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hey guys welcome back to the Beyond hope
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project my name is Jason Tharp the
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champion of Hope and I have a very short
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one for you today that you can refer
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back to often so whatever it is you
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listen this listen to these on uh hit
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that favorite button bookmark it set it
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to repeat because I want this to just
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provide a power up and it's meant for
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those days that you're having those
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moments where you feel completely
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invisible and I just want to say before
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we get started that you know how much I
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appreciate you showing up listening to
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this and supporting what we're doing and
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ask a favor if you know two people that
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know two people um share this with
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somebody share this with at least two
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people that's all I'm asking if you've
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picked up anything along the way on this
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listen to this podcast just share with
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two people and with that let's let's
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Jump Right In again like I said I think
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you uh are going to enjoy enjoy this one
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because what I really intend to do with
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this is just to provide you with just a
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little boost it's something that you can
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refer back to if you're having a down
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day or if you're feeling a little bit
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lost
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and to give context I remember when I
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was diagnosed and when the doctor came
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in and they were very blunt with me in a
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very quick within a few minutes of
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knowing me telling me I was going to be
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dead in seven
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months in that Rush of the feelings
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um what it felt like was all of a sudden
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like I was a kid again and everybody
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tell me all the reasons why I wasn't
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going to be able to do all the things I
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wanted to do it was somebody making a
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prediction on my life and for the first
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time in a long time I felt really really
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invisible it was easy when I was a kid
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because I could kind of get sucked into
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uh my sketchbooks I can get lost in
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creating stuff because that was my world
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I was able to control that but this
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world is different and this world I have
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responsibilities and I have other
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obligations that I needed to live up to
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so feeling invisible as an adult was was
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was weird um I felt invisible before but
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not to this level and most of the
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invisibility I felt when I was adult was
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more internalized it was a lot of
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self-inflicted
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invisibility um whereas this one it felt
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like I was invisible to the world like
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nobody can understand what this feels
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like nobody can understand how this is
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taking over everything and it felt
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incredibly lonely and maybe you're going
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through that right now maybe right now
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something is happening in your world
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where you feel that nobody understands
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anything that I'm going through and
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there's no way that people can possi
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relate to me right now and everywhere
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you look it looks like everybody's just
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putting their hand on your head and
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trying to push you down and when all you
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want to do is fight for that breath of
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air to get just a little reprieve from
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this noise because it's loud and it's
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obnoxious and I just want everybody to
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leave me
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alone this part
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sucks and while there's no magic pill
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that's going to help you feel visible
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again what I have found that has worked
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well for me was understanding that I'm
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not as long as I thought I was and that
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by sharing the stuff that I'm going
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through I will find that there are other
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people out there that are just like
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me for you it might be something to
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laugh at
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you know a good comedy show or maybe
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it's a scary movie or maybe it's a walk
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in the woods maybe it's creating
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something maybe it's going out and just
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yelling out to the
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air allow yourself to do those things
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don't do what I did which was bottle it
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all up I would pressure it down I'd push
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it down until this diagnosis came all of
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a sudden I was being choked out it was
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like anxiety just rolled up into my
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throat and it was like a giant that had
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their hand around my throat and it just
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kept squeezing every time that all I
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wanted to do was somebody just to say
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it'll be
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okay wasn't like I needed somebody to
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say here's the magic thing that'll fix
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it all I just wanted somebody to say
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it'll be okay you're not
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alone and maybe share something with me
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in
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that
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and it did finally happen for me um it
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took a few days for it to happen but it
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was amazing once I started to realize
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that like wow I'm not as invisible as I
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feel the anxiety subsided I was able to
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start to look at the world in a
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different way and I think for the first
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time this is where hope really showed up
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for me it was where I started to
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understand maybe my purpose is a little
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different maybe how I can start stepping
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into this is having these vulnerable
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moments with other people to be able to
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share what is and does go through my
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head quite often and not being so afraid
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to feel invisible anymore because what I
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have found is and when I'm feeling
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invisible the more I can kind of share
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that the more I actually feel that I'm
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seen
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and the the crazy part for me was that
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people appreciate that and that was that
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was new that feeling of letting
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something out that I had been afraid to
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show
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everybody but realizing that people
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appreciate
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that I I didn't know that was a
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possibility and
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so I would encourage
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you if you are one of those people right
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now that are feeling pretty invisible
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and you're feeling
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Alone um to to not be afraid to share to
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not be able to afraid to to reach out to
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other people to see that video or that
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real online or somebody's post that
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inspires you and not to be afraid to
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reach out you know I think that in your
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boldness you'll find a lot of healing
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taking bold steps to actively change
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your intention away from being invisible
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into feeling visible will open doors
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that you think are closed but they're
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actually open and it's really going to
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come down to you being brave enough to
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step into it we use hope a lot of times
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on here and it's about being hyper aware
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how am I thinking how am I feeling right
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now in this moment am I living in a past
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made up of past memories that I'm trying
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to hang on to or trying to predict a
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future that doesn't exist instead being
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present in this moment being hyper aware
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of how I'm feeling what am I thinking am
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I living off of some sort of past
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leftovers you're openhearted enough to
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love yourself to do the hard stuff you
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know breaking that pattern of
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invisibility does require you to take
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bold action on yourself you know whether
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it's writing in a journal or talking to
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somebody or whatever it is I don't know
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what it is for you for me it's always
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been making stuff creating something you
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know making a world up and all those
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things like that that makes me feel like
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I'm seeing because what I'm actually
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doing in that process is I'm taking out
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of my head and putting in real life so I
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can see the Monster isn't as big as I've
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brought it up to be and then understand
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through persistence that every day is a
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reset I might have had a really crappy
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day today but that doesn't mean that
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tomorrow has to be crappy what I could
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do is I I can reflect on what today was
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like through my hyper and Su being open
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hard enough I can understand that
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tomorrow I get to redo what did I learn
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today that I can bring into my next day
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to reset this and start the new and
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process each day and knowing that each
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day it may not be easier tomorrow but I
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am taking one step closer to it becoming
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easier and the last is you're empowered
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when all those things come together
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you're going to feel pretty empowered
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you're going to start to appreciate
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yourself differently you're going to
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start to understand your values your
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morals your your what I'm willing to
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accept for myself my authenticity all of
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these things that you right now because
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we're invisible feel is worthless you're
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going to find you are worthy of all of
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those things and that through that
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process you're going to find that
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there's lots of people out there that
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are just like you and the crazy thing
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will happen is once you start to do
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these things is that the whole time you
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thought you were invisible and you start
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to share these things and you start to
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embrace who you are and allow yourself
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to
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evolve that you weren't invisible at all
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that people have been paying attention
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and actually have been inspired by you
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just by you simply being
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you and that will blow your mind because
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I know it did mine so guys as I wrap
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this up I just want to uh just tell you
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that how much I appreciate you showing
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up today I appreciate you being in this
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world with me I appreciate how much you
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persist at showing up and being the best
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you you can possibly be today not afraid
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of being good in pursuit of being great
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because a lot of times your good is
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better than most people's whatever
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definition of great is and this requires
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you just to show up and I appreciate you
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for doing that and if you do know
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somebody that needs to hear this message
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make sure you share it I'm looking for
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two people that may know two people
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that's all I'm asking and make sure you
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go in there rate review put this on
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repeat listen to it again go back and
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any days that you're feeling
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alone you know know that you're not
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alone find me on social media if you
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need somebody to reach out to reach out
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to me um I'm happy to uh help point you
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in that direction but guys uh thank you
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for showing up today thank you for being
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in this world with me being a human
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isn't easy and you're doing a great job
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just one little step at a time and you
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are getting closer to finding yourself
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than you
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realize hope this helps power up
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