Ep. 92: Bigger, Harder, Longer (Revisited)

Just about every man dreams about being bigger, harder and longer. Just about every woman wants that in her man as well. But how can a man get there? What is more important? Length or girth? How can a man get harder? What do women really want? What is the masturbation connection?

Dr. Kanwal Bawa is America's favorite sex doctor, and the host of America's number one sex podcast, Dr. Sex Fairy. She is Cleveland Clinic trained, and a pioneer in the fields of sexual wellness, skin rejuvenation and hair restoration. She has a state-of-the-art practice in Boca Raton, Florida called Bawa Medical. She earned the moniker Dr. Sex Fairy due to her incredible advances in the field of intimate and sexual wellness.
 
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Transcript

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Welcome to America's number one sex podcast, Dr. Sex Fairy. I am Dr. Kaul Bava, America's favorite sex doctor, and I am here to transform your life. Just about every man dreams, about being bigger, harder, and longer. Just about every woman wants that in her man as well. But how can a man get there? What is more important, length or girth? How can a man get harder? What do women really want? What is the masturbation connection? Today's episode is a blast from the past. It is an episode that I released quite a while ago. Those of you who started following the Dr. Sex very podcast recently may not have scrolled that far back yet. Those of you who have been following me for a while may have missed it or perhaps heard it so long ago that you can certainly use a refresher. I know that you have heard about Baba Bigg Baba Wave and the Baba shot on this podcast on my Instagram, the Real Dr. Sex. Or on my TikTok in YouTube, both call Dr. Sex Ferry. But what can these treatments achieve? How can they make you bigger, harder, and longer? Ladies, this is an important episode for you to listen to as well, because if you want him to function better, you will have the tools to help him next week I will release an episode about how women can get the vagina of their dreams. Gentlemen, you should absolutely listen to next week's episode because if you want to be in a vagina more often, you'd better learn how it works and how to help your partner make it work better. This is a two part. We are covering the yin and the yang, the male and the female. And now without further ado, let's talk about how to make men bigger, harder, and longer. My guest on the podcast today is Brian Howie, host of the podcast. The Great Love Debate brian has been on the Doctor's Sex Fair podcast before and I am delighted to have him back. Welcome back, Brian Parachuting in here with some big dick energy. Is that what I'm supposed to be doing here? Aren't you the perfect example of the dick energy? You're why? No, I'm not. You know, I'm, I'm not also a patient, but hey, the day's not over. He is. He's not a patient. I'm not a patient, but we shall see. Um, I have a question for you just to kick this off on this note, cuz I've been asked this before and I don't have an answer, so I'm gonna ask a professional who does know the answer. I'm gonna ask you This's a two part question. You ready? I am ready For men and for, so would a woman prefer bigger in her man, meaning thicker, longer or harder? I think a woman absolutely has to have two of the above. One is thicker and the others harder. The longer we can, you know, always dispense with if we have to thicker seems under. It seems like people talk about inches and not circumference, and I am here to change that perception. Yeah, I think that's right, girth. That's right. Girth is important because you would rather be a short fat cucumber than a skinny long English cucumber. And this is not a disk to the English. Is that a tr, is that true? Like so most people would, most people, most women would prefer the short, fat cu. I think they should understand the importance long, skinny cucumber of a short fat cucumber because the long English cucumber that's skinny is just going to tickle their vagina, not do a whole lot else. Hmm. Now most men, I think they would rather have the length. Absolutely. And they're wrong in that thinking. Is that correct? They're wrong in that thinking. Um, so if you had to put one first, is it hard? Long and soft is bad. Well, a man has to be hard to do anything. I, I get that. But sometimes that's overlooked too. Like you, because a lot of people look at it like, what does it look like 90% of the time when the guy's checking himself out? He's not hard and he doesn't think about, again, not me. I'm hard when I check myself out. Not him. He is not my patients. Um, when, so they spend too much time looking at themselves in the mirror to evaluate it and they. Probably overlook the fact that they can be thicker and they can be harder and stop worrying about, especially when they're looking down on themselves the length. Is that right? That's right. In fact, most men come to my office and when I'm saying they come to my office, they coming to me from all over the world at this point. And the number one request they have is that they want to be longer. They wanna be long, right? And that's, they want to be longer. But I've explained to them that while I can make them somewhat longer, girth is where it. And so I have to re That's what think the kids are doing thinking Uhhuh good. Yeah. And there, this is the, the deep secret. And you're doing a good job of getting the word out. Girth is what Mc Girth is what matters. Garth. Garth is where the action is. Absolutely Big. Dick energy comes from thick. Thick is good. And hard is good. Hard is good. Right. And hard. I've heard you say this on the podcast before, is blood flow Yes. Right? Is it easier to increase girth? Hard. I can increase hardness. What is the, what is the technical term for Hard? Hard, that's it. Well, it's not a medical condition. Erectile dysfunction is a range. Everybody thinks that erectile dysfunction as if they simply can't get a penis hard. Mm-hmm. That's not true. It is a spectrum. You can exist anywhere from early ed to full-blown ED and impotence or anything in between. And that's still Ed. Because here's the thing, ED doesn't start overnight. It starts when you notice that maybe it's taking you a little bit longer to get hard, or maybe you're going soft a little too soon. You're still lasting a good while, but maybe not as long. And so it's a process. It doesn't happen overnight, and men need to start recognizing the early signs of. And I think if they treat it sooner, they'll have a better result with the outcome. And how many just chalk it up to age diet, tired and don't realize that they can do things to reverse the effect or to slow the effect of any of those things. Age and other health conditions have a direct impact on this because as men get older, you know, it's not just heart attacks that I'm more common. Ed is more common. But as you and I have spoken before, ededie starts young in their twenties and nobody thinks that a man in his twenties is having anything other than the sex of his dreams. Mm-hmm. Yet two out of every 10, 20 year olds cannot get it up. Can't get it up at all, cannot get it up, or they cannot maintain it. Some form of ed, 20%. These are the hard numbers. And so men who are older, I know. So men who are older need to stop feeling bad about themselves and get out there and do something because they're not alone. The number one thing that a man can do at any age is improve his fitness. He should definitely improve his fitness. He should definitely lose weight if he's overweight. But if there's one thing a man can. It's increasing blood flow because the number one cause of erectile dysfunction is vascular problems is blockages. And how can you, the easiest way to increase blood, to improve blood flow is no french fries. Like, like is there a at home remedy for this? no french fries would be a sad life. so I do think we should all eat french fries. We shouldn't just make them our meal every day. A long, skinny one. You want the short fat one, I'm telling you. Gimme the steak fry telling you. So I think the easiest thing to do is to have an in-office treatment. It's the most. There are some at-home devices, but they're not at the point yet where I would recommend them to my patients. Trust me, if one worked, I would be telling my patients to use it. Does it make your life easier and your result easier? So they come in for the, in the, the in-office treatment? Yes. Do you give them five things that they also need to do to make the treatment better? Does it drink more water? Is, I mean, are there basic reming things? I think it's a range of things. It's things like, don't drink crazy amounts of alcohol. A little bit of alcohol's, okay? Mm-hmm. But you shouldn't be an alcoholic and expect to have good erectile function. You can't be overweight to the point you're morbidly obese and expect your penis to wake up when you want it to. These are small things, but these are big things. How much of it is intended is, uh, desensitized desensitization because of too much, um, self-pleasure. I think masturbation gets a bad reputation. Can men always get it up for themselves? Not always, but that's a very good question. Yeah. Because when they come to me, one of the questions I ask them is, okay, you can't perform in a partner setting. Mm-hmm. But are you able to masturbate? Because that tells me whether it's an anxiety thing. Mm-hmm. They just don't think their partner's hard. You know these all factors that play into it, right? So I always ask that question and if a man can have perfectly fine masturbation, then I don't think it's ED at all. It's psychological. And what is the percentage of that? Like are MO is most peop, do most people men say yes to that? No. Most people are like, no, I can't get it up. Even for me, most people have a combination. I think they can usually perform better when they're masturbating, but even when they're masturbating, they're finding a decline in function. Hmm. Do the women. You know her first, there's always blame involved. She sometimes feels, oh my God, he doesn't find me attractive. And then, oh my God, there's something wrong with him. And your job is to be, this can be perfectly normal no matter who you are, no matter what your background is, no matter. And, and is that the biggest challenge you have as to sort of desensitize the stigma of it so people come and get help? That is the biggest problem I face personally, is just letting people know it's okay to ask. Because there's so much shame and embarrassment associated with this that men are afraid to come out and accept it even to themselves. And you know, it's like Alcoholics Anonymous. You have to first say, I am so and so, and I'm an alcoholic. Until you accept the fact that you have a problem. Mm-hmm. No one can help you. Even Dr. Sax very can't help you, so they have to make the effort to pick up that phone and call my. And I can take it from there. Mm-hmm. But that initial call needs to be made. How does a man assess hardness? How does he, is it just how he feels or does he need to have a Well, it's simple. Squeeze test from a, that's fine. Variety of women. Well, I'll make it simple for you. Can he penetrate Kenny Penetrate? Probably can, but she can tell the difference though, between. Rock hard and mostly hard. Right? Yes, I agree. But the questions also over time, has her vagina become more lax? There's another thought, right? Right. Because I treat women well too, to not tango. I have a couple that comes to me, Jim and Cindy. So Jim and Cindy story has been picked up around the world. They're my patients. Their story resonates with many because they are 69 and 70 years old. Yet they are having the sex of a younger person's. They are getting it on twice a day and sometimes they have noons. Jim actually wore a T-shirt to my office once that said Beyond legendary, and it was hysterical because he is. Mm-hmm. Now, how did that happen? She came to me first. She said to me, I've started dating this guy. I like him a lot. I want to have sex. He wants to have sex, but our function just isn't there. So first I fixed Cindy's vagina, and then Cindy brought in. And then I made Jim have the penis and erections of his dreams. And now as a couple, they're rocking it in the seventies. Why? Is there any reason why she went first? I think she accepted the problem with us Chicken or the vagina. Who goes first? Yeah, I'm telling you. Um, but is that a thing like, let's try you first, him first. Is that a conversation? Well, I think sometimes partners don't even tell each other. And, and that's women are, women are becoming more open, um, with their lack of, I guess, elasticity because they all sort of say they can't do a jumping jack without peeing. Now they need to do cleal and things are loosened. Yeah. But, you know, um, I'm glad you brought that up. Keels by themselves can only do so much. Right now, I actually have a device in my office. It's a vaginal probe, like an ultrasound probe or a dildo. You literally put it in the lady's. And it does the keel for them. It's not that it is the lazy woman's keel, it's that it is so much more powerful. Mm-hmm. And effective that she can be keeling at the red light all day long, uhhuh, and it won't do a damn thing compared to what my machine can do for her. Is there a male equivalent of a keel? Yes, we do have a chair for that. And we do use that. A chair for that? Yes. Oh my god. Many dreams come true. What chair is this? Can I watch football in this chair? You absolutely can. So what goes on in this chair? Well, am I strapped? What happens? You're not strapped and it doesn't hurt. Could I be strapped? We could. If you wanna get kinky. Kind of. So what happens in this chair? It stimulates the pelvic muscle. From behind, from underneath and all around. And basically what it's doing is it helps a man have better erections, stay harder longer, and even be more sensitive and enjoy sex more. Are they hard in the chair? Is that okay? Well, they could be hard in the chair, certainly when I do the baba wave treatments on them with shockwave therapy, right? They do get hard sometimes, and we have to tell them it's okay. Don't be embarrassed because they're so mortified. They think that, well, you're not misunderstand. I'm not saying that's flattering as a woman, but it's flattering as a. Is very flattering as a doctor. I'm like, see, look at that. I made that happen. It works though. That is the goal. Yes. That's the goal. That's what I tell them. I say, this is a compliment, don't worry. Right. That's so weird. Um, back to the harder question, cuz I'm still a little puzzled on that. Say he's not, you know, he gotta get to the point where he's confident enough to put it in the vagina. Yes. Feeling your own hardness. Nebulous at that? No, no, no. I think men know. They know if it's not hard enough, they know. If it's not hard enough. They tell me that. They're like, I think it's not standing up straight. Well, the thing is that they know how difficult it is sometimes to enter a vagina, but they're not hard enough. They may be hard, well, let me rephrase that. They're hard enough to get in, but they're not hard enough to get in easily. Mm-hmm. And they're not hard enough to maintain. And to perhaps pleasure her as much, assuming her vagina is in loose as well. I've seen a lot of commercials now for the, what's the bent? The bent one called Barones. Yeah, Barones is a real problem. It's a real problem and it's painful, but some women want that. They want a little curve. They want a little fish hook, right? A little fish can be nice, but the problem is if it's. Hooked. Yeah. You risk breaking the penis too. And you can do that. I've read that. You can do that, right? It's cartilage. What do you break? I mean, you don't have bones in a penis, but you can absolutely hurt the ligaments. Oh God. So for all those cowgirls out there riding their man, be a little careful. I know you. That just seems terrible. it's sad because you know, women's more likely to orgasm. But it's also the position. Is that true? Yeah, it's true. Fun fact. Fun fact. Because you know, you know why? Because she can control. That's mostly because she can control, she can control her body in a way that she knows where to put it. It's also the fact that the clitoris is getting stimulated more because she's brushing up against it. Mm-hmm. And so I think it's a great position for her, but she has to be careful that she doesn't get overzealous and break the poor eye. Right. Then he's, that would not be nice. And then he's not, uh, longer, thicker, or harder. That's right. Are there, have you ever gotten a patient where you're like, listen, you know, there's women out there who continually get breast augmentation to the point where it's. Circus. Mm-hmm. Are there men who are just like, I I, they can never be big enough for them in a way. They're like, I, I still feel too small. And you're like, oh my God. Well, I, I walking in here with this teeny Well, but the thing is what you're talking about is body dysmorphic disorder. Right? But I don't think most of these men are dysmorphic. I think they just come to the office. They've never thought that this could be. Then I, you know, my way of doing the enlargement is very different. That's what makes me so famous around the world, is that I've been a pioneer in non-surgical penis enlargement. Mm-hmm. So not only do I make it bigger, I make it better long term by increasing collagen production. So when they come get it done, they're just astounded. They're like, that's all, that's all it took. And then they say, I need to do more of this. Are most men trying to get back to where they were or get to a place they've never. I think most men would love to go to a place they've never been. And that's the aim, So not only can I take you back to where you were at 25, I can take you to where you never were at 25 to a place you never thought was possible. Right. Not in this lifetime. And you bring up the, the confidence. So it, it's a confidence. It's strange. I agree with you totally on that, that it does translate into, you know, for lack of a better term, being the big swinging deck in the board. Like it does. They just feel better about themselves. It really does. It's not great that that is such a big thing to the men. It shouldn't matter, but it does matter. It does matter. We can't pretend that it doesn't. Mm-hmm. Yeah. And you know, you can say all you want that, oh, it's a societal pressure and women are putting pressure on men. No, no, no. They have done studies where they've asked men, how big are you? And men exaggerate. For instance, there was this study out of King's College in London. It was a study that, included men ranging from 17 to 91 years. And over 15,000 men, and they found that the average penis size erect is 5.1 inches. later on there was another study done. Mm-hmm. Which asked men how big you are. And do you know that the majority of them were saying over six inches and only 29%, if I remember correctly, said Saturday. Were below six, clearly someone's lying. Mm-hmm. And. When they actually were, are most men out there measuring? You think that's a thing? I read a study somewhere that 85% of men have measured their penis and that 40% of women have measured their partner, which seems so dysfunctional. That seems very weird. How, what is she hoping to dis and again, at what? I'm not sure the ruler would make it absolutely the hardest either. I think Talk about performance anxiety. That would be very, very stressful. How does that make the poor man feel? You're literally measuring his penis. I know. That would be weird. And how, I just don't, I don't tell like, no cold yards. I don't tell my women to go measure their men. I mean, please don't do that. That's horrible. That, that's not good. you know, it's also a tough challenge though. The, the, because you bring up, it brings in confidence. Mm. On one hand, you could assume that the alpha in the room is the alpha because he has the big penis and he's confident about that. On the other hand, you could look at it like he's the alpha in the room to compensate for the fact that he doesn't. That's the challenge for women. I agree. You know, when you look at those men with those big trucks, with those massive tires, yeah. I think that they're comp overcompensating for them. I think the loud sports car is that, yeah, every woman thinks he's compensating for something. Then again, you know, I love a loud sports car and I'm a woman and I don't even have a penis. Um, so there is. This might be a, a strange question, but I'm sure you've been asked this before. Is a taller man more likely to come to you or a shorter man? I don't think it matters. So I don't get those files. I don't get the stats. I can't break this down. Listen, I mean, I'm not saying it matters, but who's more likely a tall guy who's like I disproportionately or a smaller guy who's trying to. Compensate. I get all kinds, you get all kinds. I get all kinds. In fact, recently the overweight guy, it's gonna seem smaller though, and he should probably lose some weight. Well, I agree with that, but um, you can't see it. You can't assess it. I agree. But recently I had a very, very handsome six foot something man, come to my office. When you look at him, he has it going on. You can't imagine why this man would feel that he has anything. Mm-hmm. To prove or. Yet, I have done two enlargements on him. He had a very long penis to begin with. He just wanted to be thicker. I don't think he is lacking confidence. Mm-hmm. I don't think he's doing it for any woman. I can't imagine he's had any complaints, but he wants to do it for himself and the way I look at it, why do men. Get so much shame for wanting a bigger penis. Women don't seem to get any shame for wanting bigger boobs. No, they don't. But that's changed. So the way women used to, um, hide or not talk openly about any kind of procedure, you know, they weren't bragging about getting Botox. Mm-hmm. Now they're having Botox parties, they're joking about it or whatever. We may just not have caught up. Um, you know, 15 years ago, men were shamed for going to. Yes. You know, and doing that, I think the more self-improvement, uh, you know, whether it's mental or physical, whatever is more mainstream, I think that's going to come out. I mean, we have Jimmy Johnson doing commercials for extends and, you know, talking about erectile dysfunction. You have celebrities doing that, and there are endorsements and people are suppo talking about their problem. That, that I think, you know, you always have to put a face to it. The more faces are, look at how happy my wife is. Mm-hmm. I did this. Then there's less shame, then there's more pride in, hey, Not that I had a problem and I got solved, but I took things to a higher level and I'm rocking. I think that's the case with the, gentleman I mentioned to you who's over six feet tall, handsome, very successful, has a long penis, just wanted it thicker for himself, and now he's happier. And he sent me a note the other day talking about how grateful he was and he literally said, you gave me big dick energy. No joke. Well, we, we talk about length in terms of inches. Do, how do you talk about. Wait, is there a, is there a measurement because it's smaller increments that people can't really understand? Are we into the metric system here? How? What are we, what are you saying? Circumference, diameter, what? What do you say? I can give you talk. I'm talking circumference and you say, is it a measurement? It is a measurement. And I can tell you now I'm not measuring them because I don't think it's necessary because Right. I don't care about you say, gimme another inch in. I don't do that. I say, I can make you thicker. Let's see why we can take this. And also, I don't limit. Because I know I can make them bigger than they ever imagined possible. Do you lay out a bunch of fruits? No, I don't. Well, I mean, everything's about, I want, but I do about theq start. Well, when you go in to get, uh, get, uh, breast augmentation, they show you the photos. I know, but they're putting an implant, supposedly. They're putting an implant in, which can be controlled. Correct. So there's not a, there's not a. Bowl. There's not, uh, there's not a line of penises in my office. And you get to pick, I mean, there's not a bunch of bananas and cucumbers and whatever, and be like, gimme the, or Eggplant. Or eggplant, yes. Gimme the eggplant. No. Which one? The big one on the stove. Right? That's not on your website? That's not on my website. Eggplant 29 99. No, no. It's a discussion that we have and we decide, okay, this is the goal. Mm-hmm. And we try And you just say, to achieve it thicker and it's ki it's, how do you I can make them thick as hell and thick as hell. Seems reasonable. Yeah. You know, because unless it's big enough to be painful to a vagina, thicker is better. Right? And remember, men are so fixated on length, the depth of the vagina, the very deepest parts of it aren't necessarily feeling pleasure. They can feel a penis. Right? They like the sensation of something filling the. But it's the outer ends of the vagina that are really sensitive, that have the receptors. So when the outer part of the vaginal canal stretches to receive the penis, mm-hmm. That's the part that feels good. The rest is just icing on the cake. Is it, do you do any work? How do I say this? Um, medically I wish I had your fruit here. Well, let's say I had some mushrooms here. Uhhuh, can you improve the. I can improve the head to some extent. I don't put How important is the head. It is important because here's the thing, I make penises big. I make the shot really big, so, so shat is the term, is head the term the head will turtle in if I don't do something to keep the head out. So I do. It's true. I think you're great, Brian Turtle, for those that are listening, I think, I think the medical term is turtle in. I, I believe that's the, the scientific, you got the point, didn't you? I, I do. I agree. So you're basic. The thickening happens in the shaft. It does. Okay. But I can also make the head a little bit bigger. You can, yes, I can. Is that with a mallet or not? A mallet. Mallet was, would not be good for my Google ratings. It might because it would swell up like a It could, yeah, it could. Short term. So we may also do some, I'm sure there are guys doing that. And they should, they should go to Dr. Sex. Very stop whacking yourself with the mallet, you know, swell it up. What would people do that they need to stop doing is putting weights on their penis? There is such a thing. There are doctors out there that are telling people to it. To put, yeah, it's bull. Well, I know, but I, I get it. I mean, everybody's trying home remedies. I mean, think of it this way. Yeah, I know. I could make a lot of money selling people penis weights. Mm-hmm. I don't do that, do I? Because I have integrity and a reputation to maintain. Can I buy penis weights? Is that a thing? It is a thing. Oh, it's insane. But it's a thing. Yeah. That seems insane. It's kinda like yny yangs, you know when women are shoving jade up their vagina. Yeah. How stupid is that? It doesn't do anything, but Yeah. Make Gwyneth paltro richer. Yeah. Don't get all goop with your vagina. Don't get goopy with your vagina. Correct. Right. so just if you just say like, listen, I'm gonna make you thicker and you're going to be happier. She's gonna be happier. That's good. And you say, just leave it up to the sex fair. I will handle this. I say, I will handle this, and I have yet to disappoint anyone. Well, there you go. You can't ask for more than that. Yeah. Making dreams come true. There you go. They don't call me Dr. Sex ferry for nothing. See, question, answer. I came in here with a handful of questions and I got my answers. Now, you were talking about thickness and girth and everything, and I think I should probably specify that the average flacid penis. The circumference is about 3.66 inches, which is 9.31 centimeters cuz people listen to this all over the world. I've gotta go into centimeters too and erect. The girth is about 4.59 inches or 11.6 centimeters, which is to, that's small that than a woman wants. See, that seems long to me. I mean, that seems like not like a. Wait so hard. The average is six inches. the circumference of a flacid penis. Yes. According to that study of over 15,000 men, Uhhuh, the flacid, girth or circumference is 3.66 inches or 9.31 centimeters. Okay. That seems reasonable. Yeah. And then erect or. It goes up to 4.59 inches or 11.6 centimeters, but a woman wants a man thicker. Can we get a tape measure in here? I don't know what that is. We're not doing that right now. Okay. Um, A woman wants a man thicker. Yes. So women need to, I think women out there cover of Cosmo. Mm-hmm. Should be ask for your thickness. Let's, there's too much talk about. There is too much talk about length, and if I am to actually tell you that women want a man thicker, they want him considerably thicker, and women have a, have a very interesting, so they think he's not, he might be close on the length, but most men, women are dissatisfied. No, women want him longer too because. The average man erect remembers 5.1 inches, right? A woman wants him to be, if it's a long-term partner, 6.3 inches long. We aren't even close. We're not even in the same vicinity. Do you sometimes measure the, the couple, do you measure the woman and say, how here we're, we're three quarters of an inch apart between the two of you and let's meet halfway? No. No, because I don't care about numbers. Well, I, if she's particularly if she's not terribly, um, far off and he's far off, then you do more work on him. No, it's not about that. Oh. Because nobody's coming to me saying, I measured my partner and I want him to be longer, or, you know, I need to be this much longer. They just wanna be bigger. They wanna be longer. And I So you don't say how much longer? No, I don't. Okay. Because I think that's silly. Yeah. I agree with you. But because I'm not here promising somebody that they're gonna be 1.15 inches bigger or this or that, but they must came in and say, doctor, can you, can you gimme another inch answer or two? Yeah. That they do. Right. And your answer to that is what? Trust me, we'll get there. Okay. That's reasonable. But most women are actually wanting a partner to be in a long-term scenario, 4.8 inches. Around, but the average man is only 4.59 or 4.6. Right. That's pretty close. Yeah. But if it's a, you know, a one night stand or a casual relationship, she actually wants him bigger. Hmm mm-hmm. Uh, five inches, because he's gotta be better than the husband. Well, he's gotta be worth it. He's gotta be better than the guy at. That seems like a little bit, but I guess the, the, the devil's in the details, like that's just, you know, from here to there is that's what takes to do it. You, it's, it's consistent though. A woman, yeah. When she's looking at a long-term partner will settle for one inch less length and 0.2 inches less in circumference. Basically, she's willing to settle, you know, when I'm saying settle, you know, quote unquote. Yeah. She's willing to settle for a guy who's otherwise got. Things going for him because she knows after she has kids, the, you know, she doesn't want the, well, he's microscope scope on her either. Well, probably, but you know, she's, she's okay with making do with a guy who's got other things going for him. But if this is just a short-term scenario, she's not settling. That makes sense. I suppose it had better be worth us. I'm mostly here for the fun. Mm-hmm. Bring the fun. Bring the fun. Get outta here with your 0.22 small. Yeah. We're not interested in micro penises at that point. the, the average is that the, do you know the difference between the median and the mean? Because I'm not sure i's the mean do the mean, that's the mean. Mm-hmm. So that's if you take them all, if you take them all, not the biggest and the smallest, and that's the middle. Mm-hmm. That the difference that my, um, high school math. Yeah. So this is the approximation, huh? But, you know, here's the thing. Those days of having to settle with a smaller penis, whether it's lent or girth, are gone. Now, I don't do surgical penis enlargement. I don't believe it's necessary, but there are doctors out there who put in implants. I don't like them because UUs nerve damage, bleeding, other problems, and also you can always feel that implant later. You won't believe how many women, and men come to me because the guy says, here, doc, I got this implant, but now she can feel the ridges. She doesn't like giving me a blowjob. I'm terrible. Yeah. I mean, what woman wants to, to feel that? Do you, do you deal with reductions? I don't. More women are probably, if, if you ask all the women, and you said, do you remember the biggest one you ever dealt with? Most people don't remember. Most women would not remember that. Well, actually, I have yet to come across a woman who complained about a man who was too big personally in my patient population. Okay. I I, I think they want bigger than he is and just big enough. But the, the, the egg, nobody wants, I don't think the women want the eggplant. Nobody wants to, wants it to be painful. But then most men have a tough time getting there anyway. So you've never heard the Oh my God. I saw it and I was like, get that thing away from me. You've never heard that story? I've heard it. Okay. But then they enjoyed it anyway. Oh, okay. Maybe I'm wrong. Yeah, no, you're not wrong. I mean, nobody wants to be hurt. You don't, you don't wanna be, IM impaired by a penis, but some people want the challenge. I don't know. That doesn't sound pleasant. Some people are like, get that thing. Um, how often do you deal with gay couples? I do fairly often because we are in Fort Lauderdale, we have a large gay population. Do they have to stay in sync or just one have to keep up? Or is it the same? I don't. I think gay men are probably more conscious of their penis. There's a little more competition in the gay world, I think. Yeah, probably. Okay. Good enough. If you were to go around, I think the competition's stiffer, fun, unintended. Oh, the gay guys are having all the fun. All right. I love my gaze. They're good guys. I'm sure they're a lot of fun. Right? Twice the pleasure. Mm-hmm. I. Yeah, twofer. You do a twofer on you guys. Well, some give us summer takers, you know? Yeah, I, that's true. That's why somebody might, why on a small, I don't know. I don't know the rules. I haven't seen one gay man who wants to, you know, have an average penis. They wanna be legendary, and there's nothing wrong with being legendary like Jim. I, that's probably true. I mean, I guess everybody wants to be legendary. Mm-hmm. Cause they wanna be talked about and they wanna be remembered. Mm-hmm. And, and if it's like, you know, oh my God, it's too big for me. That guy probably doesn't feel too bad. Yeah. All right. Good times Dr. Sax for making people legendary. There you always good. So Brian, how can people find you? Oh, how can people find me to, to answer all the questions or, uh, raise the, my job is to raise the questions, not to give the answers. Sex fairy gives the answers. Uh, go to great love debate.com. Um, subscribe to the Great Love Debate with Brian Howie podcast. Uh, and great love debate on all the socials where sometimes we talk about this. Well, I've been on the great love debate. Yeah. Sometimes you do talk about fun things. Sometimes we do, like the doctor says, people ask for more of it and um, I don't feel qualified to bring it in, so we bring in a pro. Thank you. There you go. There you go. Well, thank you Brian. Thank you for being here today. I'm very enlightened. I hope you're, I dunno if I'm better endowed, but I'm better enlightened for being here. Yes. you know, if you come to the office, we can fix that too. Here we go. I'll check my calendar. All right. To my listeners, thank you as always for listen. 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