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hey guys welcome back to the Beyond hope
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project podcast my name is Jason Tharp
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the champion of Hope and today we have
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an exciting episode for you because
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here's the catch asking for Hope isn't
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as scary as you think it is and maybe
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that's just a self-affirmation for
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myself because um that is one of my
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biggest I don't want to call it a fear
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because it's not really a fear it's the
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thing I get hung up on a lot is asking
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for help and I think it's because like
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I've done a lot of stuff in the past
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where uh business-wise I've been I feel
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like I've been taken advantage of or
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exploited because I just didn't know any
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better I didn't understand contracts or
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I just didn't understand you know what
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it's like to be a working creative and I
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kind of learned the hard way and
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it was always usually case around as
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help because it was like this you know I
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listened to a podcast day and somebody
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was saying like they struggle with this
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idea of when you ask for help that there
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was a catch involved in it um and it was
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like their apprehension was like they
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needed to feel safe before they knew
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that the help was trustworthy and their
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struggle was that they wanted to be a
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nice person and um and help others and I
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think that's a little bit of my hang-up
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where I fall into that trap with asking
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for help and then um something kind of
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crazy happened where I was on this trip
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and I went to this this event where I
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was once again finding myself sitting in
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this it was called a conference but it
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wasn't a conference it was one of those
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deals where they give you like you know
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a nickels worth of like value but then
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promised 95 cents worth the stuff if you
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just sign up for their newsletter or if
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you just text this we send you the
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complete guide for free and I mean you
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you see them just as much as I do um and
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having fallen for a bunch of those
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things I'm very um my my guard is up on
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those and I tend to run now instead of
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even remotely entertain those things
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because what I realized every time I
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signed up for one of those things I kind
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of already knew the stuff they were
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talking about it was just like sold one
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way but then it flipped um and I'm sure
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that a lot of you can relate to that
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just as well as I do so what happened
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was I was in this thing and and I had
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driven there um from another meeting
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that I had so I was quite a few miles
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from home and my intentions were to stay
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it was I was in New York was to stay in
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New York the other the the next night or
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that
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night and what ended up happening was I
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had this moment where all of a sudden
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I'm listening to this person on stage
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that is speaking complete nonsense stuff
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that has been just regurgitated from
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somebody else's stuff and just stuff
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you've heard a million times and then
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the classic line of like well all you
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got to do is just send this here and
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I'll text you all of this stuff and you
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know whatever and I'm not saying this is
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a attack like this person doesn't know
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what they're talking about that's not at
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all where I'm going with this this is
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really just me reflecting on something
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that I hope that you can reflect on and
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see a little bit of your story because
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I'm sure this person did a great job
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they they probably do a great job for
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some of those that are looking for those
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sort of
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solutions but as I'm developing myself
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in my own self-development
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Parts this is a trigger for me because
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what I'm seeking is help but what I'm
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not doing is asking for help and there's
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a distinct difference because when
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you're busy seeking you're looking for
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answers outside of yourself and what
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eventually starts happening is you start
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adopting somebody else's idea of what
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your life should be and I'm at that
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point where I'm tired of that because
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I've done it enough where it has been
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Hollow and has not helped so where I'm
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at is that threshold of like what do I
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got to do I got start asking for help so
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as I'm sitting here listening to this
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person I get on my phone and I just text
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some people that I know might actually
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have the answers and the the trigger was
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like why am I sitting here listening to
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the same stuff I've heard a hundred
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times versus like seeing if some people
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in my inner circle that are maybe fur
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further ahead or where I want to be what
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they're doing and see if I can maybe get
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some help from them so I sent a couple
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texts and and sure enough shocker
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because I just asked for help they made
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themselves available and they were like
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well we can meet this day and I was like
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that's wonderful and you know I then
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left went and got my bag out of the
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hotel went to the train station got in
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my car and drove home and it was just
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that weird empowering thing because for
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whatever reason when you are somebody
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that deals with struggling with Worth or
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or doubt in yourself or you know a big
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one for me is like it's it's so
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confusing me because I feel like what
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I'm doing is just being me and that you
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realize that there are people that just
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truly want to help and that notion is um
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it's tough for anybody that has felt
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taken advantage of multiple times
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because we are kind of conditioned to um
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to not accept the help and it's
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definitely difficult for somebody that
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is like heart felt heart leader a Giver
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by nature which I feel like I fallen
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into that category to not only just keep
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giving but also be willing to receive
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stuff and I think that's the other part
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when you're asking help is you have to
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be willing to receive the help that
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you're getting and I would say with
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confidence that like that I wasn't the
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best at receiving that stuff and and
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what I would do is make up an excuse or
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I would put it off or i' procrastinate
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on that idea or I would just do whatever
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it took to I guess not receive what was
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waiting to come through and you know for
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whatever reason I just I I just had that
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Epiphany this week and I just felt like
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I needed to come on here and talk about
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that because it was such a profound
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shift and super empowering and what it
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did was it like kind of took the damn of
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roadblocks out of my head and all of a
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sudden like these answers started
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flowing of what it was and I know I've
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said this on here a million times and
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I'm probably going to continue to say it
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because I think that if I need to hear
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it a bunch you probably hear need to
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hear a bunch it wasn't in all the places
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I was looking for something it was all
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in everything that I have already been
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doing I just wasn't looking in the right
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spot or I wasn't asking the right
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question or I wasn't seen that it was
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already there and a lot of the reasons
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why it was because it was based behind
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fear or was behind anger it was behind
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shame or doubt or some sort of negative
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thing and I think what you we we tend to
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think sometimes is that if you get a
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great handle on these things that those
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things disappear and when they flare
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back up you kind of struggle with it
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because it shouldn't be flaring back up
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and I definitely would say for me that's
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a a big one is like you know wondering
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that like you know you think you have
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Mastery over this doubt but then
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sometimes it flares back up and you
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start to to question and maybe it is
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because you're putting a lot of effort
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into something you're not seeing some
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stuff but I will also challenge you to
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think about this wherever you're at
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right now you didn't get there overnight
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either and if you're really wanting to
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shift and have a big impact which is a
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big goal for me is to take the story
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that I have lived through and figure out
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a way to help people see what is good
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about them to provide the hope the spark
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to get started and as you get started to
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help you figure out the along the path
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of what you're learning
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and the only way I can do that is by
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getting on here and telling you the
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stuff that I'm on the same path we might
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have different paths we are all in this
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journey together and our paths are
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completely different but if I'm willing
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to share and give what it is that I am
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learning along the way then I have to be
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willing to receive the goodness that's
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coming back to me and that's what I
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learned this week was the simple as part
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of just asking for help now what was
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involved in that it was about being
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brave being bold enough you know go back
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to the Hope acronym you know I was hyper
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aware right I was in that situation I
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realized this is not what I want anymore
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what can I do to shift that then I was
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openhearted I was willing to get up and
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leave I was willing to love myself
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enough to not put more stuff that I did
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not need into my head to cause more
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confusion make me lose track of what I'm
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doing and why I'm doing it and I was
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openhearted enough to walk away and then
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I
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persisted I sat down and thought about
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what is it that is making this happen
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and I've learned how to you know you're
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you're learning along the way to forgive
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yourself for doing the same repeat thing
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I'm not beating myself up anymore like
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those days are long gone that that ended
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a long time ago and and there that
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Clarity was has been serving me really
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well because it allows me to understand
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that each day is a reset so when you can
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learn to forgive yourself for putting
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yourself back in the same spot that
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you've been before you can persist a lot
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more you can get right back to where you
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were when you thought you were failing
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to realize that no no no I'm actually
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learning and like look at this this is
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really pretty empowering and that brings
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me to the last part right you feel
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empowered when you're hyper aware and
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you're openart and you persist to this
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stuff you're going to feel pretty
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empowered when you start to feel
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empowered you're going to take those
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steps and you're going to realize that
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like wow it wasn't so bad to ask for
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help and wow it was actually kind of
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cool to be open to receiving that help
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and as you start down that path and you
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start to see those things realize that
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like it really is already here you're
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not Reinventing all the time some people
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call it uprooting some people call it
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Reinventing for me it was
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self-destruction that was a big one you
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know anything went good I had to blow it
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up because I didn't deserve it right and
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when you when you start to get clear
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with that and you focus so now my
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mission is simple like I am picking one
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thing thing I'm focusing on one thing
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and I'm going to move on that one thing
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and the thing is there's here's the fun
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part about it is like all those other
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things I was pushing on they were
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equally as good they're equally as good
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so what does that mean that means that
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once this one gets going then I can
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introduce the other stuff and the net is
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already there so it's not going to be
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such a push to get through instead of
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trying to push 10 rocks up the hill I
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can push one and when I get it up there
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I can bring the other ones because I
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know the path is there I understand that
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there's people along the way to help I
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understand that I don't have to do it in
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one day I understand that like just
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because I'm not moving it today just a
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little bit that I'm failing all of these
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things because you've done that one
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thing and pushed it up you realize that
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along the way you've learned a ton and
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this is how it best serves you so guys
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as you're out there trying to do stuff
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maybe are you like me are you trying to
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do too much right now wondering why
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you're not getting where you want to go
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are you spinning plates after plates
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after plates just putting out fires that
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at the end of the day the one person
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that didn't get anything accomplished
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was you because you're too busy worrying
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about everything else um maybe that's
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time to stop that stuff maybe it's time
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to think about it in a different way
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what would it be like if you could think
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about it for a second if you could focus
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all your energy and effort on this one
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thing how important is it to you if it's
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wanting to make an impact and like think
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about that who's going to impact my goal
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is the same as every time time I I sat
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down and talked with you is that this
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will affect two people that know two
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people that will share this message with
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them that will then start to spider we
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where we're able to help other people
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discover what is amazing in themselves
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and this is what the mission is and this
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is what your mission should be be brave
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enough to understand that you're doing a
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good job maybe you're just spreading
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yourself too thin stop beating yourself
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up over the things you're not getting
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accomplished and start looking at the
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things you're doing and is that the
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reason why you're not getting it
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accomplished focus on your what and then
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the why will take over because the
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passion and all stuff comes through
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you're passionate about what you want to
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do I think what's happening is that
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you're allowing too much stuff to get in
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the way that we lose that passion and we
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think that maybe it's not meant for us I
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don't think that's the case I think you
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know as well as I do what is meant for
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me I think you you know exactly what
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it's meant for you so you know I I
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really hope that that resonates with you
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out there I hope that you can hear that
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and
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understand that
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value of being bold enough I mean it
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really does come down to being bold like
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it it your life can change I think
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everybody gets confused by this idea
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self-help needs to be some sort of like
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you know
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10year Journey you know or
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self-discovery or whatever you want to
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call it this 10 year Journey but it can
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happen an instant and it does happen by
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just deciding that you are going to
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focus on you and what you want to do and
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then be open to receive the magic that
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comes out of that um because it's all
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sitting there waiting for you um and
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it's hard to see a lot of stuff when
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you're looking through a bunch of trees
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of things the path gets a lot clearer
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when you start to realize that like that
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one tree there doesn't need to be there
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and I can move over here and I can
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zigzag and I can get away from all this
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stuff and all a sudden it just opens up
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to this path that you've been looking
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for all along so guys I hope that that
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resonates I mean listen I got a
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newsletter that I am trying to grow
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that's one of my that that is one of my
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focuses right there that's part of it
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you know I have books that I trying to
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wrap up so it it is all this is the
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focus of so I want to grow this
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newsletter so I have an I have an ask if
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you know two people that can benefit
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from this forward this podcast to them
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are you somebody that focuses on too
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many things drop a comment on there go
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over my website jason.com sign up for my
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newsletter like help me grow this hope
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thing um I don't want to be a guru I
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want to help you through by seeing
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yourself through my story and help you
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overcome yourself while I overcome
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myself and uh yeah so hey have a good
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day you're doing a good job being human
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keep doing it life is difficult and uh
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nobody said it was going to be easy but
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stop focusing on all this other crap and
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focus on the one thing and I think what
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you're going to find is your life's
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going to open up to pretty amazing
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things hope this helps all
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