What happens when a mother of five turns her passion for fitness into a thriving business? Meet Onika , who's not only managing the challenging schedules of her children but also running a successful fitness business. Join us in this episode as Onika takes us along her inspiring journey, from overcoming weight gain after her pregnancies to adopting a disciplined lifestyle with practices like 816 fasting. She's a living testament to the phrase, "You don't have to look like where you came from," and in this episode, she shares how exactly she has made this a reality.
Our conversation with Onika goes beyond her fitness journey and dives into her upbringing in a conservative family with an entrepreneurial spirit, which has significantly shaped her approach towards life and business. An unexpected appearance in a magazine brought her unforeseen opportunities, and she shares how she's passing on the lessons she learned, about resilience and positivity, to her children. Listen in as she discusses her 14-year long marriage, her unique city upbringing, and her firm belief in setting boundaries to preserve her energy.
In this candid conversation, Onika doesn't hold back as she shares her personal sacrifices and the transformation she underwent to prioritize her well-being. She offers refreshing insights into leadership dynamics in relationships, her openness to dating after the end of her marriage, and her unique perspective on dating as a single mother. We also touch on her empowering approach to fitness, her experiences as a black woman at the gym, and her 'lazy way' to fitness. This episode, filled with self-discovery, personal growth, and entrepreneurship, is a testament to Onika's infectious energy and drive. Tune in to be inspired.
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What happens when a mother of five turns her passion for fitness into a thriving business? Meet Onika , who's not only managing the challenging schedules of her children but also running a successful fitness business. Join us in this episode as Onika takes us along her inspiring journey, from overcoming weight gain after her pregnancies to adopting a disciplined lifestyle with practices like 816 fasting. She's a living testament to the phrase, "You don't have to look like where you came from," and in this episode, she shares how exactly she has made this a reality.
Our conversation with Onika goes beyond her fitness journey and dives into her upbringing in a conservative family with an entrepreneurial spirit, which has significantly shaped her approach towards life and business. An unexpected appearance in a magazine brought her unforeseen opportunities, and she shares how she's passing on the lessons she learned, about resilience and positivity, to her children. Listen in as she discusses her 14-year long marriage, her unique city upbringing, and her firm belief in setting boundaries to preserve her energy.
In this candid conversation, Onika doesn't hold back as she shares her personal sacrifices and the transformation she underwent to prioritize her well-being. She offers refreshing insights into leadership dynamics in relationships, her openness to dating after the end of her marriage, and her unique perspective on dating as a single mother. We also touch on her empowering approach to fitness, her experiences as a black woman at the gym, and her 'lazy way' to fitness. This episode, filled with self-discovery, personal growth, and entrepreneurship, is a testament to Onika's infectious energy and drive. Tune in to be inspired.
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All right, all right, all right. Listen. This is another episode of the Vibes podcast. Man and y'all might have seen this woman from down the hill. She got a lot of surprises. She is a talker, but I'm not gonna hold her no more. Let the people know who you are and pull that mic to your face for me one time, uh-huh uh-huh. Is this good?
Speaker 2:Okay, so I am Onika of Olds. You see, flabotomy and old fit. You know what? I just forgot where I got. Wait a minute now. Okay. Oldsy Lee, flabotomy and olds, please fit. Tongue tied, that's a tongue twister. So I am from down the hill. Born and raised Baltimore, maryland, ddh. Yeah, what else do you wanna know?
Speaker 1:I wanna know where did you did your name? You said your first name was Onika.
Speaker 2:Onika, like Nicki Minaj, exactly, she put us on the map. I love it. Now I have songs with my name in it, so how did it?
Speaker 1:work with this whole old fit thing Like what is this exactly?
Speaker 2:Okay, so the old please fit thing is first my maiden name, my first initial and fitness put together. So and it's also a common phrase that women say a lot when we are trying to fit into our clothes, wishing that something like it fit, like, oh, I wish it fit, oh God.
Speaker 4:I hope this fit.
Speaker 2:So it's like, oh please, I hope this fit, because like it's time to go out to the club. I ain't tried on when I went to the mall, so I'm like, oh my gosh, I hope this fit. So it kind of all plays into each other.
Speaker 1:So you got a bunch of things happening. What is your baby here, like, what do you care most about? You got the fitness. You got the medical side when you going with it.
Speaker 2:So this is how I conduct things. I only do things that I'm passionate about. So, I take my passions and my hobbies and I turn them into businesses. So I am a mother of five. So throughout my different births I went up and wait. I mean I started at 165, I would end up at 215.
Speaker 1:I ain't gonna say damn bro.
Speaker 2:I mean from 160 to 215, that's a big jump. That's a big jump, so I also wanted to be an active mom too. So I also didn't want to look like the mom that had five kids or the mom that I'm very active in my kids. Like my kids, they have played football, soccer, cheerleading.
Speaker 1:Oh you, that type of mom.
Speaker 2:I'm that type of mom so if my kids in the streets, I'm in them with them, like, listen, we up at 8, am they at practice. I'm showing them discipline as they are learning discipline in any field that they are in Football, swim, my kids have done it all Softball, soccer.
Speaker 1:Talk about them, kids.
Speaker 2:Listen, football, basketball. I don't even know what I'm leaving out, but my kids, that's what you have to do. You have to physically be in an activity. So for me to even keep up with the schedule, I have to keep up with myself.
Speaker 1:You did it yourself.
Speaker 2:Right. So, and then you know five kids. My budget was blown on whatever they wanted to do. So I couldn't go out and buy the designer clothes and the things. But back in the day it was BB. I wanted to stay in my BB clothes, you know, and I wanted to stay in my BB jeans and I just didn't want to look like what I went through.
Speaker 2:So, I had C-sections and through the C-sections, they gave them three of them were C-sections, so they gave me this band to wear home to protect my organs from not like exactly falling out or ripping my incisions and I was like, wow, I would wear this one garment until it was almost filthy, like just disgusting. So after the third one man, my husband was in there stealing. I'm like, well, what is this? You said you and your husband was what you know, how you in the hospital, baby, you got to take everything home with you. Ok, you take the extra milk, you take the extra pamphlets, you take, you know.
Speaker 2:You take what you took, I took what I took. So these things were called waist trainers. And I was like wow, I can physically wear these and purchase these, and that's how my business started. I started off with waist trainers, detox tea, and then I went on to other ventures. Like I'm a big on fasting, I'm like the laziest fitness person you will ever meet.
Speaker 1:How long you be fasting for 36 hours some days. So explain to people what this is. So when you say fasting, you're drinking strictly water. You do water and tea Like what, or you do nothing.
Speaker 2:It's so many different forms of fasting, I choose the 816.
Speaker 4:OK, and my 816,.
Speaker 2:I only do black coffee, green tea and water, that's it?
Speaker 1:When does the 8 start? What time?
Speaker 2:It starts at 8 pm on Sunday.
Speaker 1:OK.
Speaker 2:So I don't eat from Sunday all the way to Monday 12 noon lunchtime.
Speaker 1:And do you feel like you got the results?
Speaker 2:of that though, Of course.
Speaker 1:How long it take you.
Speaker 2:I'm in it like seven years now. It's not even a hard task for me to do at this point. My body only gets hungry at certain points of time.
Speaker 1:Because that's the only time it's going to eat anyway.
Speaker 2:The only time it's going to eat. So I can party like a rock star. And on Sunday at 8, it kicks and boom.
Speaker 1:So you said something very important. You said you don't want to look like where you came from. What does that look like? Explain that to the people.
Speaker 2:Now what I came from not meaning downhill what I came from meaning like I went up and down in my weight. Being a mom is not an easy thing. Being a wife is not an easy thing. Losing focus of who you are is not easy. So I took precautions and measures to make sure that I didn't always forget who I was, even though you kind of lose yourself a little bit, but never to the point where I look like the world got the best of me.
Speaker 1:Who taught you this inner strength that you got?
Speaker 2:I'm going to say I'm born with it, because I come from a strong family on my mom's side and my dad's side.
Speaker 1:Oh, so you have both fans, right?
Speaker 2:No, my dad is deceased, but I'm very close to both sides of my family and we're like warriors. My actual name means warrior, so I don't think I was taught it, I think I just always had it in me and I just learned how to grow it, mature it, feed it.
Speaker 1:You had the village around you, so you always had support, being in what village you had. Like you said, you had both sides of your family, so whenever you were down you had somebody to at least turn to no one like me, though. Explain.
Speaker 2:Meaning out of both sides of my family. I would consider myself the most adventurous my dad's side of the family. They own businesses. I come from entrepreneur's side of the family. My mom's side of the family very not conservative but not ratchet. Even they home owners. They got good business.
Speaker 1:Oh, you got a nice balance.
Speaker 2:yeah, yeah, but my father's side of the family. They had a little bit more gangster with it.
Speaker 1:You always meet the both sides of it. You mean, you were talking before the air that you told me you don't even want to live here anymore.
Speaker 2:I think Baltimore has ran its course for me, meaning let's see what the world has to offer, because I'm not afraid to start over. I've done it two times so far in my life, so let's see what I'm really built up, what I'm really about.
Speaker 1:So if your business takes over, I ask everybody that. So you're going to just do the little great black migration. You're going to go to Houston, you're going to go to Atlanta. It's got to be them too. If you really about your business, you might go to Miami, but those two seem to be the hotspots. Would you take the kids and everything like that?
Speaker 2:Yeah, we're gone. I can't leave my babies. They're going to ride. They ride us. I'm teaching them the same thing. I have my daughters here. They damn sure do. I'm not talking about it. I actually show them, mommy, just not saying, you should be an entrepreneur. Like. I'm going to put in the work, because if someone would have showed me this at their age, I think I would be further along in this entrepreneurial journey of where I'm at now.
Speaker 1:You were saying when you were talking about the kids and showing them everything, they right here, right now. What is the hardest part about the entrepreneurship for you?
Speaker 2:Right now, for me, is staying positive.
Speaker 1:Oh, dark days.
Speaker 2:The hard days be hard.
Speaker 1:Oh, dark days.
Speaker 2:The hard days be hard. Sometimes I have to help my daughters do their hard days too. I can say listen, mommy, been there. Not exactly because my daughters, they're entrepreneurs at 20, 19 years old.
Speaker 1:You got older kids.
Speaker 2:Oh Lord, don't get me in the line.
Speaker 1:Yeah, just go ahead.
Speaker 2:Come on, let me go down the list. I got to go from the beginning to the end.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:Forgive me, children 22.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:Let's start over Maybe 23. Okay, 23, 22, 20.
Speaker 1:Okay, 15 and 6. Are you done?
Speaker 2:Absolutely. Is this on? Absolutely. You don't want no more. The 6th year old is taking me out.
Speaker 1:So you got more girls or boys. What's the ratio?
Speaker 2:You got a lot of questions. I have three boys and two beautiful daughters.
Speaker 1:Oh, so shit, you got everything you need.
Speaker 2:I have everything and they dope kids. They better than I could ever be. Like they just so smart. They been smarter than me since like 5th grade. I never told them that, but like they're on the, on the road.
Speaker 1:Oh, you got one of those type of kids oh okay, I ain't never had to help with their homework. So right now, with the oh, please fit and everything. When you started this, did you see, would you consider yourself a new business? How long you been around. Oh, please fit been around for seven years, so you've been in the game for a while. What has that taught you? Because I went down a rabbit hole and I was like you've been doing this for quite some time, correct.
Speaker 2:What has it taught me? That I don't quit, even when I get knocked down, when I should have, probably, but I don't. I feel as though I was created to be in some type of leader position. So if it's not this, in a leader position, I'm going to be leading in some type of way. A because I have a problem with following directions of others.
Speaker 1:Oh, that's always been your thing then. Yeah. Does it feel like because you got the better ideas or you just don't like following people?
Speaker 2:I feel as though if I can lead five children, then I can lead anything, and I don't think I should be monitored or watch or disciplined. In certain forms it's always a higher power because I believe in God. So it's discipline, instruction, everything. But I was like people calling you in and writing you up. I'm the worst person to call in and write up. I'm going to tell you that now I will piss you off?
Speaker 1:You one of these employees, you giving Amazon. Why are you acting like this?
Speaker 2:I'm in there, like why am I here? Even though they got 35 reasons why I'm here, I'm still confused.
Speaker 1:You don't want to be there. You were in a magazine Sportskeet, I believe the name of it was.
Speaker 2:What you? That was a magazine. I was in a magazine, yeah, what was it called? Lady? Well, okay, so I have entrepreneur friends that really take me out my comfort zone. Only magazine I could be talking about is Tulips, you see me in Tulips?
Speaker 1:No, are you been in that many? Oh, you just don't remember You're talking about the health magazine. Sportskeeter Correct.
Speaker 2:I was teaching in that unknown.
Speaker 1:Oh, they just put you in there.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so they just used my picture. I didn't know until my photographer I have a regular videographer that I work with and he'll be like yo, I was researching my work and I noticed that they use your picture in different things and I was like wow, because you do things that you never know where to go. Would it reach the population or anything like that? So I was on it One of the girls you see on the magazine. They'd be like is she real? How was?
Speaker 1:that, seeing yourself in that position.
Speaker 2:How was it awesome. And then the read the articles that they wrote. It kind of went with the lifestyle that I live. So it's like you can tell so much about picture I was on it. I was like look at me, look at me.
Speaker 1:So, when you got everything going on with it, do you want to teach classes?
Speaker 2:So I've taught classes before. I personally trained before. It is very draining. It's not much of my calling as it is of me, shan't my knowledge. I think that is more of my gift, because I have a gift to get. So it's me sharing my story, and telling my story is easier than me trying to convince you to stop eating those burgers, to stop drinking the Coca-Cola's and the Pepsi's and the things like that, like if you go to the bar drink but like no soda, no chaser, no, I don't want that.
Speaker 1:You used to drink Hennessy straight. No, I don't want that. I'm not even told you to see this. Yeah, you used to drink Hennessy straight, no.
Speaker 2:That's not a part of this.
Speaker 1:So I want to get to know you, because I was talking to you before this and you said there are two different versions. There's the new you and there's the old you. I see the new you. We're going to find great mind business your wife now first, I know no-transcript, not a wife.
Speaker 2:I am a wife. What? But not a wife what? Technically, technically, if you search it, it makes sense. If you search it. Yes, I am still legally married, but am I like in a relationship with the person who I'm legally married with at this point of time?
Speaker 1:No, so let's start here. So the marriage that you are a part of now is your first marriage.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:Okay. Has it changed the way you think of marriage?
Speaker 2:Well, I was married for 14 years. God damn. I'm still married to this day, so I just stopped counting when I left. Oh God. I'm up in the years. Now I'm up in the numbers. I might be like 16, 17, because I'm legally still married. I have not been physically in a marriage for the past three years.
Speaker 1:So for everybody, I want to know, and the men are going to love this- what are they going to love that I'm not married. I'm not married, but I'm not married, why are you still in it?
Speaker 2:I was in it for 14 years. I think it's going to take at least a good five of me to legally sign those paperwork to get out of it. It has been, man, a journey. Being married is a journey and being not married is also a journey, because the world hit different. The world hit different. I came out here into these streets like yeah, I'm married, I'm a wifey and you should treat me as such, and the streets was like hmm, they didn't care.
Speaker 2:Yeah, You're not my wife, Absolutely not. I was like no, no, no, no, no, Listen, I'm a wifey, so I should. It was like no, no, no, you're not my wife. So yeah, it was a culture shock.
Speaker 1:So I love to get to talk to you. You said you got the gift of gab. What's your sign?
Speaker 2:Aquarius, a beautiful, oh yeah.
Speaker 1:That's right. So both people having the gift of gab here. I'm getting to know you, so I'm asking everything right, let's go. When you were younger. What was that like for you growing up in the city?
Speaker 2:Beautiful.
Speaker 1:Explain to me because we have two different scenes.
Speaker 2:I grew up with a wonderful mom I didn't even knew. I grew up in the hood.
Speaker 1:My mother I didn't even know I got older.
Speaker 2:Listen my mother. When people was like oh, you live in a hood, I was like well, what's that? Yeah, what's that? Because my mother cooked me home cooked meals every day. She still cook home cooked meals, charlotte the grandma. Her house is immaculate. It doesn't even look like it's in the area that it's in. Anyone that comes into my mom's home is like it's beautiful. Well, it's a gentified neighborhood now. I'm like other homes probably look like it now, but back in the day a lot of people moms were on drugs. Now they experienced that.
Speaker 1:So do you feel like you have a stereotype? Because, from what I'm gathering here is, you're from the city. I am Rough part of the city.
Speaker 2:I am.
Speaker 1:But you didn't really experience that due to the village.
Speaker 2:You know what? I got bullied for Eating vegetables and fruit. Literally.
Speaker 1:Are you a weirdo?
Speaker 2:No, my mom had healthy meals. I didn't eat Chinese food. I didn't eat a chicken box. What part of the city were you in Down in here, literally John Hopkins. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. My mom cooked for me every day. We had fruits, we had vegetables. I went to the farm office market. I took trips to Orlando. I had family down there. So my upbringing, I'm telling you I was bullied for stupid stuff.
Speaker 1:Well, you have a bully ear.
Speaker 2:No, I don't know, because what do you consider a bully ear?
Speaker 1:No, that was a crazy response.
Speaker 2:Yeah, what do you consider I?
Speaker 1:mean we came down to you. What do I consider a bully ear?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean you have to stand up or stand down.
Speaker 1:You got it, you got it.
Speaker 2:So if somebody say something to you, you're going to say something back. I didn't intentionally go after someone and, like I'm telling you, I got bullied for silly stuff like shaving my underarms. Because people around there didn't shave their underarms, you'd only go to shave your underarms.
Speaker 1:Oh, so you just knew how to take care of yourself. That's what I'm getting at.
Speaker 2:My mom is a very feminine woman. She doesn't curse, she doesn't drink, she doesn't do drugs.
Speaker 1:Oh, yeah, she really straight and narrow.
Speaker 2:Straight and narrow. She just started part-ticket and that's because I'd be like Mom, relax, Take one of these gummies and chill out, please. I think gummies.
Speaker 1:Do you feel like, when you talk to people before they know your story, right, that you're statistic? Because when you were telling me that you have five kids, I was like, all right, cool, let me get to know you. After talking to you, you saying you don't want to look like you have five kids. You got businesses, your family's good. Do you see that you get stereotype for that?
Speaker 2:If I do, it's unbeknownst to me. No one comes to me and say you got five kids. No, because they don't expect that of me. Never even the polished person that I present to you today. No one expected that of me because I always looked younger for my age and I always took value in how I look.
Speaker 1:Are you 33?
Speaker 2:No, baby, I'm 41.
Speaker 1:You're 41? You stop playing bullshit. Okay, hold on, hold on, hold on. You're 41. 41.
Speaker 2:And sometimes I forget that I said 42 the other day.
Speaker 1:You do not look like that at all, is it the vegetables?
Speaker 2:Yeah, my mom made me these vegetables and I only drink water, and yeah, what?
Speaker 1:So have you always had this bubbly personality Always.
Speaker 2:But I'm very stingy with who I share my energy with, because I'm a curious. So if your vibe comes and I shut down, you don't get any of this. So who I love I'm obsessed about.
Speaker 1:It's all energy.
Speaker 2:I'm OD on the love.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's all energy.
Speaker 2:It's like yo, yo, yo, yo, yo. It's like OD could crazy. But if I don't like you, you know it.
Speaker 1:If you know you, you know it. That it's automatically.
Speaker 2:All I'm not going to say a word, you won't even get a chance to understand why these people say oh. I like you, I like her, oh she's a nice person, or things like that because I shut down. So I'm a people person with limitations and a lot of boundaries, because I love so hard. I don't take too much from people.
Speaker 1:When you say hope, see when you say boundaries. What does that look like? What is that for you?
Speaker 2:Please don't fuck up, you'll get cut off.
Speaker 1:You know, you, that you that heart of a friend when you say fuck up. What are we talking about here?
Speaker 2:Equal love, equal friendship, equal understanding doing something to me that I, you know I wouldn't do to you Cross me in any kind of way. It's not like. It's like you're almost invisible, nonexistent. Not like I'm angry because I can't hold anger in my heart, because I'll be like, oh man, I'm mad and I don't like being mad, but you are nonexistent, you are invisible.
Speaker 1:Where you handle. This is phenomenal.
Speaker 2:No, it's not as very, as it's borderline petty and almost crazy.
Speaker 1:But I mean, is it though, Because you already, if someone's talking to you, you already they pretty much know your boundary?
Speaker 2:already? No, they don't, they got a sense.
Speaker 1:Oh, now, you petty.
Speaker 2:No, because why would I if I meet you today and I give you some type of energy?
Speaker 2:or attention and things like that and you're not responsive to it or you're not feeding that energy back to me, then I'm okay with cutting you off and people are not okay with that. So I was talking to my daughter about this yesterday. So I don't know if it's like abandonment issues, but I have no problem, not now, but not today. I don't want to. I think forget for you and you. It hurts, but I feel as though there was no other way I can conduct myself. I have no gray area.
Speaker 1:That's crazy. You say that because I'm the same way. No, gray and was crazy about it Is a lot of people be like oh, your cold, your heartless, how could you possibly just shut it off? It shuts off immediately.
Speaker 2:You, I have no control. It's gone is family members that I would love to talk to again. The mind and the heart say no.
Speaker 1:I'm good. I'm good.
Speaker 2:Whatever this is, I'm comfortable with this because I'm going to be vulnerable around you. Mm-hmm and if I have to sit around you with my guards up, then I can't sit around you. If I can't sit around you and be myself, I'm not gonna sit around you because I'm open, blunt Myself. So if I have to feel to my weight myself, mm-hmm anyway, then I think I'm doing myself at this service and you.
Speaker 1:I think you have a point with that. You were saying when you talk to your daughter, do you have abandonment issues?
Speaker 2:I Don't know. I'm gonna ask my therapist. I mean, I think growing up in in a city you lose so many people deaf jail I Think it's just made me okay With. You're not in my life anymore.
Speaker 1:But should that be normalized it?
Speaker 2:shouldn't be normalized. It shouldn't, I Shouldn't be okay with it.
Speaker 1:But what was your hardest hurdle to overcome?
Speaker 2:this, this marriage why, oh, I was in love, baby big and live. Oh, I was in love like obsessed.
Speaker 1:So you say you're 42. I mean you got married in your late 20s. God, do you feel like it robbed you?
Speaker 2:Absolutely not. It gave me the best things in my life my children the best. You know, looking back at it, when I was in love, the love was real. Mm-hmm. The love was. You know it was good. I showed my children love. I my children never even seen me and their dad argue For us a fight and sit up when we were getting divorced and we started arguing fighting. Is it a? Lot.
Speaker 2:She was crying like I've never seen you. Right behave like this before or be upset. Like you know, we had little times where I didn't speak to him. Yeah, yeah, yeah yeah but when he came home I was like cook dinner, make the bed.
Speaker 1:So to the kids life looked normal.
Speaker 2:We did everything together. We did everything, like parent meeting, basketball, soccer, whatever we were, we were a team. When it went left, it went left and I couldn't Fake it anymore. I think they're for a really long time Did you do it for the kids. Absolutely.
Speaker 1:Explain to people what staying in a relationship, let alone a marriage, it sounds so cheesy everybody says don't do it.
Speaker 2:It sounds so cheesy saying it out loud because you never want to be that person when, I had three kids. I had to get through high school and I'll be damned if I be the person that ruined their last year of school, like I would be damned if I would be the person that Turned their life upside down During the best parts of their life at that point for yourself correct.
Speaker 2:They had to get through proms, graduations, they had to go on these trips, they had to do things. So for them, I do it in a minute.
Speaker 1:My question to that is if it was a verse, when you were a child you knew that your mom was going through. Whatever she was going through, would you rather her sacrifice her happiness for you?
Speaker 2:That loves run deep for my babies. I don't regret it. I can't speak for nobody else.
Speaker 1:For you, you doing it.
Speaker 2:I do it a thousand times over. I'll. I'll do myself at any situation for them. I don't even get active. Let somebody play with my kids.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, it's like where we at wait.
Speaker 2:You don't play about them, babies. I don't play, I'm. I've cut family members off. Don't play with my children.
Speaker 1:Who do you look up to?
Speaker 2:In life yeah. Bad bitches In life, entrepreneurs, underdogs that came from the bottom and and and now their millionaires. I root for the underdog. I root for Anybody that started From the mud. Yeah, so it doesn't have to be a particular person like, hey, I look up to that person.
Speaker 1:It could be any the way you think is so different and unique. I like, yes, yes. Out of all these interviews, you are giving me the most captivating one, and I'm liking the way you think about certain things With this. What was that? The medical field that you're in right now?
Speaker 2:Flabotomy so teach people how to draw blood. So I have I started a school. Like I tell you, I take everything that I'm passionate about and I make it into a business so that I can enjoy what I do and I get to teach. I'm molding people. I'm Making people learn things that they never even Could understand, or look at the world differently.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm, are you proud of yourself?
Speaker 2:Absolutely, and that takes a lot to say way. What Am I proud of myself as of today?
Speaker 1:Yes, that's not always been this way.
Speaker 2:No, you know certain Ages. You don't even know who you are 20s, 30s, baby them, 40s hit real different. You be real comfortable in your skin. Let's say I'm okay with apologizing now. I'm okay that I made mistakes in my life. I'm okay with saying I Need to be close to the guy, I need to be more feminine, I need to tune these things. I'm okay that I'm healed. Okay, kinda, today you gotta go day by day, day by day.
Speaker 1:So you are, this healed individual with all these businesses, your mom, what, what ceiling do you want to hit?
Speaker 2:next, as Aquarius is no ceiling it gotta be something it's no ceiling, because I Love a good thrill. I love a good one-time chance at something I like Evolving oh god, I'm a lover of evolving Small things for me, though. Right now I'm working on discipline in my life and I'm talking about simple things like getting up making my beard lady, you are fasting for 16 hours a day.
Speaker 2:I do it in a blink of an eye. It's not even a discipline for me. For people looking out Looking at me, it's easy for me to fast. I I used to fast with people that fast for three days with nothing no water, no food.
Speaker 1:Are you tripping? No no lips just dry functioning breath is for nominally disgusting it's giving. Can't even take a shower. What I get you in your mouth, oh three days.
Speaker 2:They called it a dry face and I used to try to do it with them. I made it my 36 and I say you know what?
Speaker 1:I'm eat Something when the last time you surprised yourself?
Speaker 2:This transformation, I just I'm in what is this transformation? Yeah, I'm making sure that I put myself first and be okay with it now you said put yourself first.
Speaker 1:Is that excluding the kids or include no?
Speaker 2:no, no, the kids. The kids are not even on the list. The kids are in a genre, a Region of their own. They have their own space in my life that I don't. When I'm with them, I'm not even, I'm just in my mode.
Speaker 1:But outside of my mode outside of mode is onica. Has onica always put herself first? Because you give this air that you have always been confident and pretty sure of yourself. So me asking this I'm expecting an answer, but I don't know if I'm gonna get it again different points in my life.
Speaker 2:Self-esteem wasn't always that is highest, was it cuz?
Speaker 1:you were a big girl never that you had confident, why would?
Speaker 2:you say big girl, you play.
Speaker 1:I can't say what you want me to say.
Speaker 2:No, so I mean just a woman Finding yourself. So it's just different parts of my life that my self-esteem was not as the level it's on today with people know it.
Speaker 1:No, of course not so how do you feel about the recent situation with Jess, with she was going back for fun the internet and saying the article was that just because you have a menstrual does not make you a woman.
Speaker 2:I didn't know what the article said. Okay, now let me say something without being offensive to anyone. It's always I respect Each and every human being right human being human being, human being, the debate about Minstrels. I think it's just like me, maybe questioning your penis, almost, I think, because you have it and it's really nothing you could really do about it and the things that go along with it.
Speaker 4:I just got it like things like that.
Speaker 2:So me, as a Person that was born a female, my menstrual came with me yes.
Speaker 2:I don't know how we can debate about it because I is not a choice for me now. People and human beings that are Transition into with other identity, they want to be certain things you just no surgery can give you, no, no Peel can give you. Okay, and just to be honest, minstrel was not like you know, it's not a party, not the best thing you want to add, like it's not, like it comes when you don't want it to come it. Bet all at the wrong time.
Speaker 1:It's not a party yeah. So do you feel like there's an attack on women now?
Speaker 2:physically on me? No, physically on women, always black women always. I feel as though we are the light. Yeah, I don't know between black men and black women, but it's hard, I'll be a four pimp. Sometimes it is. Agree agree we are Sometimes being forced in positions that we have to adapt to and then we get punished for that. So we've been, some have been pushed to be these super independent women, and then we get turned around and be punished for being super independent women.
Speaker 1:Now hold on.
Speaker 2:I'm listening, hold on, I'm listening.
Speaker 1:There's nothing wrong. Nothing wrong with being an independent woman.
Speaker 2:Said the man, cool Said the man.
Speaker 1:The problem we have with independent women is that if I'm coming into your life, right, clearly I want to come in it and add, enhance something. So if I come in your life and you immediately, I'm good, I'm good, I'm good, I got it, I'm together, I'm good, what the fuck? I'm just, I'm just penis now, because you've become so independent, that little things you have, big things you have. What is my role here?
Speaker 2:to make me feel safe.
Speaker 1:So I'm a bodyguard.
Speaker 2:No, to make me feel safe, to let my guard down because I'm just getting into this super I'm. Every woman saying I don't really like it for myself. Second husband I don't really like it for myself, it's a lot, it's. I have to take out the trash.
Speaker 1:I have to pump my own gas like I come with it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, why would I don't like that? But I'm leaving space for my, my superhero. I'm leaving space for my second husband.
Speaker 1:See, that's what you're doing. You're leaving space. Some people don't leave space.
Speaker 2:I've been married before, right, so I know how that space can be filled, but I can understand a woman that never had that experience of never seen that before. If I've been super independent since I left my mom house, then of course I'm going to get it done, right?
Speaker 3:That's all you need, and I had my cousin, that was like that.
Speaker 2:You know she had, she finally got married and she, she still was doing stuff. I was like, bro, let your husband open the doors Now you're not by yourself anymore. Like, yeah, let him pay for stuff. And she was like, oh, I'm just so used to it Then just used to it. So for those super independent women, they want a gentleman to come in, but you got to make sure that you come in for the long call, for the long run, for for captain, save me Meaning like I'm rough, so I'm working on my femininity. Are you rough? Yeah, are you?
Speaker 1:Come on now. They explained to me because I'm working on my femininity Nothing about this gives rough 40 something plus years old. Your hair is blonde, got a nice little cut on the side. What do you mean? Rough?
Speaker 2:I am very blunt in forward forward blunt, and it's not for every gentleman, it's not for every man. So you got a type and a type that I'm trying to attract now A boss, a leader, and both of us being leaders sometimes clash, so I have to know when to work.
Speaker 2:I have to know when to leave. But, baby, you got to be leading. You have to lead me to somewhere. You're not going to just say I'm a leader and I said, well, where you leading me? Oh, it's a situation. Ship, baby. You can't lead me in a situation.
Speaker 1:So every man has? Are you saying right now, every man has to be a leader.
Speaker 2:That comes to me.
Speaker 1:You tried it. Does every man have to be a leader? Because that means when you meet men, you want them to be a leader. You might not know them, but you expecting them to be leaders Correct. So you want in think men should be leaders.
Speaker 2:Of course. Who taught you that? Is it a thought thing? Or is it just a DNA thing? It might be just a woman thing, I don't, I don't. I guess my mom was a single mom. She took a leadership position. Correct, but she's. My mother is very feminine. She's not, she's blunt, but she doesn't come outside. But her nails not done, her hair not done.
Speaker 1:She's going to.
Speaker 2:She's very feminine, but she was the head of my household. She didn't date a lot. She maybe had I can count on, like one hand, a number of boyfriends my mom had. So me saying that has to be in my genetic or my DNA.
Speaker 1:Is it your makeup?
Speaker 2:Because my dad died when I was eight. I have a brother. You know that I run the streets like a single person and not meaning like because I'm divorced now, Like as an only child. I don't have a brother I can call him, be like it was just you. I make moves for me, so when I got with my husband I was ready to be like listen how long we ought to go for you.
Speaker 1:I'm married.
Speaker 2:I was with my husband since I was 13 years old.
Speaker 1:Oh, that puppy love Right now, with love coming into your future. What does loving onica now look like? Happiness peace, joy.
Speaker 2:It has all to do with the opposite of what my life used to be, and not saying that it was chaotic. It was chaotic because I just had a lot of things on my plate, but not chaotic meaning a little bit of toxicity. I didn't even know I was toxic.
Speaker 1:You like that, you like toxicity. You finally say a woman is saying that you like it.
Speaker 2:He put in words in my mind Baby, a little bit of toxicity is exciting. I'm going to tell you this good girl, soft girl, is a little boring, a little dry.
Speaker 1:So you like a man to have a little kick to it.
Speaker 2:I like a man that can keep up, so if I say something smart, or if you say something bad right back. But it'll have to be like Suslyn Alley Come home and like like, turn the front.
Speaker 1:If you don't get married again, will you be okay?
Speaker 2:I'm getting married again.
Speaker 1:So you're proposing to a man?
Speaker 2:What, what is this? Am I getting punk? What is going on here?
Speaker 1:You said you're getting married, I am getting married.
Speaker 2:You don't control that, though, unless you propose oh no, I'm putting it out into the universe, I'm manifesting it. Am I next husband going to be lit Like he is going to be like ooh.
Speaker 1:So he'll be a white man. Am I getting punk? Did the kids say, uh no.
Speaker 2:Wait, wait, let's get this, let's get this straight Come on Love.
Speaker 1:all people Remember.
Speaker 2:In these streets. I am going to date. I'm going to date If a, if a well rounded gentleman comes to me. No matter what race, I'm going to date I'm I'm big on the dating gas. Oh sorry kids, I don't know if that would be my flavor. Okay. Because I've never tasted.
Speaker 1:So you just opened. You're open to just a good man.
Speaker 2:Yes, yes, listen to me, I'm, I'm obsessed with black men. I'm obsessed with a black man. Why oh they just, oh, they fine the skin, the smell, the way they sweat, lord. Um, what else can I say about them? They feel like different, they feel real good. I've never touched a man, so I don't know. So I don't know if touching someone of another race would give me that thing, that yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:So I don't know, but I mean anyone. Um, hi, masculine testosterone men. Yeah, I'm, I'm, I'm open and will I marry a Caucasian? Not a high chance of it, but who knows? I'm not going to sit up here and say, because I never had that opportunity to say it to say it, but I also never been approached by a Caucasian.
Speaker 4:Even I'm giving power to the people. She stopped.
Speaker 1:I'm giving power to the people, so with that I got to ask how do you date with the girls and your sons, Like when you're dating?
Speaker 2:I lie to who? The children explain. Anytime I go out and with my friends, my girlfriends, I don't give up.
Speaker 1:Do y'all know she lying to y'all? Oh, so it was only select children.
Speaker 2:The younger ones that never seen me with another gentleman besides their dad, and they never will. They absolutely will never.
Speaker 1:Why not? Oh, why not? Because they're going to have to at some point.
Speaker 2:They're still getting older, If I ever just not when they're young. Um, understandably, the six year old was still in denial. He still really thinks I'm with his dad, so it's going to be hard.
Speaker 4:That's going to be a hard transition. That's going to be a hard transition.
Speaker 2:Before when we came here today, he was on FaceTime with his dad and he was showing his dad, like look at her, she look cute. She like so he's. Yeah, I would not not around him, okay.
Speaker 1:It's always I want kids, I got it. Yeah, not around him, it's just you.
Speaker 2:The six year old. He is kind of catching on because I'm always with Miss Angela, even overnight, Even when I come back at home.
Speaker 1:Even overnight, yeah.
Speaker 2:Even at 4am. Where you coming from With Miss Angela? Why he's like I was waiting up for you.
Speaker 1:Why? How do you? Are you into this new little world or do you do like online dating, speed dating? I don't know how you meet your men. What do you mean? I meant mobies, like how you meet your men. What's mobies? Let me see some sunset, cold.
Speaker 2:Absolutely not.
Speaker 1:Oh see, now I'm in. Yeah, now mobies.
Speaker 2:Even mobies is downfalls point.
Speaker 1:Yes, it is so where you meet these gentlemen.
Speaker 2:At different functions. Different functions, like you know.
Speaker 1:I so you're like a hi, hello, nice to meet you type.
Speaker 2:I am a bluffer type. You be bluffing, I bluff, I am a big on the bluffer.
Speaker 1:Oh, why are you bluffing?
Speaker 2:It is with something. I just realized that when I was married I did it all the time. So when I went out, yeah, like I would go out, you know, you look nice, you know.
Speaker 1:Even though you don't want to.
Speaker 2:People would buy you drinks, you would entertain them for a little bit and they'd be like, oh well, let me take you out. And I could just point to the ring like boom, I'm married. But if you want to take me and my husband out, then we can. You know.
Speaker 1:You're a finesser.
Speaker 2:Hey, no, not finesse.
Speaker 1:How many drinks in before you show that book up? Oh, use us.
Speaker 2:Is it a?
Speaker 1:number. Yes, she's at the five honey eye when someone says can I have your number?
Speaker 2:Or when the gentleman says I would like to take you out, then you have to be honest. I am married, I don't. And the number one question is would you like a boyfriend? I don't want a boyfriend either, but you know. So now that I'm single and I'm in, my technique was the hey hang out say blah blah blah, blah, blah and then point to the ring.
Speaker 2:The ring is no longer there. So now I'm giving people numbers in when they text Well, who was this? And they're like well, this is Brian, and you gave me your number last night. And then I'm ghosting people.
Speaker 1:Oh, so you're not in your villain era, you're not in the soft girl, it's not. It's not in you. You're a villain.
Speaker 2:I have pink nails. Okay, you're a pretty villain.
Speaker 1:In a Barbie world? Yeah, okay. No, I'm not. If you had to have a conversation with your younger self, what would you say?
Speaker 2:You're beautiful and talented and stop them in your life. I did that for a long time as an adult. Yeah, at least until like 30, 30 ish for the husband or something else. No, no, no, no. I just like the people. I always had an entrepreneurial type of spirit and something about me always rubbed people the wrong way.
Speaker 2:I never understood it, because you know like people can see things in you that you can't see in yourself Like you think you're a lad and all that, and I'm just being me, but I'm also doing things that I knew, that I was outgrown and it wasn't fun for me anymore.
Speaker 1:You hit that wall.
Speaker 2:Right. So then I was sitting there like actually bored at the events. Like you know, I'm from down the hill, so we used to go to all the hood bars and I was like you done hood. The hell off this ball. Like, can we go somewhere else? And I wanted something different. And then it came off as oh, like you're changing and don't know if I like that.
Speaker 1:You're supposed to.
Speaker 2:For everyone. Change is not good because. You're just going against what they're used to Correct and they may not be at that point where we, when we change and we changing into different people so you may be changing into gangsta boo and I really wanted to go, like, read a book, you know, and you might want to go smuggle some things there just was different transitions, yeah.
Speaker 1:Super, super, super. Different question how, now that we can address this part? Ms Ma'am how the hell did you know? My birthday was to yesterday, no tomorrow.
Speaker 2:First of all, I'm a woman. I'm very attentive to things and I don't play about birthdays at all. Yeah, yeah, I'm listening. Don't play about birthday. I got you a cake. You want your cake. You want your cake.
Speaker 1:Yeah, come on, ladies, you want your cake Okay.
Speaker 2:Okay, oh, my God so when I text you originally, you said oh my.
Speaker 1:God, my birthday is tomorrow, right, oh, this is crazy. It's a birthday. It's a birthday. It's a birthday. It's a birthday. It's a birthday. What? It's a birthday. This is crazy. Okay, I wasn't with the family song. It's a family song. We don't sing the regular one, okay, oh my.
Speaker 2:God, she came right on it. Yeah, she did, clearly she does this?
Speaker 1:Explain, explain, explain. It's your birthday.
Speaker 2:It's your birthday, we celebrate life. I've never been one of those persons that say oh, birthday is just another day. No, god bless you with another day of life, another one in the back. You're a black man baby? Yeah, no one in the back. God bless you with a Listen. You're a black man in Baltimore City. God bless you with another day of life, baltimore City. Baltimore.
Speaker 1:Baltimore, baltimore, baltimore. You know what's crazy? You actually gave me my favorite cake.
Speaker 2:Did I Because you didn't want to. You was real secretive. What's up with that?
Speaker 1:People right now. This is how weird this woman is. She has my number but will still text me on Instagram. That was number one, right. I slide in his DM. I don't know why she has my number. She said I'm here on Instagram. I'm like, oh, I just had to open this app. That's cool. But when you hit me yesterday with a random hey, what kind of cake do you like? And I'm like she can't know it's my birthday Because I said nothing about it.
Speaker 2:You did. You said what day would you like to come? And I was like, well, let me check my calendar. And I said the 25th. And he was like cool, that's the day before my birthday. And I said, bet, I ain't going to forget you.
Speaker 1:You said you will get married again. It'd be the simple things. It'd be the simple things.
Speaker 2:It'd be the simple things. You hear that second husband.
Speaker 1:How important is it for your kids to like your husband More than you, because they're getting grown so.
Speaker 2:Isn't it important for my kids to like my husband? It's important for my husband to like my kids. I'm telling you the first group is awesome. He's not going to have a problem with the first group.
Speaker 1:The other half, the back half.
Speaker 2:The other half, the other half that speak their mind. Yeah, the young ones, he ah, he got to be a kid person. I mean like work with the football team and he got to be a kid person. He got to be a kid person, so if the younger ones like him, then that's a plus. To get to that point, I don't even know what it would take, because I'm so protective of them.
Speaker 1:But that's a good thing though.
Speaker 2:It is because when I first came out here, people were introducing gentlemen to their children and I'm not here to judge, but it blew my mind. It was like oh, I don't want to be your kids Dad. You will never. I don't even post my kids, I literally just post my kids home?
Speaker 1:You really don't.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I literally just post my kids the other day because when I say I'm a mom of five and people were in my DM like men were like nah, you got five kids. No, baby, I got five.
Speaker 1:No, baby.
Speaker 2:No, baby, I got five. Let me show you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, because you is that by design. I believe it why?
Speaker 2:I would go off, I would flip One negative comment.
Speaker 1:And you're cognizant that that is a possibility, so you stopped that.
Speaker 2:Correct. It's a possibility that people will critique things that you should mind your business about. If there's no harm being done or if there's no one being injured, please mind your business the way people raise their children, because raising kids is not a manuscript.
Speaker 1:Oh, you definitely don't know what you have in mind you go wherever feels right.
Speaker 2:Right, I would do more like if that was my child. I would do this Baby. I got one of them kids. Now I don't know what to do with them. I leave them because I'm not doing this with you. You not embarrassing me, but I was that mother. Right Like why is that child falling out? Mine's be falling out now. I just walk real fast, I walk super fast.
Speaker 1:Yo, why don't you do comedy?
Speaker 2:Am I funny?
Speaker 1:Why don't you do comedy Then? I'd say y'all was funny when I asked to come on the show you did. I said I'm funny and I'm cute, that's what I say.
Speaker 2:I know you gave me a spell, but it was cool what I say. Daughter, I'm funny and I'm cute. The Asia, what I say. Okay, but I'm funny, not intentionally.
Speaker 1:You just have a funny personality.
Speaker 2:I just have a humor to me.
Speaker 1:So how do you feel about posting your man on social media?
Speaker 2:Well, when I had a husband, I posted him all the time.
Speaker 1:Does he have to post you?
Speaker 2:No, I don't even follow the people that I consider that I'm dating or in a situation where I don't even follow him because I know the real you and I know Instagram is a persona.
Speaker 1:Men I say this all the time you cannot pull this trick. She is pulling, but continue.
Speaker 2:What does?
Speaker 1:that mean we don't have the luxury of just being like nah, baby, I'm not going to post you.
Speaker 2:Am I offended that he don't follow me? Now I am. That's going to be a conversation that he don't follow me, but I'm never going to follow them.
Speaker 1:I'm never going to follow them why he got follow you if you don't follow him.
Speaker 2:Next question.
Speaker 1:Next question is what do you want to do with? Oh, please fit I. Do you want to make it a peril? Do you want to make it a gym? What do you want to do with this?
Speaker 2:Oh please. Fit is a movement for my fitness enthusiasts that like to do it the lazy way. So it's more of a movement. It's not like a pearl. It's not a gym membership because I don't do it. I don't have a gym membership. I literally work out at home. I'm the most, I consider myself the laziest fitness person because I only do small things to keep myself fit. I do fasting, I waste train, I do a simple seven minute workout to the 15 minute workout daily.
Speaker 1:So you really just do the bare bones.
Speaker 2:Baby, I absolutely do the bare minimum. Listen. This type of lifestyle that I created was at the peak of me being a mama five, so me getting the energy to get up early, put on clothes and go to the gym is just a task in itself. I would be at the gym. They call me you coming home, or what time it was, where's my shoes and this, and that I just don't stop. So when COVID hit, it really pushed me into just doing work, I was with them kids.
Speaker 2:It wasn't that I was with them all the time, I just had to pick them up and drop off. Pick them up and drop off, do this and do that every day. So when it was time for me to have my peace and quiet, the last thing I wanted to do was get dressed up and go to a gym. Because, first of all, the gym, I tell you, being a black woman is complicated because you go to the gym, people try to highlight you, people try to help you on the machine and it's like thank you, mister Sir.
Speaker 1:It's a proper gym. Etiquette.
Speaker 2:I don't know if everybody has proper gym etiquette, but I came in to do my 20 and go. I don't even want even if I'm doing it wrong.
Speaker 1:It could have been empty in here.
Speaker 2:I would have been fine, and then it just was like distracted, my little ADHD was all over the place. I'm waiting for this machine. Forget about it.
Speaker 1:Nope what I can comfortably say I'll talk into you was. I did not know what I was going to expect talking to you. I wanted it to be a surprise.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 1:Everybody talked to me. I was like, well, who was it? I was telling them who it was. They said do you know what you're going to talk about? And I say to everybody I do know. I do not prep for it. I like to authentically get to meet you for the time I have. Okay, so meeting you, you have given me so much personality, so much insight, but you gave it with your own flavor. And what I can commend you with is you really just did not stop that. You had the kids and everything. There was no well, shit, I got to keep going, I got to make myself better.
Speaker 1:Got to make myself better than you did it with the kids. Now we got to make each other better. It never was a point for what I'm seeing that you were like you know what I'm going to be, what it's going to be. That did not happen for you.
Speaker 2:No, I give myself moments. You have to even teach him my daughter. My daughter can have a bad day. I'll give her that. She got a good 24 hours, 36 maybe. Maybe to understand that you heard, understand what you would happen, to understand what's going on. But after that is game time, because life can, growing up where I grew up at, one thing me and my best friend at that time was determined to do was get a good education and not look like our surroundings, meaning we saw what. We saw what life can do to you if you let it get the best of you. You can be an alcoholic, you can be on drugs, you can be out there robbing, stealing and things like that. So at a very young age I decided baby, even when I'm 60, I'm going to be a snack.
Speaker 2:When I'm 70, I'm going to be a wrinkle gray hair Part to the side with the church. I've been promised myself that, so that's been something that I promised myself when I was younger. So I take my days as they come. You can see me Monday. I cried so hard on Monday because something came on that used to make me sad and I said is this joy in my heart? Not joy, it's happiness. And then the day after that it was like, oh man, no one bought my ebook. Like I got a seller ebook. No one bought my ebook in like two days. And it was like what was mean? Like I have ebooks, I have meal plans, I have things that I sell, and two days with no sales as entrepreneurs like, oh Lord, my child got to go here, I got to. Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:So I sat in it. I sat in it for like two days and I was like, well, let me go get a drink, and what's it? A bar. Yeah, that didn't help me. Even so, the next thing you do, you come up with a plan. I had to look forward to this podcast Listen.
Speaker 1:I'm gonna pull the shit out of it, because you didn't tell me you had e-books.
Speaker 2:I have a salad e-book where I took my favorite salads. Anything I do is done out of love and passion. People think that I woke up like this. I don't. I literally put in the work.
Speaker 1:So you're on social media working. Mm-hmm. Oh, I remember what social media used to be fun, for me too.
Speaker 2:It could be up and down Because things that I love like people about to eat this up, they give 20 likes. I put a random TikTok up the other day of me like Dora, little shimmy little shake 146 people.
Speaker 1:Oh, you're a woman.
Speaker 2:Really but.
Speaker 1:I was showing a lot, though. You gotta use what you have. Being a woman is 50%.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 1:So you like to do TikToks instead of Instagram for your business? I?
Speaker 2:love TikTok. I think TikTok is a much happier place.
Speaker 1:Oh, you've never seen a dark side of TikTok.
Speaker 2:Listen, I feed my mind what I want to see.
Speaker 1:She said it is positive things on my TikTok Because everybody's algorithm is different.
Speaker 2:Listen, even if something negative come up on it. My Instagram is set up that way too. I only want to see winners. I don't follow anything that's like deaf I would. It's popular Baltimore Murder Inc. I don't feed my brain that because I'm very. What is the word Impression? Impressionable, impressionable.
Speaker 2:And I'm a moved by person. So if all on my timeline is deaf, deaf, deaf, deaf, deaf shots, gunshots, people, girls fighting, that alters your reality. I only put the baddest bitches. So about like I'm joking, like Jocelyn says, I'm like no, I only put entrepreneurs. So on my page you will come up, and that's how I found you. Like on airframe. I follow airframe, I'm only following because I was at the airframe, so I saw you and your ass ain't come up. Well, I'm sure you was in the VIP section. I was in the bug eating section.
Speaker 1:Oh no, I was backstage.
Speaker 2:Okay, yeah, you know Dagon, while I was in backstage. Look at him. Plug this shame.
Speaker 1:I wouldn't be here. People talked about that airframe and said when they went there was mosquitoes and all that.
Speaker 2:It wasn't mosquitoes in the back.
Speaker 1:No, I don't know what part of the park you were in, or y'all period.
Speaker 2:By the stage, you were on the opposite side from where you were VIP, so where were you?
Speaker 1:at, so you weren't at like the festival park, yes, when. Where the bugs were. So you were at the park, where the stage was Correct, with all the little food trucks.
Speaker 2:Correct. There was mosquitoes out there. I don't know what they were, I just know we were having a family good time and my mother said I was about to come on and he was like, yeah, that was Sunday.
Speaker 1:I ain't come to Sunday, oh okay.
Speaker 2:So I was in. My mother said we leave it to our seat, Whatever the name is that's your name. They come on to one like as soon as the temperature or whatever the sun went down just a little bit, bugs just came from everywhere and then it wasn't like a little, it was like an infestation. They were like eating us up and we literally ran back to the car.
Speaker 1:Oh, no See, I was there in the daytime.
Speaker 2:Yes, we saw Taymon, and then my mother was like I ain't come all this way Not to see Ron. What's his name, ron?
Speaker 1:I ain't come all this way Not to see Ron.
Speaker 2:She sat there with a jacket on like this. I was up there like, oh my God had a little tank top on. They was killing me.
Speaker 1:So you've been to that friend before you were down there. You've been to that friend.
Speaker 2:I've been to that friend plenty of times. I mean crowds is not my thing.
Speaker 1:It's not.
Speaker 2:It's not my. Thing.
Speaker 1:It's not mine either. I've been to that friend once and that was the one I got invited to. I've never been.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I've been before as a young and you know you don't care about nothing. You run.
Speaker 1:You run.
Speaker 2:You run, you run.
Speaker 1:As I got old, I was like I'm kind of over this, like running. What do you want to do before 2023 is over? To moat yourself and get your life to the next level.
Speaker 2:I'm heavy on brand awareness right now marketing. I'm going to invest in a social media manager. Very, why, I think?
Speaker 1:I'm going to put you a game. Why would you do that I?
Speaker 2:believe in hiring people that I don't know, the covering things where I lack in those.
Speaker 1:Oh, that's smart.
Speaker 2:Correct. So I have these beautiful young ladies with me. They do like my proof rating. Like, if I have like, when I sent you your DM, I sent it to them proof reading. I believe in hiring people for doing things that I'm like that is a very rich thing to do.
Speaker 1:I hire people for I don't have to do it.
Speaker 2:Why are you saying like that? You made the same bed.
Speaker 1:It's not bad because I'm on your side, but with having other hands, are you comfortable giving up control of your?
Speaker 2:business and I'm right giving up control. I just need someone to help me show who I am, because I have all this goodness balled up and I don't think what I portray on Instagram even gives you a glimpse of who I am, so I need someone to help me.
Speaker 1:But why don't you do that? What Just be you on Instagram?
Speaker 2:I think that's what I'm being. What did you think when you saw?
Speaker 1:So when I seen him, you don't get your personality.
Speaker 2:You don't get personality and I have a whole bunch. But also I'm scared to share my personality with everybody because I think it's a gift, I think it's it is a gift, right, but if it's a gift, that means you want to give it to the selected, but you don't know who those selective folks are.
Speaker 1:If you don't give it.
Speaker 2:You're a wise man.
Speaker 1:Hey, you know, I'm just turning 30.
Speaker 2:Yeah, stuff is really.
Speaker 1:You know, so I just think you should do it I was turning 30.
Speaker 2:Such a young man Tomorrow. Tomorrow. Are you scared?
Speaker 1:No, I no, I think, with everything, with life, the business, no, I hit 30.
Speaker 2:You're going to be old.
Speaker 1:Shit if I'm old.
Speaker 2:I'm old, but I killed, you know as soon as you hit a certain age, people hit you with that. I was 39 and then I hit 40 and everybody was like you, too old to be doing that, and I was like yo, since I just was 39, you didn't even say that. So when you hit a certain age, it's certain things we expect of you.
Speaker 1:I don't even know how that happens because I don't know how, being adult, I swear adult I'm still me from 19. I just got a dog shit happening.
Speaker 2:It's so real.
Speaker 1:I don't feel. I don't feel old.
Speaker 2:If it's so, people will remind you. Know where the young ladies would tell you like damn dirty, yeah, like damn I just don't like to go to school.
Speaker 1:I just don't like to go to normal Like sugar daddy. Yeah, I ain't never did that, though that's that's sugar daddy. That's. That's a wicked, that's a wicked time.
Speaker 2:So what does that mean? Wicked times.
Speaker 1:I could know you don't know, I've never been to a strip club.
Speaker 2:I love strip clubs.
Speaker 1:Never, that was my date night man.
Speaker 2:It was a turn.
Speaker 1:I can't give my money to women dancing on me. It does nothing.
Speaker 2:That is a talent. You ever seen them climb up to the pole? You know how much. Do you know how hard? It is to climb up that fire pole. The lady some of your money, for God's sake, I'm not giving you. None of this is harder money. Strip us is hard. I went to pole class before baby. I couldn't make it two inches up the pole, and I'm talking about I was standing up, I just jumped.
Speaker 1:I was like I do know it's hard 내가 stayed high on thisump, so it's like softened.
Speaker 2:It sounds like avertitid detrimental to my body.
Speaker 1:I'll just pick that. You love strip clubs. No, her shoulders can't into style. I like strip clubs. I do tips. People don't throw it, people how they play with it. See, there are tips when they play with OG, didn't know they tell. You said petals click to one sided, like you said they clipped shelf every here place for me. Make Instagram happy. Your Instagram will be happy and it got like anybody else you gotta fake like you got everything together. You gotta have. You wanna fake it? Yeah, fake it.
Speaker 2:Fendi and you gotta have Balenciaga. Fake it. I mean, I shop at the thrift store. And you can still look fire and I know, but I'm an all around type person, so I'm gonna work on that. And that's what? If the social media manager can help me show like my authentic self without the social media manager is to your left.
Speaker 1:That chas, that chas gotta be me.
Speaker 2:He didn't say that.
Speaker 1:I don't know why he didn't.
Speaker 2:No, what does this car say? He didn't say that, so can he manage me.
Speaker 1:So listen, we gonna get you right before we can talk about business. So when we blow her page up and all that, just remember she was on Vy's podcast talking about stripper heels.
Speaker 2:No, I was not talking about stripper heels. You said stripper heels. Did I say stripper heels?
Speaker 1:I think the kids say stripper heels. I don't know which the kids.
Speaker 2:Now they know Because they got money to split. You hear me they be outside Now. I used to go on dates down there and I'm not mad about that. That's the kind of date that my husband like and that's the kind of dates we want to I wasn't mad about him, though. Except for, like the little dirty ones, he'd love a little tri-flick. Yeah, we love a little trifling.
Speaker 1:We love a little trifling, you know.
Speaker 2:Tony's on Pulaski Highway. You been to that one? No, I've never been. I know where it is, though.
Speaker 1:Yeah, everybody knew where Tony's is.
Speaker 2:I think, because he was in a halfway house and I think they just walk past it all the time to go to the halfway house. I think, I don't know.
Speaker 1:That was just a mean pivot from Tony's to halfway house.
Speaker 2:Tony's is by the federal halfway house and Baltimore on Pulaski Highway.
Speaker 1:I didn't know what the fuck that she was right there.
Speaker 2:It's a strip club. It's a strip club. It's a very underground-ish type. You have to know to know.
Speaker 1:You understand Okay yeah, I'm not crawling with that circle, but let people know where they can find you, connect with you, talk about your e-book, all at Okay so you can follow me on O Please Fit Okay, and I need to get my follow-ups up, so make sure y'all follow me.
Speaker 2:The thing that I offer e-books, workout plans, meal plans, fasting plans is in the bio. I also have a phlebotomy school and that's OZ-leaf phlebotomy. So yeah, if you're looking to, I really service a lot of nurses and asceticians, but I also service students that's looking to get into the health field, so it's an all-around type of school.
Speaker 1:You're a woman of the people.
Speaker 2:I actually love helping people. That's what I said. When I love who I love and if I can help you, then I'm going to help. I'm going to do it.
Speaker 1:Well. I have loved every part of this conversation. Thank you for having me. I was going to have you. When you reached out, I said yep immediately. I liked the essence of your page. I liked your proof that your daughter sent me yeah yeah, the Asian Uh-huh.
Speaker 2:My child, my daughter, was like let me go to the request with her. My child graduated from well. She went to city. We ain't going to tell her business, but she's a very smart young girl. And my other daughter went to Mercy. That's a private school, so they're very, they're way smarter than you Mercy the all-girls school, yeah, the all-girls school. Oh y'all some smart motherfuckers over there. Polly, oh Lord my daughter.
Speaker 1:Oh, you told us that's distance back from you, from the city, listen, listen. You told the city she go to Polly.
Speaker 2:She's smart, polly. I miss. I apologize. My daughters are very smart.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:They are entrepreneurs and they are not even 21 years old.
Speaker 1:And that's because of your influence.
Speaker 2:Is it because of my influence? I pray. If it's a tad bit of my influence, I will forever be grateful.
Speaker 1:Well, listen, man, before we get out of here. Right, I'm going to say this.
Speaker 2:Are you going to eat your cake?
Speaker 1:You want me to eat it on the air? No, I'm just saying I'm going to eat the hell out of this thing. Are you having a party? No, I know, is that weird? You're turning 30.
Speaker 2:That's a monumental.
Speaker 1:I did what I wanted to do for 30.
Speaker 2:Well, 30 is tomorrow, so how did you do it?
Speaker 1:You know how hard I've been working this month. Did you party? Yes, turned up. Yes, damn, I missed it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So my question before we get out of here is ladies over there, right, what do you like to come and say something about your mom?
Speaker 2:Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1:Do you want to say something about your mom?
Speaker 2:Picture shirt.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm going to sit there and listen. This has been another lovely episode of Vibes. Before we get out of here, I'm going to have her child come on here and say whatever she wants about her mom. Come on over here.
Speaker 2:What do you want to say? I'm going to set you right, Mark. It's really. Yeah, you want to make me cry?
Speaker 1:Yeah whatever you guys say to your mama.
Speaker 4:Don't make me cry. So his last question was like do you have any inspiration or do you give me any inspiration? But you know that you give me all of the inspiration that I had. As far as me, running to be an entrepreneur, as far as me, never want to work. I don't work a job because I don't like it. But she like oh girl, you don't have to work a job because you can just keep grinding. That's all I do. And then me and my girlfriend we do it together. So it's just enjoyable. Don't do that, don't make me cry, don't cry you. Okay, she's just she really strong, like she really is. She really is strong and the last couple years has been really hard, but she do it and she do a good job. She really did. Go ahead, mama. Oh mama, you make me cry here. I'm not going to stop them.
Speaker 1:Okay, this has been another lovely episode of Vibes.
Speaker 4:I'm going to have to go back to the beginning. I'm not going to stop them.
Speaker 2:This has been another lovely episode. Listen, I'm not here for this. I'm not here for this.
Speaker 1:Shout out to shout out to Ol Fit man for coming through supplying the cake man.
Speaker 2:Why would you?
Speaker 1:do that. Yeah, we all about surprises here. No, steve, follow her on Ol Fit at Instagram. Man, take our classes, don't get here. Get her salads and listen. This has been another lovely one and we are going to catch you on the next one.
Speaker 2:It's somebody's birthday. It's somebody's birthday Birthday, is it? It's Mark's birthday? It's his birthday. It's his birthday. It's his birthday, huh.