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hey guys welcome back to the Beyond hope
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project podcast my name is Jason Tharp
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the champion of Hope and I am going to
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talk to you today about the worst piece
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of advice that is out there on the
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internet um and it's everywhere and this
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might be unpopular and it may be getting
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some comments from other people that
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think that I'm full of but I am
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going to tell you that I'm not I'm just
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going to I'm going to stand on that soap
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box for a second and say I'm not and
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it's this idea that you gotta hustle
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your face off I think hustle your face
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off has to be the most horrible stupid
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advice that I have heard um from a
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bazillion online gurus and first off the
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caveat is this do you have to work hard
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absolutely but the thing is is that what
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we aren't seeing from these people that
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are hustling their face off is that also
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have a team of people that are out there
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helping them hustle their face off um I
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know this because I've been around these
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people and they have assistant after
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assistant and a team of people cutting
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their videos and a team of people
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posting their videos and all those
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things like that and while this advice
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worked well for them it doesn't work
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well for everybody and I think there's a
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little bit of a a problem that happens
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when we are telling everybody else out
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there that what you got to do is you got
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to post a 100 times a day and you got to
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do this you gotta be building your brand
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you gotta be
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doing all this stuff like that um I just
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don't I don't think it's realistic and I
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think what it does lead to though is
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this this plague of multitasking where
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what you end up doing is you end up
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throwing so much stuff against the wall
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that you're trying to see what sticks
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and when you're doing that it's like
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trying to spin plates and every time
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we're spinning plates we're getting one
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thing kind of there but then we have to
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stop that and jump over to this one and
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what ends up happening is all along the
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way is you end up losing while you're
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doing it the first place you learn end
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up losing your path and this is where I
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feel like a lot of people feel like
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failures it's because you're feeling
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burnout and then what's odd is a lot of
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those people that are also saying how
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your face off then are kind of swooping
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by and telling you like oh well you got
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to give yourself patience you gotta give
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yourself time this mixed message is just
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causes tons of confusion because the
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truth is is that what you need to do is
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you just need to pick your lane and
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focus on that thing now why do I bring
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this up I bring this up because this is
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something I've come to realize about
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myself lately is that thought that the
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key was to keep seeking stuff out to
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keep going out there and looking for all
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the answers because somewhere along the
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line somebody's going to magically tell
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me this is what I needed to do to
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connect the dots and where that comes
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from I'm positive is just a low
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self-esteem low self-worth in myself
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thinking that somehow I can't figure out
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my own stuff and I need to somehow look
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to somebody else for the answers and
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then what that actually takes from us is
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the one thing that we need more than
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anything is the resources to invest in
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the thing that we actually want to go
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and try to achieve and so we have to
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stop that spinning because what we're
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doing is we're causing so much confusion
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in ourselves because we can't see what
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direction we're going because we're
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trying to go 50 directions and when
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you're going 50 different directions
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because you got to make sure that you
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post here you got to post that and you
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got to do this and you got to do that
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and you got to write this and you got to
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create this art and all this stuff
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everybody just ends up creating the same
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stuff which is why everybody's an online
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coach now why everybody's going all
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these different ways why you see
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everybody selling a Scrub Daddy stuff on
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Tik Tok because once one person sees it
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they go oh I must do that and they shift
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over here versus just stick in your lane
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and figure out what it is you're trying
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to do stick to your message and the
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people will find you I think that what
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happens is when we start to chase these
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mystical things um we're seeking what
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they're looking for us we're looking
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outside of us and we allow those things
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to influence what we actually want to
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try to achieve
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instead of like realizing that if I
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focus mostly on what it is I want to do
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and I get really good at doing what it
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is that I do that the why will start
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flowing naturally and you have that
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ability to start seeing things for what
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they are to see that it's okay to say no
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to stuff you know if you need that
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permission let me tell you right now it
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is okay to say no to stuff I have
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written this in my journal a million
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times lately to myself that it's okay to
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say no um and it's been a huge struggle
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like a huge struggle because I think a
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little bit for me if I'm being honest is
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like it's it's being hyper aware of time
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of my life being different now when
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you're going through uh like the cancer
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diagnosis and all that stuff like that
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and you have an idea of your mortality
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you change your perspective of time and
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in a weird sort of way I kind of even
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put more pressure on myself because I
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felt like I had to get it all done right
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now and and what I if I could go back
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and undo and and fix that part of me I
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would tell myself that like stop looking
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outside here uh because the answers are
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already right here in front of you but
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you're looking for validation from other
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people um you don't have to seek that
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validation and this multitasking is just
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going to lead to burnout and it's going
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to lead to you resenting the thing that
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you're actually trying to do and then
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not only that you're going to end up
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being confused and you're going to have
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so many this is this is is where I think
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for somebody that writes a lot of stuff
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uh comes from writer's block it's like
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you're just confused like you just have
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so much crap going on in your head it's
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like a tornado you're trying to figure
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out like what it is that you need to do
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to get to that Clarity and back to your
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path what I would suggest for you is
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that you need to start asking yourself
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better questions like ask yourself what
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it is exactly you're trying to get out
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of this stuff and then simply you just
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be brave enough to like walk away to say
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no to some stuff you know exactly what
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I'm talking about because I'm positive
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that you have the same struggles I do
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when you comes to this stuff like that
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where you think that you know this
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person's magically going to give you the
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answers that you already know but you're
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too afraid to trust and that is the Crux
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of so many of us out there that are
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wanting to have an impact is that we
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think that the impact we want to have
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surely can't be this easy it can't be
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and us doing exactly what it is that we
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want to do because it seems like it
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comes so easy to us because it just
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feels so right and then if you are
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anybody like myself that struggled with
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this idea of worth you talk yourself out
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of those things because you go like it
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shouldn't be that easy and I'm going to
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be blunt with you and tell you that
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you're lying to yourself the same as I
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was lying to myself thinking that
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somehow this answer would magically show
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up um and doesn't best piece of advice I
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got from somebody was just this week
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they told me to um pick one thing focus
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on that one thing is it the first time
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I've heard that no but maybe it was the
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first time I listened to it and maybe
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that you hear that message in this
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podcast today and I want that to be the
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thing that you land on instead of trying
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to do a 100 things focus on that one if
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you want to write that book focus on
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writing that that book yes you might
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have a job but you have free time in
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that free time stop picking up your
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phone and seeing what's the latest
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update on Tik Tok or who's posting what
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or what hashtags are trending because
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you got to do your post and you got to
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hustle your face off because if I'm not
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hustling my face off I'm doing it all
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wrong this is all lies you're being fed
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to into a system that somebody wants to
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just get you to see their point of view
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that can feed you back and sell you
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something else that's going to take away
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your time energy effort and resources to
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go after that thing that you want to do
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I am positive once you clear that stuff
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off your road what you're going to find
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is that this lesson that you're learning
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right now while it might be tough and
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you feel like you're getting nowhere is
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one of the biggest ones you're going to
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be able to do is to pull back and
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realize that you have the power to open
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up your path to the gates that you're
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wanting to flow through just by learning
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how to say no seeing what it is you want
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to do embracing what it is and just
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trusting your why and keep relying on on
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your why and if something is out of
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alignment with that be brave enough to
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say no to it so guys that that's that's
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all I got for this one it is really
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about you in this sort of situation stop
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turning externally to find the answers
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for what you already know internally
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everything that you're wanting to do is
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behind everything that you're afraid to
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face and that includes ourselves so what
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we got to do is get real with us realize
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that if you are not where you want to be
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it's not about hustling your face off
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that's going to get you there it's going
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to lead you to burnout it's going to
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lead you to resenting things and
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ultimately not liking the thing that
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you're doing the beauty of what you're
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doing right now is in the Journey of
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getting there those are the stories
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you're going to tell when you get there
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not when you're at the Mountaintop and
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you're telling everybody look how great
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it is here they're going to talk about
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all those times you overcame those
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things and this is will lead to the
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magic that is you so as we leave up here
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guys uh you're doing a great job I mean
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this this this life thing is freaking
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hard there's all kinds of that
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happens all the times it throws us off
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of rails but you're doing a great job
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being human and I just want you to see
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if you haven't heard it yet today you're
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awesome just keep being awesome keep
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trying and failing but stop hustling
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your face off it's not helping um get
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focused and uh I can't wait to see what
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you do hope the subs all right
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