Every Man’s Battle: How Strong Men Defeat Temptation

Every man's battle with adulterous sin, lust, and temptation is real. Coach Mondoe and Coach David dive deep into biblical manhood, intimacy, and self-control in this powerful Coach's Corner edition of The Rise Up Kings Podcast.
 
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00:00:00:00 - 00:00:16:28
Unknown
I didn't create marriage to make you happy. He created to make people. The first thing I would say is, have you been trying to fight that alone? Because fighting it alone is a recipe. If any man can master the fruit of the spirit of self-control, specifically when it comes to sexual sin, you can literally do two things you can change the world.

00:00:17:01 - 00:00:33:22
Unknown
Pornography is a counterfeit for real intimacy. Adultery is a counterfeit for real intimacy. Promiscuity is a counterfeit for real intimacy. You can give that to Nicky Malcolms days on your phone without getting all this inappropriate stuff. The showing of us in the form of temptation. So what would you say right now to the man is thinking about giving up with the desire to change.

00:00:33:27 - 00:00:52:20
Unknown
Yet unsuccessful. Great question. The fascinating thing is that. Welcome to the coach's Corner Rise Up Kings podcast. I'm your host, Coach Mando. I'm so excited about we're going to talk about today. We have Pastor David on the show, and we're going to dig into some deep theological questions that you have always been afraid to ask. Well, we're going to talk about sexual sin.

00:00:52:23 - 00:01:10:06
Unknown
We're going to talk about polygamy, and we're going to talk about some things that relate to how you show up when it comes to the way you relate to the sin that is crouching at your door. How do you handle that in a way that's biblical? And how do you honor God with your life so that you can leave the legacy that you always desire to live?

00:01:10:10 - 00:01:29:02
Unknown
Father, thank you so much for this opportunity. I thank you for, Pastor David, I thank you for griffy. I thank you for Matt being so, all of our coaches rise up, Kings. Skyler, who really stepped out into the vision that you put his heart and was obedient, which created this opportunity for all of us. And but I ask for your blessing on this podcast.

00:01:29:04 - 00:01:52:01
Unknown
Lord, I pray that this podcast would touch hundreds, thousands, hundreds of thousands of people over the course of time, maybe even millions of people, and bring clarity to them to help them and add value to their life. So, Lord, we ask you to guide our words, guide the conversation. Holy spirit, bring forth the things that need to be discussed to bring clarity to others so that they can draw closer to you.

00:01:52:08 - 00:02:14:21
Unknown
This is your podcast. These are your words and we yield ourselves to you. Holy spirit, show up and show off. We love you in this. In Jesus name we pray. Amen. Amen. Pastor David. Yes, coach. Welcome to the show. Have to be so excited about our conversation. Which, I don't know is that pastor slash coach David's love language is Bible questions.

00:02:14:23 - 00:02:41:18
Unknown
So I got a chance to ping him this week. Cinema texted. Hey, brother, you ready for me to speak your love language? He was like, send it. I got an immediate response within like two seconds and I started asking some biblical questions that I've always had questions about, but never quite found myself in a position to really get the answers from another person who I thought had the ability, the intellectual and theological background and foundation, to answer those questions in a manner that would be biblically aligned.

00:02:41:21 - 00:03:04:03
Unknown
Aside from when I met you. So I want to rehash some questions that have been bounced around in my heart and soul, and I love to have a conversation, and I love to invite you to think about these questions and whether or not you've ever had them, or think of questions that you would like to be answered. And I want you to throw those in the chat for us.

00:03:04:05 - 00:03:25:03
Unknown
Okay. So we're going to actually start in Genesis chapter one verse 28. And it says, God blessed them and said to them, be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it. Have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens, and over every living thing that moves on the earth. So this is a clear assignment from the Lord.

00:03:25:04 - 00:03:54:04
Unknown
Would you agree with that? Yes. Okay. And when I see the word them, it leads me to the question. Where did everybody else come from? On the earth? So when you look at Adam and Eve, they had Seth, Cain and Abel. Not in that order. According to the Scripture, but yet Cain goes off and gets married. And I've always wondered where did she come from?

00:03:54:07 - 00:04:20:00
Unknown
Like what civilization was she in? Where all those other people. Where is that in the Bible. So if you've ever had that question, I love to see if we can get some clarity. Yeah. Great question. The fascinating thing is that the writer of Genesis two or, no, we're talking more like Genesis four, right? Where, Cain goes off and leaves and then gets married.

00:04:20:03 - 00:04:44:05
Unknown
The writer of Genesis doesn't think that. It's an interesting question where Cain's wife came from. Right. Does it feel like that needs any explanation? So, when I was a little kid, I asked my mom and she's like, oh, well, Eve had lots of children, including daughters, and it was a special case that you could marry your sister, you know, since that was the only option.

00:04:44:10 - 00:05:10:01
Unknown
And I was like, okay, that's kind of weird, but okay. And I just accepted that. But later realizing that the writer of of Genesis doesn't see that as a problem, is fascinating. And so, like, we look at Genesis one, and it's very easy to think that Genesis one should come before Genesis two, because that's normally how numbers work and how the Bible works.

00:05:10:04 - 00:05:35:23
Unknown
But Genesis one and two really tell us two very different angles on creation. Genesis one is showing us the transcendence of God, that God is beyond our comprehension. He's all powerful. He he speaks things into existence just by the words of his, of his mouth. He tosses the stars across the heavens like glitter. And he he just speaks the sun, moon and stars into existence.

00:05:35:25 - 00:06:06:02
Unknown
Genesis two shows us that God is imminent. That God is is down on his hands and knees, forming a man out of the dust of the ground. So these are two very different theological truths that are both true, that need to be told in two very different ways. I think maybe one way I look at it is that Genesis one is telling us that God created human beings, and he gave them this command to be fruitful and multiply, subdue the earth, have dominion over it.

00:06:06:04 - 00:06:38:02
Unknown
Which is a whole fascinating dominion conversation. What does it mean to reign under God? Reflect God's glory into the world? But this question of of where did Cain's wife come from? I kind of think of it that Genesis one is God created human beings, and one human being that he created was Adam. And and that it doesn't mean that there were none, that there were no other first persons that God could have created a hundred men and 100 women.

00:06:38:04 - 00:06:54:03
Unknown
And that would in Genesis one would be true and Genesis two would be true. Now, it doesn't say that. It is sort of the implication when we read it is that Adam and Eve were the first two humans, and that everybody came from them. And that even plays out theologically in the New Testament. Right? Like in Adam, all sinned.

00:06:54:05 - 00:07:15:29
Unknown
But it seems to me that the greater truth in the Adam and Eve story is how we see ourselves in it. When I see my when I read that story, I go, oh, I would have done the same thing Adam did. I would have been a wimp when the serpent was, you know, out talking, outsmarting my wife, I wouldn't have stood up and said, no, God said.

00:07:16:01 - 00:07:40:06
Unknown
And I would have said, oh yeah, if you eat it, I'll eat it too. You know, I like this this, this wimpy ness that Adam had. I'm like, I could see myself doing that. So the I that that's the real truth of the story is how we find ourselves in it. So you're saying it's not necessarily about whether or not it was just Adam and Eve, and there were others on the earth, the bigger thing is how do you see yourself in the story.

00:07:40:08 - 00:08:09:25
Unknown
Yeah. Yeah. So when we look at the significance of that. My question is, should we all see ourselves as having as having Adam in us? Like there's a part of our sinful, fleshly, dark nature where all of us have the propensity to be Adam. Definitely. Like that's so to me so obviously true. It doesn't bear teasing out.

00:08:09:27 - 00:08:37:09
Unknown
It's not even worth talking about. Yeah. Yeah. And in Adam all sinned. In Christ all can be made alive. So a stepping out of being Adam and stepping into Christ and Christ likeness. Right. Right. So with that being said, what does that look like? Because every single day, as a man, there's temptation. Like, you can't even go on your iPhone from an iPhone users.

00:08:37:11 - 00:09:04:28
Unknown
Okay, on the androids. We love you all still, though. But if you go in the search, like this morning I went to search for an emoji for or something. I said, that's messed up. That was literally the term I typed in that's messed up. And I get pictures of all kinds of inappropriate stuff. You can't even type in Mickey Mouse these days on your phone without getting all this inappropriate stuff that's showing up in the form of temptation.

00:09:05:01 - 00:09:30:29
Unknown
Yeah. Right. So it's always something out here appealing at that Adamic nature, to pull the sin out of us. So. So how does a man arm himself to step out of that nature and resist temptation, flee from temptation and run towards Christ likeness? Well, first of all, if you had an Android, you could use Google Chrome and you could put safe search on, and that's your first step.

00:09:30:29 - 00:09:45:18
Unknown
And you can and you can still use Google Chrome and use Google Chrome on, on Apple. You can. Yeah. In order for safe search, you have an Android. I have an iPhone now because okay, so I'm an Android guy but my wife the end zone. Yeah. Your wife is a wise woman. We're gonna start talking about women.

00:09:45:18 - 00:10:14:20
Unknown
I was love and submission go together. Oh. Anyway, So. Yeah. So it's. We see the world based on our sinful nature and through the process of sanctification, God transforms the way we see the world. And so at first, those there's things that might be tempting, and then they become less tempting because we see it for what it is.

00:10:14:22 - 00:10:38:29
Unknown
It's a distortion of God's intention. Right. The things that, that are, that are there to tempt us are not actually good for us. And we're all in a, in various stages of discovering and, and that becoming more and more true for us. So that, so that we see things more from God's perspective as he continues to sanctify us.

00:10:39:03 - 00:10:57:23
Unknown
So what would you say right now to the man who is thinking about giving up? He's like, look, man, like there's been multiple affairs temptation, porn. I try to break free from these addictions, you know, alcohol and drug abuse, sedation. And it just seems like this thing has got a hook, line and sinker, knee deep inside of me.

00:10:57:25 - 00:11:20:13
Unknown
And I can't break free. Like, what would you say to the man who is being dominated by that with the desire to change? Yet unsuccessful? The first thing I would say is, have you been trying to fight that alone? Because fighting it alone is a recipe for failure. It has to be done in community. The other thing about that particular sin around sexual sin is my theory.

00:11:20:20 - 00:11:53:28
Unknown
My working theory is that, pornography and adultery and, and promiscuity and singleness, all of that is all a desire, a healthy holy desire for intimacy, real connection that gets, that we settle for a counterfeit. 100% agree. Like pornography is a counterfeit for real intimacy. Adultery is a counterfeit for real intimacy. Promiscuity and singleness is a counterfeit for real intimacy.

00:11:54:05 - 00:12:19:09
Unknown
Because real intimacy is what God designed for us, what God wants for us. And he created marriage for that. And so anytime we go to anything else, it's a counterfeit. It's like it's like, well, there's lots of metaphors you can use, but it's like, well, I'll use this since you're a vegan, you can eat a steak or you can eat a McDonald's hamburger, which is like a counterfeit for real food.

00:12:19:12 - 00:12:35:14
Unknown
Well, that doesn't make me hungry. It was designed to remind you that you should eat meat. But I've been doing just fine without it. Okay. Yeah. No, no. You don't know how you would do with. But anyway, I do. I go on to the first half of my life knowing that. Yeah, yeah, we can go to that topic of, hey, I'm okay, I'm okay.

00:12:35:16 - 00:12:53:08
Unknown
I'm just. I'm okay with you being wrong. The Bible talks about eating meat like 300 times. It talks about eating vegetables like six times. Unity biblically. Okay, so go back to the beginning and study that. And how we're going to do that on the next podcast. We'll talk about that. Okay. Yeah. You gotta study what what he originally created for man to eat.

00:12:53:12 - 00:13:11:19
Unknown
Oh, because it was a garden. Okay okay. There we go. Okay. Yeah. Yeah. Just think about it. Yeah. Wait for it and boom. Yeah. Yeah. And now and now here it is. We're in a new reality okay. Okay. Keep going, keep going. Let's get back to help me I feel great. It's great. We can just say the Lord is leading us.

00:13:11:19 - 00:13:35:05
Unknown
This is a show. It's hard to argue with your results. Yeah, exactly. Keep going. Yeah. Do you want to do a pushup contest? I don't want to shave you, bro. Oh, okay. Cool. So, Hey, Griff, think we got a challenge? Six. You know, you know, I would, I would, but I, I, I hit bench press really hard this morning, so I, I wouldn't be able to perform at my normal.

00:13:35:06 - 00:13:55:00
Unknown
It just so happens that I did too. Okay. So but my but my workouts probably harder than this. No doubt. It's all good, man. It's all good. Yeah. Hey. Read when you know your beat. Just. Just act with bravado. That's what I always say. Right, right. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's a it's, It's preventative. Exactly. Right.

00:13:55:03 - 00:14:14:06
Unknown
Yeah. As a deterrent. So when I think about the significance of this conversation and I think about opportunities that are presented to us as men, all the time. You know, my question is from a practical perspective, because there's a lot of men right now that are watching this who are asking the question, well, what do you do?

00:14:14:06 - 00:14:37:26
Unknown
Okay. How are you? How are you overcoming temptation? Yeah. Specifically, when you have that thing show up. And let me give a couple of scenarios here before you answer, because I want to answer this question as well. Let's say you're married. You. You just had a baby. That's a that's an automatic six weeks of recovery. If it was a natural delivery, I'm not even talking about a C-section.

00:14:37:28 - 00:15:03:12
Unknown
Automatic six weeks. No sex. And you don't want to be that guy that's out cheating on your wife where she just gave birth to your baby. Like don't be that dude. Right. Number two she's sick. She's going through a really challenging time. And you're a caretaker, right? Like long term. Like, I have a family member right now who has a wife who has been battling cancer for the last 18 months.

00:15:03:15 - 00:15:34:20
Unknown
And guess what? It's dry season for that, brother. And I once as he complained or stepped out. So it's like how, what inside of a man allows him to disconnect from the sinful nature in a moment where you have access but may not be able to tap into that intimacy with your wife. Yet you're being bombarded with temptation and you can still toe the line and show up with faithfulness and integrity and purity as a man of God.

00:15:34:23 - 00:16:00:22
Unknown
Yeah. Like, how does a man step into that space? Like what? Inside of a man needs to be unleashed to find that kind of strength and power? Yeah. So I still hold that that the does deep desire is for intimacy. Okay. So, so there's there's there's two things at work here. There's that deep desire for intimacy that we are tempted to counterfeits.

00:16:00:25 - 00:16:33:29
Unknown
And then there's the the physical sense of need. Sure. Right. Which are sort of two separate things. So what I have found in my ministry to men and in myself is that that desire for intimacy is met most in a relationship with God. So when I am in when I'm in daily or almost daily discipline, spiritual disciplines, I am spending time in an unhurried way, enjoying God.

00:16:34:01 - 00:16:58:27
Unknown
That intimacy fills the deepest intimacy needs then friendship with other men fills another part of that need for intimacy to, to, because to be seen, known and loved is to be is to experience intimacy. Right to you see me into me. You see like me. Like just so we're clear on a definition of intimacy into me, you see?

00:16:59:03 - 00:17:28:15
Unknown
Right. There's just not about the physical is about the heart posture. Of course. So. So for me, if I'm if I'm connecting with God and I'm connecting with men who are friends in a way that is that is real and healthy, not not just not just we watch sports together, but we talk about real things for right then, the intimacy with my wife that the the emotional, spiritual connection with my wife is like a bonus.

00:17:28:17 - 00:17:58:13
Unknown
Okay. And then sexual connection is like a a bonus on top of the bonus. Right. So when or when those other three things are there, God, friends and spiritual and emotional connection with my wife, then I'm I'm fulfilled. And then physical connection is a bonus. Beautiful. And I want to tap into. Absolutely beautiful. 100% agree. And I want to tackle a couple of very practical things because there's some guys still thinking like, dude, I'm a high octane dude and I can go, I can go at it every single day.

00:17:58:15 - 00:18:16:26
Unknown
Right. Which I would agree with and I and based on our conversations you would agree with as well. So now I'm walking around with blue balls. Because my wife and I have a connected because we just had a, we just had a kid six weeks and I want to set a great example and not allow anything that's on my home that's going to affect my family.

00:18:16:28 - 00:18:52:19
Unknown
So what are some practical ways. Right. So here's the number one thing that came to me. Number one, going back to Proverbs chapter 31. This is Lemuel. His mother is speaking to him about not spreading his strength into the streets. And when you think about this correlation of your sexuality as a man and it being connected to your strength, the analogy of boxers comes to mind because if you've studied boxing, you know that before a big match or a heavyweight title, they go weeks and weeks without having any type of sex or ejaculation.

00:18:52:22 - 00:19:20:11
Unknown
And the purpose behind that is for the testosterone to build up, provide endurance and strength so that you're able to endure during the battle. So when the mindset shift takes place of okay, I'm feeling tempted right now, number one, that is a sign from God was typically in the average male takes about 72 hours, where your testosterone levels will peak on average about 72 hours every 72 hours.

00:19:20:13 - 00:19:34:01
Unknown
Because you think back to being out in the wilderness, being out hunting like we can fall so much in love with our work that we forget, like, oh snap, I got a wife to take care of. I got two kids to take care of. So it serves me personally as a reminder that I need to connect with my wife intimately.

00:19:34:01 - 00:19:56:24
Unknown
Not necessarily the physical sexual aspect of it, which I love to get as often as possible, but more so the deep, intimate connection. Because if I feel that and we are one, that means that she has probably an emotional need that needs to be met with the same level of intensity as my physical need as a man. So the number one thing is it's a reminder to connect with my wife and get true intimacy.

00:19:56:26 - 00:20:31:08
Unknown
Number two, when I resist temptation and I flee from it, it actually provides strength to me as a man. In regards to the character that God has given me. So it serves as a reminder to me that I am a man who can step out of the Adamic nature into Christ likeness. And on a subconscious level. It reminds me of who I am, and it strengthens me to continue to run my race, knowing that I can resist temptation and pursue the Lord.

00:20:31:13 - 00:20:51:18
Unknown
So it gives me confidence in other situations that I'm in when I've said no. Just just like, for example, when you're eating, if you say no to the donut at breakfast and you have something healthy after workout, like the green smoothie, it gives you more confidence when you're at the party later to say no to the drink and have the water right.

00:20:51:18 - 00:21:15:22
Unknown
And then the more you do that, the more powerful, the more disciplined you become. So what I have found is that, number one, it serves as a reminder. Number two, it strengthens my moral character. And then number three, it positions me in such a way to connect in the most deep, intimate way, with my wife. When we do connect and it makes me more selfless instead of selfish.

00:21:15:25 - 00:21:49:21
Unknown
So those are some very practical ways that it has served me very well in that regard. I would add to that that it is very Western and very recent to believe that I must have full sexual expression whenever I want to. That is not that is not the way of Jesus. Jesus went his entire life. What do you and I believe that a young single man should, should live as it regards to sexuality.

00:21:49:24 - 00:22:15:23
Unknown
Celibacy. Right. So the either we can go the way of the world which says you do you however you want, whenever you want. There's nothing off limits. That's what the world says it does. Right. But what. But what does Jesus say. He says the way of love. The way of self-control. Follow me. The fruit of the spirit.

00:22:15:24 - 00:22:40:06
Unknown
Right. So the the part of part of what's implicit in the question is, what do I do when I want something I can't have? Well, you do without it. Okay. So now, on a practical level, somebody pointed out like, well, well, what do I do if I'm single and I want to get married, but it just hasn't worked out for me.

00:22:40:08 - 00:23:09:28
Unknown
And how do I live a life that is pure and holy? Okay. Well, one answer that I, I read in a book that I found very helpful is work hard. If you're single. You just work until you are exhausted. And when you can't work anymore, you go volunteer and work until you are exhausted. So that when you get home you just fall into bed.

00:23:10:00 - 00:23:29:03
Unknown
Just beat dog tired. And so when you wake up in the morning and get a shower and go to work and do it again. Yes. Can I add it right there. Yeah. So there's been many times when I found myself in a situation where it's like the I feel that desire there to want to look at something, and I'm not supposed to look at or a man.

00:23:29:03 - 00:23:45:11
Unknown
What I have found to be very, very practical and helpful is the Scripture that says not even a hint of sexual immorality, not even a hint of it. Yeah. Because we can sin on the inside and no one else will know, but God knows. And if we allow that thing to grow, next thing you know it's going to manifest itself.

00:23:45:11 - 00:24:06:01
Unknown
So it's in a seed form. But the fruit will be evident and the fruit, that fruit in particular leads to death because it's sin. So what I have found is just to remind myself that the, the word says not even a hint of sexual morality. Yeah. It's in those moments when, at the end of the day, because I've worked hard at the end, I'm like, you know what, devil?

00:24:06:02 - 00:24:27:00
Unknown
I'm tired. I'm going to sleep. You can come back tomorrow if you want to, but tonight it's a wrap. Curtains. I'm going to bed. I'm dog tired man. And literally go to bed. Wake up. Get in my word. Spend time with God. Fulfill the intimacy. Connect with other men, be vulnerable. And remember, man, this is a this is a part of my strength as a man.

00:24:27:04 - 00:24:49:27
Unknown
I believe that if any man can master the fruit of the spirit of self-control, specifically when it comes to sexual sin, he can literally do anything. He could change the world. I believe it to be true. Yeah. The other, the other thing on a mindset thing here is I think we do our I think we sabotage ourselves when we say don't do this.

00:24:50:00 - 00:25:14:18
Unknown
It's like if I say no, don't think about elephants. Don't think about pink elephants. Don't think about a pink elephant with a bow on its trunk. You can't not think about it. Sure. Right. But if so, instead of saying, don't think about pornography, don't think about hitting the club, whatever. Whatever the temptation is. Instead, say, pursue healthy, righteous, fulfilling intimacy.

00:25:14:24 - 00:25:38:07
Unknown
Yes. With God, with friends. Right. Like if we're pursuing the thing that is actually meeting the need, then we have the freedom to not think about the thing that would otherwise tempt us 100%. So another biblical question here. When you think about the men in the Bible now, you may have had this question as well. You look at King Solomon, King David.

00:25:38:10 - 00:26:03:03
Unknown
They had multiple wives. Solomon had hundreds of wives and concubines. David had multiple wives. So for I mean, I know polygamy is illegal in the U.S. and some guys probably if you're watching this probably thinking, man, that sounds great. I love to have you five wives. That sounds awesome. And when you really think through that thing, like if you think thinking with just that, head down there.

00:26:03:06 - 00:26:26:15
Unknown
Yeah, that probably sounds good on the surface, but when you really start thinking through it, is it really a good idea? Yeah, I think it's to me, polygamy is something that God allowed. In the Old Testament. For one thing. The nature of war meant that there were a lot of, widows, and there was no way for a woman to survive for.

00:26:26:16 - 00:26:44:00
Unknown
So you either have, like, the war is like you're going to kill the women and children, or if they're to survive, that means there has to be multiple women attached to the same man for for survival. So I think that's it's part of a concession on that part. I think also, God allowed it so that we could see that it doesn't work.

00:26:44:03 - 00:27:08:28
Unknown
Right. So we see in the story of, Hannah in first Samuel one where, Elkanah has two wives, Hannah and Penina, and one he loves more than the other. And one is jealous because the other one has children. One is jealous because the other one has his love. Right? And so it's like, well, of course, of course there's going to you can't serve two masters.

00:27:09:00 - 00:27:25:00
Unknown
That's a funny joke about like, why you shouldn't have more than one wife can't serve two masters anyway. But like like, it's just it's not how God designed it. Like the intimacy is designed for one for one man and one woman. He allowed it. But just because it's in the Bible doesn't mean that it was God's idea.

00:27:25:02 - 00:27:43:20
Unknown
I agree with you. Yeah, that's a that's a fundamental principle of biblical interpretation. And the other thing about the David and Solomon having multiple wives is God warned Israel when they said, we want a king. He's be careful. He's going to take your sons into his army, and he's going to take your daughters into his harem paying taxes.

00:27:43:23 - 00:28:05:06
Unknown
Yeah. And he's going to exploit you on taxes. And so, like, if the problem is if your daughter gets taken off to the king's harem, you're probably not getting any children from her. You're probably not going to get to see grandchildren. You're not going to get to see her, because the harems have to be protected by soldiers and eunuchs, because who can be trusted with all these women but eunuchs?

00:28:05:08 - 00:28:26:21
Unknown
Right. So where are the eunuchs come from? Well, that's from from your sense. Like it distorts the way the flourishing that God had intended for them. And he warned the Israelites, and they said, we want it anyway. Okay, then then that's that's the result of it. So? So the hundreds of wives and concubines was a punishment. Against Israel because they, they wanted a king so badly.

00:28:26:21 - 00:28:47:13
Unknown
And that's what kings do when men have unfettered power. What do they do. I need your sons for my for my armies. And I need your daughters for my hair. Oh, Lord, I got one woman and she is more than enough. Amen. She is an army all by herself. Praise God. So for me, I'm good. I got plenty in in my wife.

00:28:47:14 - 00:29:09:16
Unknown
Yeah. And are you listening, Lisa? Yeah, yeah. Lily. I love you, baby. You all I need in my life, girl. You hear that? So, you know, as we as we talk about this, these are some amazing topics that I've always had questions about on a very practical level. Thinking about the thought, the fantasy of hundreds of lives.

00:29:09:18 - 00:29:34:28
Unknown
Sex. Anytime I want it. All these things. When you really dig into the practicality of that, it is not a good idea. As if that would be good for you to have sex anytime you want. And it. And that's an assumption that is contrary to everything we, everything we see in Scripture, around self-control, around love. Like, yes. Like it's it's inherently selfish to daydream that I can have sex whenever I want.

00:29:34:28 - 00:30:03:13
Unknown
Yes. With hourly, without having to pursue a woman emotionally, without having to look after her needs. I you just go on to the next one who's waiting around, hoping for some connection. Yes. So there's something that comes to mind when I think about this. And this pertains to anyone who is divorced, separated, widower, single, or just unmarried for whatever reason.

00:30:03:16 - 00:30:42:06
Unknown
And that is the season that you're in is an opportunity to cultivate your character so that you could become the man that the woman of your dreams can fall in love with. Don't miss this window of time, because it is a prime season of singleness for you to become the kind of man that your future wife would look at and say, this is my king, and you have a whole lot more time and money to put into the kingdom of God.

00:30:42:09 - 00:31:17:16
Unknown
True, true. So even tying this all together, when you think about the sinful Adam nature and of stepping out of that into Christ likeness, God didn't create marriage to make you happy. He created it to make you holy. And part of that is tempering self-control, which is a fruit of the spirit. Yep. Dragon. So with that being said, I think sometimes as a man it can almost feel like, man, I'm going to die if I don't have sex, if I don't have, if I don't get to ejaculate like I feel like I'm going to die, you will not surely die.

00:31:17:22 - 00:31:44:27
Unknown
You will not surely die. And this is proven. We have 11 kids. I've had to wait six weeks, 11 times and guess what? I'm still here. I'm still a lot. You made it right. And it does something for us as men to know that we're walking with true intimacy with God. So when I think about that feeling in the moment when you feel like the world is collapsing around you as a man and it's like, how do I really connect to something deeper?

00:31:44:27 - 00:32:04:00
Unknown
That gives me the motivation to push through this and say no to the temptation or the selfishness or the sinful nature? Sometimes it could just be easier to just say, I just want to tap out and I just want to leave this earth and go to heaven. Like, that could be a legitimate thought. Like it's just easier to just, Lord, just take me.

00:32:04:03 - 00:32:22:24
Unknown
But. But I would challenge you to not think that it's about leaving the earth to go to the kingdom of heaven. God empowered us to take the kingdom of heaven and bring it to the earth.

00:32:22:26 - 00:32:51:00
Unknown
Yeah, the kingdom of Heaven began at Easter. Like God became king through the death and resurrection of Jesus, and that the kingdom of God has been working with heaven, like used interchangeably in Scripture, began small and is growing and will take over the whole earth as prophesied in Daniel two. So the idea that that that God's reign is somehow a far off in the future.

00:32:51:00 - 00:33:15:14
Unknown
Yes, it's fullness, it's comprehensiveness. At one, at some point in the future, every molecule of existence will be under the reign of God. Up until that point, the kingdom of God is is bearing fruit and growing. It is growing to to influence the world painfully slowly. But the kingdom of heaven began at Easter and will reach its fulfillment at the end.

00:33:15:17 - 00:33:44:20
Unknown
So you have been placed here on purpose, with a purpose by your creator in his creation, to create and through the process of creating, in the image of God and His likeness, there's a responsibility that you and I have as men to be the representation of Christ here in the earth, to bring the light into the darkness, to stand in self-control.

00:33:44:20 - 00:34:06:28
Unknown
In those moments when we want to go off and indulge in the sinful nature. And it happens day by day, moment by moment, week after week, month after month, year after year to where we can look up and we have left, hopefully a legacy that glorifies the kingdom of heaven before it comes and reigns here on the earth.

00:34:07:00 - 00:34:27:14
Unknown
So I challenge you, man, for you. For those of you who have tuned in and you're watching this to think about the things that we talked about from a spiritual application perspective in regards to what true intimacy looks like. As Pastor David said, really connecting with God and filling your cup every single morning. In Matthew 633 it says, seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness.

00:34:27:17 - 00:34:43:24
Unknown
And that word righteousness is not about perfection, is not about legalism. It's not about performance. It is literally just being and right standing with God. So what does it look like for you to come before God and be vulnerable and show him your sin? Show him the good, the bad, and the ugly and have a conversation with your creator, your father in heaven.

00:34:43:26 - 00:35:06:15
Unknown
What is it like for you to do that every single day? When you start your day to have him fill your cup? And as the word promises, seek first the kingdom of God, his righteousness and everything. Most of you think that's just about money, but it's not is so much more. Everything literally means everything. So your emotional needs, your sexual needs, your deep longing for connection.

00:35:06:18 - 00:35:27:27
Unknown
God says, I will meet all those needs for you. So if you're wondering how to overcome temptation, if you're looking at how do I step into being a man of God in the midst of being bombarded with all these ads and all the influxes of temptation to come every day? Number one fill your cup. Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and everything you need to be at it.

00:35:27:29 - 00:35:51:20
Unknown
Number two get in community. Find a group of brothers. Even Jesus had a group of men. He had the outer circle, the inner circle, the 12 disciples. He had James and John. Moses had Aaron in her. Every one of us need other men that we can be a community with, and we can be vulnerable with. Because iron sharpens iron as one brother sharpens another.

00:35:51:22 - 00:36:10:07
Unknown
I don't want a practical level, man. Make sure that you remember who you are and whose you are, and it's built into the hardware, is built into the nature of who you are as a man. Every 72 hours, man, your testosterone levels are going to peak. And that is an opportunity for you to be reminded that God wants to be intimate with you.

00:36:10:09 - 00:36:33:08
Unknown
And if you're married in God, the relationship, he wants you to connect with your wife and meet her emotional needs. And as you serve her selflessly, God will meet your needs in a very powerful way. So I thank you for tuning in. This is the Coach's Corner Rise Up Kings podcast. Pastor Slash, Coach David and your boy Mando.

00:36:33:09 - 00:36:45:17
Unknown
We look forward to seeing you. Please leave some comments because we're going to come back and we're going to answer your biblical questions. Those are mine. But I know you got some good ones too. Leave those in the chat and we'll get back to you in the next episode with some answers to your questions.