Diaries of a Domme + Questions Answered, by Chastity Queen
Strap yourself in for lots of kinky and open dialogue from a Woman who has experience with Pro-Domming and the BDSM Lifestyle. Her live-in chaste sissy sub joins in on some of the open discussions involving kink, chastity, BDSM and what it means to be a good Domme and sub.
Are you are drawn to BDSM & wondered why? Do the dynamics in a D/s relationship, intrigue you? Do you feel the submissive cravings, but cannot express that in your current relationship, or as a single person? Or, are you a female dominant and want to explore that powerful side of yourself? Does the concept of control & mental power exchange, wet your intellectual interest? Maybe you are currently in the BDSM scene and fighting to find joy. Do you have a D/s relationship but need to understand how to successfully satisfy your partner? I have the answers and many stories to share.
It is high time that I share My enriching journey, as a proud Female Dominant. I have been a Lifestyle Domme, for 10+ years & have met 100s of submissives. These, have served Me, looked up to Me & TAUGHT ME so many things about the human mind & its willingness to obey. In those thrilling years, I have learnt the delicate balance between a submissive mind and his/her body and the role I play. My knowledge + personal stories are rich with secrets, for submissives & Dommes.
I specialize in chastity, Femdom, crossdressers, humiliation play, emasculation and have experience in ABDL/DL, E-stimulation, urethral sounds, the mind games that make a Sadist so powerful and the vast Dungeon tools + tricks, that make up a High Protocol, BDSM Dungeon. Consent & physical safety will be discussed. The psychological and mental health aspects of BDSM will be discussed.
BDSM scratches so many mental itches & there are always reasons for those cravings. There will be cautionary tales, that you can learn from. There will also be much to realize, from the beauty that overflows, within the BDSM Community.
I will take your hand in Mine & we will navigate through the problems, questions & curiosities. Even if your day-to-day is vanilla, you deserve to explore your desires.
Maybe you want to understand someone who lives in the BDSM world or unearth your own curiosity? When you harness your creativity & mental release in the bedroom, you will succeed in many other areas of your life. This is discussed, in Napoleon Hill’s book “Think and Grow Rich”. In Chapter 11, “The Mystery of Sex Transmutation” he says, “The road to genius consists of the development, control, and use of sex, love, and romance. “ Yes, this info-gem, is in a “get rich” book!
If you do not have a Mentor, Goddess, Domme or Queen, you have found One now! Let Me be your Teacher, disciplinarian, mentor and queen! If you learn anything from My stories and knowledge, know that what I say, is about loving yourself and that you can do anything. My purpose is to take the misunderstanding OUT of BDSM and those who enjoy fetishes that others may not understand. I want submissives and Dommes, to succeed with ease and pleasure.
BDSM is becoming more mainstream. People are realizing their sexual potential, beyond simple sex. Power Exchange in relationships is such a satisfying way to engage. Any variety of D/s relationships can provide stimulation that surpasses Society's idea of how it should look or be. You will learn with Me, as I take you through the journeys of the mind and soul of the submissives that I control/led and what methods I use, to become the best Domme, that I can be.
There is no limit, to success. As I said, in the beginning, if you can harness your creativity and mental release in the bedroom, you will succeed in many other areas of your life. Enjoy and rate the episodes, if you have a moment. Sincerely, Chastity Queen "Chastity is freedom!"
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Diaries of a Domme + Questions Answered, by Chastity Queen
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Thank you for tuning in to Diaries of a Dom plus questions answered with me, chastity Queen. So I hope you're doing well today and I hope you are caged, as I hope all men have been caged at least once in their lifetime, and I know that is not realistic, but it is definitely one of my greatest fantasies of all. So if you want to make me happy and pleasing me is of the utmost importance to you put on your cage, and if you already have it on, then I can honestly say I am pleased with you. So today I want to touch base. I am working on my secret society behind the scenes for chastity lovers and, as a femdom who is in charge of so many cages, it is imperative that I get my collection of keys and the men that are attached to those keys in one place. Now you may not physically be able to be in that place with me. Maybe you are at a very long distance and coming to me is next to impossible. That doesn't mean you cannot transform your mind into my presence with your chastity. I want to talk about transmutation and changing things that are positive and transforming to you.
Speaker 1:As a man, I know there are many things that can prove quite difficult for many of you and as you grow into yourself and you realize you have certain habits and certain behaviors that are difficult to curb, it is when you reach this moment in your mind where you say is this all there is? What else is there? What else is there, you know, is your existence merely jerking off, looking at porn, jerking, having sex, repeat, repeat, repeat, and for some of you it's next to impossible to even find a date because no one stands up or measures up to your ideal woman or ideal partner, up to your ideal woman or ideal partner. You have been looking at this preformed, prefabricated imagery that has stamped itself in your brain. You don't look in the mirror and say, hey, I am an Adonis and I deserve a beautiful partner to match my gorgeous appearance. No, you don't. You look at your screen, you look at the TV and you say I want that, whatever that is to you, that ideal partner, and you pretend in your mind that you own that thing and you get excited and you fantasize. You own that thing and you get excited and you fantasize and you continually use your eyes to validate your desires. And when you are whipped up into a frenzy, you must release that excitement somehow. So you waste your cum and then everything stops. Sometimes it takes a few hours to get back at it. Sometimes it takes a few days to get that horny desire back.
Speaker 1:And when you realize that your reality could never match what is on that screen or in your mind, that picture of perfection in your mind, the only thing that can turn you on that thing you find yourself stuck. It begins to be somewhat impossible to function in real life Because it's so simple, it's so easy just to sit on your bed or in the bathroom, on the toilet, or maybe look at a screen, get the job done and crack open a beer. Whatever it is your habits are, and the need to go out and put in the effort, the work for your desired partner, maybe even the partner that exists in your life right now, right? Do they measure up to the images you glance at and sneak and look at as you begin to fantasize about what will turn you on? Maybe your partner is no longer interested in you because you just aren't trying too hard anymore. So you go the lazy route. You don't try to be better for her or him or them, you're just trying to be better for her. You get lazy. It's not a conquest for you anymore, is it?
Speaker 1:When you are striving towards that ideal partner, that person that has your attention, you work hard for it, don't you? You think of ways that you can capture their attention. You think of ways to improve upon your own personality, maybe your body? You go to the gym, you work out, you eat better, you curb some nasty habits that you might be prone to. Why that you might be prone to? Why? So that you can attain that partner, that individual that you fantasize, that you will be having sex with every single night, and it's going to be super hot and super steamy and super amazing super hot and super steamy and super amazing.
Speaker 1:But once you achieve your goal and you get that partner, do you continue to work? Do they continue to work? Do you work together, or is it lopsided? Maybe you've given up, maybe you keep trying and you don't succeed. You know, we have to ask ourselves why. Why, at the beginning of a relationship do the sparks fly and everything seems to align and be perfection, but then suddenly, as time ticks away, things start to slacken? You don't want that for yourself, do you? You know? This is why I think that men in particular and this is why my focus is on the men need to be denied, because when you restrain their desire, you lock it up in a cage. They are constantly trying to do what needs to be done to achieve the end goal, which is to be unlocked, to be given an opportunity to please their partner, maybe to play with themselves if they're single.
Speaker 1:As a queen, I have many single caged men and when they obey me, even from a distance, they have purpose, they stay locked for me. They obey me. They constantly have a desire to please me. They haven't gotten their conquest, reached that end goal and have decided that there's nothing more to work towards, to fight for, to achieve. You must understand that as a femdom, you must serve me 24-7, and it is infinite. You can't get me and then expect that everything's going to just work out fine. That's delusional For a woman like me. I know that doesn't work. I know that doesn't work. I'm not lackadaisical in my needs as a femdom. I don't give up on my slaves. I don't say well, you know what. He is only capable of this level of service.
Speaker 1:Now, if you truly desire to please me a femdom, or any femdom for that matter. You must work at it every single day. And please don't be boring, because when you become boring to a femdom and you're doing the same old thing or you whine or you wonder when are you going to be rewarded? And you start to complain, hmm, suddenly you become less interesting to us and there's always somebody out there who can do better than you. So you must constantly up your game Up it. Do better. If you lock up for one week without any problem, tack on another week just to impress. You see, impress If your dom has told you to avoid alcohol or to reduce your alcohol.
Speaker 1:I do that to people. I have one slave in particular who must ask my permission to have a drink. One slave in particular who must ask my permission to have a drink and he is on a long stint of no alcohol for the next few weeks. But when he's allowed one drink, or maybe two drinks max, there are days when he will say, queen, I only had one if I gave him permission to have two. That kind of behavior embeds itself in my memory. You know, I have another slave who asked me what he could do for me and I was going to a resort, a nudist resort, with a girlfriend and I suggested he pay for our refreshments and our entry fee, and he did, and that embeds itself in my memory Because he knows that I am higher than him, I am above him. His job is to please me and my girlfriends, if that is what I desire, and so he did this. He served by giving.
Speaker 1:That is something that is memorable. You need to be memorable if you want to be remembered. Be memorable if you want to be remembered. And if you slide into inactivity and you don't try hard, you're easily forgotten. You must know this. It might be shocking to some of you to hear, but this is just how it is. You know, as a femdom, I have so many men trying to impress me and you must rise above, you must do just a little bit more than the others and, trust me, that gets noticed. And when you get noticed, you get remembered. And when you are remembered, it's hard to forget you, and that's what you want. When you meet a queen that you think is fantastic, she may get busy, but you stick there, you hold fast, you prove to her, even in little ways, that you're not going anywhere and you are going to continue to try hard to impress her.
Speaker 1:It's more than just chastity, I'm telling you right now it's so than just chastity, I'm telling you right now, it's so much more. Chastity is a visual representation, a proof of your commitment. It's almost like a wedding ring. To me, it's like, yes, I have committed to doing this for you, but there must be more. I can have a man say, hey, I'm in chastity for you and I say that's fantastic, but what are you going to do for me? You know what is in it for me. That's great. You are wearing chastity. That makes me happy.
Speaker 1:Yes, I would love all men to try it at least once. I'd love all men to be wearing chastity on a regular basis. But what are you going to do above and beyond that? Are you going to serve? Are you going to give? Are you going to treat? Treat me like a queen? Send me a gift On my throne Gift list, wish list, on my Amazon wish list. Send me a tribute. Right, I can go out and spend it on whatever I want. Because, guess what? That's my prerogative. I'm a queen, I'm a femdom and you serve. And this is how you can serve. Surprise me, send me a PayPal, send me an e-transfer and say spend this however you wish, right? Or the other day I purchased a sex toy and I showed one of my slaves the device and he immediately, immediately, said may I please pay for that? Those things are memorable.
Speaker 1:And no, it's not about the money, it's about the action, it's about the service, it's about the willingness, it's about the unselfish giving behavior that really reflects in my mind and it's like a diamond it shines. Be the diamond. Shine in my mind. You have to get my attention. You know my attention is spread so far and so wide by so many different men wanting my attention that unless you do something that's tangible, I'm not going to notice you. It's as simple as that. I know it's sad to some that that's the reality, but there are ways to prove yourself, there are ways to find a place in my thoughts, in my mind, and if you want that, you can do it. That's a choice. That's a choice you make. But the first choice is this. But the first choice is this Knowing that women are superior, knowing that you need to worship female dominance, that this is your best position To be submissive, to be slave-like, to be a giver and to lift up the female dominant onto the throne where she belongs, as you kiss her feet and offer tribute, hands wide open, no questions, just willingness, devotion, loyalty, Support, and in doing this you are covered in a divine smile, absolutely every single time.
Speaker 1:I have never once been unappreciative of even one of the smallest gifts. I appreciate those things, big or small, because it's action. I can have a slave send me a long novella's worth writing saying how much he thinks I'm amazing, but it all falls on deaf ears if there's no action behind the words. Right Actions speak louder than words.
Speaker 1:So act, wear your chastity, realize that the minute that is locked on, that now your job is to serve and to serve a female dominant, because this is the correct way of things. This is the law of femdom. You have it in you, you want to, you crave it, and the minute you serve, you understand it. And chastity and denial serve you understand it. And chastity and denial, and stopping your silly little habits, your habitual masturbation, your unrealistic visuals of what your perfect partner looks like, you will start to transmute, transform all of your desires and they will blossom instead of start to tamper and restrict your life, removing the things that you desire as a man, your selfish intentions, thinking that it's you that needs to be served and serviced. And humbling yourself to serve her, to serve me Now, that is a higher intelligence.
Speaker 1:That's where you become a higher being. You go to higher realms when you begin to realize that the truth of the fact is that you must worship. You were put on this planet to serve and you know that you can do a good job. You have it in you. So you must remove the things that create your selfish behaviors and you must eliminate them from your daily routine.
Speaker 1:And it's not easy, but it's worth it, because you will find that energy that you placed upon your own selfish needs starts to transform and transmute into her, and with that comes more desire. You may not have release physically, but you will have relief from the overwhelming behaviors that you used to take part in. And so do this. Do as I say Serve, worship, give and give more, because it is part of what submission means. It's more than a label. It's energy, it's an action, and I am here to instruct you, to teach you, to inspire you and to motivate you to be a better man now by submitting to female dominance, and this is your path. Thank you so much for listening, listening, and please do look at my link tree backward slash chastity queen if you wish to put your words into action and worship me. Thank you very much. Bye for now, thank you.