Where is the G-Spot?
Welcome to the Dr. Sex Fairy Podcast. I am Dr. Kanwal Bawa, America’s favorite sex doctor and I am here to transform your life. Today I am going to answer one of the most Googled topics…and that topic is…how you can find the elusive G-Spot.
But first…thank you for loving the Dr. Sex Fairy podcast and making it a worldwide phenomenon. Do you know how this podcast began? I was getting emails rom all over the world about various sex and relationship-related issues. I found that there was a massive need for medical knowledge and tips from a reputable medical doctor like me instead of self-proclaimed “sexperts.” I built it, and you came. Thank you so much for joining me on this journey. Don’t forget to follow the Dr. Sex Fairy podcast if you don’t already,
Now let’s talk about the G-Spot. What is it? Why is it called that? Does it really exist? My patients ask me about this all the time. The women want to know how to show their partner the way, and the men want to know how to please their women. Everyone is looking for this Unicorn. It's time we delved into it.
Let’s separate fact from fiction.
1. What is the G-Spot?
The G-Spot was first discussed by German physician Ernst Grafenburg in 1953. Dr. Grafenburg described a nerve rich spot on the anterior wall of the vagina that had the potential to give women incredible orgasms.
2. When did it become popular?
The G-Spot became a popular concept in 1982 when the book “The G-Spot: And Other Discoveries about Human Sexuality” was published. Women sat up and noticed, and so did their men. Soon it became the Holy Grail. Women wanted to feel this other worldly orgasm and their men were eager to oblige. The book went on to be translated into 23 languages and was pivotal to making the G-Spot a phenomenon.
3. Where is the G-Spot located?
It is considered to be on the anterior or frontal wall of the vaginal canal. If you insert your finger about two inches and touch the part of the wall facing the front of the woman and not the back, and try to angle your fingertips upward like a “come hither” motion, you may or may not feel a slightly thickened area. This is the area where the G-Spot is supposed to be.
4. Does the G-Spot actually exist?
The research has literally been all over the map on this one. An Italian study led by esteemed researcher Dr. Emmanuele Jannini was published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine in 2008. It looked at 20 women who were healthy, sexually active at least twice a week over the previous 6 months, in stable heterosexual relationships with normal menstrual cycles.
Women who suffered from sexual dysfunction were excluded. The study participants were separated into 2 groups…those that experienced vaginal or internal orgasms and those that did not. These women were studied using ultrasound, and the researchers found that the women who had internal vaginal orgasms had thicker tissue in the urethrovaginal area, or the area on the anterior wall of the vagina that faces the bladder. This is the same area described as the G-Spot and so it was hypothesized that women without this thick area cannot have internal orgasms. What do I think about this? Stay tuned. I will get into that shortly.
Let’s first talk about another study that was published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine in 2017. These researchers looked at 13 female cadavers…or dead bodies, 32 to 97 years old, and dissected them to study this area. No spongy or thickened G-Spot was found in these women.
Now let’s talk about my thoughts on the issue. I have always called the clitoris the seat of the female orgasm. It is a small circular structure that hides beneath a hood on the outer genitalia of a woman which is technically the vulva. It is often referred to as the vagina, but the vagina is the canal itself, not the parts outside. The clitoris can be barely visible in some women while in others it is quite meaty.
The clitoris is the female version of the penis and can have an erection when aroused. In some women the clitoris is large enough to look like a tiny penis while in others it is a very small pea. People think that what you see outside is the entire clitoris but in reality the clitoris has roots that go deep into the body and run along the very anterior vaginal wall that is mentioned over and over when people discuss the G-Spot.
The clitoris is almost horseshoe shaped and those long ends run internally. The entire clitoral structure is actually quite massive when compared to the tiny bit visible on the outside. I am going to post some pictures of a clitoris on my Instagram @therealdrsexfairy so make sure you check it out. The picture will help it make more sense.
In my opinion, the women who claim to have a G-Spot and are having intense vaginal orgasms are indeed experiencing pleasure, but they are still having clitoral orgasms. These orgasms feel different because the area being stimulated is different, but the seat of the female orgasm remains the mighty clitoris. I am not a believer in the G-Spot. I bow to the clitoris.
5. Does this area really drive women crazy?
Yes, I do believe that it can for the reasons I just mentioned. This area is one where the clitoris, the urethra and the anterior or frontal vaginal wall come together to form the cliterourethrovaginal (CUV) complex, which can absolutely lead to intense pleasure with penetration.
6. Can a woman train her vagina to have orgasms?
Women are told the scary statistic that only 18% of women orgasm vaginally and that an internal orgasm is not to be expected. This talk dooms them to a life without internal orgasms. The mind is a powerful thing. If you tell yourself that you can’t have an internal orgasm, you won’t have one! Clitoral orgasms are great but a powerful internal orgasm can be earth shattering.
My point of view is controversial. Famous sex therapists preach that women and their partners should focus on the clitoris because trying to orgasm internally is setting yourself up for failure. I’m not sure why the easier way is sold to couples as the only way. I am a medical doctor. I have treated both men and women for two decades at this point. I understand human anatomy better than most so called “sexperts,” and I am telling you that with enough self-exploration, masturbation, relaxation and a partner willing to take the time to find new ways to stimulate you, a vaginal orgasm becomes way more likely.
7. Can a G-Spot orgasm make a woman squirt?
You know my feelings about the term G-Spot. Let’s just think about that area in general. As I explained a few questions ago, this area is where 3 important structures come together. 1) the urethra…the place you urinate from, 2) the inner parts of the horseshoe shaped clitoris and 3) the anterior vaginal wall.
When there is pressure on this area, the Skene’s glands can squirt out a fluid similar to semen which may also contain dilute urine. It is normal to squirt, and it is equally normal to not squirt. Partners should not judge themselves based on whether or not they made a woman squirt. A woman can have an intense orgasm without any squirting at all. She can go a lifetime without squirting and be perfectly fulfilled by her partner and have the best orgasms. One has nothing to do with the other.
Since we are talking about the G-Spot, orgasms and squirting, let’s not forget that both male and female orgasms are very complex processes. Having an incredible orgasm, or an orgasm at all, depends upon more than just the area being stimulated, and the skill and patience of your partner.
As a woman goes through puberty then pregnancy then childbirth followed by the postpartum period and the recovery thereafter…. And another pregnancy…then the same cycle… to peri-menopause, menopause and post-menopause, female hormones are a roller coaster with many twists and turns and occasional loops.
And let’s not forget incontinence. It’s hard to feel sexy or sexual when you are dribbling urine while sneezing or coughing, or need to wear pantyliners or Depends adult diapers. How can a woman enjoy oral sex if she is scared that her partner will smell urine when he goes down on her?
It is important to see your family doctor and gynecologist on a regular basis. It is also important to rethink vaginal and intimate wellness. Stop thinking that it is too early or too late to take care of your genitalia. I treat men and women from their late teens to their 90s.
You deserve pleasure, dignity, joy and pain-free sex at any age. There are so many treatments that can help you not only rejuvenate your vagina, but also preserve it. What a unique concept! Stop saying to yourself that you’re not that bad yet or that it’s too late. Take charge of your wellness and your pleasure. They are equally important. To learn about the various groundbreaking non-surgical options to improve both your orgasms and your intimate health, check out my website drsexfairy.com. Do you have questions? Email me at askme@drsexfairy.com.
Life is short. Give yourself the permission to truly live it. Until next time.