What If The Universe Schedules Your Quiet Before You Do

Forced Quiet: When the Universe Mutes Your World 💡🌑

What happens when the universe schedules your silence before you do? In this episode of the Living Lucky® Podcast, Jason and Jana Banana share the comical yet profound lessons from a 48-hour digital blackout. Post-surgery and under orders to "rest and watch movies," the plan was simple—until the internet, streaming, and smart lights vanished.

We dive into the mindset of control and how easily minor inconveniences trigger a victim mentality. This is a masterclass in personal development, teaching you how to stop wrestling with reality and embrace the "spiritual curriculum" hidden in the chaos.

In this episode, you will learn to:

• Identify Control Traps: Why scheduling your "calm" often creates more internal noise.
• Shift from Resistance to Flow: How to stop fighting the "river of life" and let go.
• Audit Internal Noise: Recognize when you are generating more stress than the situation requires.

Mindset Nuggets for Finding Peace:

• Obsession vs. Attention: Checking "restoration times" like a stock ticker is just more noise. Trade obsession for presence. (Believe in your circumstances).
• Control is an Illusion: Safety isn't managing variables; it’s staying calm when they fail. (Believe in yourself).
• Shared Resilience: You can either feed the stir-crazy energy of others or anchor the peace. (Believe in the people around you).
• The Gift of the Gap: When the universe removes your choices, it’s a reminder to choose rest over resistance. (Believe in a higher power).

Stop fighting the pause. Hit play to turn your next interruption into a breakthrough and start Living Lucky® today!

• "How can I stay calm when my plans are interrupted?" Shift from a victim mindset ("Why is this happening to me?") to a growth mindset ("What is this offering me?"). Use the forced pause to practice presence rather than trying to engineer a workaround.
• "What is spiritual curriculum?" It is the idea that every life challenge—no matter how small—is a specific lesson designed to help you evolve. If you fail the test by reacting with bitterness, the lesson often repeats until you meet it with grace.

Transcript

From Doom Loops To Living Lucky

Speaker 1 0:00

Are you ready to create a life you crave? Let's spin that doom loop of negativity into an upward success cycle and start Living Lucky®.

Jason Shelfer 0:14

Good morning.

Jana Shelfer 0:15

I'm Jana. I'm Jason.

Speaker 1 0:17

And we are Living Lucky®.

Internet Outage And Forced Quiet

Jason Shelfer 0:19

You are too.

Jana Shelfer 0:20

Quieting the noise.

Jason Shelfer 0:22

Oh, that's easier said than done.

Jana Shelfer 0:24

We haven't had internet in two days.

Jason Shelfer 0:28

A forced quieting.

Jana Shelfer 0:29

There's been an outage in our neighborhood. Now, it sounds like, oh, 48 hours, no big deal, right?

Jason Shelfer 0:38

Holy moly. Well, when you work online, when you communicate really online a lot, that that is a game changer.

Jana Shelfer 0:46

You don't realize how dependent. Dependent you are on the saying that out loud. And at the same time, there's been a peacefulness in the quiet.

Jason Shelfer 1:04

So for me, there's been moments of peacefulness in the quiet, and then there's been times where I've created my own noise.

Jana Shelfer 1:12

Of stir crazy.

Jason Shelfer 1:13

Stir crazy, of anger, of bitterness, of why is this happening? So all the things we talk about on a regular basis of Living Lucky®, why is this happening for me?

Jana Shelfer 1:25

Yes.

Jason Shelfer 1:25

Almost flew out the window.

Jana Shelfer 1:27

I know.

Jason Shelfer 1:28

Because I'm like, my life has been interrupted, disrupted, put on hold, or pause, which is a freaking blessing.

Jana Shelfer 1:38

Yes.

Jason Shelfer 1:39

And I fought it tooth and nail.

Jana Shelfer 1:40

Here's the thing because Jason had surgery three days ago, and the doctor literally prescribed prescribed you need to lay in bed, lay on the couch, and watch television.

Jason Shelfer 1:55

Watch movies, yeah.

Jana Shelfer 1:57

While you heal. That is what you need to do. No getting up, moving around, let your wife wait on you.

Surgery, Rest, And Expectations

Jason Shelfer 2:04

That's right. Be the king.

Jana Shelfer 2:05

That's what that's what the doctor said. And then all of a sudden, we don't have television. We don't have internet. We can't get on the computer. We, I mean, it's surprising how many things are connected to your internet. For us, the lights in our house are connected to our internet, the air condition. I mean, every single thing is connected to our internet service.

Jason Shelfer 2:34

Yeah. And it's crazy because thinking back to like 1985, 1990, it wouldn't have phased me one bit. Like, what is the internet? It's a five-minute waiting for a connection.

Jana Shelfer 2:46

I know, right?

Jason Shelfer 2:47

You know, like, okay, let's go do something.

Jana Shelfer 2:49

And you think, okay, so we'll read a book. Okay, so we start reading a book, and then you know, you come across something in the book and you think, well, I need to Google that. I need to look it up. See what that's about. It starts driving you crazy.

Jason Shelfer 3:00

Yes. So then you start cre I was creating that internal victim mentality over nothing.

Jana Shelfer 3:06

I know.

Jason Shelfer 3:07

And that's what's happening out in the world right now with all the the noise and everything. That that's become the new safe spot for people is the noise.

Jana Shelfer 3:18

I had a Zoom call. I know this sounds crazy, and I literally had to say, you know what, we're just gonna have to do it over the telephone. We're just gonna have to do, and that drove me nuts. That I couldn't see their faces, that I had to phone in.

Jason Shelfer 3:34

Phone it in.

Jana Shelfer 3:35

And I couldn't see anyone's face. Like that bothered me.

Jason Shelfer 3:39

Well, you we get accustomed to what we what we want and what the things that we're looking for. And so when that changes, it it it it creates a disruption in the force.

Jana Shelfer 3:50

And then so then I had another Zoom, and I I was like, you know what? I'm gonna go to the nearest Starbucks and I'm gonna work in the coffee shop.

Jason Shelfer 4:02

This section brought to you by Starbucks.

Zoom Workarounds And Coffee Shop Chaos

Jana Shelfer 4:04

And that actually brought on another set of issues that I had to deal with. I had to take my little AirPods, and then at one point, my AirPods disconnected, disconnected and got cross-pollinated with Eva's, who was sitting across the table, and all of a sudden she's hearing my webinar, I'm hearing hers, and we couldn't figure it out. I'm like, who who am I hearing? I'm looking around, going, whose computer am I hearing?

Jason Shelfer 4:35

Because the it's like I'm watching a foreign film here and it's nothing's making sense. Foreign film with the wrong soundtrack. Oh so funny.

Jana Shelfer 4:47

Yes, but one thing that I did realize is there is so much noise going on. And even though we talk about this a lot, it has become our new norm, our norm.

Obsession, Control, And The Noise Trap

Jason Shelfer 4:59

Yeah, and I think one of the big things is because of our need to want to control things, we want to schedule our calm, our quiet, our our silencing of the noise. Yes. And now there's a there's a ton of people that don't even that's not even on their radar of it's too noisy, I need to calm the noise, or that I have power to calm the noise. But for those of us that are on this path of kind of figuring out how to live a better life, we know the value of of calmness, quiet, being still and knowing, you know, all those things. And but we want to schedule it. So there's this flip side of talking about going with the flow of the universe, going like taking what comes and choosing the best option in that scenario. Yes, and this need to control the flow. Like, can like we because we know we can create our own flow, but when the universe is providing an area of flow, because we didn't schedule it in our time frame, a lot of times we want to fight against it, or me personally. Because I was the universe gave me this beautiful moment of pause. It gave me the surgery.

Jana Shelfer 6:07

Yes.

Jason Shelfer 6:07

Now the prescription was to go home, lay in bed, let your wife take care of you and watch movies. I was down for that prescription. You were so excited about it. Yes, thank you more, please. Then the internet goes off, which is television, everything, uh being able to really operate the systems in our house. Yes. And I said, nope, universe. No. This is not what I had planned. This is not my schedule. This is like, but the universe was saying, hey, let's really maximize the quiet and this calm. Yeah. And I just said, screw it.

unknown 6:45

No.

Jana Shelfer 6:45

Well, here's the thing is normally when that would happen, we would go outside a long walk, like a long walk.

Jason Shelfer 6:54

People would think it's ridiculous.

Jana Shelfer 6:56

But you weren't able to move either. So it literally was lay in bed.

Jason Shelfer 7:01

So that's that's be that's giving me grace, right? Yes. But we all have this in our heads where if it doesn't go according to our specific plan, if we think we're on this, we've got all this momentum, even though the surgery kind of zapped my momentum, it created this outlet for a beautiful space for me to just kind of do all these things, the meditation, the the thought, the thought process, the analyzing, hey, what's happening? I let go of all the analytics. Yes. Like I was like, I don't even, I'm not gonna think about why I'm thinking what I'm thinking because I'm so mad and I'm so bitter that my plans have been interrupted. It's crazy. Sorry. And I'm like, what? And so now I get the option of looking back on it in hindsight, and I'm like, wow, that's that was a gift.

Jana Shelfer 7:47

I know, but it was nuts how we got caught up in it. Oh my gosh. Because it it literally was, you know, we wanted to know if the neighbors had it. And then we realized, okay, it's not only the neighbors that didn't have internet, but the whole area was the city. Right?

Jason Shelfer 8:05

If you had two, these two providers, you were done.

Jana Shelfer 8:07

Yeah.

Jason Shelfer 8:08

And then I was like, oh, you Starlink people, you freaking Starlink people, quit telling me to buy Starlink. I've got fiber optic.

Jana Shelfer 8:19

And then and then the whole rat race became, when is it gonna come back on? And people said four o'clock, four o'clock, and then four o'clock would come and it wasn't on.

Jason Shelfer 8:28

Then it goes to midnight. And then it was midnight.

Jana Shelfer 8:30

And we we would even set our alarm and say, Oh gosh, did our internet come back on? And nope, it wasn't on. And then the next morning when it still wasn't on, we were we were so disappointed, remember?

Jason Shelfer 8:43

Trying to make a run on the banks. Yeah, and it did cash out.

Resisting The Gift Of Calm

Jana Shelfer 8:46

It was almost like it it we became obsessed with when our internet was gonna come back on. Obsession is such a great word, and it's so bizarre that that happened.

Jason Shelfer 9:02

There are people right now getting obsessed with politics.

Jana Shelfer 9:06

They're getting obsessed with the news.

Jason Shelfer 9:08

Because of this noise and their plans are interrupted, and and they're getting obsessed with ice, they're getting obsessed with protests, all the things that might happen, yes, and they're fighting resistance with resistance, which is just creating more resistance and animosity and and um very volatile.

Jana Shelfer 9:27

Which just it it just exacerbates the problem.

Jason Shelfer 9:32

Another form of distraction. It really is. Another form of noise that now we're we're generating internally. So the the world is trying to give you all this noise, and now we're creating this crazy loud noise internally, yes, which makes us want to kind of explode outwardly, which adds more noise into the world. Yeah, it's a weird so the universe kind of just gave me this gift of relaxation, silence, calm, no internet, you know. Um I wasted.

Jana Shelfer 10:05

Which you were really excited about you were really excited for.

Jason Shelfer 10:08

So so excited.

Jana Shelfer 10:10

But then it didn't quite go as you wanted it to because you had expectations. There you go. I think that's what happened.

Jason Shelfer 10:18

Yeah. And I didn't just I didn't just lay back in the the river of flow, quote unquote, the river of flow, and let it take me wherever it wanted to go. You know, because it could have been a beautiful ride. I I fought the noise.

unknown 10:34

Yeah.

Jason Shelfer 10:35

I mean, I didn't. I fought the calm, is what I did.

Jana Shelfer 10:38

You did. You were like, no.

unknown 10:40

No.

Jason Shelfer 10:42

Just after the best calm of my life when they put me out, like when they gave me that proper call, I was like, I don't even know what happened. Like, time is gone. It's I feel amazing. Like, I feel like I just had the best nap in the my life.

Jana Shelfer 10:54

Oh my gosh. And now I'm getting an extension of this.

Jason Shelfer 10:57

48 hours in K in mental chaos.

Jana Shelfer 11:00

Calling the internet company.

Jason Shelfer 11:02

I must have called them. I mean, how many times were you on hold? I must have called them nine different times.

Jana Shelfer 11:07

No, they literally said, Well, we could send out a service provider on the 21st.

Jason Shelfer 11:13

Like in two weeks. I know that now. This is a couple days ago we had the internet at it, but and you said the 21st.

Jana Shelfer 11:21

What is you said, I will I will hire a new service provider.

Letting Go And Following The Flow

Jason Shelfer 11:27

A tall big talk, right? Still got the same service provider. I shouldn't have come out of the gate with that one. It's like someone needs to get their stuff together. Oh, well, you're killing me over here, Small.

Jana Shelfer 11:43

Okay, so let's wrap this up in a bow. I guess what we're trying to get at is it's easy to get caught up in the noise. And when we do so, it just causes more turmoil.

Jason Shelfer 11:55

Yes. More noise, more turmoil. And look for where can I find more gifts of calm and peace and serenity being offered in life as opposed to looking for where is the next bit of noise that I can jump into.

Jana Shelfer 12:11

And then go with it.

Jason Shelfer 12:12

Yes.

Jana Shelfer 12:13

And stop trying to control the outcome. Ah, I love it. I love it. I love these little gifts from the universe.

Jason Shelfer 12:24

Yes, these little conversations, spiritual curriculum.

Jana Shelfer 12:28

That's what it is.

Jason Shelfer 12:29

We're all going through it.

Jana Shelfer 12:30

You know what? And when we fail these little uh lessons, then that means we get to retake them.

Takeaways And Next Time’s Test

Jason Shelfer 12:37

Right. So I'll be on the lookout for the next uh question on the test.

Speaker 1 12:41

Thanks for joining us.

Jason Shelfer 12:42

Keep Living Lucky®.

Speaker 1 12:43

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