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This week we talked about how our mindsets have changed from our younger years… to now realizing life hits a lot harder than we expected. 

We also dive into the conversation around therapy… and whether our generation is actually built different… or just built softer than the ones before us.

And look… we apologize in advance for the Email of the Week, it’s a little wild and definitely NOT a reflection of what Season 6 is about, but you already know we had to address it.

And in this week’s “Melanate It” segment, we re-casted Adam Sandler’s 50 First Dates in a way only we could.

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Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:00

You're tuning in to the Culpass Edicot. This is the Culpa Setic. Why don't you just chip?

SPEAKER_05 0:23

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SPEAKER_06 0:52

Blessed and highly favored.

SPEAKER_05 0:54

That's what's up. That's what's up. That's what's up. So today's why don't you chill icebreaker is if you could make anything in the world only cost just one dollar from now on, no limits, what would it be and why?

SPEAKER_02 1:10

Hey y'all, I'm Cam from Montgomery. I'm mother of three. I'm married, and I work in government. So if I can make anything a dollar. I would just say bottled water because I'm trying to keep it simple. At first I was gonna be like a flight, but then I was like, I would never get anywhere because everybody's gonna be on airplanes. So let's just stick with bottled water because everybody should, you know, be able to get some bottled water.

SPEAKER_05 1:32

Rehydration. Right, rehydration. Hey, water, yeah. They say water going scarce somehow. I don't know how, but you know, they're saying it's going scarce.

SPEAKER_03 1:41

Right. Yo, I'm Rashad Clark from Battle Creek, Michigan. If I can make something a dollar, I would make groceries a dollar. Like we shouldn't have to pay for food, man. It's getting crazy. The prices is getting crazy.

SPEAKER_05 1:59

Bro, every time you go to this grocery store, you might as well just go out to eat. That's the you know what I'm saying? The only difference is your groceries you can eat off for a couple days, but it costs the same.

SPEAKER_03 2:11

Exactly. It's getting crazy, man. Man. Oh, that's a fact.

SPEAKER_06 2:14

Well, my name is Rashad Thrower from Skegan, Michigan. Go big reds. Woop whoop. Uh also a Bronco as well. Shout out to the Broncos. Whoop woop. Always a great day to be a Bronco. Um if I can make anything in the world only cost a dollar from now on, no limits. I would probably say oxtails and lamb chops.

SPEAKER_08 2:42

Oxtails?

SPEAKER_06 2:43

Oxtails and lamb chops. Because I I I love me some good um some good jerk lemon. Yeah, the lemon jerk lamb chops that I'll be making. And then also I wanted to get I wanted to dive into these jerk oxtails, but it's too expensive. Okay? I like it. It's it's way too much money for the little bit of meat that I'm gonna get. And it's disrespectful. I'm not paying, I'm already look, I'm already sacrificing a lot with the lamb chops because I go to Costco.

SPEAKER_08 3:17

Right, right, right.

SPEAKER_06 3:18

The best I'm gonna get is about a good$20. But after, if we can reduce that to a good dollar, I'll be pleased. And so will my fiance.

SPEAKER_05 3:27

You is a grill master, though, you know what I'm saying? Like, for real, like he got he got skills on the grill for sure.

SPEAKER_06 3:33

Yeah, one of his people got swung on because they had took some food off of my grill. Somebody else did not like that, and they because it was that good chicken that I was making, and it was a good it was a kerfuffle. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_05 3:47

It was a lot of things going on that day.

SPEAKER_06 3:50

A lot of furniture that was moving outside.

SPEAKER_05 3:54

Hilarious. Well, I am your host, five. I want to thank everybody for being here. Um, how we've been doing every episode. We want to give special shout outs to all our new territories. Um, special shouts out to Wadsworth, Illinois, Pasadena, California. Okay, I don't, this must be overseas. I can't, I don't know how to say this. Irisera Lisbon. Shout out to if I said that wrong, I am so sorry. Shout out to you. Uh shout out to Sackchess, Texas. Shout out to y'all. I appreciate you. I love you actually. You know, I want to thank you for you know finding time to listen to the Copacetic Hour and thinking that we are worthy. We appreciate you. So for me, these buffs. Yeah, all of that.

SPEAKER_06 4:49

Let me get these buffs.

SPEAKER_05 4:51

For me, what I was gonna, I was gonna say flights until Cam just said that I didn't even think about that. That everybody would be taking flights.

SPEAKER_06 4:59

I was gonna everybody don't need to be in the air. Because if I got a swing on you in the middle of like in the middle of 30,000 square feet, man, and I got a square with you. Nah, nah.

SPEAKER_05 5:14

Yeah, I was like, I was thinking, see, my thought process was like, you know, everybody start going to different places, like they they culture, yeah, their attitudes be better, you know what I'm saying? They get to experience different things, they get to experience it.

SPEAKER_06 5:26

They go to jail, you know what I'm saying? That's what they want to go straight to.

SPEAKER_02 5:29

I wouldn't even want to go no more because everybody at the airport now. You stay at home.

SPEAKER_03 5:35

So it'll probably be like, you know how like the trade stations is in like Chicago? Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. You're the craziest people on the bus. Imagine that in the plane. Anybody got time for that?

SPEAKER_05 5:48

Uh I love Chicago.

SPEAKER_06 5:50

I happen.

SPEAKER_05 5:51

Hilarious. All right, so no planes. I don't even know. Maybe uh, you know what should be a dollar? You know it should be free? Forget a dollar. You know it should be free. Water bill, light bill, heat bill, like stuff that like you didn't really, you not really it's not uh it's essentials, you know what I'm saying? Like America's supposed to be the greatest country in the world. Our essentials should just come. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_02 6:16

I I can get behind it. You know what I'm saying? I feel like once I I pay the mortgage or the rent for the home, all the other stuff should just come with it.

SPEAKER_05 6:23

Yeah, so just come with it. You know what I'm saying? Like, we shouldn't be paying for lights, shouldn't be paying for water, you know what I'm saying? Like, because you're not making the water, like you're not doing no nothing for the water.

SPEAKER_06 6:34

Water is the the government they are filtering.

SPEAKER_05 6:38

I mean, they put in infrastructure, the government put in the infrastructure to filter it, and then somebody else is saying, I'm gonna buy this and I own the water.

SPEAKER_02 6:44

Like, they play a monopoly with our money, and technically we pay for the filtration because we have to pay taxes for infrastructure.

SPEAKER_03 6:52

Yeah, facts, facts we get double tax, right?

SPEAKER_05 6:57

Emotional damage, man.

SPEAKER_06 7:00

What you can do this though. You can source your own water, you can source your own electricity, you can source your own fuel, you can do all of these things independently. It's just up to you if you want to take out that convenience or if you want to be inconvenienced. Either one is at your discretion, but you're gonna pay either way, either with that dollar or your time. But one way or another, it's gonna be paid.

SPEAKER_05 7:30

Even if you even if you source all of that, you still got to pay them taxes. It don't matter.

SPEAKER_02 7:35

I was about to say, I paid my day.

SPEAKER_05 7:38

Okay, say I'll be like, yeah, that's nice. Anyway, where my money? Run my money. Ah, so today's topic is how has your thinking changed from your younger years to now? I know for me, I used to think I was invincible. Like I literally lived my life with no worries, no cares. And only thing I can think of, I wasn't even worried about getting shot, being in the hood, nothing. Like I wasn't worried about catching no disease from messing with a girl. Like, I was just living life like it was golden, like they say. That's what it sounds like. You know what I'm saying? Like, I was carefree.

SPEAKER_02 8:26

I think for me, I'm kind of the opposite. I feel like I was in a rush when I was younger. Like, I felt like I had to do all this, get this done, and get a family, get a husband, get a job. Now, like hindsight is 2020, and I'm like, girl, you should have just been enjoying life. You should have been just living. Like, what was you rushing for? It would happen eventually.

SPEAKER_05 8:46

Facts. I feel like even though I got even though I was doing that, I feel like I did I jumped into it a little too early too myself, you know. So I could have waited a little bit, not gonna lie. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_03 8:58

Me too.

SPEAKER_06 9:00

18. I would say I've gotten more ruthless and more compassionate at the same time.

SPEAKER_05 9:08

Explain that.

SPEAKER_06 9:09

So if you're genuine in a situation, I have way more compassion for you. I have way more um grace I will extend. I'll have way more ways that I could try to assist you and provide resources and things of that nature.

SPEAKER_05 9:24

Right. That's what you do, yeah. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 9:28

But the moment that if you play or try to create a situation where it puts other things that I have going on, or even me or my people or people I love in a detrimental situation, yeah, like I'm a very nice guy.

SPEAKER_05 9:43

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 9:45

Then I'm just not gonna be sorry.

SPEAKER_05 9:47

Until until you're not. Yeah, I'm with that. Yeah, I agree. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 9:51

So it's like that. And now I used to be more so like how evil not like to that naivete or anything, but it was just more so like I was I was just like I was hopeful for more people. I was always like that, like, man, I ain't gonna, you know what I'm saying? And it's also like that reality of life kind of hit you. It's also because you know that even with you being like a younger person, like let's say you 15, 16, 17, being that younger dude, you dating girls, you thinking like, man, she'll never do this, she'll never do that until it never happens. You know what I'm saying? So you end up seeing a lot of different stuff. Like Cam said, you don't want to rush yourself in a lot of different things. So now I just kind of take my time, I see stuff, I let stuff play out. Um, now I got my beautiful fiance. I ain't gotta worry about none of these extra stuff. But beforehand, you was just, you know, you was kind of moving fast. Move a little reckless. Sometimes that recklessness also came with some some other tensions.

SPEAKER_02 10:55

So I had to I think you learn you learn the red flags too, because before it's like, oh, you know, he he looked good, he got a little, you know, swag about him. You kind of overlook a lot of stuff. As you get older though, you start realizing, like, yeah, no, I can't overlook that part. Like, I can't give you no grace. No.

SPEAKER_06 11:14

The nose ring. When Muggs be having that nose ring, I'll be scared. I already know it's drama coming automatically. I already know. The septum. Once I see the septum, I know what type of person I'm dealing with. It's done. Hilarious. It's a wrap. Hilarious. You've never met a peaceful person with a septum.

SPEAKER_05 11:37

Uh-oh. That's funny. That is funny. I feel like uh Cam, I think you hit it right on the nail on the head because like I was rushing trying to be grown. And then, like, me being the oldest sibling, too. Like, I was already like bombarded with a lot of responsibility, you know what I'm saying? And like that just sped up my life process. Like, I was thinking, I had to do this, I gotta do this, I gotta go to college, I gotta do all these different things. And I should have just been chilling and waited. I should have even waited to go to college, low-key. Like, when I went to college, I wasn't ready when I got to college. My first uh semester at Alabama State, I think I got like a 1.6 or something like that, like crazy. And and uh my mom was like, What are you doing down there? I was like, I'm learning, you know, it's different.

SPEAKER_02 12:36

And I was the opposite of the state, like everybody was like going out and stuff. I was like, Man, I gotta graduate. I got three years here, like I got to graduate, I gotta go to school to my next school. Like, I ain't got time. I should have had a little bit more fun.

SPEAKER_05 12:51

I was having too much.

SPEAKER_06 12:52

I think it's rose in the thorn with that though, because while Kim, I can understand that whole aspect of you know not want to rush too fast. Yeah. You also did, in turn with doing that, create more stabilization.

SPEAKER_05 13:11

Facts.

SPEAKER_06 13:12

Where a lot of these people that we see nowadays who did lollygag, who did have too much more or more fun than you, and for the most part, they don't have that same foundation. They don't have that same um, that same fulfillment that you get to get every day. Even as stressed and stuff as it may be, you still get like that's my bad. But it's like, yeah, certain stuff. Like, oh, that's my husband. Like, I ain't gotta worry about his life shoes. You might have that Rochelle situation. You know how Rochelle used to be. I do not need this. My man has two jobs, like you know, you don't know, you don't know what you might be dealing with. So is most people like Kim that have that foundation, they're more of a an anomaly now compared to the general standard. The general standard is you are watching a master at work.

SPEAKER_05 13:59

Yeah, that's good. Yeah, yeah. That is true. Because most people like our age are like starting to like live with their parents, or like not maybe the generation after us, not our generation, but the generation after staying with their parents longer, you know what I'm saying? Like, they don't have like they're not able to go out into the world on their own anymore. That's a good point.

SPEAKER_03 14:19

So, do you have older parents?

SPEAKER_02 14:21

No, I was the oldest child.

SPEAKER_03 14:24

I'll use the old.

SPEAKER_02 14:25

So much like E, I was the oldest, so it was like I'm trying to get something of my own.

SPEAKER_06 14:30

Facts. Yes. Yeah, I'm saying like I was the oldest in my household. So you you you wanna you wanna establish that indisp independence, especially when you that older child, because you want to be able to make sure that you can undergird your siblings, just in case if anything was to happen, because you know you that first you that first buffer after your parents passed. So trust me, I know that for a fact.

SPEAKER_03 14:52

Yeah. Yeah, I can see that. You see, I b I asked you about your parents because I got older. I had older parents. My mom was like 30 when she had me, and my dad was about 40. I mean, you know what I'm saying? So like growing up, I feel like I was like way more mature. Because my parents were just older too. So the shit they were teaching me growing up.

SPEAKER_02 15:14

Yeah, I was a grandma baby, so you might you might be on to something. Yeah, you know what I'm saying.

SPEAKER_05 15:19

And I think like I had a conversation about this with somebody else. Like, our generation has like lost the the family orientation. Like, orientation, like we don't do like family reunions or like because like when your whoever y'all call your grandma, your big mama, or whatever y'all call when they pass away, like you don't really see your cousins like on a regular no more. And your cousins, like my dad and all my older cousins, like I knew they kids. Like I grew basically grew up with their kids, right? But like my brothers' kids or my cousins' kids, like they don't know each other for real. Like, they don't they don't see each other, don't grow each other because there's no like I guess like the matriarchness of the family passed away, and like we never like picked up the ball.

SPEAKER_02 16:11

It's the generation I was really with Cam. Being the oldest again, I was like when my grandma passed, I kind of stepped into their role, and it's just like I'm not gonna say it's different because I don't know, it may have been like that with them, and they might have just had more patience than we have. But you just realize like people don't want to do stuff, like you fighting people to get them to get together, you fighting people to do simple stuff, and it just gets to the point where it's like I just respect my peace enough that hey, if we don't see each other, it is what it is. Like, I'm not gonna make you come around, I'm not gonna make you participate.

SPEAKER_03 16:47

Yeah, I agree stupid. Yeah, well, for me, I agree with everything she said. I definitely agree, but I feel like uh I kind of created my own family in a way, you know what I'm saying? So like I probably hang with my boys more, you know, they're and like it's a big group of us. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I hang with them more than I hang with any of my cousins, you know what I'm saying? So it's like uh I created my own group of friends that you know created my own family. Not that I don't love my real family, but it's just different. Like uh you just gotta tighten it, tighten it cruise up. So yeah.

SPEAKER_05 17:28

I ain't even gonna lie. Denzel is my only cousin I hang with. I don't really hang with no none of my other. I got other cousins. He got seven brothers. I don't hang with none of them.

SPEAKER_06 17:41

But if you think about it, I mean, it's all roses and thorns, right? But if you think about it, I mean your parents weren't always hanging around their siblings and stuff like that as well. It was just that we always made sure that we kind of got together and made sure that there was always those communion times. Or if they did, it's usually because they live relatively close more than more times than nothing. Like, but even with all that, yeah, you gonna make your own family. That's I mean, that's just part of growing up. But at the same time, too, we can't lose, we can't be losing the recipes. You know what I'm saying? And that's because I I I need my I need my kids to know who their cousins is and who their aunties and uncle is, because if we don't, you know what happens after a while. You know, you end up not knowing that that's your cousin now, y'all 16 and stuff like that. Yeah, you might be at Patrick, yeah.

SPEAKER_07 18:36

I just kissed her and stuff.

SPEAKER_06 18:37

That's what hold on, who is your daddy?

SPEAKER_07 18:40

Right.

SPEAKER_06 18:41

Your daddy's hold on, okay. For real. Lord, hold on. You said that that's your and so what's the name of your mama? Lord Jesus, that's a cousin, and then you like I've been kissing on my cousin. Wow, like so no, you gotta you gotta know your family, especially in small cities, too.

SPEAKER_05 18:59

Like, you gotta be careful. Oh my god. Goodness gracious, you gotta be careful.

SPEAKER_06 19:03

I know I know Battle Creek has a lot of smashing. That's what on our name. The only reason I do that is I've seen Battle Creek came to Kalamazoo a lot. So I used to see some crazy stuff, but I love Battle Creek. I love Battle Creek, man. For real. I love y'all out there. Oh man. I tell mugs all the time, y'all got the pretty city and prettiest girls per capita in the city in the whole entire state. Like per capita.

SPEAKER_05 19:38

Per capita.

SPEAKER_06 19:39

Per capita. Y'all got three.

SPEAKER_05 19:42

Yeah, okay. I had to think about that one. I had to think about it. I had to think about it. I can't I don't know if I can agree with you on that. I had to I had to put it in perspective first. Let me think about it. Nah, but like, even like the way I carry myself, like I never had anxiety growing up. I never had uh I never was worried about my health or things like that. And I I get like, you know, that type of stuff comes with just getting older, you know what I'm saying? But like I've become I used to think that mental health was just like the mindset of a weak person. You know what I'm saying? Until I went through some stuff where I was like, I get it. I I I can see how you get to you get to the edge and you just want to jump off. Like I I understand. I I understand it now. And it's crazy because like now, like how Rashad was saying, I have sympathy for people when they when they dealing with stuff now. Cause I get like you can go through something and it could put you in a dark place. And if you don't have like your foundational and faith or in your family to pick you up, like what do you have? What can you do? You know what I'm saying? And you just you could just throw your life away. Like I I get it now. It's I get like mental health is serious now. I get like why certain things we should do and we shouldn't do, or like health-wise, or just decision making that we come across now. But when I was growing up, all I'm gonna say all the way until like 30 or 25 that like I didn't have the same reverence for things as I do now. Like even when I listen to this old like podcast starting in 2020, my mind frame has changed so much from 2020 to 2026. Like I was listening to an old episode and I was talking about my marriage and all these and all these things and how like you know, stuff is cool and stuff. And it's like, and now I'm looking at and now like, bro, you didn't know what you was talking about. Like you was giving advice and I knowing the real.

SPEAKER_03 22:00

You know what I'm saying? Yeah, yeah, but no.

SPEAKER_02 22:06

What our grandmothers used to tell us, keep living, baby. Just keep on living.

SPEAKER_03 22:10

Just keep on living. Hey. I ought to show you. Keep on living. I was talking to somebody about a lot of my stuff be going reverting back to like me having my son young, but just like even with kids, you gotta have grace with your kids because you gotta think. This is their first time ever doing this shit.

SPEAKER_05 22:29

Facts, facts, facts. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_03 22:30

They trying to figure it out, literally. Like on the go. So, you know, they dealing with new emotions, all that type of shit. So you kind of gotta have that grace, man.

SPEAKER_05 22:41

I bet that's tough. You gotta have grace with that.

SPEAKER_03 22:43

I ain't gonna lie, it's your first time. I was gonna say, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 22:46

I ain't gonna lie, though. I'm impressed. It must be deep. These niggas is stupid. Like, so deep.

SPEAKER_02 22:59

That part. Like we was not these type of crash though.

SPEAKER_06 23:06

No, yeah. I'm not like bro. I'm not because I get mental health is serious. But what I've learned and what I've seen and also noticed is that now it's starting to become a crutch, a use for an excuse. Facts, facts, and you already know what excuses are.

SPEAKER_05 23:24

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 23:25

So knowing that, why would I try to give credence to certain people that's just going to use it whenever it's just to their advantage?

SPEAKER_05 23:35

Yeah, whenever it's I ain't trying to deal with though.

SPEAKER_06 23:38

Like, now do they have certain individuals that really do have it? Because right now I'm seeing everybody starting to, oh, everybody needs therapy. No, everybody don't. Like, no, everybody don't need that stuff. Everybody, like, I get the whole mental health aspect, but why am I sitting up here thinking that this person who also has issues, they own stuff, their own problems, their own situations, their own lifestyle, thinking that they can just automatically compartmentalize all of my situations, make sure that they are structured into that while they can go about everyday life and still go about it happily. In what world? Like, so sit up here and and lend credence to that ignorance and stupidity, and we've gotten so weak. We've gotten so weak. Our generation has gotten so weak and petulant and so simple-minded to the point that you can't say nothing, you can't correct nobody off of the stupid stuff that they do, or the or the positions that they end up putting their kids in, and then they end up wondering why everybody's sitting up here looking regressive. It's like, bro, y'all all got these regressive chromosome kids out here, but y'all don't want to sit up here and tell this mother, no, you need to sit there and actually repeat this grade. No, you need to sit here and actually be the person. You ain't got mental health issues, you just don't know how to concentrate, and you don't know how to sit your butt down somewhere, and you don't know if you need to go and run around a little bit, don't run around for two hours, people sit down, you know. But it's what you got, you we have to be real about certain things. We're getting sick and tired every time they uh grown adult sits up here and you can't tell them nothing because they don't want to be held accountable. It's like, bro, don't nobody want to be held accountable. The adults, the elder people or the kids. So don't everybody sitting up here looking like we petulant people. And I'm getting sick of that. And it's personal people, that's the part where I say that I'm ruthless. That's where you start to see me be ruthless. Remember, I said that earlier about how I can have that sympathy and I can have that ruth. This is where I get that ruthlessness at. You playing with my intellect, and I hate intellectually dishonest people. That's the one thing I hate. I I despise that. If you ever want to grind my gear, being intellectually dishonest is one of the easiest to do it.

SPEAKER_02 25:50

I feel like you kind of contradicted yourself a little bit though, because you said you don't think everybody should, you know, have there because everybody doesn't really have mental illness. But then you said, you know, people not want to be held accountable and not taking accountability for the things that are wrong with them. I think personally, no, everybody doesn't have mental illness, but I think there's a lot of undiagnosed mental illness in the world. And that's part of why people act the way they do, why they can't be held accountable, why the kids can't sit in the classes and learn. Because we're not actually understanding that mental health is a thing. And we're still trying to live by the 90 standard of, oh, nothing's wrong with you. You're not depressed, you're just lazier, you're not, you don't have ADHD, you just need a whooping. That I feel like we're trying to still live by that standard. That's why the kids are regressing, because I do feel like the kids now have a lot more going on mentally than we did because we were forced to be strong. We weren't, it wasn't dealt with. And because now, if we don't deal with it, they're not gonna be able to grow because I really feel like it's something that's starting to take a bigger toll on them because we're not willing to really sit down and say, hey, all kids don't learn the same. When are we gonna change the way we're teaching them? Well, we know that now. We know they don't know how to learn the same, but we still want to teach all the kids the same way and expect them all to get it. So at what point are we gonna be accountable and say mental health is a thing? Some of these people crashing out because they really need some help.

SPEAKER_06 27:19

True indeed. No, that's true. But I'm not absolute, I'm not an app, I'm not speaking in absolutes. That's my main thing, is that when people, and this is what you'll see if you watch Breakfast Club, this is what you'll hear on a continuous, this is one of the biggest talking points. Everybody needs therapy. That's why I say I don't believe everybody needs therapy. I'm not speaking in absolutes because that creates a whole generalization to say every little 330 million people in this country need therapy. That's why I say that that absolutism is fraught with risk and a lot of ignorance. Now, I'm not saying that's true. Because these different types of therapy people actually do need assistance. I'm not saying that that's not true. Yes, we do need some, but then there's also some people that just need to really be put through it. I'll give you a prime example like that just needs to go through like a real mental fortitude or actually be around some things that's a little bit different from their environment that they're used to um being that they're used to learning in. I don't know if y'all ever watched this thing called Hattie and U. Y'all ever watched them? No, I never seen that. They live, they so they lift weights. It's called to the and they they live, it's called uh TTD to the death. What they do and they lift, like they'll be doing some, like let's say they're doing these pull downs and stuff like that. Uncle come in there, Uncle's like 50 something plus. He'll come in there and do 150 and tell everybody up in there 150. Next thing now for them, psychologically, they're not ready for that. So then they'll start to crumble, and then they'll start, and then he'll tell them, like, I don't care. You're gonna do it until you die, you're gonna do it until you die, and all that stuff like that. What he's doing is he's starting to tweak them to get to break past their actual points. So he's it's kind of like what they do in the in in fraternities where they break you down to build you back up. So they kind of show you in a lot of different facets like that. Now, that's not everybody's able uh capability of being able to learn. I understand that. Everybody has a different way, but on a large basis, what I'm speaking on a general basis, not on the anomalies, not on those, but on a general basis, most of these people are using that as an excuse. A lot of them are using that as an excuse and a crutch.

SPEAKER_02 29:24

I think it's different types of therapy, though. Like this therapy, like I think talk therapy isn't the only thing, it's different types. That's like we all can use some form.

SPEAKER_06 29:35

Yeah, that could be that can be look used as a vessel of therapy. I can understand that that could be used. Well, I'm talking about more is this traditional. Let's have a conversation.

SPEAKER_05 29:44

Yeah, I agree with that. You may not need that, but I feel like everybody needs an outlet. There are things that are therapeutic for people. This podcast in general for me is therapeutic for me, especially like when everything going on with my wife, you know what I'm saying? Uh, she's been in and out of surgeries and sicknesses and you know catastrophic events for the last 10 years. When I picked up podcasting in 2020, going through that, it was and especially through the pandemic when she was going through all these things. It was like a relief for me to get out here to talk to my friends and to just, you know, shoot the Billy Jojo's at everybody and laugh. Like that was my therapy. It's to this day, it's still my therapy, even though I'm trying to make money at it now. But to this day, uh, this right here is my therapeutic process. How and when I have a thought, I create a whole show around a thought. That's how we got here today. You know what I'm saying? I create a whole show around how I'm feeling and bring people on here so they can express how they're feeling as well. Because I really do feel like this show in general and podcasting period is therapeutic. That is my process.

SPEAKER_03 30:51

Yeah, I feel like uh sometimes you just therapy is cool, right? And a lot of people might need it. But like, what's the solution? Like, a lot of times I just don't believe in like and some people might need this lifelong uh therapy. Like, okay, so what are we trying to break down? Let's let's let's get you know what I'm saying, let's get somewhere. Let's not just do it just to do it. Let's have a solution. This is what I'm trying to break down, this is what I'm processing. Thank you. I got the lesson. You know what I'm saying? I I don't think it should just be lifelong. That's my problem for me. That's what I see is wrong.

SPEAKER_05 31:32

Therapy does work the way you were saying, like you can get to a solution, you know what I'm saying? But it isn't something that's quick, though. Like we live in like this social media era where our attention spans are five, ten minutes, and if we don't get to it in five to ten minutes, then oh, it didn't work. That's just not how something with your brain works. You're mu when you're working out muscles, I can't live for a week and then you know be buff. Trust me, I'm I didn't lost 200 pounds and I still need to lose another 200 more. It don't work that way, unfortunately. So when dealing with you know, with your brain, which is a muscle, it's gonna take some time.

SPEAKER_03 32:09

I I could dig it. I ain't giving it a time limit. Yeah, yeah, but I'm saying, like, I'm trying to do something, I'm trying to get somewhere, but that might be how my brain process things. Yeah, you know what I'm saying? I'm I'm a solution-based person, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_02 32:23

I'm like that too, and I'll be honest, like, I don't think talk therapy is for me.

SPEAKER_03 32:27

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 32:28

Like, I've had a couple of talk therapies, and it always turns into like it's almost just like talking to a friend. It's like they're telling me their problems, I'm telling them mine. And it's like you're supposed to be helping me. So I had to learn how I think that's why I say therapy might just not be the right word for it. For me, I I give myself therapy, and my therapy is sitting with my feelings when something I just feel like let's say something really makes me angry. Every time something happens, I get really angry. So I know that's a trigger. So I need to sit down and unpack why is this making me so angry? Yeah instead of continuing to get angry. I think that's what I mean when I say, you know, yeah, everybody needs some form of therapy because I think a lot of people just walk around, they don't deal with their triggers. They don't deal with why are you so angry? Why are you depressed? Why are you sad? Why why can't you get up and be motivated? People don't sit down and really try to unpack it. And some people need somebody else to help them unpack that.

SPEAKER_05 33:25

Yeah, yeah, for sure. Now, especially now um I'm on my spiritual walk now, right? Like the other day, I was I was just anxiety for no reason. Nothing happened, nothing was going on. I just my anxiety was just like I couldn't even sit down. I just was walking around pacing. You know what I'm saying? And I was like, uh. So I grabbed my Bible and I started to read the Bible. And like I'm reading for like 20 minutes, 30 minutes, and then I started to get sleepy, fall asleep. Like all the anxiety, all the just the I don't know what it was, just intensity that I had going on, it just left me as I as I was reading the Bible. And I I feel like that's a that's a part of my uh part of my journey too. Like God and Jesus like helps me like calm down. And I was surprised. Like I told Gigi, like, man, you know, I was just telling you I was tripping. When I got to reading, like, it just went away. Like I got so calm, I I got sleepy. It was it was just that's where I'm at.

SPEAKER_06 34:31

Anybody else pick up that the um as there was a decline in their involvement in church and being able to have that foundation and being able to move forward because a lot of people don't understand the fact that the church plus God and religion and all that stuff, it it helps it's a moral compass. It establishes a moral compass within you.

SPEAKER_05 34:56

Right.

SPEAKER_06 34:56

When you go from substituting that to that used to be here, therapy used to be here, now it's the other way, where therapy is up here and everybody's talking crazy about God, right? Like you see the most like mugs is like rooting to be a demon now and all that stuff like that.

SPEAKER_05 35:15

Fact.

SPEAKER_06 35:15

Why all the the good stuff they try to say is we don't demon time and yeah, we don't know like they make that sound like it's the thrill of the century and all that stuff. But it's like so we like what we're what I've noticed, and here's the thing that I also want to take into I want people to take into consideration. Um I like to do research, worked in banking, private banking, anti-money laundering, so I'm a nerd on on a basis. Um our stress, we have more self-deletions. We have more self-deletions now than any other time in the past. Now, mind you, what's more prevalent right now? Therapy. But what's happening now? We also have more people that's self-deleting. So why is it closer to 50,000? And then you go back to 1970 when we are just coming out of Martin Luther King getting shot, all of these other situations when black people just got silver rights, and we didn't even have over 22,000 people self-deleting. You see how drastic that difference is over that period of who the found what the foundation is, what's actually being explored, how that's being expressed, how we're able to discipline one another, how we're actually able to be a community, and all that stuff like that. Mind you, did we have our blips? Did we have our issues? Did we have our stuff that went haywire and all that stuff? Of course. But on a on a very basic scale, 50k and you can look this up right now, close to 50k on a living currently, and you compare, and the people will say, Oh, well, they they didn't have the mental uh 42 back then, they couldn't deal with the stuff, they couldn't deal with not having civil rights. Yeah, I think these people just got civil rights, and they'll say that they couldn't handle what was going on. You we really we really gonna sit here with this level of audacity and say that we got harder than the people that didn't even have rights, that wasn't taking themselves out. I'm sorry, bro. That's then this is what makes it where it's weak. This is where I'd be like mugs is petulant because there's no way that you are that mentally fragile where you gotta sit up here and get yourself up out of here to this kind and to this extent where we have past double, we are almost tripling what they used to do back in the 1970s.

SPEAKER_03 37:51

When you say all that, like you know, look at the times we was, if you look at the structure like what we already talked about, family, you know what I'm saying? Yeah, um, the actual structure of like your grandma beer, you're going to your grandma's house, we're gonna have dinner, all that. That's when you pass down that type of information to your kids. If we not doing that, yeah, that could be the reason why they're not, you know what I'm saying? I'm blaming us, you know what I'm saying? Because blaming our generation. Like that needs to be taught in the home. Facts you know what I'm saying? You would do that to your grandma, you go talk to your granny, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_05 38:31

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. My grandma's Mexican, and that's who I was with every day. So we got a struggle.

SPEAKER_06 38:38

Your grandma had one of these. That chunk, that chunk. Yeah, she did.

SPEAKER_05 38:42

My grandma had a uh a Matha Mosca. That's what we got with. Yeah, play with me if you want. That's what we got with the raptor with the Matha Mosca. This week's episode is sponsored by the Design Lab at Shutter Shock and Co. From logos and business cards to invitations and custom tees, the design lab is your one-stop shop for graphics. The design lab is the sole creator for copacetic merchandise available now. Use your promo code Copacetic for 10% off your Copacetic merchandise. Shop now using the link in our bio. We are continuing with our thing where we are only uh reading replies. So I'm gonna replay the original email, and then I am going to read the reply from after they listen to the advice that we gave them.

SPEAKER_04 40:03

Dear TCH, the Copaceticon. How freaky is too freaky?

SPEAKER_05 40:12

I feel like I'm living in a fantasy, but it's starting to get weird, or maybe I'm just thinking too much. My girlfriend is a major freak. I'm talking several times a day, highway blowjobs, quickies at target, the riskier the better. And most of the time, I absolutely love it. Recently, though, we've been having more frequent threesomes. Cool, right? Um, we were at her house, at her dad's house, back around Labor Day, and her stepmom walked in on us. Instead of closing the door, she just kept staring at my dick. My girl tells her to join us. Stepmom runs over, grabs my dick, and starts giving me grade A head. Nigga, I'm shocked. It's like some real life porno shit. And I thought it would be just that once, but it's happened actually a couple times, and it's starting to happen a couple times a month since then. I feel like, wow, this is crazy, but in a good way. But I no longer think I can keep this up long term with my girl. I can't marry her and have kids with her. I can't have my kids' grandma sucking me up on the weekends. Am I overthinking this? Or is this situation just too crazy? Please cope with Setic Hour help. All right, so that was episode 39. If you want to check out the original episode, the advice that we gave them. So basically, the advice that we gave them is like you either need to leave or you know, just enjoy it while it lasts. That was the advice that they gave. If you can't if you can't handle it, you need to leave. But if if if you if you just want to have fun, then you know, just enjoy it while it lasts. And then this is their reply. This is their reply. Hey, Copacetic Hour, what's good? It's me, the guy who originally wrote in about having a sexual relationship with his girlfriend and her stepmom. Yeah, that situation. I saw that you all put the video up on YouTube, and I figured it was only right to send an update, send an update, since I actually took your advice. A few of you basically said to stop overthinking it and just enjoy the situation for what it was while it lasted. And I'm not gonna lie, that's exactly what I did. For a little while, everything was smooth, and I just leaned into it instead of stressing. But then everything went left. Her father ended up finding out. At first, he was obviously upset, like heated. I thought everything was about to explode, but then out of nowhere, things took a wild turn. Yeah, Jordan did. He said he wanted to watch, and I'm like, what? And that's when it hit me that this had gone way too far. That moment snapped me back into reality, and I realized I was in something way deeper and weirder than I ever intended. At that point, this felt demonic, and he put LOL. So I made the decision to remove myself completely and end the relationship. Now I'm sitting here trying to process this whole experience and figure out what to take from it. My question is how do you know when you cross the line from living in the moment to being in a situation? That's actually not aligned with who you are. And how do you reset from something like that? I appreciate y'all's advice the first time, even though things escalated and got way crazier than what I thought it would. Sincerely, the guy with the weirdest situation yet.

SPEAKER_03 44:19

He was in a sex call. He didn't know. That's what it was. That's what it was. He needs some therapy. Now that nigga gonna need some therapy after that. He was being took advantage of. He didn't know. Oh man. What?

SPEAKER_05 44:40

Yeah. He said the dad wanted to watch. The dad wanted to watch.

SPEAKER_03 44:47

Yeah, man. They on some real ditty shit.

SPEAKER_06 44:53

Definitely the diddly.

SPEAKER_05 44:56

Him having the jail, the jail on the as a sign up is hilarious. Oh, yeah. No, you want to jail.

SPEAKER_06 45:02

That's exactly what it sounds like. Sound like you went to jail. Like you're going straight to jail.

SPEAKER_02 45:07

Like, bro, why would you it's sound like the damn mama and daddy need to go to jail. Facts.

SPEAKER_03 45:14

Facts. The dad and the bomb is the ring leaders. They were doing something to that girl. Facts. I really tell you that.

SPEAKER_06 45:25

Ain't much of an opinion. E tell dog, I don't really got much of an option or opinion for him, but this is where he's going. I need to put a disclaimer out here.

SPEAKER_02 45:33

This show, he needs to give him some holy oil. Oh, yeah. And go talk to the the pastor.

SPEAKER_05 45:39

Right. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_02 45:40

Because he was the devil's house.

SPEAKER_05 45:42

Facts.

SPEAKER_02 45:43

Having an orgy.

SPEAKER_05 45:44

This show has has evolved. You know what I'm saying? We have I haven't even been cussing on season six. This is the most wildest email I've gotten. But because it was the and I'm trying to get my YouTube going, I was like, yeah, I'll do the reply. But yeah, this is uh Yeah, my boy. I I think you was sex cult, sex something. This that's when they say demon time, that's what that's demonic behavior. You know what I'm saying? That's what they be talking about.

SPEAKER_06 46:17

That's why you be saying you better not be inviting nobody to your bedroom. He was a sex slave.

SPEAKER_05 46:23

You know what I'm saying? Open Pandora's box. So how you process it, I don't know.

SPEAKER_02 46:28

I will say too, like, when he was like, How do you know when he's gone too far? For me, I don't know if this is an aging thing, but when you're dealing with hypersexual people, I feel like that's a red flag for me. Like you hypersexual because it's no telling what you would do. If if we ever in a situation where my energy ain't where your energy is, it's no telling what you would do.

SPEAKER_05 46:47

That's good. That's good. So you might you may need therapy. I don't know. It depends on how it affects you. Now don't be thinking your next girl is gonna be on that type of time. I don't know if you're dating or not, but they're gonna need therapy or no. Yeah, I know he said everybody don't need therapy, but we I think you just proved him. You you gave him a uh that person that person actually may need therapy.

SPEAKER_06 47:12

We need an extra that's what he needs. And uh STD checks going on YouTube, like yeah, bro. Because we ain't gonna be y'all don't sound like y'all was using condoms. Like, I don't know what was going on or what was being spread around, but that was real weird, yeah. Very weird. Like, I get the whole being freaky and stuff, you know.

SPEAKER_02 47:36

Yeah, when you when her mama walked in, you should have walked out.

SPEAKER_03 47:39

It did have been the line with the dad and with the daughter, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 47:45

The dad and the daughter, that's wild. That's too much, bro.

SPEAKER_06 47:48

Like, no, and then how old is the mama? Like, is you dealing you so you hit some plus 60 type cooch? No, yeah, bro. Really hit some senior citizen vaginas, bro.

SPEAKER_05 48:01

You might you might have to take a look, see, take a look into like your uh like your self-uh confidence or something, you know what I'm saying? Like why you elect you like self-worth, self-worth, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 48:16

Your self-worth dignity, your pride, your your ego, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_05 48:21

Like, you may need to like look into that to see why you would let this happen. Like, did this girl had a hold on you or something, or but she can never say anything crazy to him, though. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_06 48:31

Like, she can never say anything crazy. Because if she do, then he'll always be saying by fuck you and you just just cut just cut uh all them off, bro.

SPEAKER_05 48:41

Just go no contact with all that. That is in your past, please cut him off.

SPEAKER_02 48:45

You don't need to you can be celibate for a couple months because you need to figure out which role with you too.

SPEAKER_05 48:50

You know what I'm saying? Like a year, that's in your past. You don't even need to go get baptized, yeah. Yeah, you know what I'm saying? Wash wash your sins away. You know what I'm saying? You don't need to uh you don't even need to talk to them no more. You know what I'm saying? That was in your past. That was a dream. Real talk. That's how I look at it. That was a dream. Low-key, I ain't even gonna lie to you, bro. This is something deep right now. When you're when you're doing sin or a sinful act, sometimes, I don't even say sometimes, a lot of times, it feels like an out-of-body experience. Like when you look back on things that you've done that you know is wrong, you look back like I can't believe I was doing that. You know what I'm saying? Like, you're moral accomplished, you know what I'm saying? Like, it's like an out of body experience, like that really wasn't who I am. You know what I'm saying? So I think you might have experienced something like that. Like you had a out of body experience. You know what I'm saying? Literally, yeah. And when you sound like somebody was playing with him before, you look and you look at it and you like I I can't believe this happened. You know what I'm saying? Like, when you when you when something is really like truly demonic or sinful or something you know you shouldn't be doing, and then you look back on it, you I feel like you see it like that. Like, I can't believe that that happened, and I allowed this to happen.

SPEAKER_03 50:05

And you thought it was horrible, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 50:07

For a minute, you thought you had it like that, yeah. You know what I'm saying? You thought it was cool, and yeah, my boy. Go ahead and repent, too. I'm gonna say that. You know what I'm saying? Repent. Jesus will forgive you. You know, I don't know if you a believer or not, but this would be your time to start being a believer. I wouldn't heard an active participant. You need to go to altar call. It's a difference, it's a difference.

SPEAKER_02 50:30

I think they was playing him, like he needs to be in altar call, he needs the deacon to lay hands on him and they're important, he was on pornhood, he thought he was living out some fantasies. The date just went leaf.

SPEAKER_03 50:43

Yeah, see what what would happen was they set him up. Listen, mom, come in at this time. Yeah, that's a whole that was a whole setup, man.

SPEAKER_05 50:51

It was a groom, it was a grooming. Yeah, they were grooming you, though.

SPEAKER_06 50:55

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 50:56

You was right, brother. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_04 50:59

You you were a victim. He was dick, he was didddy. You got him.

SPEAKER_05 51:07

We're not laughing at your pain, though. If you're really sad about this, we're not laughing at it, but it is wild, bro. You did put some lols in there, so I think you think it's crazy too. So, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_06 51:18

But uh but you let the dad watch.

SPEAKER_05 51:21

No, he said when the dad wanted to watch, that's when he was like, Yeah, I'm not doing this anymore, and removed himself. That's what he said.

SPEAKER_03 51:29

Yeah, because he he the real leader. The dad the ring leader, yeah. You would have let him in there, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 51:33

It was about it was about to get quarterback that whole situation.

SPEAKER_05 51:36

It was about to get it was about to get real, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_02 51:39

They probably got you on video somewhere.

SPEAKER_06 51:41

They do. He got the running back, he got the daughter as the running back, got the mama playing wide receiver, and he's about to throw that mug. Yeah, yeah. He was just trying to see if they was willing.

SPEAKER_03 51:50

Yeah, you was gonna be in Mexico somewhere with sex traffic next, yeah. Uh but nah, for real talking.

SPEAKER_05 51:59

No, they actually go to a cabin, be like, yeah, you wanna go up north with us? But as far as advice, though, because that's what he wrote in for. As far as advice, you know what I'm saying? How should he reset? What did he say? How should he reset? And how do you know when living in the moment turns into you actually cross the line?

SPEAKER_03 52:20

You gotta be more aware, man. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? Like that was like he was really gullible.

SPEAKER_05 52:29

Pray, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 52:29

Then you need to pray.

SPEAKER_05 52:31

Facts, facts, facts. I'm with you on that. Yeah, you gotta be more aware of your surroundings, because you knew it was wild. You know what I'm saying? But then you know your flesh had you thinking, like, oh, well, you know. Let's see.

SPEAKER_02 52:45

I think therapy. You see what your experience is like. You need to start doing some unpacking because you crossed the line. Now you're worried about when to know I crossed the line.

SPEAKER_05 52:54

I'm telling you, he probably thinking about like it was an out of body experience. I can't believe that happened. Like, why did I let it happen? You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_06 53:03

Yeah, so stupid. Like, it's just stupid.

SPEAKER_05 53:07

I don't want to say you were stupid because I feel like he got good intentions at he thought it was something that it wasn't at first.

SPEAKER_06 53:16

Nah, you gotta see, you gotta, you can't, like Shah said, you can't be that gullible, yo. You cannot be gullible, yeah. That gullible because you not because I remember what if what somebody said, if you ever think you that, if you ever think you the man that much, yeah, you getting set up. Like you are never that man to that degree. That's like if somebody's sitting up there lining you up and they like, oh yeah, he a bar. I ain't got the all that stuff. They're gonna they're gonna big your head up until they end up getting you in that room, and they like then them moments run in there.

SPEAKER_05 53:51

So yeah, yeah, stop being gullible. That's stupid. Yeah, that's just not. I mean, maybe the stepmama was fine though, too. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_02 53:58

I'm not saying matter of fact, she might have been younger too, because it was her stepmom. So she might have like been a little younger.

SPEAKER_03 54:05

Yeah, south.

SPEAKER_06 54:06

I thought that was his mama. I mean, I thought that was her mama. That was his stepmom.

SPEAKER_05 54:11

That was a stepmom, yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 54:12

That the daddy broke in changed the dynamics here. Okay, dynamics just shifted. All right. Um, yeah, there's no relation between daughter and mother. No, but when the daddy came in there, yeah, no, when the daddy came in there, I would have grabbed my gun. But everything else, like but backtrack.

SPEAKER_02 54:32

Why was you at the daddy house doing these?

SPEAKER_06 54:34

Yeah. True. You ain't got your own. Well, you know what? The mama wouldn't ever come over to that other how old are these people?

SPEAKER_05 54:42

Yeah, yeah. True and we can't be asking questions that are not there in the email. Y'all gonna mess stuff up. Everybody is anonymous. When you when you write it to the Coast Pacific hour, everybody is anonymous. You know what I'm saying? Oh, yeah, it's all speculation. Yeah, everybody's anonymous. I'll never when you write it to me, I'll never tell nobody nothing that's going on. Who you are.

SPEAKER_06 55:03

You know that girl daddy of pearl. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 55:06

You might need you might need to be a uh mandatory reporter for the daddy, just slide that information to Diofficial Department of uh children and family or somebody.

SPEAKER_05 55:16

Somebody. But uh, I definitely think you know what I'm saying, you need to go on your spiritual journey too, because that's wild. You know what I'm saying? And I do agree with you that it felt demonic, you know what I'm saying? Just hearing you say it, you even having that comment that it felt demonic, that means like God was talking to you, like you you need to get out of this, you know what I'm saying? So hey things happen, you know what I'm saying? We all mess players mess up, you know what I'm saying? We all we all done done something in hindsight and be like, yeah, I shouldn't do that. You know what I'm saying? So no harm, no foul. You got out of it before it got too crazy, I guess. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_06 55:57

So go to church, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_05 56:00

Yeah, get some therapy, find the Lord, you know what I'm saying. Keep in mind, I agree with Cam, be sulliment for a few months. You know what I mean? No, nothing, you know what I'm saying?

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Six months, nine months, a year.

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Keep in mind, keep in mind that your next relationship is not gonna be like that. What you just experienced was not normal. Normal people don't operate the way you just operated. I'm sorry. That's not that's fantasy. You just have fantasy in real life, my boy. You know what I'm saying? And that's that's just remember that's not gonna happen for real.

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All right.

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Any last uh any last thoughts for good luck for a tink.

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SPEAKER_05 57:40

Same script, more culture. It was good, but let's make it blacker. This week, um melanated, we are recasting the hilarious movie by Adam Sandler called 50 First Dates. So in this movie, you know, Adam Sandler dates a woman who has long-term memory loss, or she can only remember things for 24 hours, and they go through a spiel where he has to date her every single day. So this movie includes Adam Sandler, Drew Barrymore, Rob Schneider, Blake Clark, Sean Austin, and Amy Hill. And those are the characters that we will be recasting. So we're gonna throw out some names, and then we all have to agree on the name that we're gonna put for this casting. So first and foremost, this is gonna be the lead of the movie. This is replacing Adam Sandler who played Henry Roth. Who are we picking? Who who's who's the he was like a debonair guy who was like Michael B.

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Jordan.

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Michael B. Jordan, who was like he was dating all types of women. He was lying to women, talking about he was a secret agent. Or it's just like that's why he couldn't be with him no more.

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He was cheesy, he was cheesy.

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He was cheesy, he was cheesy.

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And he was weird as hell. He was why you trying to date this lady who don't remember you every day.

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Keep in mind that it is a comedy, you know what I'm saying? So whoever whoever we pick has to have those comedy chops, too. You know what I'm saying? Like, I don't know if none of those people do comedy. Will Smith Will Smith do comedy. What comedy do he do? I mean, yeah, I guess you're right. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 59:28

He had a movie sub, like what was it? Well, where he was taking uh helping uh almost did the like he helped that what dude get. Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 59:38

What you're talking about? Um hitch. Yeah, yeah. When he did hitch, hitch hitch, yeah. Hitch was a comedy, but it wasn't like a comedy comedy. It was comedy.

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I just thought about somebody, a comedian. Who? Mojo Brooks.

SPEAKER_05 59:54

Oh, I like Mojo. I like Mojo. I like Mojo. Mojo is funny.

SPEAKER_06 1:00:04

Why you ain't similar? Why you ain't messing with me no more?

SPEAKER_05 1:00:08

I like I like Mojo Brooks. Y'all, y'all lie, bro. I know you lying. Yeah, I like Mojo Brooks. Yeah, y'all want to go with Mojo? I like that. That was a great pull. That was a great pull. I like that. That was a good one. Yeah, that was good. I like that. Mojo Brooks. Bet. Yeah, I like that. That was great. Okay, Drew Barrymore, who is the lady who had the you know, the 24-hour memory that he was dating. Who mo who's Mojo gonna be dating?

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I say Stacy. I say Regina.

SPEAKER_05 1:00:47

Regina King. Regina King. I like Regina. I like Regina Hall.

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Am I saying the right one?

SPEAKER_05 1:00:53

I think you mean Regina Hall.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:55

Yeah, probably so.

SPEAKER_05 1:00:56

Scary movie. Oh, yeah, that's the one. That's the one Regina Hall, yeah. Regina Hall. Yeah. I like Regina Hall too. Regina Hall or Gabrielle uh Gabrielle Union. Union? Yeah. Regina funny.

SPEAKER_06 1:01:15

Yeah, Regina is way more funnier. She would really be able to play like that. She would kill that role.

SPEAKER_05 1:01:25

Yeah. Okay, so so far we got Adam Sandler, who played Henry Roth as Mojo Brooks, Drew Barrymore, who played Lucy Whitmore as Regina Hall. The next character is Rob Snyder's character who played Ula, who was like the Filipino guy who was like, he had all those kids, and he was like, uh, he couldn't really talk for real, but he was funny. You know what I'm saying? He was like the comedy part of the movie. Though I had to look up, I was like, why they got this white man playing this islander? But he is Filipino. I had to look it up to make sure. I was like, was they being racist in this movie? But he they wasn't. He's he is half Filipino. Who's like who's like the comedy relief who's like plays like the stupid person?

SPEAKER_06 1:02:09

But like Blackston usually does that, but I don't like my two buttons.

SPEAKER_05 1:02:15

I don't like him in that role. Michael Blackstone.

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He's not funny. I don't know.

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But he do play the stupid person. Yeah, yeah. I don't like him in that role though. Yeah. Yeah.

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I can see Dave Shapil.

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I can't see Dave either. I can't see Dave being stupid.

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He gotta be somebody willing to do like some weird shit.

SPEAKER_05 1:02:33

Yeah, yeah. Drewski.

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Drewski. Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_05 1:02:37

I can see Drewski. I can see Drewski.

SPEAKER_03 1:02:40

What's the dude on Woody call? Jamie Foxx? Oh, the other one. Tommy Davidson.

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Yeah, he's funny. Oh yeah. I can see him. Oh, he definitely is funny.

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He real like animated.

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Animated shit.

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Okay. He's knees.

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Like he wouldn't have to say that to the like dude to be funny. Yeah, yeah.

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Tommy Davis.

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Yeah, he could definitely, he'd be funny.

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I'm trying to think of some other like funny people.

SPEAKER_06 1:03:10

I actually, I'm not gonna lie, I like the Tommy Davidson one. Cause that will Tommy Davidson would play the mess out of that role. He knows how to be silly. He'll take it back to that living color type. I like that. I like that. Man, oh, what about Marlon? You remember how you remember how you him and Jamie Foxx used to do that? Oh yeah.

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I like Marlon.

SPEAKER_05 1:03:33

Yep. I think I like Marlon too.

SPEAKER_02 1:03:37

Marlon Wayne. Marlon Wayne.

SPEAKER_05 1:03:39

Oh, yeah. Yeah. He's he's and he's willing to to to be the yeah, the silly.

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He's kind of willing to say something for real.

SPEAKER_05 1:03:50

That dude had a lot of uh speaking roles. He had a lot of one-liners in that movie.

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Yeah. I can see Marlon. I like Marlin. He was dressed up with the coconut bra, you know, the Papo he's eating.

SPEAKER_05 1:04:01

Yeah, yeah. Oh, I definitely. Yeah, I like Marlon. I can see it. All right, so we're going with Marlon. All right. That would be hilarious. Okay, now we're doing Blake Clark, sorry, who was Marlon Whitmore, who was the dad. Who's the dad that's like a mean, mean guy, but like lovey dubby with his daughter, though. His daughter is his his weakness. But on the outside, he's a tough man.

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Terry Cruz?

SPEAKER_06 1:04:31

Yeah, I was just gonna say Terry Cruz. That's I was just gonna go there. Because if you think everybody hates Chris.

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Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:04:40

He played not one game. So yeah, I'll go Terry Cruz.

SPEAKER_05 1:04:43

I like Terry Cruz. I was thinking uh I was thinking Eddie Griffin. He might he might be he might be too old.

SPEAKER_06 1:04:50

Nah, Terry bigger. Like Terry got the size, and he's a Bronco. We ain't finna go against our Broncos.

SPEAKER_02 1:04:59

John Winsco passed away. I was gonna say Bernie More. I would say Bernie Matt. We just being hypothetical.

SPEAKER_05 1:05:05

We being hypothetical, Eddie. I want I want to put like people that that's alive. So just in case somebody sees this, they want to take our ideas, we can get paid for it. You know what I'm saying? Yeah.

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I wouldn't be sure. I'm going Terry Cruz.

SPEAKER_05 1:05:22

I don't like Terry Cruz. Terry Cruz. Hey, bro.

SPEAKER_06 1:05:27

You a Bronco, he a Bronco. Y'all want to have a head up about it. Like, what? I don't like Terry Cruz.

SPEAKER_03 1:05:32

Like why? I don't think he's a good actor.

SPEAKER_05 1:05:35

Yeah, like I don't want to say he's not a good actor. I just he's more he's more silly than serious to me in his roles. Like I haven't seen him play. Did you not see everybody hates Chris? Yeah, but even then, when he's being funny, he's I mean, he's being like to me, he's chastising Chris or whoever, his wife, he's being funny though. Which is the I haven't seen him play anything. Super serious that I can think of off the top of my head.

SPEAKER_06 1:06:05

I mean, besides in Drake and Day when he played a gangbang. And you was in there with the blood.

SPEAKER_05 1:06:10

Yeah, yeah. But that was like short-lived though.

SPEAKER_06 1:06:13

Oh, I know. I know.

SPEAKER_05 1:06:15

I know. Samuel Jackson.

SPEAKER_06 1:06:16

He's too old. He's too old. Yeah, I don't know if uh if I'm for these casts, I just feel like that's just like the age.

SPEAKER_02 1:06:25

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:06:26

Yeah, he'd be a granddaddy. Okay. I hear you. I hear you on that.

SPEAKER_05 1:06:31

What about uh what about Wood Harris?

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Wood Harris, I like Wood.

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Would he play? Wood Harris is uh what's his like most iconic role? Wood Harris.

SPEAKER_06 1:06:44

Shoot, he played uh what's the name? Avon.

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He was the coach. He was he he he was the Avon off of the wire. He was the one who he was uh on the butterm. He was the one you gotta be a soldier. Yeah, yeah, pulled the gun out on the cork. He was ace and uh paid in full, too. Yep, ace boogie. Yeah, and paid in full.

SPEAKER_03 1:07:06

He he's so serious, though. I can't even see him being funny.

SPEAKER_05 1:07:09

But the dad wasn't funny. The dad was was serious.

SPEAKER_03 1:07:13

He was serious, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 1:07:14

Yeah, he played straight. The dad played straight, but he's he was like his heart melted for his daughter, though. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_06 1:07:21

Yeah, Wood could play everything. I can see what he did. He just did that recently. Yeah. With that one um Netflix series, that was he man. He did so good in that.

SPEAKER_05 1:07:31

Or or what about what about what about Terrence Howard?

SPEAKER_06 1:07:36

No. Nah, nah, man. Okay, okay.

SPEAKER_05 1:07:40

I'd rather go Wood. Wood, okay, Wood Hair. I'm sorry, uh Terry Cruz. I love you still, though. You went to our church. You went to our you went to our church. I I love you still. Uh okay, so we going Wood Harris. Next is Sean Austin, Aston, who played Drew Whitmore, who was a brother. He was like super jacked up on steroids. He had like a lisp. He wasn't like the he he wasn't smart. He wasn't as like dumb as Ula or whatever, but he wasn't smart either. He is he played like now.

SPEAKER_02 1:08:20

I would say Drewski for that.

SPEAKER_05 1:08:22

I I think I would like I think I like Drewski at that too.

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Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 1:08:27

I like Drewski's in this, so he's funny, dude. Yeah, I like Drewski for that. Let's do Drewski.

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I can see Drewski making making Regina laugh. Facts. Them bloopers would be amazing. I would want to see all them bloopers laugh. Oh man. Facts. That would be way too funny. Okay, Drew. Mojo Brooks sitting up that stink.

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Okay, Niss last cast, this is the to wrap up the movie. Amy, Amy Hill, who played Sue, who was the diner owner. She was like a big eye bigger island woman who owned the diner. And she was like, you know, she's she gave off the motherly vibe because she was the Felicia Rashad.

SPEAKER_02 1:09:09

She was the only Whoopi Goldberg.

SPEAKER_05 1:09:12

I'm going Felicia. I think I like Whoopi because she had like a meanness to her. I can't see Felicia Rashad being mean. Not like that.

SPEAKER_02 1:09:21

Evil and mean is two different things. She plays evil good.

SPEAKER_06 1:09:25

Yeah, I don't know. Like Felicia know how to play. She got she has range, but yeah, yeah, yeah. I don't know. I don't really like Whoopi in that. I think there's somebody else that you can get better.

SPEAKER_02 1:09:40

What about Loretta Divine?

SPEAKER_03 1:09:42

Miss Parker. Uh what's her real name?

SPEAKER_02 1:09:46

Monique. Monique.

SPEAKER_03 1:09:47

Monique.

SPEAKER_06 1:09:49

Oh, Monique would play that role good.

SPEAKER_05 1:09:53

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:09:53

Monique would snatch that role up. Oh Jesus.

SPEAKER_05 1:09:57

I think I like Monique because Monique is she can be meaning and be motherly at the same time.

SPEAKER_06 1:10:05

Yeah, like she cut into you like nah, baby. Yeah. You're getting a little weird coming up in here every other day. You play the Bob all the time. That's what we're wrong. She cut into you all the time, too. And she just played Precious Mama.

SPEAKER_05 1:10:23

I don't want to talk about that.

SPEAKER_06 1:10:25

That movie upsets. That movie's terrible.

SPEAKER_05 1:10:29

Let's leave that movie alone.

SPEAKER_02 1:10:33

They need to recast that and make it another color.

SPEAKER_05 1:10:36

Yeah. Yeah, low-key. Get that one away. Yeah, we need to get that movie away. You know, shout out to the Oscar and everything. You know what I'm saying? But still, that movie was terrible.

SPEAKER_03 1:10:50

That movie was that was a scarred type movie. I can really believe that. Oh man. All right. I watched that one and done. That was it. Yeah, you know, that's why you don't go back and read.

SPEAKER_05 1:11:03

Facts. Facts. All right. So for Melanated, we we redid 50 First Dates. That's Adam Sandler, who played Henry Roth. We have Mojo Brooks, Drew Barrymore, who played Lucy Whitmore. We have Regina Hall. For Rob Snyder, who played Ula. We have Marlon Waynes. For Blake Clark, who played Marlon Whitmore, the dad, we have Wood Harris. For Sean Austin, who played Doug Whitmore, the brother. We have Drewski. And for Amy Hill, who played Sue, who was the diner owner. We have Monique. Let us know how you think we did. If you think you can recast it better, let us know. Leave it in the comments. We go ahead and end the podcast there. Giving y'all hit ups. Let them know anything you want to promote where they can find you. Let them know.

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