The Power of Unlearning: Steps to a New Beginning

Join us in this profound episode of the Beyond Hope Project podcast, where host Jason Tharp delves into his personal journey of transformation and growth. Jason opens up about his struggles with obesity, self-hatred, and his courageous battle with grade four brain cancer. He shares insights on climbing the ladder of self-evolution, overcoming past habits and beliefs, and embracing change for personal growth.

In this episode, Jason discusses the challenges of unlearning ingrained habits and adopting new perspectives essential for future growth. He emphasizes the importance of accepting change and failures as part of the journey, using hope as a catalyst to find one’s path back from setbacks. Jason also touches on the significance of letting go of past belief systems that hinder progress and how evolving self and relationships are part of life’s natural course.

The episode highlights the critical role of self-love and recognizing the infinite possibilities within oneself. In conclusion, Jason encourages listeners to share the podcast and engage with the community for further discussions and growth.

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Transcript

hey guys welcome back to the Beyond hope
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project podcast my name is Jason Tharp I
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am the champion of Hope and that is our
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focus of this podcast is to have an
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impact on you we're going to present
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some ideas here things that I've used in
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my own personal life that have helped me
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overcome things like being obese being a
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self-hatred uh grade four brain cancer
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and still being a Survivor all those
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things that I've been able to uncover
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through my of my story through uh this
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process of Hope um you can take it or
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leave it how you choose to use it is
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totally up to you but I do encourage you
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to take in its information see how it
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applies to your life and if it does add
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a little value to you just share it let
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everybody know that what's going on with
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it and all that good stuff like that
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what I want to address in this episode
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is this idea of trying to cl to climb
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the ladder of self Evolution and how
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often what we're doing is we're climbing
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with a string tied to ourselves that an
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old version of us is pulling on and each
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rung that we try to climb up this ladder
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ends up feeling like we're pulling
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ourselves back because there's some
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things that are in our story that we
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have left
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unaddressed a lot of times we think that
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if we can cut things off or we can just
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avoid these things that that solv the
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problem but the truth is what that
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really does is it just adds a temporary
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fix to what is really the root of the
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cause of the issue and I have some ideas
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that I would like to share through this
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process that I've been able to cover
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Through My Own Story that I hope that uh
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you can use so let's just Dive Right In
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so one of the first things is it's a
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crazy Balancing Act to go from a future
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version that you want to be and the past
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version because what happens is you have
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to unlearn habits that have gotten you
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to where you are right now and a lot of
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times those habits when we want to
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especially evolve and we are tired of
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maybe things not going our way those
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habits are so ingrained with us that we
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look at any sort of future thing as that
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person as that lens so we have the habit
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of being somebody that says I can't do
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this thing but instead what we need to
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adopt is a habit of well if maybe I
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can't do it right now how can I do it
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and taking those actions to step towards
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that little bit I think the balance
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comes in between being nice enough to
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yourself to say like you know I'm going
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to try this but I might not get it right
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or being also brave enough to celebrate
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when things do go right because you
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might be somebody like me that was a big
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huge
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self-help is like just stepping up and
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being brave like stepping up to the
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plate so to speak where you're like I'm
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going I'm willing to swing and maybe
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miss this time because maybe next time
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I'm going to actually hit something
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right and I'm going to hit the ball and
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it's going to go out of the park and I'm
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going to have a home run for myself and
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and things are really going to start to
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change but if we never just just face
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The Bravery of stepping up and admitting
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that we need to change something about
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ourselves nothing will ever change what
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we we do a lot of times I think is we
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look over our shoulder walking forward
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we're looking over our shoulder
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everything that we've been through been
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as and don't want to be anymore but
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walking towards a future that we're
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trying to build with all of the
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knowledge that is things that are behind
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us versus actually looking at what were
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the lessons from those how I can apply
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them to this moment and at the same time
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let's not shoot too far ahead into the
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future and try to build a reality that
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um you're just not ready for and a lot
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of times I think that's where people
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feel this this feeling of being stuck
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it's that we're living way in the past
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and we're living way into the future
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that you're missing like what the power
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of right now can do for you as you're
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climbing and sometimes it's just as
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simple as taking a pause like what
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lessons trying to you know happen here
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what what is all this stuff that's
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happening what can I actually learn from
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this and how can I apply it and this is
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where hope comes into play you know
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using hope as a step because you know
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hope as we Define it you know in normal
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terms I think we all can say hope and
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everybody gets it but how we Define it
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here on Beyond hope project is it's a
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starting point it's a impact point and
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then it's also the Catal it'll help you
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find your path back when you feel like
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hope is gone because ultimately what's
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going to happen is you're going to have
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to take a step forward hope will do
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nothing for you if you don't move um
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it's a great way to motivate you to step
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into whatever it might be that you're
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trying to to do but here's the catch you
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might want to go out and let's say um
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write books you're going to write your
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first one and I can tell you right now
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it's not going to be good um unless
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you're lucky and you just hit a home run
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out of the gate but most of the time
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it's not going to be good and that hope
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though in there wasn't you failing what
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what actually was was you trying and
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then your next one's get a little better
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and your next one's getting a little
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better the problem is is that I think
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what we do is we'll start and then we'll
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stop and we'll think that well that one
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time it didn't work so therefore it must
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not be what it's supposed to be and this
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is where hope service again because at
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some point if you pay attention what'll
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happen is you might be taking a shower
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you might be driving in the car in there
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Quiet Moments the idea will pop up in
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your head of what you could have done
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different in that that book let's just
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keep using that example that would have
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made it better and then you'll revisit
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it again and that's finding your path
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back on there and it's a series of these
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things as you start to climb this ladder
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the problem is if we're anchoring
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ourselves in a past belief system that
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is no longer serving us what we're
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actually doing is undoing everything
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that forward progress we're doing and we
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wonder why we're feeling unfulfilled and
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we're feeling stuck and not able to uh
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see this and you know along the way what
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we have to do is embrace the change of
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the whole thing like be cool with things
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changing things evolving not always
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staying the same as we start to open up
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the idea of us being this new version
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you have to realize that you're going to
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change people around you are going to
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change you might have people that seem
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super close say stuff to you that's
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going to really be like how could they
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say that to me it's got nothing to do
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with you and everything to do with them
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because what happens is is when you you
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start to change you're not only changing
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your world you're changing the world of
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other people around you and if somebody
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is around you a lot and they know you
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this certain way it is hard for them
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because they are wrapped up in their own
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climate of their ladder for them to see
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what their life looks like with you as
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that version rather than you just moving
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forward a lot of times what we'll do is
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we'll just completely stop what we're
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doing for me it was a big one was
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uprooting I would I would start and I
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would lay out all these ideas and then I
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felt like um the change would happen and
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because it was outside of my realm of
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being able to think about it in that way
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I would completely start going on
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uprooting pulling all the the things
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that were sprouting up because it felt
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like it wasn't what it was supposed to
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be instead of embracing the fact that
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like no this is just my new normal like
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this just happens to be what I'm doing
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now and that was um a huge huge eye
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opening thing for me especially as it
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came through going through
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uh the brain cancer stuff and and
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figuring out that those types of things
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it was this idea of it's possible this
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is was the hope it is possible because
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it's out there there was plenty of
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information saying it was possible for
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somebody to get past this thing and have
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longevity um just because somebody else
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was telling me one thing didn't mean
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that that had to be my future um but it
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was the idea that if I want to be that
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I'm going to have to learn how to
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embrace change I'm G to have to
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completely change everything that I'm
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doing and then start to accept that
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along that way I'm going to be changing
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a lot and that means that there's going
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to be people that I lose along the way
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and those people that you lose along the
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way I didn't cut them out it's just
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because I came became complete with it I
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came complete with the idea that like
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this is just where the story ends in
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this part but now we're writing the new
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part and that is where like you know
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having love for yourself and just
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understanding that there is infinite
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possibilities in your life um so many
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people will want to tell you what you
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can and can't accomplish but the problem
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is is that that's coming from their
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perspective it's coming from all of
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their views their all of their beliefs
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all of their things that they've been
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through in life but it's not coming from
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the most important person in your story
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which is you you know when you walk up
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to this ladder of evolution it looks
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bright and shiny and full of Hope but
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the truth is is as you start to climb
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it's going to start to get pretty dark
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and I think those dark moments what they
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actually are is the old version of us
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saying goodbye and it's hard
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to let go of that because it's unknown
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and it's also fear and in that
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fear stories start you start to tell
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yourself stories that maybe I'm not
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supposed to have this or maybe that's
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reserved for other people or you know
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maybe they're right I am going to not be
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here anymore and you start to let
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entertain things that you know isn't
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true but if you aren't careful enough
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what you're going to find is that you
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will make those things true for you
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whether you like it or not see we have
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the ability to shape our reality but if
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we love oursel to do the hard work to
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understand that everything that is in
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you that you are afraid of is typically
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hiding all the things that will bring
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you everything you're looking for it's
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really hard to see that when you're
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constantly tethering yourself to a past
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that is no longer
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real and if you can learn how to let go
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of that and understand that each climb
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up is a new version of you saying
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hello not a version of you saying you
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don't
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deserve I think what you'll start to see
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is that this Evolution brings on a whole
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flood of things into your life that one
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day you're going to look at and go like
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I don't know how I got there and more
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importantly you're going to find that
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there were so many people watching that
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you thought you didn't matter but
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they've been watching and been rooting
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you on and are going to celebrate you
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and they're going to make you feel more
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welcome and loved than you ever thought
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but it all starts with you the easiest
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way to get over this stuff is to find
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the closest mirror look at it stop
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blaming everybody else for the reason
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why you're climb up your ladder so hard
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and just look yourself in the eyes and
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realize that like you're the person to
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blame all the stuff that we're assigning
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things to are
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self-inflicted you can change in an
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instant if you start to understand that
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like just because everybody else says
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all this stuff that doesn't mean it has
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to be me but through hope figuring out a
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starting point going out and trying it
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and then when you ultimately something
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happens and you have to figure out a way
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back loving yourself enough to try again
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and be open to the idea that there may
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be more to it than you think and what
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your idea of what an amazing moment
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would
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be might only be the tip of the iceburg
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so why limit yourself
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to what infinite possibil ilities there
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are to go down to like just a few I
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think uh if you start to embrace that
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you'll find that life is waiting for you
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and there are so many people waiting for
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you and you are a Creator and able to do
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things that are going to leave other
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people in and they're going to wonder
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how you got there and even some of them
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are going to regret the fact that
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they're no longer a part of it and
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that's not called Revenge that's just
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calling being you and that's the most
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important part so guys uh that's what I
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got on that that idea for you today um I
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hope that this idea of what hope can be
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and how it can serve you how loving
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yourself uh is so important I know it's
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cheesy and all that crap like that and
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people will wear t-shirts and all this
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junk and I'm sure I don't even know what
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one I have on I probably got one on I
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say it too
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but what you're projecting out in the
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world is what you get back you know so
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hope and being consistent with it and
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just keep showing up for yourself and
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what will happen and eventually you'll
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feel empowered and that's how we start
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to win this game that's how we start to
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create the life that we want instead of
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avoiding all this stuff making up
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stories and blaming everybody else for
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all those things and if we could start
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to do that this is how you start to turn
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what others will say in imp possible
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into possible in your world and it's
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just through that process so if you got
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something out of this do me a favor
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share it with somebody let somebody else
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know it exist um we're Tor around this
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idea of doing a question and answer
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stuff you know uh if you could do me a
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favor like send some messages back uh
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make some comments like what kind of
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things would you like to hear about um
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is this a good idea is a bad idea like I
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think the easiest way to figure that out
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is just ask you um so if you're if
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you're somebody that listens to this a
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lot um please just shoot us a message um
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let me know what you think beyondo
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pro.com it's pretty simple um you know
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or my name I I don't I couldn't make it
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any easier um I tried but I was as easy
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as I get um but if you could do me a
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favor and just share this let people
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know that it exist this is how we're
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going to start this hope Revolution that
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will start to help people find that they
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aren't alone and that you can do things
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that other people think that you can't
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um and you're not crazy um you're doing
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a good job of Being Human and sometimes
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uh it's just hard and I'm sorry that you
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go through hard times but uh it's normal
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there's nothing wrong with you hope this
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helps all
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right
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