THIS Means It's Time To QUIT Alcohol

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Chapters

• 0:00 The Emotional Turbulence Of Quitting
• 1:03 Cycles Of Control, Pain, And Relapse
• 2:05 The One Thing Question
• 3:15 The Illusion Of “Maybe This Time”
• 4:15 You’re Not Alone In This
• 5:15 Alternatives To Labels And Meetings
• 6:20 Hope, Paradigm Shift, Next Steps

Transcript

SPEAKER_00: 0:00

Stopping drinking alcohol is one of the most emotionally turbulent things that you can ever do in your life. It is such a strange thing that we go through when we try and stop because so many emotions just flood up out of nowhere and we don't quite know what to do with them. Sometimes the emotion is the desire to drink, but sometimes it's totally different. It might be a feeling of celebration, and then we don't know what to do with that. It might be a feeling of pain, of grief. Again, we don't know what to do with it. And this journey that we all go through when we're trying to stop drinking alcohol is a roller coaster. There is no other word that describes it better. It is up and it is down. And during the 10 years that I struggled for, during the 10 years that I was really trying to put all the pieces together and really just figure this out once and for all, I went through these cycles. And I know not everybody goes through these cycles the same way that I did. I've worked with a lot of people who have just sustained the same amount of drinking for decades. But for me, it was this up and down turbulent cycle. And the reason why I went through these cycles so early on was because I wasn't a chronic daily drinker for decades. I realized almost probably when I was 19 years of age that number one is I would never have just one drink. I would almost always drink more than I intended to. But the other thing I realized is that this drug, this thing, it is slowing me down, it is holding me back, and it is doing nothing good for me. And it just kept causing damage, it just kept hurting me. And I'd read these self-help books, right? When I was in my 20s, I went, I went on like this self-help binge and I read all these classic books, right? Like uh Think and Grow Rich, you know, How to Win Friends and Influence People, like these habit books, these relationship books, and I went on this like information consuming spree. And part of that information consuming spree is I came across this book and it's called The One Thing. And I've spoken about this before in the channel, but I want to bring it back up because again, often we don't need to be taught anything new. We need to be reminded. So I like to teach similar things because this one is just so useful. There was a book called The One Thing, and I'm quite sure it was written by some real estate agent, but the whole book was around this question. And the question was what is the one thing that I could do such that by doing it, everything else becomes easier or unnecessary. So it was really a book on prioritizing, but it was talking about business and career. But it didn't just relate to that, it related to everything. Think about it. If, you know, let's say you're a business person and you want to grow your business, but you're tired and you're drained. And let's just say that you're obese and you know that being obese is the cause of your lack of energy because of your diet, because of the extra body weight that you're carrying around for you. The answer to that question might just be that I need to lose weight, and that will make everything else easier or necessary. For me, when I ask myself that question, the same thing come up every single time. Stop drinking. It was obvious that was the number one source of pain in my life. It was the number one thing that was holding me back. But every time I tried to stop, this emotional turbulence would hit me. So going back to this cycle, how it went for me is I would drink and it would be fine. Life would be normal. You know, I'd have things under control. I might be doing something, you know, work or whatever, and having friends or having their partner, and life would be okay. And that's how it would always start. And then over time, I'd drink more, or I'd go on a binge and something bad would happen. And I'd reach this peak amount of pain. And I would get to a place where either the pain wasn't enough, so I'd keep drinking until the pain got worse, or I'd get to a place where the pain would be enough to motivate me. And I would stop drinking. Sometimes I might stop drinking for 24 hours. And then I'd restart that same cycle again. Sometimes I might stop drinking for a week, but this cycle would just repeat because what would happen is the pain would disappear, which could take anywhere from one day to six months, because I would stop and start, and then I'd have that idea. It would come back. It would be like this light bulb switch. Maybe this time's gonna be different. Maybe this time I can be like my really cool, charismatic, successful friend that's got millions of dollars of real estate and a great career, and he has one or two drinks. Maybe I can be like him. If he can do it, why can't I? Every single time I'd have one drink, we know what happens. We know the end of the story. And then I'd drink again, things would be fine, and then boom, the emotion would smack me in my face, and I'd be back at square one. And if this story sounds familiar to you, the reason why I wanted to talk to you about it is because it is normal. This up and down cycle goes on for all of us. Now, luckily, I found a way through it by reframing the way that I viewed alcohol. I broke it down from its first principles, I studied the individual component parts of the problem, put things back together, and developed a new paradigm, this new worldview. This is what I help people do in my business at soberclear.com, where we work with business owners and professionals, we help them through this process to get them in control of their own drinking. But I'm not here to persuade you to join my program. I'm here to tell you that if you have gone through a similar cycle, if you've been up and down, it is normal and it is okay. You're not the only person who goes through this cycle. I've gone through it, and tens of, if not hundreds of millions of people globally have gone through the very same thing. Sometimes when we drink, we can feel alone. I just got off the phone with somebody and he said that he's been struggling to stop drinking for most of his life. He's been to rehabs, medical detoxes, all of this stuff. He told me something really interesting, and this is what encouraged me to make this video. He said that he's got friends that don't drink. And he said that these people drank for longer than me, they drank more than me. And I said, How did you stop? And they just said, I don't know, I just stopped. And for that guy, it was like, please, just give me a solution. He tried AA, he tried all this stuff, and nothing was working. And can you imagine the frustration being in your 40s or your 50s and feeling so alone in this problem? Because the thing is, is people don't really vocalize it. They're not gonna go around and say, hey, friend, I've got a massive drinking problem. Usually people don't talk about these things because we just want to brush it under the rug. It's just alcohol, right? That's the way society sees it. It's just a few drinks, it's only alcohol, it's not like you're taking drugs like cocaine or anything bad, you're just drinking. So nobody goes around really talking about their struggles and their problems. But I am telling you, after speaking with literally thousands of people at this point who have got a drinking problem, I've seen people from all walks of life get hit with this issue. I have worked with medical doctors, I've worked with healthcare CEOs that are responsible for thousands of employees. I'm not even joking, I've had stop drinking coaches contact me for help. Respect to that person that did that, but this is what I'm talking about. Like, you do you think you're the only person that suffers with this problem? Of course you're not. But it feels that way because it's so hard to know what to do. Where do we turn? Right? It seems sometimes like the only people that are vocal about it are at the local AA meeting. And I don't know about you, but I don't want to go there. Right? I don't want to call myself an alcoholic, I don't want to have to go to these meetings for the rest of my life. I don't want to do that. What I wanted to do was fix the problem and move on. And if you're struggling right now, all I want you to take away from this video is I want to remind you that number one is you're not alone. But number two, the change is possible. It is 100% possible. Just like that guy told me. There are people out there that have drank for longer than him, that have drank more than him, and then just suddenly stopped drinking. That happens all of the time. See, I'm pretty sure that my family thought that I was going to die from drugs and alcohol. I'm pretty sure that that thought went through their head. I'm pretty sure I scared the living shit out of them. And I have felt so defeated and I've felt so hopeless that I just thought that's it. My life is finished. I'm just gonna do this for the rest of my life. Probably die in my mid-30s and that was it. Oh, and I'm getting quite passionate talking about this because those thoughts have gone through my damn head. But I fixed it. I found a way through. And if I can do it, if all the people I've worked with can do it, if the tens of thousands of people who have emailed me over the years just through watching this channel have done it, if people who I've worked with that were drinking it so much that they were losing their eyesight and they have managed to stop drinking for multiple years, if they can do it, then guess what? So can you. And the only thing that I want for you is for you to not lose hope. Even if you've already stopped drinking, even if you're walking this path and you've got some momentum and things are feeling good, don't lose hope. You can make this change permanent. The best thing you can do, in my eyes, is fix the way that you view alcohol instead of trying to fix the way that you view yourself. And maybe for a second, also consider that question that I mentioned earlier. What is the one thing that you can do in your life such that by doing it, everything else becomes easier or unnecessary? And if stopping drinking alcohol is the first answer that comes to your mind, then I feel your pain. Believe me. If you want to see if working together is a good match, you can click the link down below, fill in an application, book a consultation, and we can see if my scientifically validated approach could be a good match for you. We work with business owners, high level professionals. So if you want to fill in an application and book a free call and just have a conversation, go ahead, click the link down below. Regardless, I believe in you. I know you can do this. Have a great day.