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hey guys welcome back to the Beyond hope
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project podcast my name is Jason Tharp I
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am your resident champion of Hope here
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to deliver another impactful podcast to
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you that will hopefully resonate with
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you and provide you with that spark to
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get started uh or maybe you're out on
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this path and you feel like you might
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have lost your way maybe some of the
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words in here will help guide you back
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to there and that is the goal of this
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podcast before we dive too far in
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start to navigate through this crazy
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thing called life and the other part is
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uh need your help help spreading the
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because we have a huge Mission here
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which is to reach lots of people with uh
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hope and show them that what's they may
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predict as impossible in their life is
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quite
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possible and that's where I want to
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start out this this podcast with today
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is this idea that what power we actually
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hold in somebody else's story um and
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this is probably going to be more
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directed towards uh leaders people in a
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leadership role maybe you're a coach
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maybe you're a a team manager or uh just
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a thought leader but also at the same
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time you're also a leader of yourself so
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in a lot of ways this is a multifaceted
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and what I'm hoping to be able to
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encapsulate this all into is a way way
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for you to look at it and how it would
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affect you and help you adopt it in sort
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of way into your life and that's the
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main goal of this this one in
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particular so one thing I've been
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thinking about a lot lately is the role
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the story that is told about me from
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other people or the story that other
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people that have interacted through my
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life um what they what part what role
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they play I guess I should say
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because I think a lot of times what we
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don't realize is that we can either be a
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part of somebody's story that turns into
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something really special because we were
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part of it or we can be the Catalyst for
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somebody's story to Blossom because we
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were part of it not in a good way and I
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think that what we we tend to do is we
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come
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into interactions with others especially
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as a leader with a limiting belief of
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stuff
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and what I want to call this on to is
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kind of like what how the the first
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doctor I dealt with dealt with
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diagnosing me they had no clue who I was
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they knew zero about my background they
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knew zero about what I've overcome they
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knew zero about who I was but they knew
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a lot about one subject which is what
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they deal with every day that's not the
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discount that they don't know what
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they're talking about but there's a huge
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factor that Miss it's missing in that
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it's perspective it's being able to take
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yourself out and look in somebody else's
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shoes especially when you're dropping
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some sort of thing or you are in a
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position that you really hold a lot of
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weight in somebody's future decisions
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because maybe they're turning to you
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because you're an expert in something or
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they're coming to you because you they
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perceive you as the gatekeeper to their
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dreams which by the way you're not so if
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you're tripping on yourself thinking
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that you're somehow are some sort of
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Savior for someone you're not you're not
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a guru you're just a human going through
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experiences and your experiences just
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happen to be further along than the
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people that are looking to you for
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guidance but what you have is the
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ability to affect their story to take
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the moment to sit down and listen to
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this person and to hear what they're
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actually trying to do use your expertise
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to help them get to where they want to
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go don't give them some sort of false
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belief or keep dangling carrots in front
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of their face telling them that if we
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just get to this next thing then that
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will be the parts also don't kick their
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knees out to tell them that they can't
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do something or that they don't know how
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to do it because you can't think in a
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way that they do sometimes what you feel
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is normal is completely weird to
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somebody else and what is weird to you
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is completely normal to somebody else
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but what you have is information that
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could help them get to where they want
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to go and if you would help them you
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would actually learn something from them
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in return that would also help you along
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your journey because the thing is is
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we're all intersecting stories we're all
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living in each other's dreams these
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realities that we're building as we
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start to go through life are dictated
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through us through our perceptions of
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what we see in the world if you want to
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change the way that you see the world
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then change the things you
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do if you want to stay the same stay the
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same nobody's really going to care
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either way but don't spend so much time
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thinking that you hold the power over
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everybody else's worlds because all that
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happens is is we're just crisscrossing
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story
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lines what is happening your dream is
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different than mine but we might
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interact for a second and I can help add
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to your dream by a word or a look or a
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glance or simply by just saying hi
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because for so many of us we're going
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through life invisible too afraid to ask
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for help we'll put her head down in the
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sand because it's much easier if they
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can't see me for me then to not put
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myself out there because that's
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scary because I think I can get overcome
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this stuff but I'm too afraid to tell
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their people what I want to do because
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what if I don't then they're going to
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judge me and they're going to worry that
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if they associate with me that they
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somehow look
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bad and I think so many of us go through
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life this way thinking that somebody is
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holding the key we look for those blame
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points to say that this this didn't
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happen because of that this or the other
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when the truth is is if you ever want to
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figure out who's the one to blame just
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go find the near or
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smear stop thinking that somebody that
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is working with you or for you or as
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part of your group is somehow not valid
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enough for you to show them
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hope and this goes for yourself too it
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goes for the idea that you can give
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yourself the hope that you can actually
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make it to the other side of this
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problem because you figured out a path
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instead of thinking that your path is
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the only way and everything that you
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have in your head is the only
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way be open to the fact that somebody
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you just met might actually know more
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than you because what they're bringing
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to the table is themselves you could be
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part of this great story you know the
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first doctor that told me I would be
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dead in seven months will never be part
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of my story they will always be the
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Catalyst that got me started now that's
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not to say that that's a bad thing and I
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certainly think that I have un willingly
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or or willingly or you know thinking I
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was doing the right thing played that
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exact same role in other people's
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worlds but most of the time it was
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because my living belief was so small
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that I could not see a different way my
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intentions weren't to hurt somebody any
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more than I think that maybe that
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doctor's intentions weren't to hurt
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me but what they did not do is they
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didn't take a second to realize that the
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power that they hold in my story when I
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was struggling to figure a way out of
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this big dark cave and figure out how to
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be somebody that survives us stuff they
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had the ability to hand me a torch that
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would have lit up the path for me to
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step forward but instead what they did
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was they threw a boulder in it just
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because they took all their
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assumptions that was all past
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experiences and never bothered to ask
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simple questions like what can I do how
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can I be part of this person's thing
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maybe I might actually learn something
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from this patient now I have these great
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doctors around me who we have these
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great conversations about life and how
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you can change certain things how
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reality might change as we start to see
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what we can believe and how our
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confidence grows when we start to look
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to a different way other than the way
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that we draw limits
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on but at the end of the day all they
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are
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co-pilots we are the only ones steering
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this ship yes there are many other
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people steering ships around us but as
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we crisscross all we're doing is
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Criss-Cross in somebody else's
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dream we can choose to make some of
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their dreams are reality that's up to us
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or we can just keep
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moving you know I think that so often we
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think that we're alone but the truth is
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as a whole we are much stronger if we
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start to understand that our worlds
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matter that you matter that everybody
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around us is doing their best to try to
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survive and if we start to realize that
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we have a lot of power in helping
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somebody else shape that
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story you'll find that you will find a
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path for you that will continue to
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unfold even when you're failing even
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when you feel like you lost it it'll
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keep showing up for you because that's
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what you're meant to do is be a positive
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force in this world you're a Creator the
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world that you want to create is waiting
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for you to create it it's just up to you
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when you want to begin so as you start
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sharing your story and being a leader
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for not only yourself but for others
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understand that self leadership isn't
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about just you it's about how your
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actions actually have an effect on
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others around you so learn how to lead
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yourself better and you'll be amazed on
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what happens with the people around you
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how they almost Elevate because
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you think that you're doing something
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different but all you're doing is
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actually just being present and showing
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up and listening and not doing
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everything for everybody else give
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people a chance you might find in giving
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the chance that that person might teach
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you something that you never thought was
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possible and to me this is what hope is
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about it's starting that ignition for
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somebody else walking a path and when
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somebody Falls helping them back up
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figuring out a way to connect the dots
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between their dream and yours it doesn't
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mean you have to carry them forever but
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it does mean that you are part of their
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story The Good Parts the parts that you
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can look back on and say like man I'm
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really glad that I was part of that you
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know they're doing great stuff instead
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of I was the reason why that happened
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knowing that you might be the only one
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that knows
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that um but still it's not the kind of
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ending that you want to have you don't
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want your story to end in a bad way that
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no longer affects others in a good way I
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think I think by and large we all really
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want to help each other along the path
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figure out how life unfolds and to help
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them grow and the only way to do that is
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to get over
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yourself yes you might be in a good
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position to help others but if you're
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only out to cause harm you're not
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helping anybody including
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yourself maybe you need to find the PATH
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maybe somebody else that you look down
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on is walking a very path that you need
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to be on maybe you should just pay
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attention as they cross over into your
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dream and then they can help you create
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your
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reality so yeah that's that's that's all
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I got for you guys
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um that felt really good I'm G to be
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honest it felt really good to kind of to
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say that because I it's something I've
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been struggling with a little bit lately
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in a lot of the stuff that I've been
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working on writing books and stuff like
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that but uh yeah I want you guys to do
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let other people know it exists you have
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all been on a certain sort of mission as
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our paths cross here as our dreams
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crisscross I need your help in sharing
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this and spreading around so guys until
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I see you next time uh congratulations
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on making this far in life it's not easy
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being a human uh we all make mistakes
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and if you're giving yourself a hard
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time because you've maybe Fallen a
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couple times lately realized that you
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can't get back up and can change and it
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doesn't take a huge huge Catalyst for it
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you can change right now by just
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choosing a different path and I hope
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this helps power
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