Have you ever wrestled with the belief that you need to be born a calm person to deal with stress and anxiety? I want to debunk this myth because I am so confident in what I do and how I support high-functioning, anxious women.
Let's challenge this "myth" to change how we approach, think and feel about stress and situations and how we respond and deal with it.
Together, we dissect those knee-jerk reactions—anger, frustration, fear—and illustrate how self-awareness can be your ally in pivoting away from the negative.
Discover how personality traits and individual preferences inform the way we handle life's curveballs.
Have you ever wrestled with the belief that you need to be born a calm person to deal with stress and anxiety? I want to debunk this myth because I am so confident in what I do and how I support high-functioning, anxious women.
Let's challenge this "myth" to change how we approach, think and feel about stress and situations and how we respond and deal with it.
Together, we dissect those knee-jerk reactions—anger, frustration, fear—and illustrate how self-awareness can be your ally in pivoting away from the negative.
Discover how personality traits and individual preferences inform the way we handle life's curveballs.
Hello and welcome to another episode of the Calm Compass podcast Super juicy episode today. In today's podcast episode, I want to talk to you about a myth that you may have, that you believe that you have to be already a calm person in order to deal with stress and anxiety better. And the reason that I want to debunk this myth is because often, when we're not challenging myths, we're not going to change. We think that we can't change, and I want to show that it is possible. Right, this is the everything that I do really about understanding, about changing the way we think, the changing the way we feel and react, so that when any situation that you're not expecting to happen, you respond more effectively. Now, what we've also got to understand is you may have that first emotion so anger, frustration, whatever it is you have that emotion. But when you start learning how to respond more effectively to your emotions and your thoughts that are going to be more supportive for you, you have that first emotion, but you're not going to be engulfed in that feeling for very long. It could be literally. You're feeling like that for 10 seconds and then you're out of it, or it could be a bit longer. You're training your brain and your body. So it could be that you're. It could be 30 minutes, it could be longer, but you are starting to recognize. I've got that first negative emotion out. I've recognized, I've got the awareness of what that is right and now I can shift it. And the reason that I believe that it is a myth is because, as I said earlier, if we do not challenge myths, we don't change ourselves for the better. We can have a very fixed mindset, maybe a victim mindset, and go well, what's the point? I don't have that personality and we've got to work out okay. Well, I don't have that personality, but I can learn how to change the way that I approach certain situations so I don't lose my top every time and I'm kinder to myself and more compassionate to myself. Right, and it's really starting to recognize our first response. When we have that response, are we going into fight? Are we going into flight? Or we're going into sort of fight, flight or freeze, like what is our mechanism when we feel we're under threat? And it takes time to build that muscle right. So it may be going. Look, maybe just creating awareness that you are starting to notice. How am I dealing with these situations that I do not have control over you might be well, I get frustrated, but I'm over it very quickly. But or it could be well, no, I feel really horrible and guilty. Or and I'm thinking about it for days, you could be.
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Some people haven't trained themselves to detach from those thoughts and they consume them. So it's looking at practical ways of what you can control and what you can't control. So what's in your circle of control that you are able to change, to support you to change and shift the way that you think and approach different situations and I go into this in my free guide. I'll put the link in the show notes and that, basically, will give you some ways to understand that different situations, environments, sometimes you don't have control over those, and when you can start really unpacking it, and the reason that you do this until it becomes almost subconscious, is your training and you're helping your mind learn that when these things, of these different stimuli events, occur, how to basically how you, basically how you want to feel, and learning how to change the result and the outcome, because sometimes we go well, that's just the way it is Like I'm just a really it might be that you're very high functioning with your anxiety. You don't have an anxiety disorder, you just have more of the anxious feelings, right, and you may be like, oh, I'm just a warrior, that's just who I am. Sometimes we take certain parts as our whole identity, or maybe we take it as like our excuse card, and I want you to know that it is possible, right, and it's understanding also for you that every single person, every you could look at it from like, a Ayurvedic perspective, from their psychology obdotias. You could look at it from a human design perspective. We are all wired and created so uniquely differently. We all have different ways that we thrive better in different circumstances and situations, right. So there are certain things that we thrive we do really, really well, and it's starting to learn from your personality what maybe could be impacting those things.
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So, if you're not doing the things that you know in your heart help you to thrive and it makes it a lot easier to cope and manage those situations that life throws. You know, it's just sort of challenging that belief in going hang on a minute. I haven't done for a little while some of those things that actually bring me joy and actually help me so much better with all that other stuff, right with all that other stuff. And the reason that I want to talk about this is because sometimes we have this belief that people, you know they're meditating for hours and you know they're chanting and they're doing all of these things and you're like, whoa, I don't have time for that. And usually if you don't have time, then you need to do it. Right, you need to do it, you know.
Speaker 1:
So the I. At times, my life is not serene and peaceful. I have learnt how to have inner peace within myself, even if my external world can feel chaotic. I've learnt and taught myself the importance of cultivating that inner calm and teaching myself, like, how to rewire my mind, how to do that deep, subconscious work, and this is something that I teach my clients to do, with that accountability and with that support, because we don't always see our own blind spots. We don't always want to either, do we? You know? And that's why it's been coming from that really compassionate perspective. And that's where I think, when we have these myths, that we have to be something, we have to have this already calm persona.
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It's looking at how you thrive and if you, looking at the doshas, looking at you, know if you are out of balance from an Ayurvedic perspective, how you can bring more, I suppose, peace so you can thrive, instead of feeling like it's all sort of making you feel like you're drowning in all of this life's chaos. You're, you have learnt from your own, you know Ayurvedic and you know personality type. What makes you click so you can thrive more effectively. Yeah, so I hope that makes sense. I hope that makes sense from like it's resonating with you and you're just being kinder to yourself, being kinder, more compassionate to yourself. Right, because we can be such bad critics of ourselves. We are sometimes our biggest critic and we just have to come from that perspective that it's all a practice. We are practicing to learn how to do this stuff. It's not something we wake up one day and do it once and we're, we know how to do it. We have to just be consistent. However, that looks for your personality type, if that makes sense.
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