hey guys welcome back to the Beyond hope
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project podcast my name is Jason Tharp I
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am a brain cancer survivor I am the
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champion of hope I am here to provide
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some value to you and in order to do
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that I do need some help so before we
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dive into this I am going to ask a favor
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um I get lots of messages from people
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talking about how much this podcast has
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helped them or they've picked something
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up but what I do not see is some reviews
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and stuff like that on the podcast
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platform so if you guys could do me a
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favor and just hit that quick star
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button for me like like it tell people
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about it this is how we're going to
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spread the message uh definitely need
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some help in getting this all out there
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um because we're working really hard to
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create this stuff for you and would
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really just appreciate the idea of uh
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helping just pay it forward spread a
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little hope um
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and speaking of spreading that's funny
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enough that uh I was just telling Joe
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here that we're going to talk about deli
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sandwiches this episode uh which seems
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really weird especially when you're
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talking about Hope but I was trying to
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figure out a creative way to talk about
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this subject in a way that would make
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sense um but it's really about setting
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expectations um it's how we go about
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something that seems so familiar and set
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an expectation so work with me here and
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and plan ahead and by the way we have a
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comic that I make weekly um it's all
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free not trying to sell you anything at
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all um anyway back to the program deli
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sandwiches so what are we talking about
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here so have you ever noticed that
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sometimes you go to a a deli shop and
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you'll get something and when you bite
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into it you may like it you may not like
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it some sandwiches are really awesome
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some sandwiches are kind of eh and then
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there's some that are just awful that
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you'll avoid but most of the time we'll
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all try at least a bite of each one and
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I think that life works a lot like this
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I think we spend a lot of time thinking
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um what it is we actually is on the menu
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of our life what are we picking today
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that is going to be great something
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that's going to be ho or something
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that's going to be absolutely awful and
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I want to talk about how our
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expectations
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preed that choice how what we expect to
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see kind of dictates what kind of bite
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we get if you're already having another
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string of bad days and you're going to
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go in with the expectation that you're
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going to bite into this sandwich of the
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day and it's already going to be awful
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because here we go again don't be
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surprised when that's exactly what it
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tastes like it's going to be gross and
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you're going to want to spit it out and
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I think what happens we going to get in
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a little cycle of this whole idea that
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it's always this this here we go again
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here we go again of course this is how
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it happens and this is how the spiral
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begins we start looking to blame all the
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other sandwiches right everything else
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around us it's disgusting we just start
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going like it's because of this it's
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because of that it's because of this
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that and everything else and sometimes
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what it is is just the toppings it could
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just be the condiment you put on it what
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would happen if you just turned a
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sandwich around and took a bite from the
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other side maybe it tastes different
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over there maybe changing your
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perspective into what it could be or
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simply scraping off the stuff that don't
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matter anymore the stuff that don't
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matter anymore that didn't sound right
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but you get what I'm
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saying you know I think if you don't
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like tomatoes stop putting tomatoes on
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the sandwich if you're really into
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mustard put mustard on a sandwich if you
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hate mayonnaise don't put mayonnaise on
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a sandwich start coming with different
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expectations and start realizing that
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you actually have a choice in what you
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are making you know we all think that
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the menu of life is dictated to us and
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we're looking at some sort of external
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Force to tell us that what you're doing
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is wrong or waiting for some sort of
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Savior to come in and help us or tell us
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that you're on the wrong path or hey you
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don't like
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pickles but why you already know all
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this stuff you don't have to continue to
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think that there's some sort of magic
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key out there that you're waiting to
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uncover when it simply is straight in
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front of you if you don't like what's on
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the sandwich take it off make a
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different choice for yourself today go
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in there and understand you really can
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change the way that it is for you how
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everything unfolds in your life based on
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you making choices that will affect the
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way that the thing that you want to eat
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actually
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taste um I guess maybe I'm trying to
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make you hungry to live life here too I
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just how many more ways can I figure out
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a way to put in some sort of eating
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reference into this
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episode but I guess my point is I mean I
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know that I'm hitting this light hearted
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and stuff like that but it kind of makes
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me laugh a little bit because I think
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back of how much time I spent
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continually eating the wrong type of
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sandwiches thinking that with each bite
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the flavor would change without ever
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thinking for a second that why do I keep
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eating something I don't like anymore
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and and putting it down and making
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something new and it's comical to me
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because I spent so much time doing that
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thinking that there was something wrong
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with me thinking that like all along
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that I was the problem and that somebody
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else was going to come save me the only
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part of that equation I got right was
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that I was the problem just nobody else
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was going to come save
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me now I did get a lot of help from my
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brain uh other than just thinking making
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that tumor it really helped me realize
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that I can be in control of this menu I
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can change things up and start making
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something different no longer do I spend
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much time thinking about if I don't like
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the first bite I put it down and start
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something new I'm not afraid to stand up
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for myself anymore I'm not afraid to
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understand that like what I might like
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in my head and what I might expect in my
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head could just be the tip of the
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iceberg but if I go into without
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expectations and just
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experience how life is unfolding for me
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it might blow me away something I think
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might be so so when I actually take the
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real bite of it without an expectation
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without having a mood going into it and
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just being open to the idea of the
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actual
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experience my limiting beliefs might
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just be shattered then all a sudden the
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reality starts to come true for you that
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you realize that all
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along everything you wanted has been
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there the problem was is that you just
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were focused on one part of the
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menu maybe it's the thing that you think
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is going to be absolutely disgusting
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that you should try
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maybe see that the thing that you really
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think you're going to love walk away
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from it and try something different
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swing back in and see that life is full
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of tons of different flavors and
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experiences and condiments and all of
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the stuff and everything in that can be
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scraped
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away but until you get real with
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yourself and sit down with yourself and
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start building what you
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want you're always going to continue to
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eat the same thing and thinking it's
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going to taste better
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you got to trust me on this like this
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was some a cycle I was stuck in over and
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over and over I thought the more I would
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try to outrun it or the more that I
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would just avoid it that eventually it
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would taste different and it never did
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until the Awakening happens where all of
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a sudden you're forced to try something
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different where you have to build
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something that you will be satisfied
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with and until you do that you're always
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going to continue to get what you get
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understand each opportunity every day
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presents itself with a an ability for
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you to bring a different mood a
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different experience each day is not
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exactly the same each day can be
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different if you choose for it to be if
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somebody is driving you Bonkers then
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like go for a walk get real with who you
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are what is it that you are wanting from
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this situation do you need to walk away
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from this situation do you need to
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scrape off this stuff like be brave
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enough to tell that person to hold the
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pickles right you're done with this
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stuff because in that what you're going
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to find is there's going to be other
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people out there that are just like you
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looking for those types of things you're
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going to find a tribe of other sandwich
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makers out there looking to live a life
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that is inspiring that isn't the same
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old same old and what you're going to
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find is in that you're going to feel
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very empowered and through that power
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you're going to be not afraid to be
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persistent to show up each day you're
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going to be openhearted and start to
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love yourself a heck of a lot more than
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you do right now and being willing to
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forgive yourself for mistak that you
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made and stop dwelling on the fact that
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some sort choice that you made that you
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thought was right for you and it
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wasn't that just part of life it just
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happens and through that all the hyper
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awareness will build up and you'll start
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to be aware of the power that you
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actually have to create the world that
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you want to live in so the only thing
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left to ask yourself is like what kind
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of sandwich do you want to build today
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are you tired of it are you tired of the
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same old same old and if you're not
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that's fine just keep eating it if
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everything's going well for you Kudos
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there's a lot of us out there struggling
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if you have figured it out why don't you
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help somebody else out look for those
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that are still building trying to figure
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out a way out maybe they're struggling
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with stuff and you hold the key to them
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what could be so minute to you because
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it's become so routine and so easy could
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be the Saving Grace for somebody else
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that provides them a Lifeline that saves
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everything for them it all starts with
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sharing those things being brave enough
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to help others
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um and that's a lot of what this podcast
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is about my goal of this is to spread
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hope to give you a starting point an
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inition switch to realize that the path
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is unfolding in front of you all the
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time and you're going to start something
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and you might start building something
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and it's going to go horribly wrong
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maybe the bread will fall apart or it'll
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be too soggy maybe the toppings won't
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work exactly the way you want it to and
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you're going to think all along that
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you're just a failure and things keep
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failing on you no matter how hard you
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try but that's just not true true you're
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not failing what you're doing is you're
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learning the path didn't disappear
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you're just looking in the wrong
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direction just turn your head to the
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other side and see that what is waiting
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for you is the love and hope you're
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looking
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for but you're too busy building the
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wrong stuff expecting to see what you
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actually long for in order to get to
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where you want to go you're going to
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have to let go of some stuff that you
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don't want to let go of and in that
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process you're going to find a different
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level of yourself and don't worry that
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stuff will still be waiting there if you
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want to go back and pick it up later
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because it's easy to fall back into that
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trap too but why not take the chance
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today and see that if this new Deli
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counter you walk up to might actually
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have something that you want to eat
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every day and then that will evolve too
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and that's what a series of it is it's
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just a Street full of Deli counters that
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we're going to go to each day and make a
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new sandwich some will be really good
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and some will be really bad and some
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will be H whatever but that's how life
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unfolds just a big mystery of mystery
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meat with lots of different condiments
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and breads to choose from it's up to us
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to start making that
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sandwich so I feel like I did that I
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feel like that I was able to creatively
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pull together um deli sandwiches into a
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Joe's giv me the yes I did into a Beyond
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hope project podcast and again guys I
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know for a fact that this stuff is
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benefiting you because I am getting the
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messages but I need your help I really
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do I can't do this alone um being a
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oneman band isn't like always fun so I
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do need your help help spread the
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message I know that there's somebody out
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there that you know that can hear this
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stuff and maybe they're just really big
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fans of deli sandwiches and this will
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help them but uh yeah thank you so much
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for this hanging out with me I just want
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to remind you one other thing um being a
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human is tough like and but you're doing
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a good job and you may not know me yet
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but I want you to know that I'm still
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cheering you on uh because I know how
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rough life can be sometimes but when we
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start to look for what we want we'll
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actually uncover the things we're
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looking for it's usually hidden behind
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the stuff that we're afraid to attack um
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but it's in those facing of fears that
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you're going to find the greatest gift
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that you have for yourself and that's
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the real you I hope this helps power