, on these things, Lord, and I know that you're going to continue to work mightily and each heart that hears this Lord, I thank you for that, there's going to be hard times, and there's going to be good times there's going to be just bland, mediocre times. But the great thing is, is that you have promised that you will never leave us nor forsake us, we've got to go through these times for growth. And I just pray that growth, and drawing near to you God for each person that hears this, you are so amazing, and so wonderful God to continue to work in us and give us the opportunity and open our eyes and our ears and our minds, our hearts, to the possibility that we are more than just what we see in this world. But we are more than what the world says we are there is a truth that cannot be shaken. And that truth is you got that truth is who you say we are. And I pray, Lord, that You would help us to just come back to that foundation, God, build it up and work up from there. We can't level out with that, or we can't level up without you. We can't have that lasting transformation. without you. We're never going to reach our full potential unless we come to the one who created us and knows exactly what our full potential is. So I thank you for that opportunity. God, I pray that you would just bless each heart, each mind that hears this, and begins to put these things into practice. I just thank you God for the amazing work that you're continuing to do. It's in your name Jesus, we pray. Amen. And Amen. You probably heard me say in an Amen. She's been such a good girl right now we are quiet right now. Mommy records, a podcast, encouraging other women. And you know what, that's the other thing that I've really had on my mind lately is, you know, it's my responsibility to raise my daughter, to be a godly woman, and to know God to know who he is. And I feel so blessed that she wants to evangelize everywhere she goes, she wants to witness to people everywhere she goes, tell them all about who Jesus is, and that they need Jesus, that Jesus died for them. It just touches my heart. And I have to remember those things in the times when I get frustrated with the whole parenting process. And then I also want to remember that as I'm going through this process of life, and I'm going through this process of healing, and transformation myself, I need her to see that I can't do it alone, that it's with God that this transformation is taking place. And I am. I am one of her closest earthly examples of how to live for God, and how to live in this world. Be a decent person in this world. Just how to be a human in general. And if you're a mom there's little eyes. Little little eyes that are watching us little ears that are hearing As they see what it is we're going through. So you not only owe it to yourself to go through this process of healing and restoration with God, but you also owe it to the upcoming generations that God has entrusted to you not to put any pressure on you at all, there's, there's no pressure in this. But just to kind of give you that sense of you know what it's time, it's it's time to let that healing take place, it's time to pursue God deeper, it's time to pursue the healing that God has for me, and then pursue the possibilities, the potential that God has for me so that I can not only reach it myself and reach that full potential of what God created me for, but I can show those that God has put in my circle put in my path, that it's possible. that's meant to encourage you today. And I just pray that it just infuses you with hope and with just a surety that it's possible for you as possible for them as possible for you. And we just need to continue to persevere and pursue. So I have a little surprise for you, I made you something. Now you may or may not know that I am a former Christian radio DJ and quite honestly, I just absolutely love playlists and I know that it is so helpful to have a good playlist to help you throughout the day and get your mindset right get your mood right and so I made you two playlists on Spotify. The first is called worth it praise I've got all kinds of awesome songs on here to get you praise in get you feeling encouraged we got like Danny Gokey on here has a Kyle Walker I won't go into the whole list because it is a proper playlist and I am quite sure you're gonna love it be encouraged with it and then the other one is worth it worship because I mean, you know, we all need some praise and worship in our lives. So both of these playlists are public on Spotify. So just look up worth it praise and or worship. I hope you enjoy them and I am also going to be linking them on my website as well. You can always check out Michelle Remington calm So go on, get your praise and worship on thank you for joining me on this episode of worth it. If this episode has blessed you, I invite you to leave a review and make sure that you subscribe to this podcast for more encouraging content. Until next time, remember you are worth it.