Couplehood

Why Space Is Essential To Relationship Health

June 07, 2021 Allison Villa Episode 23
Why Space Is Essential To Relationship Health
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Couplehood
Why Space Is Essential To Relationship Health
Jun 07, 2021 Episode 23
Allison Villa

“We are spending more time with our immediate family — with our children and with our partner.”

—  Allison Villa

Space is absolutely essential to your relationship health.

And this is never more true than when living in lockdown.

When I say space, I’m talking about personal space. While humans are social creatures by nature and are meant to live in a community, we do need to create space for ourselves — space from our partners and space from our obligations.

In the past, communities and extended families would share the responsibilities for raising children and providing food. Men would often leave for hours, days, or weeks to hunt, and nursing mothers would care for one another’s babies. There was a natural support system built into the life of our ancestors, and the sharing of chores and childrearing allowed people to have some space from their partners and children. 

The shift to the modern nuclear family has taken away much of this support and space. And with the onset of the pandemic and lockdown, we’ve even lost the space of having one or both partners leaving the house to work and the children going to school or daycare.

Now, many of us are spending more time together than ever before.

Our relationships need space. Each relationship is like a flame... and personal space is the oxygen that keeps them burning.

In‌ ‌this‌ ‌episode of Couplehood,‌ ‌you’ll discover:‌ ‌

  • The different forms that personal space can take — and why it’s so important to identify exactly what you need
  • Practical examples of what daily, weekly, monthly, and quarterly personal space can look like
  • Three action items to help you identify and create the space your couple needs

“When we’re apart from people, we appreciate each other more.”

—  Allison Villa

Highlights:‌ ‌

  • 01:00  Communities & space in the past
  • 02:11  Modern life 
  • 03:01  Lockdown & lack of space
  • 04:01  What is personal space?
  • 05:03  What can space look like?
  • 07:36  Resentment, anxiety & ambivalence
  • 08:54  The retreat 
  • 11:08  The weekends away
  • 13:59  Space is a gift
  • 15:25  3 action items

Links:‌ ‌ ‌

Work With Me:

https://www.allisonvilla.com

Follow Me on Instagram:

https://instagram.com/allison__villa 

Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review!

Show Notes

“We are spending more time with our immediate family — with our children and with our partner.”

—  Allison Villa

Space is absolutely essential to your relationship health.

And this is never more true than when living in lockdown.

When I say space, I’m talking about personal space. While humans are social creatures by nature and are meant to live in a community, we do need to create space for ourselves — space from our partners and space from our obligations.

In the past, communities and extended families would share the responsibilities for raising children and providing food. Men would often leave for hours, days, or weeks to hunt, and nursing mothers would care for one another’s babies. There was a natural support system built into the life of our ancestors, and the sharing of chores and childrearing allowed people to have some space from their partners and children. 

The shift to the modern nuclear family has taken away much of this support and space. And with the onset of the pandemic and lockdown, we’ve even lost the space of having one or both partners leaving the house to work and the children going to school or daycare.

Now, many of us are spending more time together than ever before.

Our relationships need space. Each relationship is like a flame... and personal space is the oxygen that keeps them burning.

In‌ ‌this‌ ‌episode of Couplehood,‌ ‌you’ll discover:‌ ‌

  • The different forms that personal space can take — and why it’s so important to identify exactly what you need
  • Practical examples of what daily, weekly, monthly, and quarterly personal space can look like
  • Three action items to help you identify and create the space your couple needs

“When we’re apart from people, we appreciate each other more.”

—  Allison Villa

Highlights:‌ ‌

  • 01:00  Communities & space in the past
  • 02:11  Modern life 
  • 03:01  Lockdown & lack of space
  • 04:01  What is personal space?
  • 05:03  What can space look like?
  • 07:36  Resentment, anxiety & ambivalence
  • 08:54  The retreat 
  • 11:08  The weekends away
  • 13:59  Space is a gift
  • 15:25  3 action items

Links:‌ ‌ ‌

Work With Me:

https://www.allisonvilla.com

Follow Me on Instagram:

https://instagram.com/allison__villa 

Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review!