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This episode takes a hard, honest look at the state of the world today.

It’s one of those conversations that’ll make you sit back and think… “yeah, we might be in trouble.” 

We break down the state of the world, questioning whether we’ve truly carried the torch from the generations before us…or fumbled it completely!

 From today’s education system for students, parents, and teachers alike…to a real conversation about millennial parenting and accountability, nothing is off limits…. It’s raw, unfiltered, and at times uncomfortable but necessary. If you’re ready for truth over comfort, this is an episode you don’t want to miss.

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Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:00

Good to be into the copyright crowd.

SPEAKER_02 0:23

Yes! This is the Copacetic Hour. Copacetic is a term meaning everything is fine, cool, and in excellent order. This podcast is an area for open discussion, but not for the weak hearted nor the simple-minded. And although we may not always agree, we will always simplify respect. At the same time, nobody, and I do mean nobody, is exempt from getting these jokes. Everything is copacetic. Yes, the copacetic guy is everybody doing today. You know, it's good. Good. It's been a long day. Good.

SPEAKER_03 0:56

Facts. Facts.

SPEAKER_02 0:59

So today's Why Don't Shoot Show Icebreaker is if you could be a mayor of a city, what would it be and why?

SPEAKER_07 1:09

Um, I picked this about to be so backwards. I picked Shreveport. Shreveport. Shreveport, Louisiana. Okay. It's outside of like New, it's like a small backwoods kind of town.

unknown 1:25

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 1:26

I'm with you. I'm I'm I'm headed the same way.

SPEAKER_07 1:28

Okay, so it's like a small backwoods type of town um outside of Louis outside of um New Orleans. I say Shreveport because it's it's backwoods, it's country, it's small, um, a lot of potential for a lot of things, a lot of land, you know. I feel like it could be a good landing spot for a lot of opportunity. That's why I would choose it.

SPEAKER_02 1:52

I like that. I like that, I like that. So I am your host, five. Uh we're doing so we're doing new shoutouts. Uh I want to thank everybody who's listening in Finland, who's listening in China, Sweden, Lithuania, shout out to Kalamazoo, shout out to Battle Creek, shout out to Memphis, shout out to East Lansing, shout out to Salford, Salford, shout out to Frisco, Texas, shout out to Grand Rapids, shout out to Randsdowl, Randah, Randallstown, Maryland, shout out to Ashburn, Virginia, shout out to Central Bedfordshire, shout out to Manchester, Manchester, shout out to Licky Bye, Licking County, shout out to Redford, Michigan, shout out to Oram, Utah, shout out to Austin, Texas. We want to thank you for listening to Copacetic Hour for taking your time and making us a part of your day. We thank you. So for me, if I was a city, if I was a mayor of a city, I think it would be like an even smaller place, like in the Bahamas or somewhere. Just uh I don't even know if they got mayors, but I think they got mayors. Somewhere a small city where you know everybody, if somebody got a problem, like I can actually go to their house and ask them, like, what's going on? So I don't gotta and then I can actually get things done. I don't want to be nowhere where I gotta go through red tape and politics and gotta convince a board of people to have this done. No, I want to be able to just be like, hey, uh this city, Jackson Street, they need they they need this light fixed. And I want to be able small enough to where we only got like three or four lights anyway.

SPEAKER_04 3:51

That's true too.

SPEAKER_02 3:54

I can go, we can get that fixed ASAP. I want to be in something like that. It's a pothole on Jefferson Ave. You know what I mean?

SPEAKER_07 3:59

That's what I'm saying. Like, you know, small, them small backwoods, like they just be you can get from one side to the other side in like 10 minutes. 10, 15 minutes.

SPEAKER_02 4:09

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 4:10

Yeah, you know, that's that's where that's how it is, like where I'm from.

SPEAKER_02 4:12

I want to mayor a city like that where I can I know everybody. I know their mom, I know their daddy. I'd be the mayor out of the community, like see some kids or some bad stuff. But hey, I'd be at your house later to tell your mama what you did.

SPEAKER_07 4:25

Hey, you see that in movies? Movies though, like when the when the mayor or the the person in charge be the they be the officiant, they be the local lawyer, yeah, they be the pastor.

SPEAKER_02 4:38

Yeah. We only got we got every professional, but it's only like one or two of these professions in the town. You know what I'm saying? We got two dentists. We got we got a hospital, but it's a small hospital. You gotta drive to the bigger city if you really, really need you get shot, you really, really need help. I want to be somewhere like that.

SPEAKER_03 4:57

Yeah, that's what I want to do. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_02 5:00

Just thirty thirty 30 minutes outside a big a big place.

SPEAKER_03 5:04

You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_02 5:06

Something like that in the Bahamas or somewhere.

SPEAKER_07 5:08

I don't know. No, no, because then I mean like we both we both chose like backwoods, small cities, small, small towns, whatever. But when you think about it, like dang it, we had to go to the store, we gotta drive at least 30, 40 minutes just to get to the store.

SPEAKER_02 5:22

No, see, my city, I'm we're gonna have like community gardens or something, you know what I'm saying? We're gonna have a farm.

SPEAKER_07 5:27

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 5:28

Yeah, I'm I'm trying to set my city up to be self-proficient. You know what I'm saying? So I feel that. You know, I feel it.

SPEAKER_07 5:33

I have your own lumber yard. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_02 5:35

All of that. All of that. We got a farm, we got animals. You go to the you go to Mr. Uh Mr. Gabriel, and uh he got a farm, he sells meats on his farm, you know what I'm saying? You go to Mr. Gabriel's shop to get your meats.

SPEAKER_07 5:48

Yeah, like you can go down the road and get your chickens fresh. You know what I'm saying? You know what I'm saying? Off the farm. Get your chicken, your eggs fresh. Yeah. Even get the chicken, they gonna skin it and everything.

SPEAKER_02 5:57

All the feathers, everything, yeah. Whole bunch of country people, but I'm the only city person there.

SPEAKER_07 6:06

That's my kind of carrying on.

SPEAKER_03 6:08

Facts, facts.

SPEAKER_02 6:11

So earlier we were talking about like how like all the civil rights and all the leaders of yesterday are like literally fading out, and it seems like we don't have like a a new renaissance or revolution on people from our community that are like making the differences in the world. And I think it's mostly because with social media, we just don't hear about these people. You know what I'm saying? Because social media is controlled by algorithms that people place on you for the most part. Like you can't add some things in your algorithm, get me wrong, by your likes and they literally have a section of what you want in your algorithms. But it's hard to cause some stuff be in my algorithm, like I don't want to see this. You know what I'm saying? A lot of stuff be like that. You know what I'm saying? You just assume you are a 35-year-old black man, this is what you like. You like big butts. You know what I'm saying? And anytime you be like not interested, you know, it'll go away for a few days, but then next week it'd be big butts on your timeline again. You know what I'm saying? So it's uh the algorithm is like plagued to like try to steal our t attention from the things that matter, I would say. So I do feel like that with like important things like inventors and people solving issues that happen in the world, but as far as like our leaders, I don't know if our generation is built for the type of leadership in which we stand on the backs of.

SPEAKER_07 7:53

I highly agree. I feel like when I look on social media, because I'm on social media every day, but when I'm looking around social media, who's really the next, you know I'm saying Obama, Michelle, who's really like the next, you know, every still every leader had their problems. Like, I'm not gonna sit here and say any of them was perfect, right? Nobody's perfect, nobody's perfect, they all had their problems, whether it was, you know, public or not. Yeah, but like who really gonna be the next leader of like you said, a revolution? You know, we gotta think back to the 50s and 60s when most of our grandparents were part of those revolutions that was happening at the time.

SPEAKER_03 8:37

Right.

SPEAKER_07 8:38

And who's everyday black folks on the internet complaining about what's happening in the world and talking about how outraged they are, but where's the organizing coming from? Who's doing anything about it? Who are the leaders that's like, nah, we we need to we need to get in the mud like our granddaddies and our grandmas did?

SPEAKER_02 8:59

I don't even think that's the problem, like I feel like there are those people. The issue is that we're not together on one accord anymore.

SPEAKER_07 9:07

I agree with that. I agree with that. Because recently, a lot of content about the million man march has been coming up on my timeline, and I've never seen anything, any type of organizing happen like in that capacity since then.

SPEAKER_02 9:23

Yeah, there was like a million man march not too long ago, but it is just it doesn't have the same reverence that it once did, for sure. I agree with that.

SPEAKER_07 9:33

Exactly. Now I will say I feel like it can be fixed because our revolution doesn't look like what our grandparents' revolution looks like. You know what I'm saying? Are we still fighting the same fight to a certain extent? Yes, but they were fighting for way more. And now that we actually have those things that they were fighting for, whether it was rights or the right to vote, the right, you know, women's rights, all those things like we have those now, but this fight is completely different. So I think, too, a lot of up-and-coming leaders, I don't want to call them wannabes, but a lot of up-and-coming leaders are trying to repeat the same practices that like our grandparents did or participated in, but you can't use that same practice because it's not the same fight. Like it's it's similar, but it's not the exact same.

SPEAKER_02 10:24

Right.

SPEAKER_07 10:25

We're not fighting for the right to vote right now.

SPEAKER_02 10:27

And I think that people are just aren't motivated enough to do those things, like go on marches and doing that. Cause I heard Stephen A. Smith say something like people are having so many problems right now that they just don't have the time or the energy and the effort to even care about the movement or whatever you want to call it, because like they their actual life is in shambles in the moment. They're trying to survive.

SPEAKER_07 10:58

That's a fact. I'ma be honest, because when when stuff was going on with me, I did not give a damn what was happening in the world at the time. Like life is life, and with me right now, like I can't I can't pour from an empty cup over there.

SPEAKER_02 11:13

Yeah. And I feel like our grandparents and their generation, they were pouring from empty cups. Because they had a they had a sense of community that we don't have. Like we don't barter, you know what I'm saying? Me and you will help each other because we actual friends, but we don't have a community of people that we can like barter from, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_07 11:38

No, we don't, because like think about it. A lot of us had grandparents that could go to their neighborhouse and borrow sugar. Yeah, you go to the neighborhouse now, they might shoot you. Facts. Just because they like, who why you who is this and why are you on my porch? Like, people don't even know their neighbors no more.

SPEAKER_03 11:52

Facts.

SPEAKER_07 11:53

And my me and my granny was just talking about that because I'm like, we really live in a society where people don't communicate with their neighbors anymore. Like growing up, I always like every morning I would come out the house, like when I'm getting ready to go to school, the neighbor would be coming out because he either be going to church or he was older, so he either going to church or he going to work or he's going to do whatever retired folks do. I knew that person by name all the time. Like to this day, if I see if I see him coming out the house or something, we stop and have whole conversations in the yard. Like, I just feel like people don't know who's even living amongst them anymore. Like, they don't have a sense of, let me go check on this person. Let me see if my neighbor needs a babysitter. You know what I'm saying? Like, my neighbor worked these type of jobs. Let me see if I can do something to help take something off their plate because you don't even know. Yeah, like even within the family, we used to have community. Like, yeah, grandma watched everybody kids.

SPEAKER_02 12:52

Facts. That's how you knew your cousins, that's how you you grow up. You and your cousins is raised together. Like my brothers' kids, they don't know their cousins. They're not gonna know their cousins for real. Like me and me and my wife, we make an effort to like to keep them. Like we keep her sister's kids, or keep my brother's kids, uh, my niece, so they can like know each other. But if I'm gonna be real, they not really cousins for real. Like, they just they cousins by marriage, you know what I'm saying? But you know what I'm saying? We kind of try to like raise them like they're cousins because they don't have like the cousin thing, how we grew up, like knowing our cousins. Like, I knew my cousins, we spent every day together in the summertime, you know what I'm saying, at my great grandma's house.

SPEAKER_07 13:38

Yeah, I'm gonna be honest, my family dynamic is very different because even though you grow up with your cousins, it don't always mean it was healthy. Um, but I will say, from now, at this point in time, now in life of me being a mom, my child don't know her cousins like that.

SPEAKER_02 13:54

And I'm gonna be for that's also I don't even talk with my cousins no more. Only when we get together on a the blue moon, if we get together, like every couple years, we have like a cookout at my great grandma's house. Yeah, or something. My grandma passed away a few years ago, though. You know what I'm saying? Like, so those are fewer and far between than they used to be.

SPEAKER_07 14:15

And when you kids, you forced to grow up with them, like when grand when everybody, like for me, or for my family at least, all of us caught the school bus to my granny house. I lived with my granny, so I just caught the school bus home, but all the rest of them caught the school bus to my granny house, and then your mamas come pick y'all up. But even then, I'm like, I don't want all these motherfuckers over here, you know what I'm saying? Like, just being honest, like, so I think for me, the dynamic was different because we weren't cousins that actually grew up like siblings where we got along and hung out and it followed over into adulthood. That's not it's like once adulthood hit, those that like was like on that trying to get away train, we split and got the hell on. Like, I was definitely getting away from the hell away from y'all train.

SPEAKER_02 14:58

Yeah, me too.

SPEAKER_07 14:59

When we all started having children, that kind of trickled down to the kids because if I don't talk to this person and I don't talk to that person, then my kids not gonna talk to y'all either.

SPEAKER_02 15:09

Facts. That's a fact. Like, I just spoke out of school the other day. That's what and uh I saw one of my little cousins across like, what's up, cuz? He knew me, but he ain't really know me like that. You know what I'm saying? Oh, he's like, Oh yeah, what's up, cuz? Yeah, he did one of them.

SPEAKER_07 15:28

I mean, and it's that's unfortunate, that's what I'm saying. Like the sense of community, and the weird thing is, and it's not weird, it's actually a good thing. I feel like for me and my daughter at least, we've been able to create our village and community with people that's not related to us, yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 15:44

Like that used to be a thing too, though.

SPEAKER_07 15:47

Yeah, yeah, that's true too. Like, you build you build relationship with the local lady that run a daycare outer house. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_02 15:56

Like that can't even happen no more.

SPEAKER_07 15:58

That can't happen no more because you got people that's just and I think too, the times have changed. You got way more crazy sick shit going on, and people just don't feel comfortable leaving their kids or interacting with people so much because it's getting also a becoming a danger.

SPEAKER_02 16:14

I don't see, like, I I know that the Bible says, like, if you read the Bible, it'll tell you like the world is gonna get worse and worse and worse. You know what I'm saying? Like, that's just the way we're headed, right? And you get that, but it's just crazy to think like when I was a kid, I used to be on my bike and I'd be gone all day. I'd be in the hood, I'd be at Burger King, I'd be at the local store, wherever. I'm gone till the street lights hit at eight o'clock. I've been gone since eight this morning. You know what I'm saying? Like, free. I don't got no cell phone.

SPEAKER_07 16:46

You had the mom that told you, and the parents that told you, if you bring your ass back in this house, you staying in the house.

SPEAKER_02 16:50

Yeah, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_07 16:51

You made sure to stay gone all day.

SPEAKER_02 16:53

Or somebody else's parents see me out, like, get out the street. You know what I'm saying? Or whatever, whatever discipline I needed in the moment as they were passing by. Like, I they would do that, you know what I'm saying? Or look out for me if I needed to. Or if there was somebody trying to do something bad to us, another random man or woman be like, no, you don't talk, you don't talk to them kids like that. You know what I'm saying? Like, that would just happen, and that just is not a thing anymore.

SPEAKER_07 17:18

It's not a thing, and it's like most parents then too weren't against other people correcting their kids. Nowadays, nobody can correct somebody else's kid. And I think too, like, even with my own kid, I don't I don't really do that whole you you too good to be corrected. Facts, you know what I'm saying? If an adult saw something that that you did that wasn't appropriate or that wasn't right or something, and they're giving you correction, your job is to receive the correction, not to for the parent to step in and be like, Don't talk to my fucking kid. Yeah, you know what I'm saying? Like when my grandma is correcting my daughter on something about behavior or or something she said, it's like if it came off really smart mouth or something, I don't step in, I don't say nothing. I don't say nothing, and not because I'm just scared of my damn granny, but it's like, no, my this is a moment where uh an elder is correcting a kid, like they're correcting something that needs to be corrected, right? So if I step in and say something like, oh, well, don't say that to her, don't talk to her like that, or whatever. Now the kid starts thinking they can either get away with things or they start turning into they don't have to listen to nobody, yeah. They don't gotta listen to nobody, or they start sometimes it boils over into entitlement. Yeah, like you know, I ain't gotta do what mom said, I ain't gotta do nothing you say.

SPEAKER_02 18:39

That's a problem with uh uh kids in school today.

SPEAKER_07 18:42

That's a fact, you know what I'm saying? That's a fact, that's a fact.

SPEAKER_02 18:46

I've been thinking about substituting, and the people that work in the schools are like, yeah, these kids is so bad.

SPEAKER_07 18:54

I'm gonna tell you, I sat in my daughter's classroom twice, right before the holidays, before Christmas and things, before Christmas and New Year, I mean. And um, mm-mm. Can't nothing pay me to do that shit. And I sub talk it, I substituted in college for two months. I did that shit for two months and said I cannot do this. It the money ain't even worth it. It ain't never that serious.

SPEAKER_02 19:16

Oh, I'm about to do it. It's$200 a day to to roll the basketball out and let them play is that's a fact.

SPEAKER_07 19:22

And some schools actually have worth$300 a day. You know what I'm saying? Just for the whole day. That's a fact. Like, I will say too, like for four hours?

SPEAKER_02 19:29

Like, yeah, go ahead and y'all can hoop for y'all can hoop for 30 minutes while I'm here.

SPEAKER_07 19:35

But this boils back to what I said about where is where is the next wave of leaders gonna come from because the parents aren't leading the kids.

SPEAKER_02 19:43

I don't even think you can do anything. Our generation of parents suck.

SPEAKER_07 19:48

That's a fact. They just do, they just have the build ones, but overall, it's a hot mess.

SPEAKER_02 19:54

Yeah, overall, the parent, our generation of parents just suck. They still want to be young and not be parents. Like parents is not even parents, just love in general is sacrifice. You know what I'm saying? And our and the parents of our generation don't get that concept. They still want to do what they want to do.

SPEAKER_07 20:13

That's true too. I think I always get I I feel mixed ways about this because I do feel like millennials are um, especially the millennials, are the better generation of parents when it comes to decoding what a lot of us experienced in childhood. But the problem, the problem that that has created though, is that we have kids that cannot self-regulate, that can't self-entertain, that can't um critical think, yeah, that can't problem solve on their own.

SPEAKER_02 20:50

Because we're taking care of everything for them. Say it again.

SPEAKER_07 20:54

They can't take accountability.

SPEAKER_02 20:56

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 20:56

So it's like I feel like that whole gentle parenting wave. Now we have kids that have been so heavily gentle parented that they really don't have no skill set that makes them, that makes them like strong or strongly led individuals or strongly independent. Yeah, like it just it don't, they don't have the skills that follows behind discipline.

SPEAKER_02 21:18

Because I didn't need my mom to tell me, like, hey, you need to be here at the certain time, you need to eat. I'm making sure my mom eats, let alone me and my brothers. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_04 21:29

Like same.

SPEAKER_02 21:31

I'm I'm cooking dinner so my mom gets home, because my mom had three jobs growing up. My mom gets home, her dinner's in the microwave. My brothers are fed, and at the at the very least, we watching TV in the bed or something. You know what I'm saying? We like it's we didn't shut it down for the night. My mom didn't have to be around for none of that to happen.

SPEAKER_03 21:51

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 21:51

I know this is supposed to happen and then it's gonna happen.

SPEAKER_07 21:55

Yeah, and see, that's the struggle I'm having right now as a mom, is that. Like my daughter, as much structure as I've given her in the last nine years of her life, is something that's like there's like a click that ain't clicked yet. You know what I'm saying? Like when you keep telling a kid to do the same thing every day, like this is the same thing we do every day, and you still act like you don't know. Like that boils me. And it's not a lack of discipline or a lack of because everybody knows how I get down as a as a disciplinary parent around.

SPEAKER_02 22:32

She's not doing no gentle parenting.

SPEAKER_07 22:34

I don't gentle parent. I think gentle parenting is stupid as fuck. I just call it what you want. I I don't gentle parent.

SPEAKER_05 22:41

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 22:42

Law straight, no chaser in this household. When I so for me, it's like, and it's crazy because I've created poster boards. Like I'm talking posters that you really try.

SPEAKER_02 22:52

Yeah, you really trying.

SPEAKER_07 22:53

On the wall that says, here's what you do first, second, third, fourth. And you still act like you don't know when you hit that door from school. Like you still acting like, Well, I didn't, I didn't know how you didn't know. We do this shit every day. We've been doing this shit every day since you started pre-K, my guy. Like, what are we talking about? We've been doing this every day. Like, what's where's the where's the disconnect? And I've been having so many conversations with her about like you're disconnected, which is why the next the current step that we're on is I've limited complete electronics. We already don't have a whole lot of electronics in the house. My kid, not a gamer. Um, she has a tablet, but she never owned it's been dead for a year. That motherfucker been sitting in the closet dead for a year. She ain't thought about that tablet, and I haven't either. Um, she got a Nintendo Switch that she might play on like a once a month.

SPEAKER_05 23:49

Okay, okay.

SPEAKER_07 23:50

You know what I'm saying? Like it's it's it's sitting out in the open, so it's not like it's not something she just picks up every day. The thing is, is like I had to limit certain things, but her is I told you it's that damn TV. She will binge watch everything all day if you let her, and I'm like, you gotta get up off that TV. And I had just told my mom that these kids don't have the experience of sitting at grandma's house all summer or every day after school with nothing to do with doing crossword puzzles. I keep telling people, I said, When you had the grandma that had the word search and crossword puzzles, I said, Do you understand how much a word search or a crossword puzzle makes you critically think? Because you have to go looking for something or finding the answer in the crossword puzzle to a riddle.

SPEAKER_05 24:37

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 24:38

And you have to use your freaking mental and what you know and your knowledge to figure out this riddle. I'm like, Do you understand how much feeding that does for your brain? Like how fed your brain gets from that kind of stuff?

SPEAKER_02 24:51

They say the generation after us, after millennials, is the first generation that isn't smarter than the last generation. They're saying that. That's what they say.

SPEAKER_07 25:02

They're not, though.

SPEAKER_02 25:02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 25:03

They're not because they're when you look at even just the graduation rates right now of Gen Z and Gen Z, I would as a person who works around none but Gen Z, like I work around them. I can't stand it because it's like they don't know how to, it's like they, it's like they like so clueless, they don't know how to do anything. It boils the f out of me. It's like the most simplest things they just don't get. And you looking like you're about to graduate college in like two weeks, and you talking about you don't know how to do what? You're like 24. Yeah, and you it don't make sense to me. I'm just like, this don't make no fucking sense to me. I'll be at work like I can't, I can't, I can't talk stupid. I I just I can't, I can't, I can't like to the point they can't critically think, they can't problem solve.

SPEAKER_04 25:54

I had one student that she had a work study job, but she didn't her financial aid got messed up.

SPEAKER_07 26:08

So you know when you got work study or financial aid get messed up, you can't go to work until your stuff gets straightened out.

SPEAKER_05 26:13

Right.

SPEAKER_07 26:14

Instead of just letting your job, and it's like it's a university, they understand this stuff happen all the time for years, decades. Uh, financial aid working it out. I'm I'm trying to keep y'all updated in the process of this going on. She didn't tell these people nothing, she just stopped going. So she stopped, so they thinking she didn't quit. Yeah, and they sent emails like, Well, if you quit, just send in the letter of resignation. And she's like, But I didn't quit. So she's talking to me about it, but you're not handling your business about it. So I'm literally sitting here spoon feeding words for her to put into this email and to directly go talk to the people, the department she works in, yeah, so that you can let these people know what the hell is going on. I said, What is your problem with letting people know what's going on? Like communication, they have no communication skills. Yeah, millennials already have a hard time communicating.

SPEAKER_02 27:10

That's because we think we can take care of everything on our own.

SPEAKER_07 27:14

That's a fact, too.

SPEAKER_02 27:15

You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_07 27:16

We carry the burden of thinking we we got it. We we'll figure it the fuck out. We'd have figured the fuck out, generations. I figure it out. But the fact that I'm seeing Gen Zers not being able to even advocate for themselves is scary to me. Now they are the able to speak up in the workplace. I've been hearing that a lot. Like the Gen Zers are in the workplace in the corporate places basically saying what they're not standing for. Yeah, but you and you in the workplace in corporate acting the ass over something that's standard practice. If your boss wants you to be on time and you ready to say fuck it and up and quit today because they ask you to be on time, that's crazy. Like the entitlement even is following within the workplace right now with that generation, and they not as smart because they also are the technology generation, they also are the product of no child left behind generation.

SPEAKER_02 28:18

Some people should have got left behind.

SPEAKER_07 28:20

That's a fact, and a lot of them was in school, it was in high school be when COVID came.

SPEAKER_02 28:26

That's a thing too. Like COVID really like set people behind a few years for sure.

SPEAKER_04 28:33

It did.

SPEAKER_02 28:34

Social skills, uh school education, everything like it set people behind a few years.

SPEAKER_07 28:42

Yeah, we seeing it on the collegiate level. We see it in the Greek level, we see it on the collegiate level that they just don't have even people skills. Like when I think about all of us in from a collegiate, like our collegiate time, we were charismatic, we were, you know, approachable, yeah, you know, we interacted. Even the you even saw people that was technically considered shy, even interacting. Right now, everybody is so in a hermit. It's like I the the vision that I be having, like how I envision this, is like you see students walking around with a hood on and they face covered up. Like they just it's like this is how I see students walking around, like just yeah, with headphones in. They don't want to be talked to. They have the level of social anxiety that's building up in these people. I do not understand.

SPEAKER_02 29:38

You gotta think everything in life, like even like dating, dating is done through the apps, right? Oh lord. Freaking video games, like like uh PlayStation, right? You can play online with different people, but no one can come to your house and y'all can play the same game together anymore. Like, that's not a thing.

SPEAKER_07 29:59

I I've seen that.

SPEAKER_02 30:00

That is it's crazy to me. I didn't know that was a thing until like one of my homeboys, his dad died. So we was at the he came over to the crib. I'm like, oh yeah, let's play the game. The only game we could play is the football game, because that's literally the only two-player game where you can someone can be in the same room with you and play. I would have had to have a whole nother gaming system and TV for us to play the game together. Because people, because they make it so like you don't have to interact with people face to face anymore.

SPEAKER_07 30:30

I didn't even think about that because think about it. I remember when I had my Nintendo 64, and when you were two or a four player, if you're doing a two or a four, because you can only do up to four players. So when you a two or four player, it splits the screen, split the screen, and everybody got their own box, yeah, so they can they can watch what the other person doing and where you at on the map and all this other kind of stuff. Like, I will say the only game that still allows you to do that is the Nintendo Switch. But even with the Nintendo Switch, you can only go up to so many people, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 31:01

And it's still certain games, too, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_07 31:03

Yep, like the Mario Racing Kart, like Mario Kart 8 or whatever. Yeah, like when me and my daughter play that together, it it will do the two-person split screen situation, but at the same time, it's like you're right, like they have created even the the thing that's supposed to bring people together is separating people.

SPEAKER_02 31:24

That's true, that's crazy, right?

SPEAKER_07 31:27

Yeah, because when you think universe, universe is is what uni means one.

SPEAKER_05 31:33

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 31:34

Uni means one. They have literally made you like separate universes for every single thing, whether it's video games, whether it's even now working remote. They got everybody like now when you work remote, you ain't gotta interact with nobody in the office.

SPEAKER_05 31:50

No, at all.

SPEAKER_07 31:50

You know what I'm saying? Now I'm gonna hush because I don't want to go back to in all work. But at the same time, it's like even that, like you you knew who you worked around.

SPEAKER_02 32:00

Yeah, like I think I wanna I want to go back into an office.

SPEAKER_07 32:04

Yeah, I will say I do like being hybrid at my job. Like the fact that we forced to come into the office three days a week because it forces you to interact with the people you work with.

SPEAKER_02 32:14

Honestly, I don't even want a job anymore, be for real. I think I'm gonna I need to I need to I'm I think I'm gonna start to try to be an entrepreneur.

SPEAKER_07 32:25

I do not dream of labor.

SPEAKER_02 32:26

Yeah. I'm stretching out a job. Only reason I even want a job kinda is for insurance. But if I can make enough outside of in my entrepreneurial uh spirit when I don't have to even worry about paying for insurance, then I wouldn't I wouldn't even work a job anymore. Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 32:47

And I will say this I mean, I might be even adding to that individual thing, even in my own house. Like my kid is a social butterfly.

unknown 32:55

Okay.

SPEAKER_07 32:55

She is. She'll talk to anybody, she'll hang out, she'll hang out with any kid. She's gonna hold conversations with adults, she's gonna hold conversations with people's grandmas, she's gonna hold conversations with the kids. She don't care. Like, she really is a social butterfly to the T. Like, she's never been afraid to be in the front.

SPEAKER_05 33:13

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 33:14

Like, but because of the way like the school systems are being ran right now, we are at the end of this school year, we are switching to homeschool. Oh, you are switching her to homeschool? I will be a homeschooling parent. I have not said nothing. I had to pray on that for a long time.

SPEAKER_05 33:29

Okay.

SPEAKER_07 33:30

So I haven't said nothing to outside of my immediate like family and my best friend. But you know, now that it's like really in the works of like happening for real, it's like because kids not even learning for real at school, I feel like no more. That's that's her, she comes home frustrated, like, oh well, we couldn't finish this, we couldn't finish this because the teacher had to stop because somebody, this kid was acting like this, or this person was pulling on this person. So with the with the teachers only with the teachers spending the majority of their day behavior managing, they don't actually get to lessons. And then they're only trying to get these kids through testing, through state testing and standardized testing. So they're rushing through lessons last minute, the week of testing. Yeah, but but the the tests are also the tests at the time are also having questions and and topics on there that y'all never covered because y'all never got there. And so I told my daughter, like, if I I would be a terrible person if I continue to let you stay in public school because you're gonna be so behind in life, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 34:40

And it's my responsibility to make sure that you have a career, it's not the school's responsibility for sure.

SPEAKER_07 34:45

Yeah, it's like it's my responsibility to make sure that you have the best, the most influential education situation that you can have. And unfortunately, now that's she was upset because she like, well, I won't get the I'll just be at home by myself. And I'm like, Yeah, but it don't mean that we can't do like homeschool meetups, or I said that actually gives us flexibility to do like solo field trips every month and all those kind of things. Like, yeah, you'll get to interact with other people. Her biggest thing was I won't get to interact with nobody, and I'm like, that's not true, you know.

SPEAKER_02 35:26

But the fact that the classrooms are overcrowded, that's the thing, it's too many, it's too many uh students, not enough teachers. They need to pay teachers more.

SPEAKER_07 35:36

That's a fact, and then teachers should be making like a hundred grand. That's that's that's a fact. Now, I will say too, the other caveat to this is outside of the fact that teachers are underpaid, is the lack of resources and the fact that, and I'm that y'all can shoot me down for saying this, I don't give a fuck. Okay, but other caveat to this is when they incorporated kids of several different learning ranges and they put all of them in the same classroom, right? It's causing a big extreme gap in the learning system. Like, for instance, when you put um, and this is this is something that's talk about on social media though. Like when you have put like kids that would technically back in the day would be considered special education, it doesn't mean that they were stupid or anything like that, they just only operated better in smaller classrooms, yeah. They needed more help, they needed more help, more attention. So when you started putting the kids that do need more help and need more individual attention because they would have three teachers in that classroom with six kids. So when you took them kids and put them in the classroom with general education, regular learning kids, and y'all put the accelerated kids in the same class, you got it's chaotic. And I sat in my daughter classroom and watched it in real time. I'm like, I'm looking at the kids that's over excelling in this class, and even a teacher lets it be known, like shoot, what you call it, the home that homework been done for four days, you know. I'm saying still and they still working on it as a class, and they in in and and you got half the class still even trying to get to the half of the work when you got this one tiny group of kids that already didn't did that days ago. Yeah, like they they done surpassed, they they doing y'all in fourth grade, they already doing fifth grade work type stuff, yeah. Because that's what their parents got them on at home, or they just not are intelligent kids, right? So when they started mixing all these kids together and all these different learning abilities, and as a person who has friends and family members with kids that have like autism, when you have kids with autism spectrum that like are a little higher on the spectrum, so they get like elopers, like what they call an eloper, like the kid that's up walking around, running away, it's disruptive to the day of what's going on, and so the kids that's trying to learn can't learn because you're having to stop and do this and do that, yada yada yada. So then they never get to anything, they never accomplish, they never finish nothing. Facts, and so my kid is struggling because she like, I can't, I can't do this. Like she was like, It's not that I can't do the work, I can't you can't you can't teach me something in two minutes and expect me to be able to take a whole test on it when we barely touched on it for a whole class day, right? Because the teacher was doing this, or she was telling this person to sit down, or the whole class got in trouble because they was talking crazy, or the student that is an eloper is running around the classroom half the day. Then you got the behavioral. That's I forgot the fourth group of students, the behavioral issue students. Yeah, the people who actually do got behavioral problems, the ones that got real deal behavior problems that's gonna call the teachers out their name, that's gonna scratch, hit, fight, and bite, all that kind of stuff. Like they causing disruption, they pulling hair on other kids, they fighting other kids. The ones that y'all got them in the classroom with the other kids, too.

SPEAKER_02 39:02

Bullying.

SPEAKER_07 39:03

The bullying, yes. I yeah, I sat in the back of that class and was I'm literally already in my mentor, was throwing being able to throw which kid belonged in which group.

SPEAKER_02 39:13

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_07 39:13

Because the behavior was clear as day.

SPEAKER_02 39:16

Were you sitting in the classroom like that? Do you gotta like as a parent hold yourself or not correcting the kid? Like, hey, uh, it took listen, I was doing it.

SPEAKER_07 39:28

The crazy thing is, I was doing it, I was doing it on the slide. So whenever one of the kids like walk past the table, I'm sitting at, because they just trying to you you disrupt it. I said, Um, do you need to be up out your seat? Yeah, I'm gonna need you to go sit on again. I said, I don't know your mama's name, but I'm pretty sure your teacher will give me her number and I'm finna call her and send her a video of what the hell you doing.

SPEAKER_02 39:49

Right.

SPEAKER_07 39:50

So I had several no nonsense sit the fuck down because I said sit the fuck down and the them them silent shut the fuck ups. It was they was catching them all day. I did not give a damn. I did not give a damn.

SPEAKER_02 40:03

Hilarious. It's uh it's tough out here for for the like the generations, like and then like don't get me wrong, AI is great, but the downside of AI is that people won't need to learn anymore. Like, people won't have to critically think. Even me, like texting and actually texting the words have becoming an inconvenience for me at times. Like, I press the talk to text and text, like, uh, because it's just I can just I've been doing it. I was so against it until I started doing it. I'm like, this is more convenient.

SPEAKER_07 40:39

You're about to piss me off. And I can't even lie because I use AI almost every day at work, so I'ma shut up. But no, and I mean, even back to the kids and the school thing, I don't want I don't say any of that with any disrespect. This is the truth. This is the truth of what the parents are talking about behind the scenes. This is the truth the teachers and the administrators are talking about behind the scenes. They actually wish they can go back to old school models of school, yeah. But they can't because state state regulation means that they can't go back to old school model of what school used to look like. And I don't want to say desegregate, but it's like if if I have a kid that's technically on paper considered special education, if your child has an IEP, they're considered special education. So when you have a special education child, for anybody out there that does have that, why would I want my kid in a classroom where they can't get what they need?

SPEAKER_02 41:29

I feel like the only other option is to pay for them to go to a private school. And times don't afford parents to do that, honestly.

SPEAKER_07 41:40

Yeah, but private school don't matter either. Because even in private school, the classroom size is still anywhere between 11 and 17 or 20.

SPEAKER_02 41:47

It's still a little larger, but it's not uh it's not like public schools for sure.

SPEAKER_07 41:53

Yeah. Well, this all these things and the things that my kids are struggling with, because she's not struggling grade-wise, but then I'm like, of you should have good grades. Y'all not doing nothing.

SPEAKER_05 42:05

Yeah, yeah, right.

SPEAKER_07 42:07

Like, and it got to the point too, since she's been in preschool, but since she's been at her current school, I'm I'm always creating homework for her on the slide anyway. I've always been like that. So I'm either I'm buying the workbooks or I'm on like Google or something, finding like principles or whatever. So I'm all I've already been doing this stuff for you on the side all these years.

SPEAKER_02 42:26

I feel like you're supposed to as a parent, though.

SPEAKER_07 42:29

You are my grandma did it for me, so I can't say she did it for me. But it's it's one of them things too. Like, if I'm already doing all this extra goddamn work, you might as well home, you might as well learn at home.

SPEAKER_02 42:39

I make you smarter than what you're learning. Yeah. And you got it, you got a master's.

unknown 42:46

You feel me?

SPEAKER_07 42:47

I told my kid, you can't be my kid and not this shit ain't right. Like you, like, you can't be a kid that belonged to me and your shit ain't together. That don't eat that don't even make sense.

SPEAKER_02 42:58

Right. Yeah, I don't know. I um stuff is tough these days, man.

SPEAKER_07 43:06

It is. It's tough. Everybody got something going on. Everybody got something going on. It's and it boils back to a lot of it be financial, a lot of it be stress, a lot of it be mental health and finances.

SPEAKER_02 43:15

Everything costs way more, but we don't make way more.

SPEAKER_07 43:19

We don't.

SPEAKER_02 43:20

If anything, the cost is going up, but the pay rates are staying the same.

SPEAKER_07 43:25

That's a fact. They just not about to raise the um minimum wage in the state of Michigan.

SPEAKER_02 43:30

Are they?

SPEAKER_07 43:31

Yep, it got raised this month, actually. It goes into effect. It went into effect already. It's in effect right now.

SPEAKER_02 43:37

What's the minimum wage? It was at$7.50.

SPEAKER_07 43:40

Yeah, but the new the new minimum wage is thirteen thirteen forty.

SPEAKER_03 43:49

That's nothing.

SPEAKER_02 43:51

It's still like, but you at least have to make it to like eighteen. I feel like minimum wage should be like eighteen dollars.

SPEAKER_07 44:00

Yeah, but even then they're gonna raise milk to seven dollars.

SPEAKER_02 44:03

That's what I'm saying. That there should be like there should be some rules on type of like, hey, you gotta wait 25 years to raise certain prices of things until you know what I'm saying? And so we so the economy can catch back up. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_07 44:17

Exactly. But this boils back to what we said in the beginning of the conversation about the next wave of leadership that's supposed to help regulate some of these things.

SPEAKER_02 44:26

I don't even know how that works. Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 44:29

It's all government regulated. That's the problem, too.

SPEAKER_02 44:32

If it can be regulated, it needs to get regulated. But I don't necessarily know how that works. The problem is too, though, is that people in like political situations either they've been rich for too long now, or they always been rich.

SPEAKER_07 44:48

And they out of touch.

SPEAKER_02 44:49

And they out of touch. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_07 44:51

I seen somebody do an experiment. I want to say I seen clips of somebody doing an experiment on TikTok or Instagram of them asking rich people how much was a gallon of milk.

SPEAKER_05 45:02

Yeah. For sure.

SPEAKER_07 45:03

And they really don't know because they just go in the store and pick it up and swipe their card. They don't know.

SPEAKER_02 45:09

They don't know about a lot of things I would bad. You know what I'm saying? Like it was this thing, uh, like the wood. And it was talking about in the wood how have you ever seen The Wood, The Wood is a movie about these three teenagers who grew up in Inglewood, California. Funny, funny black movie. So in the wood, there's this scene, and you know, forgive me. There's this scene where they bet one of their homeboys who just moved to California to grab this girl's butt for a dollar. You know? Uh bad, bad, bad. Shame, shame, shame. As my boy Jacori, the comedian. Jakori the comedian would say, Shame, shame, shame on sexual harassment by middle school boys and middle school girls. Shame, shame, shame, shame. But that's not the point of the story. Um and then and somebody brought up, well, how much is a dollar back then? And how much is how much is it compared to a dollar now? So a dollar back then compared to now, they said that at the time could be compared to like eight dollars. So it could, though. One dollar back then to now is like eight, eight to ten dollars. And I was like, damn, that's a huge difference.

SPEAKER_07 46:27

I'm I'ma even take it further. I know you don't drink, and I know you don't go out, but yeah, back even in the early 2010s, you could go out with$20 and still, and you can get that's that's your fee, that's that's your money to get in, and that's your money to drink. Because shots was two dollars or a dollar, mixed drinks was four anywhere from three to five dollars. You really never paid more than seven dollars unless you was drinking like something extremely top shelf, and even with extreme top shelf, you might spend ten dollars, right? Might, and that depends on what bar or club you was at. Those same drinks are now equivalent in the range of on the low end for a shot. I went out last year somewhere, a shot that would have costed me two, three dollars back in the day. They charged me$15. Yeah, I paid almost$40 for two, three shots. For two, three shots.

SPEAKER_02 47:26

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 47:27

And I was like, I might as well go to the house. Why this$40?

SPEAKER_02 47:32

Yeah, facts. I just we need to get a bottle and go to the house.

SPEAKER_07 47:38

No worries. Listen, I'm like, we back then used to pre-game in the car, okay? But still like$20 going out on a night, you came, you had a good night. You got$20 on, you had a good night. Every time. And now it's not like that anymore. It's equivalent to I went out to a restaurant one time, um, ordered, ordered uh a like a tequila-based drink that had um Don Julio in it. Or no, Patron in it, was Patron, Patron, Patron. Get the bill, they charged$30 because instead of the bottom shelf tequila that they was already gonna the the baseline drink price was$15, they charged an extra$15 because I asked them to replace that with Patron. I said I got a steakhouse at home. I'm not doing this no more, I'm not doing this no more. I'm not doing this no more. Like so that's how bad it is right now, though. Like anytime you see shoes, clothes, and stuff like that even be so expensive for no reason.

SPEAKER_02 48:52

Oh, trust me, I know. Freaking uh losing weight is great for my health, but my clothes, having to buy all new clothes is terrible.

SPEAKER_07 49:03

It's terrible because the price of how much they cost right now is insane. Now, me, I'm a bargain shopper, so I know I grew up knowing what seasons to shop in for what and what stores to go get it from for the low.

SPEAKER_02 49:16

See, I'm still not that small yet, so there's no bargain shopping for me.

SPEAKER_07 49:22

But no, like I I just and the crazy thing is people ask me all the time, this about this, and I don't know why they feel like they look late to ask me how I handle life as a single parent.

SPEAKER_05 49:34

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 49:35

Like, how can I afford life when I'm you know one income kid, you know what I'm saying? Like, how are you functioning out here? And I'm just like, I'm like, I'm kind of going through things like the rest of everybody else. You know, I got a little bit of debt. I got, you know, my kid has needs. I said I do shop a certain type of way, and with it just being two of us, and we very much are very adamant about the fact that sometimes we'll eat girl dinner and be on about our business. Like we don't need a full course meal, we might eat a both.

SPEAKER_02 50:11

Oh, girl dinner, yeah. What's girl dinner?

SPEAKER_07 50:13

I was gonna say on TikTok, girl dinner. So why women? This is part of the reason why women say we cool with being single right now, because I like being ugly, unshaved legs, and be able to eat my girl dinner in my house. Okay, girl dinner is having a bowl of cereal for dinner, like you, like you had a cup of coffee and two grapes, and you've been good all day. You had a cup of coffee and two grapes, and you'd have been good all day. You done had uh a fucking turkey sandwich and uh a cup of juice and you ate that at two o'clock, it's 10 o'clock. You good? You ate your you you you don't even want nothing, you ain't even hungry.

SPEAKER_05 50:55

Okay, okay.

SPEAKER_07 50:56

So me and my daughter have our girl dinner day, she might be like, Mom, I'm just gonna eat. Can I have some chips and salsa? Can I have some pretzels and grapes? Can I have some bananas and this? And I'm like, okay. So then when I say, like, oh, what you want to eat for dinner? I'm not hungry. She ate her girl dinner and she went to bed.

SPEAKER_02 51:15

Huh, yeah. You you ain't got no man because that's not gonna fly.

SPEAKER_07 51:18

Okay, so that's why that's why I'm cool. Like, I swear I'm cool. When I peace I've had to enjoy them days where I just don't want nothing but a bowl of oatmeal and to sit down somewhere.

SPEAKER_02 51:31

I mean it'll fly sometimes, don't get me wrong. It ain't a every, but that ain't gonna fly for an everyday basis.

SPEAKER_07 51:39

No, that fly at least two, three days a week for us, and it's not even a we choose it kind of thing. Yeah, I make a menu every week of what I plan on meal prepping and cooking for the week. But then when the day gets here, my kid might be like, Mom, I'm not even hungry. I ate this at school, or she takes her lunch to school. She's like, I took this to school, and can we just have this? Like, she might just ask for something so simple. It might just be like a can I just have some sun butter because she can't eat peanut butter. Can I just have some sun butter and apples? Is she gonna eat that sun butter and apples? Which sun butter is high in protein, but regardless, she's gonna eat that sun butter and apples and go to bed. Like, that's that's what women on we call on the internet girl dinner. Like, we don't have to cook a full course meal to be performative. We can actually just eat our heart desire. If I want a banana and an orange and to go to sleep, that's what I'm about to do.

SPEAKER_02 52:34

Huh.

SPEAKER_05 52:35

Okay, okay.

SPEAKER_02 52:37

I was with you with the bowl of cereal. You know what I'm saying? Every now and again, you just tire, you know what I'm saying? But not no grapes and two cups of coffee. No, we're not doing that. No.

SPEAKER_07 52:46

I had I bullshit you not, I had a iced coffee at eight o'clock this morning. We just had dinner at 7:30.

SPEAKER_02 52:55

Which I have.

SPEAKER_07 52:56

I I went a little oriental this evening. I made some Japanese, I made some Japanese um miso soup.

SPEAKER_05 53:05

Okay.

SPEAKER_07 53:06

Um, which it had kale and it's it's chicken broth or broth based, and then uh it had like kale in it and some uh what they call glass noodles was in it.

SPEAKER_05 53:18

Okay.

SPEAKER_07 53:19

Like a Japanese noodle or Korean noodle or whatever. Yeah. So we put we had that, and then I also made a side of chicken fried rice. So we had chicken fried rice, you know, with the bean sprouts and all the things that go in chicken fried, that go in fried rice.

SPEAKER_06 53:33

Okay.

SPEAKER_07 53:34

So we had fried rice and like the a Japanese soup as well.

SPEAKER_02 53:38

Yeah, that that's a that's a real meal though. See, that's fine. That's that's a that's a real meal.

SPEAKER_07 53:44

Yeah, that but then the crazy, I'ma be honest. When both of us started eating, nobody wanted to eat. We we both eating it like it tastes good.

SPEAKER_05 53:53

Yeah, but I'm not hungry, yeah.

SPEAKER_07 53:56

It turned into and I it's crazy because all I had today was an iced coffee that I drank this morning. My kid had grapes and strawberries and pretzels when she got home from school, and she was like, hmm, yeah, I I mean I ate half my rice, I think I'm good. Like, you know what? Me too, the fuck? And we go to bed. So I don't know. I I just life is so topsy turvy right now for everybody.

SPEAKER_03 54:25

Facts.

SPEAKER_07 54:25

That's why I don't throw no no shade or no negativity towards anybody because I don't know what people going through. Facts, and then at the same time, I'm like everybody going through something. People making six figures on TikTok talking about they can't afford, they can't do this, and they can't, yada yada yada.

SPEAKER_02 54:43

Now, in my mental, I'm like, okay, how you can't like yeah, but you don't know what they got, what they overhead is not going on.

SPEAKER_07 54:50

You could be caring for family members, you can be uh doing other things that's taking up your finances. I don't know. Yeah, and I'm like, I don't judge nothing because everybody going through something. You got celebrities broke, you know what I'm saying? Like, I don't know what y'all dealing with. So I don't say I don't judge nothing that nobody got going on because none of us know for real.

SPEAKER_02 55:11

I don't judge nobody. It gotta be, it sucks, I guess, try being famous and not being like famous with famous money. You know what I'm saying? Because you still living like regular people gotta do regular people things. And but everyone knows who you are. You know what I'm saying? Yep. Well, me and you going through our tough times, don't nobody gotta know we're going through our tough times other than when we tell them on the show. Or or wherever, you know what I'm saying? And even there, we're not telling everything that's tough that we're going through. You know what I'm saying? They just get a glimpse into our tough world. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_07 55:45

I will say this for me. I don't I don't talk about tough things in the midst of me going through it. I talk about those things after I've after I've gotten through it.

SPEAKER_02 55:54

Yeah, after the storm is over, for sure.

SPEAKER_07 55:56

After the storm is over, because like the now the testimony behind of what's happening, now I'm ready to share because keeping the faith for sure. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 56:06

Facts. 100%.

SPEAKER_07 56:09

So I don't share in the midst of some certain things, but I definitely share after the fact.

SPEAKER_02 56:15

I'm with you on that.

SPEAKER_07 56:16

You know, because I'm one of those, like, you can't hurt my feelings, which I done already told my business.

SPEAKER_02 56:21

Facts.

SPEAKER_07 56:22

Like you can't hurt my feelings, I've already told my business.

SPEAKER_02 56:24

Hey, Mile B rabbit. I know I know everything you're gonna say against me.

SPEAKER_07 56:32

Like for real though, like you can't you can't hurt my feelings. Like, I done already told my own business, you know?

SPEAKER_05 56:38

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 56:38

Or I didn't already, I didn't already overcome this obstacle. So you can't you can't hurt my feelings, like you can't say nothing crazy, like, oh, you know, and I hate that too. When people do share their story online, like after the storm, and people will still hop on and judge the shit out of them. And I'm like, this person telling you what they went through, but they're they're not telling you what's happening right now, they're telling you this is what I went through, and I've overcome this.

SPEAKER_02 57:02

Right. People be looking to judge online, they'll be looking for like motivational line. You know what I'm saying? And some people be telling too much too.

SPEAKER_04 57:14

Oversharing.

SPEAKER_02 57:15

Yeah, some people overshare. You know what I'm saying? Like, even Jesus didn't overshare.

SPEAKER_04 57:21

That's true.

SPEAKER_02 57:22

You know what I'm saying? Like, he left people behind and like, hey, y'all live and wait here. Okay, y'all people right here. And he only took two, three people where he wanted to sit down and pray at. He only took a couple people with him and told them to pray with him. He left everybody else back because everybody don't even know your business. You know what I'm saying? Everybody not ready, everybody is not uh capable of handling what you may need to tell them. You know what I'm saying? Or what you what you need to share. Everybody's not capable of handling what needs to be told. So some people do be oversharing for sure.

SPEAKER_07 57:58

No, that's true too. I do feel like some people just be telling way too much.

SPEAKER_02 58:02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 58:02

I feel like too, some people let people in their lives, in their house, too much. Like when they be on camera recording, you got your whole, like we can see your whole background. I can see the holes in your walls, I can see that your baseballs ain't clean.

SPEAKER_02 58:15

Facts.

SPEAKER_07 58:16

Like, that's too much. You sharing.

SPEAKER_02 58:18

I made a promo video the other day and I had a lint piece on my collar. And it bothered me so much. So I tried to re-record it, and it just what it didn't sound better than the original recording. So I was like, oh well. Hey, they're just gonna have to make fun of me with this lint piece.

SPEAKER_07 58:34

Like when I talk about showing too much, that's just like there's been creators, like people that be on that internet beef shit. There's been creators that just off of them, just off of you showing like maybe a tiny, tiny piece of the background of your house or your car apartment complex on the outside, they can pinpoint where the fuck you live and they pulling up.

SPEAKER_02 58:56

Yeah, facts 100%.

SPEAKER_07 58:57

Yeah, it's that's that's how much I'm like people share too much. That's why lately when I be doing content, I be on this. You don't know where I'm at. I'm right here.

SPEAKER_02 59:08

Exactly my TV is in the background. That's it.

SPEAKER_07 59:11

I don't put nothing with information on it around me, nothing.

SPEAKER_02 59:14

Facts, facts. See, I got this green screen behind me. I mean, not green screen, but this virtual background. Yes, people don't need to know. You don't need to know.

SPEAKER_07 59:24

And then like I stopped vlogging like when I'm driving and stuff because people even so people are so invested, they even read the highway signs to see what direction you're going in.

SPEAKER_02 59:34

Oh, yeah, you gotta be careful with that as a woman, as a beautiful as a beautiful woman, too. Like, there's some sickos out here for sure.

SPEAKER_07 59:41

That's what I'm saying. So it's like I can't even record my card, me in the card for real no more. That's why I've been so MIA on social media, because I'm like, I'm I'm in the confusion space of what and how like what I should be posting. Because it's like every time I post something, people can literally pinpoint where you're at. Because if they even see exit such and such and such and such in the background of your video, they know what direction you headed in. Like, I don't like that. I don't like that at all.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:10

Yeah. 100%. All right, we're gonna go ahead and end the podcast there. Uh, give them your head ups, let them know where they can find you. Anything you want to promote, let them know.

SPEAKER_07 1:00:21

Okay, I don't have anything to promote for real, like brand-wise or nothing, but um, this was a pleasure. The conversation definitely started like we went around and talked about a little bit of everything. So I'm gonna need y'all to tap in and leave us some comments or something.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:36

Facts. You can send a text to the show.

SPEAKER_07 1:00:38

For real. But um, everybody can find me on social media at Jasmine Deche. Uh, that's J-A-S-M-I-N-D-E-S-H-E-A. My primary platforms going forward and more forward and forever forward is going to end up being YouTube and uh TikTok. Um, Instagram is kind of just my I don't care about Instagram no more, but those are my primary platforms going forward and where folks are about to start finding me again. Um, I'm in my bag of posting recipes. I've been doing a lot of homemade cooking. I'm like, I know I say I don't be cooking like that. I know I just said that technically.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:17

That's what I'm saying.

SPEAKER_07 1:01:18

I I have a lot of videos of me making bread from scratch and my homemade juice that I've made these last like few months. I've been making homemade juice and things like that. So um I want everybody to follow me over on YouTube to catch me in my that era of where I am.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:36

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SPEAKER_07 1:02:24

I was with you on phone 100. Now we on two.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:26

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