Why You Keep Abandoning Yourself

"You have set up this pattern where you completely abandon yourself unconsciously and make it about the other person because you believe on an unconscious level that that is the way that you will get love, connection, and ultimately survive."

Codependency is one of those words I've avoided for a long time, not because it isn't real, but because I think it gets oversimplified in a way that misses what's actually happening. The deeper I go in my own process and the deeper I take my clients who've been doing this work for a while, the more I see that the layers of codependency we're dealing with aren't just behavioral. They're energetic. They started before we had language for any of it. And they've been running silently underneath every relationship, every decision, and every moment we've felt depleted, resentful, or like we're hitting a wall, without understanding why.

What I've been uncovering, for myself and for the women I work with, is that so much of what we think is just "who we are" is actually a set of coping mechanisms we created in childhood to survive the emotional environment we were in. The way we automatically say yes. The way we absorb other people's feelings and lose track of our own. The way we don't even realize we have a choice.

In this episode, I'm diving into what the deeper layers of codependency actually look like energetically, why they're so hard to see, and what it's meant for me to start pulling on these threads in real time, including some very personal things I've been navigating.


TODAY'S HIGHLIGHTS

• Why codependency goes far deeper than its mainstream definition
• How childhood coping mechanisms get wired into the nervous system as survival responses, not conscious choices
• The mother wound as the blueprint for every relationship pattern that follows
• The Boomer generation, Pluto in Leo, and why narcissistic tendencies in parents are more common than most people realize
• Why highly sensitive, empathic women often can't tell the difference between their own feelings and everyone else's
• The moment I recognized I'd been operating from guilt and shame every time I said yes
• How the same patterns that come from trauma become your greatest gifts once they're alchemized
• The energetic and astrological context for why so many of us are in a deep unraveling right now
• The questions to ask yourself when you're stuck, depleted, or repeating the same patterns

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