144: The Gift of Support; How To Be A Better Bridesmaid/Groomsman/I Do Crew

Stop me if you’ve heard this one..

A bride-to-be excitedly plans an elaborate proposal to her bridesmaids, self-care products in ribbon-secured boxes or personalised tote bags topped off with a card that reads: “Will you be my bridesmaid?”

Within a few short months, there are at least a couple of chat groups to communicate the colour palette the dress code, important dates, and to discuss the bridesmaids’ responsibilities.

If you haven’t said stop yet, let me save you from wondering. This is where, in my mind, I would be screaming STOP.

Does anyone really care anymore?

Should we be wondering what the secret code for bridesmaids is, deciphering it, working around it, trying desperately not to upset the bride OR can we agree that the social circumstances, the world and our needs have changed and we have more demands and commitments in our own lives than ever before so is it in our best interests to continue the bride/bridesmaid dance.

What is reasonable to expect in 2025, and do you even want or can afford to be in their I DO Crew?

Today, I’m talking about the past, the present and what I believe, should be the future of bridesmaids and groomsmen.

Let’s get down to brass tacks and work out what bridal party traditions and expectations are still relevant in this day and age and how to minimise the drama.  

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