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hey guys welcome back to the Beyond hope
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project my name is Jason Tharp the
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champion of Hope and I have a good
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episode in here and before we get
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started first off I just want to get
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some thank you out of the way I want to
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thank you for showing up today I want to
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thank you for listening to this um I
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guarantee that there's going to be
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something in here that's going to be
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relatable like always I really want to
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encourage you to hear my story not from
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somebody that is trying to explain
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something to you but uh as if you're
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hearing yourself in my story that's
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really kind of the goal of all of that
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and if you know two people that know two
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people that's all I'm asking you for is
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to share this with at least two people
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um because what we're going to do is
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we're on a mission to spread hope we're
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on a mission to help people see that
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they're not alone to see that the path
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is in front of them and show them the
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path so they can get started and as you
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go down that path you might fail but
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you're not failing you're learning and
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that's what this is all about and that
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is a perfect segue into what we're
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talking about today um I wanted to talk
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about this idea of this it factor and
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how we always hear when we're trying to
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do something is people will say you'll
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see it a lot of times on these singing
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shows or these talent shows or whatever
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where they're like you have the it
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factor and I'm not exactly sure what
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that means um but I have been told that
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from a lot of people that when I speak
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that I have the IT thing or what
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whatever and so I spent a lot of time
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trying to dig through that a lot of it
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was based on just a personal experience
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lately where I was asked to do something
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that was um with a much bigger client
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company than um I usually do I guess and
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it felt a little a little impostor
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syndrome I guess would might be the way
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best way to do it but I started to
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analyze that stuff and start to figure
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out like what all that meant and really
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what I came to the conclusion that came
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to and I wrote it down here so that way
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I could make sure that I summed it up
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the right way uh because usually I do
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just kind of flow but this one I felt
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like I needed to write down just so I
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can make sure I get it right but you're
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going to inspire people by just showing
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up and being
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yourself it's going to be surprising
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especially because when you're standing
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up there and you're doing these things
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you think that you don't have quote
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unquote it but really what you're doing
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is you're showing people the authentic
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side of of life you're really giving a
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bridge to those people that are
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struggling through life to be seen I
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think a lot of times what we're doing is
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we're going through life thinking that
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you know people aren't going to
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understand the stuff I'm going through
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this all seems way too overwhelming my
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job is just pulling me in a thousand
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directions my home life is Wild on top
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of it you know I got a big old commute
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to the office and the world seems more
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divided than ever before and it just all
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seems to be just snowballing and a lot
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of times I think we could feel like the
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wor stuck in a Looney Tunes cartoon
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where we're just running from that
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snowball waiting for it to plow us over
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and then when somebody shows up in front
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of us and just is them is themselves are
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themselves you you're kind of Blown Away
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by it because I think a lot of times
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what it is is that people just are
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shocked by somebody that's not coming in
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with an agenda you know when I show up
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in this or any other thing that you may
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me see me speak at I'm not coming with
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some preconceived notion I do have an
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intention my intention is always to
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provide a power up and how I divide how
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I Define that power up is the ability to
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turn your attention towards your
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intention I want to help you figure out
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a way to turn the attention to what
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you're trying to
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do into that instead of shying away from
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how can we take your your attention and
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focus on is the are the things that I'm
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doing right now in alignment with the
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things that I intend to do and if not
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how can we adjust those things instead
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of like worrying about some sort of past
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memory because they're always going to
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be kind of there hanging out right and
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we're trying to predict the future based
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off of those leftover Parts instead
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being able to be in the present moment
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asking asking
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ourselves is it possible that I'm doing
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everything I can to get toward my
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intented goal that is what I set out to
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do when I'm speaking whether it's this
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or anything else or if I'm writing a
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post on social media or if I'm posting
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something on any Tik Tok or Instagram uh
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just trying to put good in the world and
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that is is really kind of all that my
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goal is is that it hopefully finds
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somebody and that was kind of surprising
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to me if I'm being honest uh that people
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react to it
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because really what it is for me
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personally is it feels a lot like some
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sort of weird therapeutic thing where
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I'm kind of healing myself and putting
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out the things that I wish that somebody
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would have told me when I was struggling
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the most and I guess what I kind of
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quietly do um is send everything out
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with this almost like little blessing
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you know that says I hope this finds the
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right person who needs to hear this when
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they need to hear it um because we're
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all going through these storms and we're
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all going through these battles and
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everybody's battle is different it's
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easy for us to want to write somebody
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off or forget them or
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whatever but that isn't necessarily the
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best way to go about everything I think
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what is the best way is to have a little
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Grace for everybody understanding that
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we're all kind of going through stuff
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and when we can show up and just be us
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you're going to be amazed people are
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actually inspired by that um I was I was
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amazed by that because I really didn't
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know that what I was doing was actually
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that important and not in an ego sense
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um but just from a point of drawn a
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boundary with what I'm willing to accept
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for myself and to step into that world
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of this is what I want to share now
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because it not only makes me feel better
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but I'm hoping that it might help
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somebody else as they're going through
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their stuff and and what has happened
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since doing that has been these these
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gate openings of people that have come
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to me and said like wow like I didn't
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know or you know I've had people come up
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to me and get really mad at me in a
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funny way it wasn't really they were
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seriously mad at me but like that I made
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them feel so much um because they've
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built up walls I think all of us have
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done that recently is we built up these
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walls in what it is is just truly being
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authentic with people understanding that
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everybody's going through stuff if you
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can share your story in a way that shows
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somebody else that they're seen and that
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you are available as a beacon for
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somebody else to see that the path is
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there we just have to step towards that
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path and understand that along this path
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it's going to be hard you know if we
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were to go out into any sort of place
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and say that there's this mountain or or
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some sort of obstacle and you got to get
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over it as fast as you can but you have
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no clue of how to start it's a really
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lonely thing because it's confusing
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you'll just sit there and look at this
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thing and you'll be baffled by like what
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do I do to get over that but then if
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some all of a sudden along the path
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somebody comes that says like oh yeah
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I've seen something like this and you
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know this kind of is what I did and
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hopefully in that thing that I'm
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explaining to you of how I got over this
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obstacle you'll start to see yourself in
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that story which is going to involve you
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being a little creative and a little bit
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of you shutting down those past things
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that you're hanging on to instead of
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like thinking that you can't have a
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vision of a future for yourself you
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because you're living in a past that's
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completely predictable and then taking
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those predictions that are based off of
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things that are probably not true
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anymore and you're trying to project
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onto a future that isn't here either
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you're missing everything that you need
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that's right in this moment to kind of
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get over that part you know so the real
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it factor is that simply being
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you understanding that you are a unique
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creator that your experience is uniquely
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yours but there are lots of people that
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could use your story to help them get
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through what is the biggest thing for
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them right
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now and while your big thing and my big
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thing might be completely different what
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is in that is that shared pain or Joy or
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sadness or any of those other emotions
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that we all have at those moments as
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we're trying to climb out of or through
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something that will help other people
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get over that that hurdle and so what I
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would encourage you to do is maybe you
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are somebody that wants to lead in a
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heart heartfelt matter you want to be a
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part of service to other people it's to
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not be afraid to do that there are no
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answers out there that are going to tell
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you how to do it what I have found is
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that most of the time the things that
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have worked out the best for me was when
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I stopped trying to do what everybody
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else told me I should be doing and I
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started doing what I felt was the right
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thing to do and that really came back to
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what was my value that I wanted to put
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out in the world what did authenticity
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look like to me how do I give myself the
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grace and forgiveness when I'm not
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living up to those or I've let myself
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down in the past to learn to forgive
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myself for past mistakes to understand
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that I can't keep holding on to all this
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stuff and think that I'm building a
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future of where I want to go and getting
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clear on my intention and putting my
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attention towards that and starting to
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move each time and becoming aware of am
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I doing the things right now to move
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towards that and if I'm not how can I be
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more openhearted to myself to allow
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myself the space to learn the lesson and
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then when that when that fail quote
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unquote fail happens to persist enough
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to pick up the next day and reset the
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next day and then when those all come
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together I'm going to feel pretty
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empowered as I start to feel empowered
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that intention can grow and it can
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continue to move because time is moving
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whether we like it or not and just
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getting to your dreams you know is a
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great thing but if you don't if you get
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to your dreams and you don't deal with
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all of those things don't think that
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those things don't follow you too you
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can be in this dream world but still
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surrounded by all kinds of nightmares if
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you don't address the big thing in the
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room which is how can I show up the best
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for myself how can I have the it factor
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for myself and those things start to
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come together when you realize that your
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story matters that you matter that
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everything that you're going through
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everybody else has that shared thing and
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they're going to have their own opinion
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about it and some people are going to
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want to tear you down but that's not
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about you that's about them and yeah
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you'll find your people and it may take
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a lot of
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tries but it you keep showing up for
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yourself you'll start building that
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future out that all along you've been
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looking for and it's pretty amazing when
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that starts to happen because it's more
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than likely not going to be all the work
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that you've projected for yourself that
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it's supposed to be I'm not saying it's
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gonna be easy but what I mean is it's
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not going to be the allnighters and all
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those things that you think the hustle
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your faces off the The Grind till you
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can't stand it all of those things it's
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not going to be surrounded by all that
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stuff most of the time it's just
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surrounded by just you stepping into the
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stuff you're afraid to share thinking
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that nobody's going to understand but
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that is what the it factor is because
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like I've said many times on here and
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maybe you need to hear this one more
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time there is only one person in this
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world that can do the thing that you can
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do in the exact way you can and that is
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you everybody else wants to tell you
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what you should be doing but they're
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speaking from their expert role of
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knowing themselves not their world world
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of knowing who you are you're the only
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one that knows what's going on inside
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your head and who and what you are and
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what you can bring to this world if you
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can be brave enough to bring that it to
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the the world I believe that you're
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going to find lots of other people that
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are going to be attracted to that and
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the beauty of it is is that they've been
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there all this whole time and um waiting
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for you to see exactly what they have
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been seeing and they're going to be the
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foundation people and they're going to
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be the people that have been there and
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you're going to be amazed and it will be
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amazing to see you come to life as you
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start to believe in yourself and you
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find Hope and you get that spark to move
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and you find that path and then go go
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along that path and be brave enough to
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fail and once you fail realize that you
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didn't actually fail you've been
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learning and this is your new starting
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point to pick it back up and move
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forward with it and this is what life is
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it's constantly showing up for yourself
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so that is the it factor and I hope that
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you find it for yourself because it does
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exist so guys as we wrap this up again
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if you know two people if you got
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anything out of this share this with
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somebody this is how this is going to
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grow we need your help we appreciate you
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putting these together isn't easy we're
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all working hard over here to make sure
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that these all sound good look good and
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are hitting the right notes so if you
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could just share this with other people
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and uh one last thing before we go life
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is tough and being a human isn't easy
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but you're doing a great job just keep
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doing what you're doing showing up for
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yourself bringing your it factor to
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today because your it factor is going to
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make somebody else find theirs hope this
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helps power up
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