The Worry Paradox: How Your Energy Creates Your Reality

Escape Worry's Quicksand: Manifest Your Dream Reality Through Action & Gratitude (Living Lucky® Podcast)

Ever feel like the more you worry, the worse things get? You're not alone. In this transformative episode of the Living Lucky® Podcast with Jason & Jana Banana, we expose the "worry paradox" and reveal how your thoughts are literally shaping your reality.

We share vulnerable stories of how focusing on financial fears and everyday anxieties manifested into real-life problems. But here's the breakthrough: you have the power to redirect that energy. We uncover how shifting from worry to action, even imperfect action, creates momentum and positive change.

Here’s what you’ll discover:

• The Worry Quicksand: How Negative Thoughts Trap You: Understand the self-fulfilling prophecy of worry and how it creates more problems.
• Frequency & Manifestation: Your Thoughts Shape Your Reality: Learn how your vibrational energy impacts your experiences.
• Imperfect Action: Breaking Free from Inaction: Discover why taking any step, even a flawed one, beats staying stuck in worry.
• Overestimating & Underestimating: The Time Illusion: Understand why we misjudge what we can achieve in short vs. long timeframes.
• Comfort in Discomfort: Breaking the Cycle of Struggle: Learn how some people unconsciously embrace struggle as their identity and how to change that.
• Stewing in Gratitude: Shifting Your Focus for Positive Results: Discover how to attract more of what you want by focusing on gratitude and love.
• The Universe's Mirror: You Get What You Focus On: Understand how the universe amplifies your dominant feelings and how to use this to your advantage.

This episode is a powerful guide to breaking free from worry and creating the life you desire. 

• How worry creates a negative feedback loop.
• The power of action over inaction.
• Why your thoughts manifest your reality.
• How to shift from worry to gratitude.
• The importance of consistent, small steps.
• How to break the comfort of discomfort.
• Understanding the universe’s reflective nature.

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*Previously Recorded

Chapters

• 0:00 The Quicksand of Worry
• 1:44 How Frequencies Change Reality
• 2:47 Taking Action: The Lake Weed Story
• 5:12 Overestimating What We Can Achieve
• 9:01 Finding Comfort in Discomfort
• 12:20 The Universe Gives What You Focus On

Transcript

The Quicksand of Worry

Jana Shelfer 0:00

Are you ready to create a life you crave? Let's spin that doom loop of negativity into an upward success cycle and start Living Lucky®. Good morning, I'm Jana.

Jason Shelfer 0:16

I'm Jason.

Jana Shelfer 0:17

And we are Living Lucky®.

Jason Shelfer 0:19

You are too.

Jana Shelfer 0:21

Talk to me, Jason, about worry.

Jason Shelfer 0:23

Yeah, so there's a thing about where we spend our energy and worry, I feel like Only creates more worry, right More things to worry about, and too often like worry is almost like digging the hole, like we're going to feel that twinge of it's like quicksand. Yes, that's a really good analogy or metaphor. I don't know the difference.

Jana Shelfer 0:45

If you sit and worry about let's just use credit card debt. If you start worrying about credit card debt I kid you not, because I've experienced this, I've experienced this you start worrying about credit card debt and, oh my gosh, I got to pay this credit card. Next thing, you know, things will start breaking down in your house.

Jason Shelfer 1:11

So this is crazy. Yes, when I got laid off, I was worried about all the. I spent so much time in the worry my car literally broke down. I'm telling you, weird things started happening and it's kind of like that self-manifestation.

Jana Shelfer 1:32

It is your fears start manifesting Becoming a reality. Yes, and it's. Where are you putting your attention?

How Frequencies Change Reality

Jason Shelfer 1:41

So big, so big. I literally just had that realization. I knew what was going on, but my take on that whole situation was when I was down, people came around. There were some times that people came around, because I throw out of it though. I let go of the worry because friends were around. And when I let go of the worry, I was able to create, to grow, to love, to have these higher vibrational experiences that changed everything.

Jana Shelfer 2:19

Because your vibration, your frequency changed.

Jason Shelfer 2:22

Yes, god, it's so big I got goosebumps. You didn't do that consciously, no, you did that frequency changed. Yes God, it's so big, I got goosebumps.

Jana Shelfer 2:25

You didn't do that consciously.

Jason Shelfer 2:26

No.

Jana Shelfer 2:27

You did that unconsciously.

Jason Shelfer 2:28

Correct.

Jana Shelfer 2:29

So if we can start doing that consciously, we can actually speed up our reality.

Jason Shelfer 2:36

Yeah, speed up what we are manifesting and stop reverse manifesting.

Jana Shelfer 2:40

Yes.

Taking Action: The Lake Weed Story

Jason Shelfer 2:41

That's so big, so we both spent time worrying about the grass and the lake.

Jana Shelfer 2:47

Oh my gosh.

Jason Shelfer 2:47

So we live on a lake, we ski, almost every day water ski, and this grass has been growing and the county's not taking care of it, the state's not taking care of it. So we're dealing with it, but we're worried.

Jana Shelfer 3:01

So it's either up to us or it just becomes out of control, mess.

Jason Shelfer 3:05

Yes, and it kept feeling like it was getting out of control. It is out of control, and so I spent time worrying that it was going to hamper our skiing, but yesterday I stopped worrying and started doing it.

Jana Shelfer 3:20

Because every time we take the boat out the seaweed gets wrapped around the motor.

Jason Shelfer 3:28

When I take my wife out of the water she's kind of wrapped in weeds.

Jana Shelfer 3:32

And the other day you literally said Jana, can you swim down and see if you can unwrap the seaweed off?

Jason Shelfer 3:40

the motor. Yeah, I promise not to start it.

Jana Shelfer 3:43

Are you kidding me? Seaweed off the motor. Yeah, I promise not to start it. Are you kidding me? You want me to swim under the boat and unwrap the seaweed.

Jason Shelfer 3:50

Yeah, I promise I won't start the motor.

Jana Shelfer 3:55

Without goggles or anything. You just want me to feel around.

Jason Shelfer 3:58

Well, I've done it.

Jana Shelfer 4:00

Feel around. Now here's the thing is. I've done it while the boat is on the lift. It's not an easy task.

Jason Shelfer 4:09

It's not Because there's some strong weeds.

Jana Shelfer 4:13

They are not only strong. You almost need a knife and you just want me to swim down there.

Jason Shelfer 4:19

This is why I was so worried. This is where the worry came from.

Jana Shelfer 4:26

So let's get back to when you start taking action.

Jason Shelfer 4:29

Yeah well, instead of spending all my energy on the worry and the fretting, I borrowed a lake razor from our neighbor Matt and went out there and just tossed the rake. And if we did that for an hour a day, I made so much Now. Yesterday I did it from 10 o'clock in the morning till six o'clock at night.

Jana Shelfer 4:48

You kind of overdid it.

Overestimating What We Can Achieve

Jason Shelfer 4:50

I overdid it because. But the thing is, when I got out of the worry and got into the action, acting and the doing, like it wasn't perfect but it was, it was progress and that was a different mindset. And as soon as I started seeing the progress, I was like, oh, I've got, like I'm going to this is happening today.

Jana Shelfer 5:16

Now we overestimate what we can do in a day. I know why do we do that and we still do that, even though we know that we do that.

Jason Shelfer 5:21

I think it's just going to be normal and that's why our to-do list always has like two or three things left on it.

Jana Shelfer 5:27

I literally I not only overestimate what I can do in a day, I overestimate what I can do in a week and I overestimate what I can do in a month. I literally go oh, I can lose 40 pounds in a month.

Jason Shelfer 5:41

I do that. You would be a wafer. No.

Jana Shelfer 5:43

I literally do that. I'm like, okay, I have a month until I see.

Jason Shelfer 5:47

Until this event Until. I go to Kansas, I can lose 40 pounds by then, until I have to speak. Yeah, why do?

Jana Shelfer 5:52

I do that.

Jason Shelfer 5:53

It's, I think so I get it, and there's a million people out there that are having the same situation and I think we'll always have that situation. But if we can just be, if we can show up with that discipline and consistency, over time it will happen.

Jana Shelfer 6:08

No, I literally I'm like okay, next week I have ski camp where I'm going to see my coach, and I'm like I'm going to be on video all day. I'm like, oh yeah, my, my arms will be cut by my arms, it'd be ripped.

Jason Shelfer 6:19

Yeah Right, look at those triceps and biceps.

Jana Shelfer 6:23

Working. You know I've been skiing and everything, but I feel like I should be further along than what I am.

Jason Shelfer 6:30

I feel like I should be in a bodybuilding competition Right, Like not the muscle people but the fitness people I do.

Jana Shelfer 6:37

That's what I feel.

Jason Shelfer 6:38

You're on your way, Like. I think you look stunning. You're a stunner.

Jana Shelfer 6:42

But here's the thing is I do overestimate how far or how much I can achieve in a short period of time. I do that with my stocks too so let that worry go. I mean, I seriously I look at the stock market. I think I've told everyone on this podcast that I've been studying options now for the last year, year and a half, maybe two years, and I literally will get on my daily class and I'll say, oh yeah, I can make $5,000 today.

Jason Shelfer 7:18

Let's do it. Let's do it Today. I do that. I used to do that at the blackjack table, which is not a healthy thing.

Jana Shelfer 7:24

That's not healthy. No.

Jason Shelfer 7:25

It's like, in fact, I would win $5,000, $10,000. And I was like, all right, it's time to retire. It's not gambling.

Jana Shelfer 7:33

It's not gambling. That's not the goal here. The goal is to just make a little tiny bit.

Jason Shelfer 7:40

Consistently over time and that little tiny bit turns into a big bit. That's the beauty of it. Like even cleaning out the lake, the little tiny bit that I did turned into a big bit. I know, if you look at the curb, oh my gosh, and look how much you pulled out that's kind of why I stopped is like there's no more room to put it on the street On the curb For the garbage pickup to people to get.

Jana Shelfer 8:06

Oh, I know, and it smells I didn't want to tell you, but our neighbor's dog came running over and was like getting in it everything that you put in there oh, because it stinks like and dogs love that stink.

Jason Shelfer 8:20

Yeah, they like to roll in it and the dog was it drax? Yes, drax is. Thex is one of the neighbor's dogs.

Jana Shelfer 8:28

Drax was taking everything that you put there and was dragging it all over our lawn and stuff.

Jason Shelfer 8:34

Oh, I'm sure.

Jana Shelfer 8:34

And then, of course, Drax's owner was like oh, I'm sorry I'll put it all back, Just don't let him roll in it because he will stink.

Jason Shelfer 8:42

And I walked out this morning to walk the dog and it stunk.

Jana Shelfer 8:45

Really.

Jason Shelfer 8:48

We've got these beautiful?

Jana Shelfer 8:49

what's the name of the tree out there? Do you remember?

Jason Shelfer 8:50

Is it jasmine, jasmine and azaleas? I don't know. So all these beautiful, really highly powerful smelling flowers.

Jana Shelfer 8:58

They're so pretty, they're so good.

Finding Comfort in Discomfort

Jason Shelfer 8:59

And it is overpowered by this lake funk because it came out of the muck.

Jana Shelfer 9:04

Okay, so what you were saying, though, is just little by little.

Jason Shelfer 9:08

Yeah, just stop using your energy to worry and use it to believe, to create love, grow and manifest Like, create your own luck, create the life that you want instead of worrying about what you don't have currently I think it is taking action. It is and imperfect action. Just any step towards what you want is away from the things that you don't. Imperfect action beats stale Inaction, anytime it does yes.

Jana Shelfer 9:37

It does. This is a lesson I need.

Jason Shelfer 9:41

Let that be the first decision is I'm just going to take action, like I'm going to take a step, and even if it is the wrong direction, it's movement. Then you can course correct and get into the right direction.

Jana Shelfer 9:54

Oh, this is a big one that for some reason, I've learned this over and over.

Jason Shelfer 9:59

We all learn it. My clients go through it every day, like every week. It's kind of like okay, how are we not? Where are we not taking action? And what's holding like? What's the holdup? What like, why won't, why don't? What are we avoiding by moving towards this? What is worry giving us that allows me to stay comfortable, and comfortable in the uncomfort or discomfort right?

Jana Shelfer 10:23

Yeah, because it's not necessarily.

Jason Shelfer 10:26

It's not moving you out of it.

Jason Shelfer 10:27

Right, because there's discomfort, you out of it, right, because there's discomfort, it's like, it's like moving in the uncomfortable zone is uncomfortable, but staying in this in the muck is uncomfortable is uncomfortable as well but it feels safe because we've gotten used to it and that's like, like I, there's um. There's a couple people that have been in our sphere that um aren't going to keep a job, they aren't going to like they're going to have, they're going to be moving all the time because they have gotten so comfortable being uncomfortable that that's now part of their identity, like, oh, my life is hard, my life is um, life is unfair for me, yeah, and so that's their new comfort because they're getting comforted from friends, comfort like they're finding their comfort other ways, when I like getting my comfort and creating the life that I love.

Jana Shelfer 11:23

I know, I know you say it like it's so easy.

Jason Shelfer 11:27

It's not easy, it's just work.

Jana Shelfer 11:28

I just say that it's a problem that it feels. I don't want to say it's a problem, but it is a lesson that I continue to learn.

Jason Shelfer 11:40

Yeah, and well, I think we will always continue to learn it, because we're always building our mountains higher.

Jana Shelfer 11:45

We're always setting our goals higher, and to let go of worry is so much easier said than done.

Jason Shelfer 11:54

And I think that's where it's just consistent renewing of your mind and renewing of your amazingness.

Jana Shelfer 12:01

And that is why we continue to have podcasts about this topic because we need the reminder, even to remind ourselves to let go of the worry.

The Universe Gives What You Focus On

Jason Shelfer 12:13

Now we get to say it and then we'll go back and listen to it again and hear it back and I'll be like who is that brilliant person that is talking on that podcast?

Jana Shelfer 12:22

Oh, it's me.

Jason Shelfer 12:23

It's you, it's you. Who's that brilliant person on the podcast? It's me, it's me. I'll be the second best person on this podcast. That way I'm. It's perfect.

Jana Shelfer 12:35

Okay.

Jason Shelfer 12:35

Because I can be like I'm the second best podcaster on this podcast.

Jana Shelfer 12:41

Let go of the worry. If you stew in the worry, guess what you create.

Jason Shelfer 12:45

Mo worry More things to worry about.

Jana Shelfer 12:48

It's like the universe says you know what Jana really loves things to worry about, let worry. It's like the universe says you know what Jana really loves things to worry about. Let's give her more of that she loves to worry.

Jason Shelfer 12:54

Let's create that the universe is always, always working in your favor.

Jana Shelfer 12:59

So it is whatever feeling you are stewing in. The universe will give you more.

Jason Shelfer 13:08

I'm going to stew in gratitude and love.

Jana Shelfer 13:10

Yes, yes.

Jason Shelfer 13:11

And luck, that's right.

Jana Shelfer 13:13

That's what I'm stewing in. Thank you for joining us.

Jason Shelfer 13:16

Keep Living Lucky®.

Jana Shelfer 13:17

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