The Loyal & Assertive Podcast
The Loyal & Assertive Podcast
#8: Simply a Mess! (Unresolved Issues and Patti LaBelle's Tina Turner Tribute)
What if a simple conversation could save your relationship? This episode promises to equip listeners with strategies to address past offenses and build intimacy in any type of relationship. We delve into the importance of self-reflection and how to broach sensitive topics with grace and patience, ensuring a safe space for open, honest communication. We discuss the dangers of unresolved issues and how they can breed resentment, damaging relationships over time.
Then, switching gears, we reflect on Patti LaBelle's legendary career and recent performance struggles during her tribute to Tina Turner. We discuss the challenges performers face, especially as they age, and the importance of preparation and teamwork. Despite the hiccups, we celebrate Patti LaBelle's resilience, grace under pressure, and her remarkable talent. Tune in for an insightful discussion about relationships, personal growth, and the world of entertainment.
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Speaker 2:What's up everybody, welcome back to the lawyer in the Everybody. Welcome back to the lawyer and a certain podcast. My name is Jane and I'm Megan. They are radio and Brandon and with y'all. With who? Oh Yes, they are, make sure you check them out. But today we're actually gonna hop right in Ray, ahead something that she wants to have a conversation. I do, okay, so I have a question.
Speaker 1:Let me pull it up. This is a conversation I had with Brandon the other day and I was like why don't we share? So this is a scenario. Okay, All right so let's say a husband does something that unknowingly offenses wife, but she brushes it off as if it's not a big deal. You know it's not a big deal Whatever, but every so often the thought keeps creeping back into her head Like it.
Speaker 1:Just you know, i'm saying so. What does she do? does she and this is like months after right Does she initiate a conversation like, hey, you did such and such?
Speaker 1:Hmm and it offended me. I'm sorry. Then ran up, or does she try to brush it off herself, like this has been three, four months? whatever the case may be, she tried to brush it off. It wasn't a big deal, but it did offend her. Should she bring it up because it's still something that she thinks about, or should she just try to find a way to let it go?
Speaker 2:So I'ma say bring it up me too. I think How she brings it up matters Mm-hmm, but I would say, bring it up, because I think that Sometimes I mean let's just be on in any relationship, but I think more more specifically in a spouse relationship, there are things that your partner does to offend you that just often goes not talked about. Yeah, and I think that The things that you don't talk about can end up building resentment and bitterness.
Speaker 4:Those things that cause the divorce in my opinion.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and so I would say, yes, you bring it up now what that conversation is gonna look like that's the thing. I know you've been holding this thing for a couple months, so what we doing?
Speaker 4:No, but I think you bring it up, not in the heat of discussion, okay, or an argument like you actually set aside intentional time to bring it up and you acknowledge the time length. Hey, i know that it's been a while This has been weighing on me, but I do want to bring it up because it keeps surfacing.
Speaker 1:Yeah, i agree. So for me, i feel like a Person first needs to, like reflect why is this thing? That wasn't that we decide to brush off ourselves, because at the time we thought you know what it offended me, but it's not a big deal, it's not a big deal, i'm gonna brush it off. So, really, like, do the self-reflection first to figure out why is it bothering you. and if you can Resolve it within yourself, and fine. but if you can't, then, like you said, talk to your spouse and say, hey, you did this three months ago. whatever, i tried to brush it off, i did this self-reflection and I know why it's bothering me, because I feel like something that wasn't a big deal but still stings or whatever. it's probably rooted in something else.
Speaker 3:I think you also need to have patience with the other person. If you're bringing this up three months later, you gotta have patience. That that person's like are you kidding me? Are we really still?
Speaker 1:Especially if it wasn't a big deal.
Speaker 3:Right If it's not as much of a big deal while we're talking about it right now. But I think there's a two-way street. On one hand you gotta have patience that I realized that I didn't bring this up three months ago because I just kind of brushed it off. But at the same time you also have to understand that if you are on the receiving end, you have to kind of go okay. well, this is not a person that is trying to hide things from me. You know he or she actually did the work.
Speaker 3:I didn't think about the element of that He or she actually did try to do the work of forgetting about it, but they couldn't. So, as much as I might feel like yo, this is out of nowhere and we have been past this, i should probably have a little grace and kind of go okay. Well, because if it was me, i would want the patience to do like, hey, i'm not over it, i need to talk about it, you know.
Speaker 2:So Yeah, i think what you said is probably the bigger element is that I think, yeah, i want to broaden this.
Speaker 3:What you said, not what I said, wait, He said and and no what she said.
Speaker 4:I was like oh, welcome to smaller element, Wow Did.
Speaker 2:I say bigger element. You did. That's the one No. We want to take No, but I do think that I think and I want to broaden this a little bit because it could be people listening That's not couples.
Speaker 1:Exactly.
Speaker 2:Yep, they could be parents, they could be friends, they could be siblings, co -workers.
Speaker 1:Yes, absolutely.
Speaker 2:So I do think that I think that all of us I actually been thinking a lot about this lately, okay I think that all of us have things, little things that people do to irritate us, that we don't talk about, And I think that I think that oftentimes to your point when you said, like maybe you need to dig a little bit deeper and figure out what that thing is, that is like triggering you.
Speaker 2:Because, it can be something so simple as, like, megan is a fidgeter. You know what I'm saying And I don't want to be you. Just stop yo. It's getting on my nerves. Just do it. I just want you to stop. How dare you, Megan?
Speaker 4:Not that I was just fidgeting down below the table. Why?
Speaker 2:Make down below.
Speaker 4:On the phone. Okay, you said down below, just a hold up the pocket. No, no, you're like, it wasn't me, that's what you said Yes, man, No, but but no for real.
Speaker 2:I think that. I think that oftentimes it's like what is that thing and why is that thing bothering me, Man? why am I here and called one? so he said three, two, one, one, two, three. What the heck is bothering me? You No, but I do think that, Yeah, I think this is a. I think it's a valid conversation, because being able to kind of get to the heart of a matter is something that I think needs to happen at all times in conversations.
Speaker 1:Absolutely.
Speaker 2:Yes, this is kind of the surface level thing that we're talking about, but here's the thing that is behind it. So here's my question What happens if in the conversation, you are discovering the thing that's behind it and it's almost catastrophic, like, and you didn't realize, like the thing that she was thinking? Wow.
Speaker 3:I think there's two things up for this show. We're going to have to do a part two.
Speaker 2:No, just because you know, like you know, in conversations, sometimes it's like yo, i didn't even know that was a thing, and now it's like a thing that we really got to work through Right.
Speaker 4:But I think I think that's the purpose why you talk to whoever it is, whether it's your spouse or your friend or your coworker. That's the reason that you have that conversation with them. Sure, Do the work ahead of time. You know you're having the conversation. Even if you were resolved it with you, you should still have the conversation so that there can be a greater level of intimacy there to say, Hey, this is a trigger for me, or Hey, this reminds me of a past experience that I had, And I just need you to know up front that this is what you're encountering.
Speaker 1:Yeah, i think that it's important how and I think you said this it's important how you initiate the conversation, because if you say, look, i don't know why, i'm still upset about this very small thing that happened, and as you're talking, there is a like awakening to why. But I think if you start the conversation that way, then maybe there could be a little grace. Yeah, oh, i didn't know that. that was the reason why. you know what?
Speaker 1:I'm saying But if you just come up like guns blazing, like you did this, and five months ago. So I feel like it's important to I do agree with you guys. I think that you should never hold on to something that's bothering you. If it's something that you're like, oh, they did this, well, it's not a big deal, i'm going to go, but you can't Yeah, maybe you have to do the work to figure out why and then discuss it with the person and hope that there can be. Maybe it's not necessarily that it did something wrong, but it's something within you that is triggered or is hurt because of a past situation or whatever, and that needs to be talked out.
Speaker 2:My question is what do y'all think makes us hesitant about saying?
Speaker 4:Because vulnerability is uncomfortable. To say that something that you said or something that you did affected me means that I'm telling you that you have power over me for a great length of time.
Speaker 1:Yes, It's something that could be insignificant.
Speaker 4:Yes.
Speaker 1:But that thing is triggered because of something that happened in the past insecurity whatever, and then inviting them into the process of discovering why That's huge.
Speaker 1:Absolutely, but I feel like it's very important. I think this is something that a lot of couples I mean I know this is not just for couples, it's for any kind of relationship, but because Brandon and I deal with couples and marriages and stuff like that I think that a lot of couples allow time to go on where this hurts and then you dumb down your hurt And you allow time and time and there's resentment and bitterness And then all of a sudden you explode because you're not wise with. Let me just talk it out and figure it out, because maybe my spouse wants to help me through this.
Speaker 3:And you know why you can't do that? Because of the number one thing that a lot of couples have the shutdown factor. I mean, think about it. Somebody come at you with something from five months ago and it's like, and you kind of, at first you're kind of like whoa, what is it? And then you know what, you know what, yeah, whatever you say, got you.
Speaker 2:Understood. I want to shut down. I'm emotionally incoherent. Yeah, i agree with that. I think that it's interesting. I'm not generally on that side of things as the assortment on your inside Not generally, but I think, yeah, i'm thinking, and that's why I said general. I said general.
Speaker 3:I don't know. But I'm saying I think everybody has the capability truly to assess something and kind of just check out And be like you know what.
Speaker 2:I can't do this right now.
Speaker 3:Yeah, whatever you say.
Speaker 2:And then it's not genuine, and I've done that often with her. Yeah.
Speaker 3:You know what I mean. I don't know. I know that. I know that It's like yeah.
Speaker 2:People tend to look at me as somebody who likes to fight all the time, but that's not really true. There are times I enjoy it. It's fine, but for the moment.
Speaker 4:It's fine, it's fine.
Speaker 2:But I think for me I'm not the person. I don't want to fight with people I love. You know what I'm saying And so I'm just not into that. You know what I mean. If I have to, i will, but it's not something I'm pursuing. You know what I mean. I just want to look at one more angle of this conversation. What if you, because you posted of, like I've been holding this thing and this person doesn't know What, if you are the spouse or the friend or the sibling who knows this person has something against you that they're not saying? They like living life is normal, but you know like something about you. I hate that. Like what do you do? I think the question is like, what do you do in that situation?
Speaker 1:So I'm the kind of person I don't like confrontation, but I definitely run towards it because I can't live in that limbo. So if I know I was turned up one day and I probably said something that was a little too whatever and I offended Megan or something like that, i can't just live like that didn't happen. So I have to like, look, can we, how did you feel when I said that, like something like I have to bring it up because, especially if I'm doing life with this person best friends, marriage, work, companionship, whatever the case may be I can't live in that uncomfortable space because eventually it's gonna come out and I don't wanna deal with. I don't wanna be caught unaware or off guard.
Speaker 4:So I'm gonna walk towards it.
Speaker 1:I'm gonna be like in front of it. you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 4:Yeah, Yeah, i'm with you. I feel like the first thing that I have to do is say have I created an environment where that person can't feel comfortable enough to say that I've offended them? So the first thing I'm gonna do is ask those questions Hey, have I made a place here where you can't tell me what you honestly think, honestly feel? But I need to ask that to me before I can go to the other person.
Speaker 2:I don't know that I am. I post this question because I don't think I'm generally this person. I don't even know that. I'm always thinking about the fact that I may have offended somebody. You know what.
Speaker 1:I mean Like.
Speaker 2:I'm not No, I'm sorry. Not the co-signer, i was just agreeing with you, like basically you be offended if people are gonna sign you and be thinking nothing about it.
Speaker 1:No, i just feel like you're the type of person, like I said, what I said.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and I think that like. but here's what's interesting for me In those moments of I said what I said that don't be the stuff that offend people. It'd be stuff that like how did that offend you?
Speaker 4:That, like the stuff that people end up bringing to you. It's the tone of how you said something that you didn't even me bad.
Speaker 2:Yeah, i'm just like I don't know. Like now, if I was trying to be a butt then like you would know that, you would see, that you would understand that.
Speaker 1:And most people crazy are not offended by that. No, because it's just like whatever.
Speaker 4:I know, that's the obvious.
Speaker 2:It's just JB and J, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3:That's just JB. Why is he smoking? I don't know. That's just JB and J Like. Who's so cold you talking about? He fixed cars.
Speaker 2:Why you got fixed cars. Hold on but he fixed cars and he ain't got no LLC.
Speaker 3:He was like just bring it by after work. Ah, just bring it by after work, why?
Speaker 1:Lord JB and J.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you know, I just think for me, it's put me in some uncomfortable situations because, it's made me feel like well then, who can I be then? If I am, if I'm not intentionally trying to offend you and I'm just being who I am and I'm offending you, it just puts me in a world where I'm like what do I do Now? you?
Speaker 1:have to defend what you did and who you are.
Speaker 2:Yes, yes, and so it's like, and it's like who wants to do that, though?
Speaker 4:You know what?
Speaker 2:I'm saying So.
Speaker 4:But in our scenario you have to see that sometimes it's not you, It's not that you did something wrong, that's the thing. Most times I think most times I get offended because of prior experiences. That's it. It's a trigger to something that happened in my past that makes me upset.
Speaker 1:Yes, i think that in situations like that we can't always be quick to carry the weight of that. Yes, because I'm like, if you offended by that, i had nothing to do with me. You know what I'm saying. So I have to put it back on you to say but why did that offend you? I don't want you to be offended, but why did that offend you? Because of course you know I didn't mean that as an offense.
Speaker 1:You know what I'm saying, and I feel like a lot of people carry that weight, and then they feel like, oh, well then I can't be me, cause I'm living my life and being whatever And you offended by me just being me, and a lot of times you're not offensive. You know what I'm saying. It's just them being offended even though I'm not causing an offense.
Speaker 4:But I think that's where communication is so important is because, hey, i have these expectations. Now I can communicate to you to say, when you say this or when you do this, it is a trigger for me. So I'm laying out the expectation that you don't do this, or that you be mindful that when you do this, it's going to come off as offensive, whether you mean it or not, for sure.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and I think that for personally, i have these types of hours. We didn't really launch into the like they, loyal, we assertive type thing, but I think for personality types like ours, i think that there's tension in what you said, right? So if something is not mine to own and Megan is very good when I'm like talking about certain situations if somebody has an offense, if they feel offended by me, she's good to be like yo. This part is you, this part was not you. You know what I mean. Maybe none of this was you. I think for an assertive personality type, it is possible for you to not be wrong and still apologize.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's good, and what I mean is like you're not apologizing for doing something wrong. You're apologizing that you hurt somebody that you didn't mean to hurt.
Speaker 1:Absolutely, and then from there.
Speaker 2:I do think that it's a platform by which the person can then say, hey, here's the thing that I was really dealing with And, like you said, yo, what's the like? where's that coming from?
Speaker 4:And what?
Speaker 2:is this thing that you bring into the relationship, that you feel like I did, but really is something that's kind of living in you that got triggered.
Speaker 1:Yeah, absolutely, i feel like, especially if an assertive person comes off that way, it creates the space for a person to flush out why and how they were feeling that way and all that stuff. But if an assertive person come, like you know whatever, like they're not going to be free to like flush through maybe some of the trauma or some of the things. And, of course, to me in a relationship, in any kind of relationship, in a relationship, you should want to be able to be a help to the people.
Speaker 1:that you're around to create better space, And so if something that I did unknowingly unearthed something, then let me help you. I'm not. I don't want to create even more offense because I'm creating an environment where you feel like you can't share. You know what.
Speaker 3:I'm saying Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:What, brandon, is it your?
Speaker 4:fate. That's because he's like four times and like.
Speaker 3:No, no, no, no, no What?
Speaker 4:What You want to hear something.
Speaker 3:No, I was ready and moved on.
Speaker 2:Ha, wrap it up All right. So the moral to the story is if you have something that you need to say to somebody, say it, say it respectfully, if you think you know somebody that has something to say to you, ask them, fix And be done with it Yep.
Speaker 3:How do you spell that? What Ask them?
Speaker 2:Ask them AXEM.
Speaker 4:What AXEM?
Speaker 2:Ask them. Ask them. Okay. Moving on, we are going to watch Patty LaBelle As she honors Tina Turner.
Speaker 1:I can't wait This is amazing. We're going to see what happens.
Speaker 2:Okay, all right, brandon, can we make sure this is as she working? Yeah, like, here we go.
Speaker 1:She got her bitties out. You're coming to me. come to me waving wires She looks good, she does.
Speaker 4:Look at them legs.
Speaker 1:Got to have a leg.
Speaker 2:One thing Patty's going to do is get your legs. You hear me?
Speaker 1:What's Athena's going to do Wait, that's right.
Speaker 2:Oh, come on, She don't know these words. How about the same?
Speaker 4:Like what is happening. She turned around like I need help guys.
Speaker 3:Why is everybody standing there looking like oh?
Speaker 1:Oh no.
Speaker 4:She said I tried y'all.
Speaker 3:You didn't try.
Speaker 2:First off, did you hear that she didn't do?
Speaker 3:You did not try. Come on all Patty. You did not try.
Speaker 1:She let them background singers, do the work.
Speaker 3:Okay, she got to do one.
Speaker 4:She got to do that one.
Speaker 3:Wow, wow Okay.
Speaker 1:What She's behind the words She doesn't know the words.
Speaker 4:Where's her confidence monitor?
Speaker 3:Oh no, oh no.
Speaker 4:They laughing at her. Why do we do this?
Speaker 3:Why do we do this? I'm all y'all. She got to do that one.
Speaker 1:She still sounds good She do. This is comedy going This is comedy going, as she look good.
Speaker 3:This is comedy going. It really is Why I'm a parody one with Patty She said what if I can't see the words? I tried y'all. No, you did not. Now we all like are those the words?
Speaker 2:Yes, i mean. Here's the thing, though Patty's still going to give you some notes, listen.
Speaker 3:That's that me, plus Come on somebody. She going to make you forget that she forgot the words.
Speaker 1:Is that Yolanda And her daughter's name? Yolanda said.
Speaker 4:I know these words.
Speaker 2:What.
Speaker 3:Oh no, That's not true. What's?
Speaker 2:happening. That's not true. Oh, what's the actual thing?
Speaker 4:Because it's client.
Speaker 3:Yeah, that's what they did Oh they try to save Patty life.
Speaker 2:They like let's mess up in the video Technical difficulties.
Speaker 3:See, that's not true.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I know I know it's true.
Speaker 3:This is what it is Oh oh.
Speaker 1:She's like oh, She looks amazing.
Speaker 3:They did, somebody did unplug it. Somebody stay ready.
Speaker 4:So I can't fault her completely.
Speaker 1:Yeah, she's in her 70s.
Speaker 4:So no, but as somebody who works with lyrics for this stage, We know this that she needs her lyrics. Right. Which means if she felt confident enough to not get up there and know all the lyrics, then the person behind the scenes should have, like they don't have, sound check anything where she went.
Speaker 3:That's our saying. That's our saying You work behind the scenes? right, i do, i work behind the scenes. Yes, we have that in common.
Speaker 4:Right, that means somebody up there wasn't doing their job Correct. She knew that she was going to have the lyrics and she didn't.
Speaker 3:How many songs does she have to perform today?
Speaker 1:She's a husband You have one job.
Speaker 3:No, tina.
Speaker 4:Turner No, somebody needs to be fired.
Speaker 2:She's a thing. Somebody didn't have her lyrics. I'm going to get you these notes and I'm going to give up the stage. I'm sorry.
Speaker 3:You're simply the best. It was a freak. It was a Chevrolet Ford, it was a commercial. It was a big song She knew the hook.
Speaker 4:How old is the song? She knew the hook. I'm sorry.
Speaker 3:That was all that was on the commercial. Listen, no, i don't blame Patty, you ain't never lied. That is the verses would not have been this Exactly.
Speaker 4:She got the hook. The verses would not have been this. I don't blame Patty, i don't disagree.
Speaker 3:I just feel like, come on, you would leave your whole performance in the hands of another person.
Speaker 2:Now, that is a. Thing. As a professional that part is like a thing.
Speaker 3:So here's a little bit of the universe, the worldwide web song, not the worldwide web.
Speaker 4:She put her trust in somebody and they let her down.
Speaker 3:She outgores it in.
Speaker 2:there It was his, and now it belongs to Beyonce.
Speaker 3:No.
Speaker 2:So the backstory here is the teleprompter was on the floor and not on like a rafter Where she can see it. Huh.
Speaker 1:Did she know that before, when she came?
Speaker 3:for Sandra Probably.
Speaker 2:So when people stood up she could not see it.
Speaker 4:So where's her manager at telling her this? I'm sorry, i can't blame her. I don't disagree.
Speaker 1:I don't think that she would have gone through soundcheck and all the things, knowing the negatives, and not fixed it. Knowing her, she would have fixed it.
Speaker 3:My thing is, it's a team effort.
Speaker 2:But Patty also was like in an outperformance where my background singer.
Speaker 3:This is not new, that she's not ever heard, it wasn't just.
Speaker 2:That was a brief. Thank you, my lady.
Speaker 3:It wasn't just the fact that she couldn't see the teleprompter, it's also the fact that we are used to this whole like it's not just one song. It's like, i think, after she had a certain time she was like I'm checked out completely of everything. She didn't want to do it and I'll show up. But and it's like yo, but you still perform like Smokey Robinson, not doing that. He older than her.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 3:And I love Patty.
Speaker 1:But everybody got different struggles in their 70s.
Speaker 3:I'm just saying I don't want to make it through my 70s And she needed her little help.
Speaker 2:So here's what I will say. It's one song. She sounded good, though She sounded amazing. She came with the notes.
Speaker 3:Listen, i forgot. She forgot the lyrics when she hit that chord. Yeah, sounded good, though Forgot.
Speaker 2:Now the verse is Patty simply a mess. That's what that was. The verse is Patty.
Speaker 1:Look, she came, she looked good She did She sounded good. She was amazing, it's unfortunate.
Speaker 2:She owned the moment. She told them wish I could see the lyrics.
Speaker 1:Especially when I tried y'all. I did who almost stand in front of the prompter and are like, excuse me, person in the red.
Speaker 3:Can you do?
Speaker 4:that, but you saw her in the beginning. She looked back like she was telling them there's something wrong. So who back there didn't go and fix it? That's true too. I'm sorry There have been times where I'm on the lyrics and you're like Megan, I don't know this song, So you need to be on them.
Speaker 1:What you saying.
Speaker 4:Just saying But what.
Speaker 3:I'm not going to do is get on stage and have you listen to the song today.
Speaker 4:She's so commercial, she's all the commercial.
Speaker 3:If you listen to it. Today, did you just Amazon music today? Did you pull it up and just listen to it once.
Speaker 1:Everybody has perfect memory.
Speaker 3:It's not about perfect memories, at least getting into their sister. It's one performance When you on stage and letting nobody make me no fault.
Speaker 1:It doesn't matter. There's times where I practice all week long, but it's the adrenaline.
Speaker 3:But you just said it, you practiced all week long.
Speaker 4:We don't know that she didn't. We know that she didn't. No, we don't know.
Speaker 2:We don't know. She is in her Come on yo.
Speaker 4:She might not have taken her gink a below, but what is it called Wow?
Speaker 3:Y'all just saw that.
Speaker 1:She didn't miss a line, she missed all Brandon.
Speaker 3:Y'all really think she rehearsed all week, brandon, all week She rehearsed.
Speaker 4:OK.
Speaker 1:I need you to stop and bring it down. Stop sipping your tea And here's the thing It's what You don't know, that a 7D year old person.
Speaker 3:So that's it. How old is she? Let's find out.
Speaker 2:I'm a luck, go ahead, you can come through.
Speaker 1:Alexa, how old is Patty LaBele? Wait, are you going to?
Speaker 3:answer this Alexa listen to me You don't know how with her age 79.
Speaker 1:Please, sotp, i mean S-T-O-P, wait, s-o-t-p. S-t-o-p. Brandon, you cannot say that. She was like, look, i have a memory problem, like she could say it, like everybody is not No, no, no, wait, wow, that's her assertive coming out. Stop it. No, no, no.
Speaker 1:You can't say she could have rehearsed, she could have rehearsed. She could have rehearsed. No one is perfect, so she could say look, i have a deficit. I need when the adrenaline is going, the lights is going, the people are there. I'm going to lose my space. I need the lyrics. You don't know.
Speaker 3:I am not blaming any one party.
Speaker 1:So you can't say she didn't know, you can't say she didn't rehearse.
Speaker 3:I didn't say she didn't rehearse.
Speaker 4:I'm sorry. You said she didn't rehearse, you said it.
Speaker 3:I rehearsed. Please, it was That's fine. That's fine, i'll say it.
Speaker 1:It is a collaborative. I don't believe you. You don't know.
Speaker 4:But she was on all of her cues.
Speaker 1:That's what I'm trying to say. So how are you on?
Speaker 4:all of your cues if you didn't rehearse. She knew the song, she didn't know a little bit of the words.
Speaker 1:She just needed help with the lyrics And a 79-year-old should have access to lyrics When she turned around and looked and that look said I need help.
Speaker 4:They should have gone out there and helped.
Speaker 3:Here's the reality.
Speaker 1:Health is 79-year-old.
Speaker 3:Here's the reality Tell us She still got a check. She did So at the end of the day But she's been drawn on the internet And she did amazing.
Speaker 4:She did an amazing job, but she don't care, she don't.
Speaker 3:I really don't think she cares. I really don't.
Speaker 1:She was up there with her smile face doing her thing like a grace.
Speaker 2:Face beat. What was the song? Lil Wigg Jay, what was?
Speaker 3:the song, the Christmas song. She didn't remember I don't know. You remember what I'm talking about. Yeah, i know, you know what I'm talking about, Which is like where my background sink is.
Speaker 1:It's right here, i'm not putting that on.
Speaker 3:She knows she need background sinkers, but she don't know the lyrics. I can't do it.
Speaker 1:She want things to be perfect.
Speaker 2:Nevertheless, Patty, you sung the song.
Speaker 3:You did your thing And we all love you. Oh, my god, you had your pumps on. You know what I'm saying. Listen, she did.
Speaker 1:She has dress Legs glistenin'. She did not look. 79. No.
Speaker 4:She's a great dancer.
Speaker 3:You know it's a shock with somebody 79 when you look it up and you go, yeah, right, yeah, and don't be all inspired to that.
Speaker 2:If I could look like that at 49.
Speaker 4:If I could style like that at 42.
Speaker 2:Listen. Yeah, i agree, patty, you did your thing. Yes, it was comical. Yes, we laughed, we debated, still relevant.
Speaker 3:But I'm going to get him to say his name and we talking about you. Yes.
Speaker 2:Right, he am saying You winning All right. So. I don't know, i think we'll say often Nevertheless, guys, thank you so much for joining us. I hope you enjoyed it, we had serious, we had reaction, we had fun. Yes, until next time, thank. Bye.