
New Insights On Life with Bill Burridge
New Insights on Life, hosted by personal development and life coach training expert, Bill Burridge, is the audio version of the blog by the same name, New Insights On Life.
The theme is personal development and self improvement with insights and learnings derived from life coaching experience and practice. Topics discussed are wide ranging and will be of interest to life coaches, aspirant life coaches, and members of the general public who place a high value on personal growth and development.
The mission of Bill's organisation, New Insights, is to bring greater personal Freedom, self-Confidence and Growth to people from all walks of life. As a specialist life coach training institute, it does so both directly, by training people to become life coaches, and indirectly through the coaching services offered by the independent certified life coaches that it has trained.
The New Insights Life Coach Training and Certification Programme is presented in a hybrid online/home study format to offer trainee coaches the best of both worlds when it comes to the learning and practical experience.
New Insights operates internationally through sister companies, New Insights Life Coaching UK Ltd (based in Bristol, England) and New Insights Africa (based in Cape Town, South Africa).
New Insights On Life with Bill Burridge
Dying to Live
We preface this episode with the exciting news that New Insights On Life has been chosen by Feedspot as one of the UK's top 10 life coaching podcasts on the web!
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Most of us are dying to live the lives we really desire.
Many feel frustration, disillusionment and even resentment at their seeming inability to bring this about.
The issue is related to the approach we take.
In this episode, Bill explores the difference between what he calls passive living and active living.
Passive living is a trap that’s all too easy to fall into but, with a little help, we can make the transition to active living and taking control of creating the life we really want for ourselves.
DYING TO LIVE
As one advances in years, time seems to speed up and one’s appreciation for just how fleeting life actually is, steadily grows.
The saying ‘living life to the full’ comes into sharper focus and one begins to reflect on what this really means and what makes it possible.
Profoundly inspiring
At New Insights, the final requirement for gaining certification as a life coach, involves a self-reflection exercise. Trainee life coaches are encouraged to revisit learnings from their practice coaching experiences.
In particular, applying due anonymity of course, they are encouraged to recount some of the breakthroughs achieved with their clients and the key learnings derived from these.
Many of the stories these trainees tell are profoundly inspiring.
A similar pattern
Each is, of course, unique. But, with few exceptions, they all follow a similar pattern, one that I would describe as transitioning from ‘passive living’ (or what I refer to as dying to live) to ‘active living’ or living life to the full.
Let’s visit these concepts briefly.
Passive living
Clients who are living passively present with a diminished verve or energy for life that can best be described as a state of frustration or disillusionment.
Many feel exhausted and overwhelmed by trying to keep their heads above water in circumstances where the odds seem stacked against them.
Some will feel resentful – towards the world in general, the government, their employers, their peers, and even, in some cases, their parents.
There is commonality in their language. It tends to be characterised by phrases like:
“If only this...”
“If only that...”
“Nobody cares …”
“It’s so unfair …”
“I can’t …”
“There’s nothing I can do…”
“They make it impossible for me…”
“My life is a mess, thanks to …”
Passive living results from a deeply entrenched belief that we live at the mercy of a difficult, unpredictable, and unforgiving world; one in which we feel all but powerless to bring about change.
A trap
Passive living is a trap that is easy to fall into.
Without delving too deeply into the reasons, there exists various commercial, political and even religious vested interests that stand to benefit from people who feel individually powerless and therefore dependent on them.
At the individual level, the self-protective ego deals with one’s failure to manifest the desired life, by pointing a finger at someone or something else. Blame is very a convenient way to justify one’s ongoing problems.
People stuck in passive living – and, sadly, that’s the majority of the population – often decry a lack of assistance and support from others as they do their best to contend with the vagaries of life and the harsh experiences it throws in their path.
While in this coping mode, they remain motivated by hope. The hope that things will somehow change for the better, that they will get a ‘lucky break’, or that a proverbial knight in shining armour may come to their aid.
People living passively are really ‘dying to live’ but without any real plan to make this happen.
Active living
The problem with the passive living trap is that it is really difficult to escape from. One’s mindset is conditioned to believe that, as change for the better can only come from the outside, such change is beyond one’s capacity to bring about.
Enter life coaching!
There is an altogether more empowering way to live. As life coaches, we refer to this as “conscious” or “active” living.
A life coach, properly schooled in transformational coaching techniques, is equipped to help clients bring about the necessary change in mindset required to escape the passive living trap.
To be clear, the client is required to do the work!
A catalyst
The job of the life coach is to act as a catalyst, or agent for change, and to motivate, inspire and support the client as they navigate the process of change.
That process can seem daunting at first but quickly becomes much easier with the huge leaps in client self-awareness that life coaching facilitates.
This newfound awareness precipitates a growing realisation that each and every individual is equipped with the ability and personal power to create more of the life he or she desires.
Instead of reacting to what life throws at us, we can imprint our own vision for the future on life. By taking carefully considered actions, accepting full responsibility for the outcomes, and using what we learn to adapt our actions to be even more effective, we start to manifest the life we love.
Actor or director?
You may have heard me use this analogy before, but I think it is highly appropriate:
Passive living equates to being an actor in a play about your life that is written by others. You follow the script but you have no control over it.
Active living, on the other hand, equates to being the writer and director of the play about your own life. You have full control over the script and the way it plays out!
Dying to live
So, in conclusion, if you feel like you are dying to live but just can’t see a way forward, life coaching may be the perfect solution for you.