“When I’m referring to control, I’m referring to when you are pulled to wanting to control yourself, control your environment, or control the behavior of others.”
— Allison Villa
In times of stress or uncertainty, people may develop new behaviors as a way to regain a sense of control. Often, people raised in certain situations develop these behaviors as a way to compensate. This episode looks at control issues — why they develop, what they look like, how they affect our relationships, and what we can do to heal them.
Control issues range from mild to severe. They can look like trying to control yourself or your environment, as in compulsive tidying or arranging or picky eating. They can also be more harmful, such as disordered eating, compulsive exercising, substance abuse, obsessive cleaning, or self harm.
Control issues can also manifest as trying to control another person, as in micromanaging, being overprotective, or helicopter parenting.
Depending on the degree and frequency, these issues can create ruptures in the fabric of a relationship.
People who have control issues often don’t want to be controlling! They feel shame and frustration about their behavior, often don’t understand what leads them to behave that way, and are afraid that they may end up losing their relationship.
The good news is that control issues can aren’t forever. There are steps that you can take right now to start you on the path to healing.
In this episode of Couplehood, you’ll discover:
“If you took on that parent role as a young person, you might have those control issues now.”
— Allison Villa
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https://instagram.com/allison__villa
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“When I’m referring to control, I’m referring to when you are pulled to wanting to control yourself, control your environment, or control the behavior of others.”
— Allison Villa
In times of stress or uncertainty, people may develop new behaviors as a way to regain a sense of control. Often, people raised in certain situations develop these behaviors as a way to compensate. This episode looks at control issues — why they develop, what they look like, how they affect our relationships, and what we can do to heal them.
Control issues range from mild to severe. They can look like trying to control yourself or your environment, as in compulsive tidying or arranging or picky eating. They can also be more harmful, such as disordered eating, compulsive exercising, substance abuse, obsessive cleaning, or self harm.
Control issues can also manifest as trying to control another person, as in micromanaging, being overprotective, or helicopter parenting.
Depending on the degree and frequency, these issues can create ruptures in the fabric of a relationship.
People who have control issues often don’t want to be controlling! They feel shame and frustration about their behavior, often don’t understand what leads them to behave that way, and are afraid that they may end up losing their relationship.
The good news is that control issues can aren’t forever. There are steps that you can take right now to start you on the path to healing.
In this episode of Couplehood, you’ll discover:
“If you took on that parent role as a young person, you might have those control issues now.”
— Allison Villa
Highlights:
Links:
Work With Me:
Follow Me on Instagram:
https://instagram.com/allison__villa
Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review!