Why Letting Go is Sometimes Your Biggest Leap Forward

In this deeply personal episode of The Traveling Hypnotist Podcast, Nicole opens up about a pivotal moment from 10 years ago—when a dream she’d poured her heart into was quietly falling apart. Teaching spiritual fitness classes in NYC, she was doing all the “right” things... and still sitting in empty rooms, exhausted, broke, and on the verge of giving up.

But what felt like failure turned out to be a redirection.

Nicole revisits a forgotten journal entry from July 5, 2015—and uncovers a soul-aligned vision that would ultimately lead her to becoming the Resident Healer at the Four Seasons, traveling the world, and building her signature method, High-Frequency Success™.

This episode is for anyone feeling stuck, disappointed, or unsure if their vision is ever going to take off. If you're holding onto a dream but the "how" feels impossible—this message is your reminder to keep going.

✨ Learn the real work it takes to quantum leap.
 ✨ Discover how your low point might be the turning point.
 ✨ And hear why letting go isn’t giving up—it’s stepping into what’s next.

🔗 Join the waitlist for High-Frequency Success™ (12-Week VIP Coaching)

🔗 Read the show notes

🔗 Visit nicole-hernandez.com
 

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Are you feeling disappointment? Maybe you've been holding on to a vision, a path forward, a career change, and yet that path feels so impossible right now. If that's you, then this episode will help you know that what feels impossible right now is absolutely possible. Hello, friend. It's Nicole Hernandez here, top clinical hypnotist and success coach, and I had to share this with you today, so I've made a very special episode on the fly. It's really interesting because this morning, I opened an email from one of the journal apps that I've been using for a very, very long time, and I get these little reflections, which are fun sometimes, to see how much I've actually grown over the years. And this one was from July 5, 2015, and I'll actually include a screenshot of this journal entry in the show notes so that you can review it and see it. This is not made up. I had this pivotal moment this morning, and if I'm honest, I'm still a little emotional about it because it felt so big. Now, at the time that I wrote this journal entry, I was dreaming about starting my own business. I was dreaming about being in the wellness space, and I feared that that would never happen for me. And yet today, in 2025 I am standing exactly where I wanted to be, holy moly. So I want to share this with you. 10 years ago, I was pouring my heart, pouring my soul, into starting a business as a spiritual fitness instructor, teaching booty yoga classes. That's B, U, T, I, not B, O, O, t, y, and it's a combination of yoga and hit so high intensity and dance, and I loved it. And I rented space in one of the dance studios in Midtown, New York, and I was carefully curating this beautiful experience. I had these red lights that represented the Root Chakra, and I developed new playlists for every single class, which took a lot of time to do, and I wanted to create a space for women to come in where they could just be themselves and be with their bodies and really tune into what was beautiful about them. I wanted it to be a place where they could really resource themselves, and I would practice for hours. I was really trying to just develop myself, my strength, my stamina, and since I had a background in marketing, I was emailing my email list. I was constantly posting on social media. I had professional photos taken. I was listing my class on class pass. I was doing all the things I could possibly do to grow this business, and I was really desiring this business to blossom. But the truth is, is that sometimes the results weren't so great. I would pay for studio time, and sometimes I would have one person show up to class, which wasn't really even enough to cover the cost of the studio. And so I was actually losing money sometimes on this where I would have to offer someone a private session, and I would just be professional and just move through it with them, give them everything that I could within that private class. And then there were other times where I had anywhere from 12 people to 15 and maybe even 20 on a really good day, but it was never really consistent, and I felt so defeated, and I thought there's no way I can actually make this a sustainable business. It's not a sustainable occupation, if it's not consistent. And then on top of that, I was putting so much effort into practicing and getting these moves down and trying to curate this perfect body. I thought if I just had six pack abs, if I just was super lean, then people would see my result and want to come to class, but I was actually starting to encounter a lot of back issues, and do have scoliosis, and I was overworking my body, and I actually remember teaching class once, and my back just went out on me. And. And it was so painful. And luckily, there was someone else in the class who had also been certified in buddhi yoga, and she was able to take over. I realized I was overdoing it, and I realized that this wasn't a sustainable business for me, after all. And so it was around this time that July 4, weekend of 2015 and I had this realization that this just wasn't going to work out. I was so disappointed I was lying in my fiance's bed. He wasn't my fiance at the time, and I was just crying. Because, if you've been in this place, if you know what it's like to put your heart into something and just know that it's not working out, just know that things aren't coming together for a multitude of reasons. And that's hard. It's really hard. And you know, whether that is your own business, or you're trying to find your romantic partner, whatever it is, you might know what it's like to put all that effort into something and find yourself just feeling this deep rock bottom disappointment. And on this particular weekend, I had done a lot of journaling, just trying to move through these emotions, and I was sitting in all of this self reflection. And so when I wrote this journal entry, I said, so, it's Sunday now, and I feel good. I feel rested. I feel ready to let go, ready to put down my head and get back to work tomorrow. But what I am clear on is the following, I want to build a wellness business that allows me to teach in exotic places. Knowing this, I need to build a practice that is exclusive to me. I've toyed with the idea of creating pop up wellness experiences for hotels and oh man, when I read this little portion this intention this morning, it hit me so hard, because I got to look at this wound. I got to look at this moment of doubt. I got to look at this time that felt like such a big failure from the place of my future self, who is now living out this desire, who is a resident healer for the four seasons in New York Downtown, who has been traveling to different locations to do pop up experiences, who is in a couple of weeks, going to Sedona for a press trip and to the lodge at Woodlock for a pop up. And I do have an exclusive practice. I'm not teaching somebody else's philosophy. This is a method that is all mine. It feels like a tiny miracle to be really honest with you, and what I needed to hear back then, and what I want you to hear now is this, detours are not the end. What feels like a failure is not the end for you. Sometimes these moments when things don't work out are just redirections for what's meant to be our highest good. And I know that this might be you, your high achiever, and you are craving depth and spiritual fulfillment in your career. And we can get really caught in the pain of the doubt of the disappointment, because we're so used to things working out for us. We're so used to being able to put in the effort and having the result. So when things don't work out as quickly or in the way that we had imagined them, and we get stuck in creating a lot of stories. We get stuck in grieving these endings, grieving what didn't work out, not realizing that this moment may just be the opening to a new chapter. This moment, which feels like a complete knockdown, is an opportunity to step into something better, because success isn't just about grit. It's about honoring your intuition. Sometimes that demands us to let go of the how. To let go of what it's supposed to look like. LIKE to let us sit in the space of I desire this. I'm not sure of exactly how I get there, but I'm going to keep moving. I'm not going to give up. This means that this wasn't the way. It's like a labyrinth, and you've been going down a path for a long time, and it feels like you're going to get somewhere, and then you hit the dead end, and you're like, oh shit, I gotta go back. I gotta go back to square one. So you go all the way back. And now there's a new path within the labyrinth that you're gonna move down. And we're not quite sure we're gonna get there this time, right? And we feel a little bit more defeated. But what if this is the path that leads you to where you needed to go, to the desire. So if you start to really think of your life that way, as this labyrinth, that yes, you might have turned down the wrong way, we might have to back up, take a step back, recalibrate, go a different direction. And that doesn't mean this just once or twice. This could happen multiple times. The point is we don't give up. We hold on to the intention, but not the how, not the it needs to be this way. Okay, so I want you to release what has been draining you, and to hold fiercely, and I mean fiercely, to your vision, even when the details seem impossible. And here's the thing that I want you to know. Here's the biggest secret in all of this, unlike somebody else's success story, where it looks so seamless and effortless and like they did one thing and got to where they want to. This transition for me didn't happen overnight. It demanded that letting go of how. It demanded me going through another evolution with my own health. It demanded me to really confront my anxiety and stress. It demanded intense inner work, mindset shifts, hypnosis, one on one, coaching, shutting down limiting beliefs, rewiring old stories. It demanded me to be in the work you've been feeling that stuck, depleted, on the verge of letting go what you really desire. I want you to know that, what if this moment, right now isn't your breakdown. This doesn't mean you have to settle. This just means that you're being redirected towards your breakthrough, and this is why I am actually opening the wait list for high frequency success. It's an intensive 12 week VIP coaching program, because I want you to spend some time with me, someone who has gone through this, and this wasn't my first failure. I want you to know you can move beyond the disappointment, beyond the doubt, beyond the things not working out. I want you to move through the quantum leap with me. My goal is to take you through what took me five years and shrink that down for you. We go in. We deep dive into your human design, so that you can bring your unique gifts and shadows to light, so that you can make different choices, so that you can see the patterns that need to be broken. Then we do 12 one on one sessions, coaching, deep subconscious reprogramming, so that you can finally dissolve the self sabotage, the old stories, the limiting beliefs, so we can upgrade your self concept, who you know yourself to be and what is possible for you. I also give you coach in your pocket so you can message me on Voxer or WhatsApp Monday through Friday, so that you are never alone in those messy make it or break it moments or when it's time to celebrate because you actually had a breakthrough in the way that you think, or you had a breakthrough in your progress, It can be celebrated with this enthusiasm that it needs to be celebrated with. This is strategy, it is mindset. It is energetic upgrades so that your outer results start to match the power of your inner vision. This is the program for. Ambitious, spiritually curious women, yes and men that are ready to move from burnout and over, efforting everything to clarity, abundance and stepping into your high frequency success, because I want you to be able to have this experience of 10 years from now, and likely sooner, of opening a journal entry, reading an email from yourself and finding that you were actually living the Life you once dreamed about. So don't let today's struggle convince you to settle. Don't give up before the universe God can deliver what you're meant for, because you are a divine creation. Do not forget that. I want you to remember this. Your dreams are not random. They're a preview of what's possible when you refuse to give up. I can't wait to hold space for you. I can't wait for you to step into your breakthrough. And I'm going to leave you the link below for you to just get on the wait list and have a free consultation with me about what this could look like for you. And until next time, remember that when you journey within, you can go beyond you.