Ambition Without Compromise

59 | You Don’t Need More Time — You Need a New Identity

Monique R. Shields

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Feeling overwhelmed by your ambitions? It's time for a mindset shift! 

Join Monique as she dives into the struggles many ambitious women face as they juggle multiple responsibilities and aspirations.  She explores the metaphor of spinning plates and overflowing buckets to illustrate the challenge of managing multiple identities—mother, partner, professional, and more—while yearning for growth.

In our latest episode, Monique discusses how to transform your self-concept and embrace a 10x growth approach. Press play to learn more.

GEMS DROPPED

“​You ​cannot ​do ​all the ​hard ​things. ​You ​don't ​need ​to ​do ​all the hard ​things. ​There ​is ​a ​human ​limit ​on ​your ​life, ​okay? ​There ​are ​human ​limitations, ​and ​we ​can ​push past ​many ​of ​those ​limitations. ​I ​understand ​the ​capacity ​of ​my ​woman.  ​Like, ​a ​lot ​of ​y'all, ​you ​know ​you're ​built ​differently. ​I ​get ​that…But ​we ​also ​cannot ​disregard ​our ​very ​human, ​physical, ​spiritual, ​emotional ​existence, ​and ​try ​to ​step ​past ​it ​and ​think ​that ​there ​will ​be ​no ​consequences, ​because ​there ​will.”

“Let's ​be ​clear, ​the ​capitalist ​society ​that ​we ​are ​enshrouded ​in ​that ​surrounds ​all ​of ​this, ​that ​drives ​a ​lot ​of ​the ​unnecessary ​pressures ​that ​we place ​on ​ourselves.and ​these ​patterns, ​rhythms ​and ​the ​pace ​that ​we ​are ​all ​pushed ​into. We ​can ​never, ​never ​erase ​that ​context ​from ​the ​conversation. ​But what ​I ​want ​to ​speak ​about ​today ​is ​where ​you ​still ​have ​some ​agency ​and ​power. ​You ​still ​have ​quite ​a ​bit ​of ​agency ​and ​power to ​shift, ​to ​make ​a ​10x ​choice, ​to ​make ​a ​shift ​where ​you're ​not ​just ​doing ​a ​few ​things ​differently ​or ​trying ​to ​double ​your ​output ​in ​your ​doing, ​but ​that ​you ​get ​to ​become, ​that ​you ​shift ​the ​being ​of ​it ​all.”

“The ​environment, ​the ​relationships, ​the ​structure,  the ​guidance--those ​things ​allow ​for ​a ​new ​self ​concept ​to ​emerge. ​It ​is ​one ​of ​the ​most ​powerful ​things ​that ​we ​can ​create ​space ​for ​in ​our ​lives. ​Because ​again, ​the ​situation ​that ​you ​are ​thinking ​about ​with ​what's ​the ​next ​phase ​of ​my ​career ​and ​how ​am ​I ​going ​to ​hold ​all ​of ​these ​things ​and ​what's ​going ​to ​happen ​with ​this ​or ​that? ​Like, ​those ​aren't ​the ​questions. ​The ​topic ​is ​not ​the ​topic. ​You ​are ​the ​topic. ​Okay. ​Who ​you ​consider ​yourself ​to ​be, ​how ​you ​self ​conceptualize, that ​is ​the ​topic ​at ​hand. ​That ​is ​how ​we ​can ​shift ​from 2x ​possibility, ​that's ​going ​to ​keep ​us ​overrun ​in ​old ​identities ​to ​a ​10x ​possibility ​because ​we've ​allowed ​ourselves ​to ​fundamentally ​change, ​to ​allow ​ourselves ​to ​fundamentally ​shift.”

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