Blooming

Don’t Play Hard to Get. Be Challenging to Have.

Anabell Ingleton | Feminine Leadership Coach helping women undo masculine patterns & master their femininity.

In this episode, we’re diving into the popular “black cat” theories that teach women to manipulate, lie, and play games to seem unattainable – and why these tactics don’t work with secure masculine men. Instead, I’ll show you what actually works: becoming a woman who challenges a man to have her through self-respect, high standards, and emotional connection.  

We’ll break down why operating from fear and control puts you in a defensive and offensive position, making a man see you as a competitor rather than a partner. I’ll explain how a secure man needs to pursue, be challenged, and lead to fall in love – and how this process transforms him into the best version of himself.  

If you’ve been feeling stuck in the dating world or frustrated by tactics that backfire, this episode will shift your perspective and give you the tools to create real, lasting connection with the right man.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:  

- Why “playing hard to get” doesn’t work with a secure masculine man.  

- The difference between being hard to get and being challenging to have – and why it matters.  

- How fear and manipulation create a dynamic of competition, not connection.  

- The key things a man needs to fall in love: pursuing, giving, leading, and being challenged.  

- How high standards inspire a man to rise to meet you. 

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