Ep. 46 - The Art of the Blow Job

Oral sex is an important part of intimate relationships. Men love receiving blow jobs, but their partners aren't always on board. This episode teaches you the art of the blowjob. How can you make a blow job more pleasurable for him? How can you incorporate all his senses and yours? How can you actually enjoy giving a blow job yourself? Can oral sex lower blood pressure?! Do you want to blow his mind? Do you want your partner to blow your mind? Tune in now.

I am joined by Jordyn Hakes, the host of the podcast The Horny Housewife, on this episode.

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Ep. 46 - The Art of the Blow Job

Dr. Sex Fairy Podcast

Host: Dr. Kanwal Bawa | Guest: Jordyn Hakes | Runtime: 31:16 | Published: October 18, 2022

[00:12] Introduction: The Art of the Blow Job

Dr. Bawa: Welcome to another episode of Dr. Sex Fairy. I am Dr. Kanwal Bawa, America's favorite sex doctor, and I am here to transform your life. Today we are going to talk about the art of the blowjob. Whether you are giving a blowjob or receiving one, this episode is for you. This is the perfect episode to share with your partner. You will be giving them and yourself the gift of pleasure. And while you're at it, share it with your friends too. Great blowjobs for everyone. The world will be a happier place.

We are going to discuss an article about blowjobs that was published in Cosmopolitan Magazine. Before we get started, make sure you follow me here so that you never miss a Dr. Sex Fairy podcast episode. And please support this podcast and me by leaving a five-star review. Without further ado, let me introduce our guest today.

Jordyn: Hello, thank you for having me.

Dr. Bawa: Thank you so much for being here, my friend. So tell me, in your opinion, what constitutes the perfect blowjob?

[01:28] Enthusiasm and Being Present

Jordyn: In my opinion, and I think men would agree because I've polled them more than once. I would think it would be enthusiasm. Because I think girls do it. There are girls that oblige and they go, Oh, I know my man needs this, so I'm gonna give him head. And I believe, or what I've heard, is that men can tell, you can feel that feeling, the energy of when she's not into it and she's just doing it to do it.

And when there's enthusiasm, even if you're not like the most skilled or you don't like deep throating it, you're not trying to be like animalistic, if you can, good for you. But if you're enthusiastic and you're eager and you're giving the blowjob with a cheerful heart, I think it's received well.

Dr. Bawa: Agreed 100%. I think enthusiasm is highly underrated. You've got to be into it before, you know, I can help you medically, you've got to be into it at least emotionally or psychologically, because I always say that your biggest sex organ is really your brain. That's the most important one. The rest I can help, but the brain, you know, that's on you.

Jordyn: It's a mental thing. And it's like anxiety in the bedroom at any point is just a big turnoff. It sucks. It takes away from being present, whether it's sex or oral sex, and really can take away from pleasure ultimately. And I think it's the same for women.

Dr. Bawa: If a man's going down on a woman, if he doesn't seem like he's into it, it's not as pleasurable for the woman either. It's the same thing.

[03:06] Porn Is Entertainment, Not Education

Jordyn: Yeah, and then you're both in your head, and then it's kind of awkward. And I feel like with blowjobs, I know it can be intimidating for some girls because porn can be a sex teacher that maybe we shouldn't have being our sex teacher sometimes. And you get in this idea, this you get it in your head that's what it has to look like, and that is not the truth whatsoever.

And I think this article pointed out a lot of great things, such as communication and talking about what your partner likes, because what one guy likes for his member, another man may not prefer.

Dr. Bawa: Absolutely. And I agree with what you said. I have a friend, he is one of the world's leading sex therapists. His name is Dr. Caleb Jacobson, and he's a published author, and you know, he always says that when it comes to porn, it should be seen as sex entertainment, not sex education.

Jordyn: Correct.

Dr. Bawa: I completely agree. So what about setting the mood for the right blowjob? How do you how do you think our listeners should do that?

[04:16] Setting the Mood and Communicating

Jordyn: Well, I think that for I know there's the stigma that women can be more emotional about it, which is true and sometimes and sometimes it's not. I think just like with sex, sometimes there's a great time for a quickie, and sometimes you want to make love or you want an erotic play date of sorts where you lock yourself in your room and it's a whole experience. I think it's an energy if you feel like it's a great foreplay. Giving oral sex is great foreplay. I think you can do it anywhere.

And I think especially if you're married and you're a parent and you have kids, sometimes you have to get creative with when and where. I think setting the mood, I think communicating, I think it can be arousing to talk about it. Like it can be arousing to talk about what someone likes, what they don't like, how they like to be touched. And something the article mentioned, like not just going straight to the member with your mouth.

You can lead up by kissing their thighs or making out or touching around them, or find out if they like their G spot stimulated. So I'm going all over the place now, covering a lot of topics, but I know it's a great time when you're communicating to find out what spots you can touch and what spots they don't want you to touch.

[05:40] Different Bodies, Different Preferences

Dr. Bawa: Yes, because some spots that one partner loves, the other one may be completely immune to. Like they just it doesn't do it for them. Like some women, yeah, like nipple orgasms. some women are highly, highly orgasmic if you are to stimulate their nipples, and some are like, hmm, okay. Especially ones that have had breast implants or some kind of breast surgery. you know, that is not sensitive anymore, if at all. I don't feel it at all.

Jordyn: You don't feel it at all.

Dr. Bawa: So it's not gonna do it. You can keep wasting your time there, it's not doing it for them. So that has to be that it looks good.

Jordyn: You're like, it looks nice seeing you do that to me, but I don't feel it at all, right?

Dr. Bawa: Yes, for some women.

Jordyn: Yeah, so focus your attention elsewhere. And also to the same thing I just said about men maybe not liking something. Same for the woman, the woman down there performing oral sex on a man. There are some girls that they do not mind if the man, her husband, her boyfriend, her partner takes her head and pushes down, and maybe that excites them. Maybe they're into that sort of energy. And another girl might come up and slap you across the face. Yeah. So I think you have to communicate with like how far can you go?

Because there's all kinds of, you don't have to be in the position of just in between his legs and him sitting on the couch.

[07:00] Comfort, Positioning and 69

Dr. Bawa: Yeah.

Jordyn: There's all kinds of ways we could go about this. And you have to communicate like how far can we go, how aggressive can we get. That's important.

Dr. Bawa: Comfort is important. And whether it's putting a cushion under your knees, if you are on your knees, or if it's making sure you're comfortable and not hurting your back and straining as you do it, positioning is important because if you're uncomfortable, you can't be into it.

Jordyn: Yeah, no way. That's why some people love 69, and then other people they find that they're not able to be really present for 69.

Dr. Bawa: Yeah, and when it comes to oral sex, it can be so uncomfortable in the beginning of a relationship anyway. I think communication, like you said, is important. Comfort is important. and when it comes to blowjobs, I think it takes the pressure out of, you know, the pressure away from the couple when it comes to, you know, intercourse. So it can be more of a fun thing. It doesn't have to always lead to intercourse. It's more of an adjunct, I think, to, you know, what we consider more traditional sex.

[08:02] Pleasure Without Orgasm

Jordyn: Yeah, no, totally. I completely agree. And sometimes you're just in the mood for something different instead of doing the same thing every single time. I was reading in that article about how it doesn't always lead to climax, which for sex, like sometimes sex doesn't always lead to climax and it can be thoroughly enjoyed. Like I can have really great sex, and I didn't climax that time, and it had nothing to do with my partner. It had everything to do with me and my mental load or whatever.

And I, when I was reading this article, I did have a question pop up for you as a doctor because I wanted to know is this true? Is this a myth? I talked to a woman who said she experienced orgasm, she experienced an orgasm when she gives oral sex in her throat.

[08:50] Throat Orgasms and Deep Throating

Dr. Bawa: You know, I don't believe that. They talk about this. I just like what is I hear so much stuff, but there's a point when it's getting ridiculous. The reason they say that is because technically you're stimulating the vagus nerve. Okay. I think that's bullshit. How excuse my terminology there, but really. Come on. How deep do you have to go to be stimulating the vagus nerve? I mean, at that point, you would be vomiting, in my opinion. So I'm not convinced. I've heard about it.

Jordyn: Because it's way down there, isn't it?

Dr. Bawa: Yes,

I've heard about it. I'm not convinced. It's like, you know, the other, you know, stuff you hear from the tantric, you know, people about sex and sexuality. I don't agree with much of it. I think this is right up there with it when they talk about throat orgasms. Because I think they're trying to get women to want to do them more, to make it more about the woman, and hey, it's gonna please you. And oh, did you know you can climax from this? No. I understand the whole nipple orgasm thing.

I understand other parts of your body and orgasm. But think about this from a physical point of view. You're going deep down in the throat. I mean, how could that possibly be pleasurable?

Jordyn: Right.

[10:02] Tongue, Hands and Sound

Jordyn: That's I cannot relate nor imagine that happening for me because it's already a big enough task, like the deep the whole deep throating technique of like that is me trying to please my partner. Like, it's not like I'm enjoying it, loving that sensation by any means. And I do believe that you can give a great blowjob without completely swallowing their penis or being the girl that's putting every part of them, their penis and their testicles in your mouth, all of it. You don't have to do that.

Dr. Bawa: Yeah, I mean, you can stroke it with your tongue for the love of God. You don't have to swallow it.

Jordyn: Yes, hands do.

Dr. Bawa: I mean, don't swallow the damn thing.

Jordyn: And incorporating a hand is like the biggest magical. I think that's what you should be doing. Following it up with a hand when you want to hurry the job up. Yeah.

Dr. Bawa: And then, you know, you were talking about enthusiasm. So sometimes making sounds can be a real turn-on for your partner as well.

Jordyn: Yes, I can't.

Dr. Bawa: And also help you get yourself in the mood.

Jordyn: Yes, yes. Oh, or touching yourself while giving a blowjob, great idea. Like let it be something you're experiencing and enjoying as well. It's not all about them. You can enjoy that as well. Because for me at least, it's arousing to see the person I love or I'm into or with aroused. So it can be a mutually beneficial thing. And sounds, I mean, I think girls are better than it at guys. I tell men all the time, and I know you have a lot of men listening, to be more vocal.

Like, don't keep, don't keep it all in. You don't need to be stoic. Women appreciate a little affirmation, yeah.

[11:47] Feedback, Moans and Communication

Dr. Bawa: Yes, you know, it then gives the woman the idea that okay, what I'm doing is working. Or the idea that it's not working, maybe it's time to switch to something else. There's no need to suffer in silence. I say that all the time about women too, because when women fake it a lot, and I always say you're not doing him a favor because you're telling him you're you're just affirming something that's not working for you. What's the point of that? He thinks what he's doing is rocking your world.

So, how can you blame him if you're not having good orgasms? You're lying. And I've said this a thousand times and I'll say it a million more times. You can't, you're not gonna, you know what they say about fake it till you make it? You're never gonna make it if you keep faking it. What's the point?

Jordyn: Correct.

Dr. Bawa: So, gentlemen, yeah, same for you guys. You've got to tell her if what she's doing works, if her teeth are uncomfortable, whatever it is, communicate.

Jordyn: Or else she's gonna keep giving you a toothy blowjob.

Dr. Bawa: A toothy blowjob.

Jordyn: And with the sound effects, if you're just for ladies, if you're just moaning, screaming, wailing the whole time, he like you said, he thinks you're rocking his world and you're over here faking it because I know that every second of this is not worthy of your moans. So I think you can actually teach them with your moans and moan when it feels good and then be quiet when it's not working or anything. And same with guys to vocalize when they're doing the right thing for sure.

Dr. Bawa: Yeah, and there's so much nervousness when it comes to it, like I mentioned earlier, especially in the beginning of a relationship, when you're starting to get to know each other's body and each other's preferences, it's okay to be intimidated.

But I think we need to understand that as long as we're communicating, and like we said, whether it's with your moans, whether it's moving your partner's hand up or down, or taking it away if maybe it's uncomfortable, I think small signs like that can really contribute to enjoying oral sex, be it a blowjob or anything else, or 69 even.

[13:42] Testicles, Perineum and Erogenous Zones

Jordyn: I agree. And I and I think it's also important that the balls, the testicles are not neglected because we leave them out sometimes. And I think women appreciate them being fondled. Yeah, and as well.

Dr. Bawa: I'm very happy you brought that up because the perineum is even more ignored than the than the scrotum or the balls. the perineum, for those of you who are listening, is the area between the scrotum and the rectum. It's it's full of nerves, it's full of blood vessels. In fact, when we do BawaWave® therapy at my office, which is to increase blood flow in the penile and scrotal area for better erections and even for better penis size, as a matter of fact. I digress. I'm sorry. I get very excited about it.

Jordyn: Oh, that's it. Yeah. So we can talk about that.

Dr. Bawa: Yeah, when we do that, we'll talk about it, I guess, right after this. So we actually do the treatment over that area as well because we want to stimulate good blood flow and you know, stimulate everything in the area, the nerves, the blood vessels, everything. And so it's very important that the partner not forget that area as well.

Jordyn: Right. And so how do I pronounce the word perineum?

Dr. Bawa: Yeah, perineum. Perineum, yeah.

Jordyn: Okay. So is this like that's an alternate way to externally stimulate the male prostate gland? Is that correct or not correct?

Dr. Bawa: Well, you're just stimulating the general area. I mean, you're not, this is external. You're not, this is not, this is not the anus, this is not the hole, the butthole. You know, I'm trying to keep it simple here.

Jordyn: So that area is not connected to anything in the

Dr. Bawa: Well, it's all connected. I mean, these are all your pelvic nerves. But what I'm saying is it's not really about necessarily just the prostate. It's that area is pleasurable, period. So it's very, very pleasurable. And, you know, when it comes to oral sex, I think we are focusing, like you said, too much on the penis itself. There's so much erogenous area around it that I think that needs to be addressed too. And also, not even just the penis or that the genital area, but even maybe the inner thighs, things like that.

Those are all sensitive areas that can be stroked with your hand as well.

Jordyn: And really get that blood flow pumping because then the more heightened arousal levels are, the better the orgasm. And then you won't be just starting oral sex on a flaccid penis until climax. That doesn't sound very fun, and it sounds like a lot of work.

Dr. Bawa: Yeah, and you never know.

[16:10] Making Oral Sex Memorable

Dr. Bawa: That blowjob may lead to some mind-blowing sex.

Jordyn: Yeah, there you go.

Dr. Bawa: And then he'll want to return the favor, and he'll always remember that awesome blowjob. I'm telling you, makes you epic in his mind. You want to keep your man, whether you're male or female, give him a good blowjob.

Jordyn: Oh, if you're not giving any blowjobs, there are some men that will write into me and say, My wife won't perform oral. I do feel bad. I feel because I wouldn't want to be with someone who wouldn't want to do that to me. So I think vice versa, that would be and also there are times when you go to give a blowjob and you have no spit, and there's no shame in saying I need lube or I need to use something to lubricate or wet the situation up.

Because especially if you're exploring down under, you the wetter the better, and they want it wetter the better as well.

[17:02] Lubrication, Ego and the Senses

Dr. Bawa: Always, always. And there's good flavored lube out there now, so it can taste good.

Jordyn: And when girls think like they're self-conscious, like, oh my spit, or I look so gross in my hair. It's the guy does not care. He does not care.

Dr. Bawa: Oh, he's enjoying it actually.

Jordyn: He does not care if you're cross-eyed, he doesn't care why you're he's too concerned about how his penis feels in that moment.

Dr. Bawa: I think we give we give ourselves entirely too much importance in that scenario, don't we, as women?

Jordyn: Yes, for sure.

Dr. Bawa: That's funny. Yeah, but you know, talking about our ego in that, we've also got to stroke our partner's ego, not just his penis.

Jordyn: Oh, correct, correct. And especially men, because you know, they're masculine and they appreciate the ego stroke. I think that's a ticket that sounds manipulative, but I know stroking their ego can get you a lot in life.

Dr. Bawa: No, but no, I don't think so. I don't think it's manipulative. I think you want your partner to feel important, right? At least if you're in the right relationship, you want them to know how important they are to you. So stroking their ego can be a good thing in that scenario. I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing. I mean, that's good manipulation.

Jordyn: That's true. And that's what I would want reciprocated. Yeah, I want them to support me and hype me up, and I want to be their cheerleader and hype them up as well.

Dr. Bawa: Yeah, and then another good point for good blowjobs is appealing to all their senses, where maybe there's some, like we said, the flavored lube or you know, aromatherapy, or you know, just different things incorporating all the senses, not just that sense.

[18:40] Pop Rocks, Cock Rings and Blood Flow

Jordyn: The physical when we were in high school, this is just off track, but senses. There were girls that used to give blowjobs with pop rocks in their mouth. Have you ever heard of it?

Dr. Bawa: I have heard about that. I have.

Jordyn: Well, that is that bad for the penis, I'm assuming because you know does that give like a nice little poppy sensation?

Dr. Bawa: I guess so. How can it hurt? Wait, I'm not telling people to go to crazy stuff and then say, well, Dr. Sex Fairy said it's okay.

Jordyn: What about a cock ring with it to like restrict blood flow? Would that or does that make that just helps the guy last longer?

Dr. Bawa: Yeah, it keeps the blood in the penis. Now, see, what's an erection at its most basic? It's increased inflow of blood and decreased outflow of blood. That's part of the reason why I talked about the BawaWave® therapy we do to break down blockages to bring more blood flow in. And I know you've heard of shock wave therapy before or acoustic wave therapy. Now, I have been a pioneer in sexual medicine in many ways. And one of the ways I have done it is with the way I'm increasing blood flow.

Now, when I talk about penis size, because I do a lot of penis enlargement as well in my practice, I explain to men when they come to me for penis enlargement that I'm happy to enlarge their penis, but they've got to see the big picture. They've got to realize that they've got to keep fertilizing that soil to keep it big, to keep it healthy, to keep it nourished. I think we don't think about nourishing our genitalia, be it the vagina or the penis. It's a muscle.

I used to be so orgasmic, and now I just don't feel that way anymore. And it's not necessarily a libido thing. So what happens to people when they're getting older and their genitalia shrinking? The woman, her clitoris is shrinking, for the man, his penis is shrinking. Why? Blood flow. The number one cause of erectile dysfunction is vascular, poor blood flow.

[20:38] Use It or Lose It

Jordyn: This is so interesting to me. This is so interesting. So that like age-old saying of like it gets smaller because they're not using it, like, or it's a muscle, so if you don't use it, it gets littler. Is that just it's true? Use it or lose it.

Dr. Bawa: It's true. But the thing is, yes, I always say that. I even have a podcast episode called Use It or Lose It. And I'm talking about vaginas and penises. You know, vaginal atrophy is a thing, and penile atrophy is a thing. Because if you're not using it, your body's gonna think, well, I don't, I'm not needed. So it's just so are there medical benefits to oral sex? Yes. Absolutely. I want to hear them. Well, you're increasing blood flow, right? You're increasing blood flow. You're helping your endorphins, it's feel-good hormones.

And then you're it's just one of those things where I think you are going to have lower blood pressure because you're going, you know, you're you're just releasing. And when I say that, I'm I'm not being facetious, I'm serious.

Jordyn: Yeah, like a climax is a big buildup and release.

[21:42] Oral Sex, Ejaculation and Health

Dr. Bawa: It helps lower your blood pressure. So another fun fact is that they've done studies on this. Now there's some controversy about this, but there is there's data out there that says that the more a man ejaculates, the lower his risk of prostate cancer.

Jordyn: Oh wow.

Dr. Bawa: So Yeah. So in fact yeah. And I have this you know, this amazing TikTok account, Dr. Sex Fairy, 54 million views. I mean, it's turned into a movement at this point.

Jordyn: I've seen it, it's amazing.

Dr. Bawa: Thank you.

So one of the things I noticed when I posted about this was that men were talking about how their hand was hurting. Because I mentioned that there's data that if you there's this magic number, like how much do you have to ejaculate, right? Like, is there a number? So the smart minds of this world did the research and found that magic number appears to be about 21 times a month. Now, maybe your partner doesn't want to have sex 21 times a month, but is okay giving you a blowjob, see?

So you could be saving his life, ladies and gentlemen.

Jordyn: Do the selfless thing and help your man live.

Dr. Bawa: See, this is why I'm America's favorite sex doctor right here. I am helping men sell blowjobs to their partner as a form of longevity. Health and wellness. See, gentlemen, you want blowjobs, share this episode with your partner.

Jordyn: True to that. That's hilarious. And that's awesome that it's true, too. It's true. We want our lovers to live longer.

[23:11] Learning Your Partner's Body

Dr. Bawa: Yeah. And then you know, another thing that we have talked about early in the episode that I want to bring back, I guess, and discuss again is you mentioned that you don't always have to orgasm to enjoy the experience. And it's true. But I think that the more you do these things, the easier it is to orgasm. I think you're training yourself in some ways to really understand what it is you like and what your partner likes.

So oral sex and sex toys sometimes and masturbation, even, can be a great way to learn how to get there more often.

Jordyn: Right?

Dr. Bawa: Not that you have to every time, but it makes it more likely that you will.

Jordyn: And learning one another's body, and that's like the perk of being with someone long term, is being able to learn their body. And I am a big pro mutual masturbation because I think that's the best way to see how a girl climaxes is seeing the way she touches herself. And obviously, with a man, the longer you're with them, and then communication, because there, like we said, there are people out there that if you're not communicating and talking, nothing's gonna get better.

So you're just gonna get it's like insanity expecting it to be different and then going about it the same exact way. So obviously, learning their body is gonna lead to a better outcome each time.

[24:34] STI Risk With Oral Sex

Dr. Bawa: Yes, and I think being a medical doctor, I should also point out that you can catch some serious STDs from blowjobs, from herpes to you know, a whole range of things. So you have to know what you're getting into here. Now, the sad part is that most people who have herpes don't even know they have it. It's one of the many silent epidemics I talk about. And I'm certainly going to do an episode about this, you know, an entire episode discussing herpes.

Because I often joke, and I'm only half joking, that, you know, your relationship may not last, but herpes is forever. So you have to be careful.

Jordyn: That's true. That is true. Yeah.

Dr. Bawa: So, you know, a condom may not be the worst idea.

Jordyn: Right. And then aren't there like, isn't there dental dams? There's also there's a are all what is it more risky for women or men, or equally risky giving each other oral sex?

Dr. Bawa: I think it's equally risky.

I don't know what the numbers are, but if you think about it from you know just a common sense point of view, if you have herpes as a woman and he's got his tongue on you, yeah, or you're doing it to a man, now you can't really. I mean, it's harder to, I guess, be careful with oral sex being given to a woman than it is for a man because you can still put a condom on him. You can't really, you know, cover a woman's genitalia.

Jordyn: Right. I know. I've seen the dental dams. I've seen the someone mailed me some panties that you can give oral sex in or something. I'm like, this does not seem sexy. I don't think it's I don't think it's practical.

Dr. Bawa: So at least it's kind of odd. Yeah, at least women have a reasonable, you know, practical way of keeping themselves a little safe. I'm not saying you shouldn't be careful giving oral sex to a woman. I'm not saying that at all, but I'm just saying it's a little easier for women to do it.

Jordyn: To do it. And it's just it's the same as having sex. Your risk is the same with oral and with intercourse.

[26:30] Herpes: HSV-1 and HSV-2

Dr. Bawa: Yeah, and then I was mentioning herpes. People have a misunderstanding about what herpes really is. Now, herpes, herpes simplex virus one in two. People think of it as oral herpes or cold sores in the mouth or nose. And then we think of genital herpes, right? HSV, which

Jordyn: That's what I thought. I thought one was cold sores and one was sex or something.

Dr. Bawa: Yeah, but that's that's why I think it's important that we discuss this, especially w when discussing blowjobs, because people don't understand this. And how can you? Nobody ever discusses it. STDs are not a sexy topic, so nobody wants to discuss them. So the thing is that HSV-1 can be in the mouth or nose or on your penis or vagina, and vice versa. HSV-2 can be anywhere too. It's just where it ends up. It's not that genital herpes has to be HSV-2, it can be HSV-1 also.

Jordyn: Are they both sexually transmitted?

Dr. Bawa: They both can be sexually transmitted, yes.

Jordyn: What about people who are born with cold sores and stuff?

Dr. Bawa: Well, like people and then they're like, this is a cold sore and well, the thing is your mother could have kissed you having a cold sore herself and it touched one of your mucous membranes and you got it. So it's not always sexually transmitted in that sense, but you can transmit it further sexually.

Jordyn: Because I've never had a cold sore in my mouth, but I just know some people have said, like, oh, I don't have herpes. And I'm like, I think it's called herpes.

Dr. Bawa: Well, you could have a canker sore.

Jordyn: Okay.

Dr. Bawa: That's not true. But if it's a cold sore, it is herpes, it's just simplex one or simplex two. Yes. Okay.

Yes. So good to know. Yeah. So you've got to be careful. You could be giving it to your partner who otherwise doesn't have it, but now you gave him a blowjob and now you gave it to him.

[28:14] Testing, HPV and Vaccination

Jordyn: Wow.

Dr. Bawa: Yeah. So go get tested. Everyone needs to get tested, right? And find out. Well, you should. But the thing is that most people are going to test positive for at least HSV-1. A lot of people have it.

Jordyn: That's wild. Do you know? Like, is what is it? One in one in three, one in four, one in the

Dr. Bawa: I honestly can't remember the numbers offhand, but it's high. It's really high.

Jordyn: I remember when I was in high school, it was HPV everyone was talking about. And I got like the Gardasil shots or something. Those are great.

Dr. Bawa: But the problem is they didn't exist until recently.

Jordyn: Yeah.

Dr. Bawa: See, when I was a teenager, they didn't exist. And there's nothing for herpes, like you said.

No, there's nothing for herpes.

But for HPV, human papillomavirus, you do have the vaccine. The vaccine. It doesn't cover everything, though. I mean, it doesn't cover every HPV virus because there are many, many HPV viruses, but it covers the big ones.

[29:09] Can Herpes Be Cured?

Jordyn: Interesting. You think there ever will be a cure for herpes?

Dr. Bawa: I sure hope so.

Jordyn: I mean, right?

Dr. Bawa: You know, unfortunately, there's so much money in peddling the drugs that I don't know that it's in their best interest in their drug company to come up with a cure for it. Though honestly, if somebody came up with a cure for it, whew. But they're thinking about Valtrex and acyclovir, they're selling those. You know, hard to say. I mean, they're doing it.

Jordyn: They're probably making they're probably making a lot of money giving out the Valtrex and all this stuff.

Dr. Bawa: Yeah, and Valtrex is more expensive than acyclovir because it's a newer drug.

Jordyn: Interesting. Interesting.

Dr. Bawa: And it kind of all goes back to the money. So interesting. Yeah.

Jordyn: You're so knowledgeable.

Dr. Bawa: Well, thank you. So great discussion, this one. Blowjobs, the art of the blowjob.

Jordyn: Thank you. This was so much fun. I enjoyed talking to you so much. And hopefully everyone gains some knowledge and some skill around oral sex.

[30:08] Finding Jordyn and The Horny Housewife

Dr. Bawa: So, how do people contact you? Because I'm sure they want to find your podcast.

Jordyn: Yes, thank you. Thanks for having me on, by the way. You can find my podcast anywhere you listen to podcasts, Apple Podcasts, Spotify. It's called The Horny Housewife. And you can find all that information on my Instagram as well, which is @_thehornyhousewifepodcast.

[30:30] Closing

Dr. Bawa: Thank you so much for coming.

Jordyn: Thanks.

Dr. Bawa: And ladies and gentlemen, I hope you enjoy giving and receiving blowjobs and always stay horny. Until next time.

[30:48] Recorded Outro

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