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Conquering Shame: From Surviving to Thriving with Monica Gullotta | EP 434

‱ Episode 434

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🧠 What if the voice in your head saying you're not enough
 isn’t really yours?

In this powerful and vulnerable episode of Grief 2 Growth, Brian D. Smith sits down with Monica Gullotta—educator, author, and shame recovery mentor—to unmask the silent, insidious force that shapes how we see ourselves: shame.

Whether it stems from childhood trauma, religion, culture, or societal conditioning, shame often drives our behaviors without our awareness. Monica bravely shares her personal story, clinical insights, and the 7 Developmental and Recovery Stages of Shame—a framework that has transformed countless lives.

If you've ever felt like you're not worthy, not lovable, or stuck in your healing journey, this episode will give you the awareness, tools, and hope to take your first step toward emotional liberation.

🔑 What You’ll Learn:

  • The surprising definition of shame—and why most people don’t know they have it
  • How shame differs from guilt (and why that matters)
  • The hidden ways shame shows up: addiction, anxiety, imposter syndrome, isolation
  • Why religion and culture often unintentionally breed toxic shame
  • Monica’s ARM Method and “Detect & Redirect” technique for real-life healing
  • How shame deepens the pain of grief and blocks emotional recovery
  • The 7 stages of shame recovery—from victimization to liberation

đŸ‘©â€âš•ïž About Monica Gullotta:

Monica has over 25 years of experience supporting people through panic, anxiety, depression, and most importantly—shame. She founded the Upstate Group for Panic, Anxiety, and Depression in 1999, and in 2009 opened the Ray of Hope Wellness Center. Her mission is to help individuals reclaim their lives through compassionate, honest, and empowering mentorship.

📚 Monica’s Books:

  • Conquering Shame: From Surviving to Thriving
  • Therapy Land
  • Rethinking Anxiety and Depression: Two Important Messengers

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