EP148: The Law of Vibration and Your Creative Practice with Sara Fisher

Inspirational speaker and certified life coach Sara Fisher joins the show this week to talk about the Law of Vibration and how we can use it to foster both personal growth and growth in our creative practices.

We all start January off with the best of intentions but when the winter blues set in, it can be easy to get sidetracked and and feel like nothing has changed and nothing is moving forward. Enter Sara and her fresh perspective to self-development. We talk about the Law of Vibration, the Law of Attraction and manifestation -  and how they all work together. And just as importantly we talk about why you still need to do the work in order to grow and create change in your business.

This is a great episode for creatives who:

• are curious about the Law of Attraction and manifestation 
• want to learn more about the Law of Vibration and why understanding how it works is critical to the Law of Attraction and manifestation
• need help forming new habits (and breaking habits that are not helpful)
• struggle with imposter syndrome and comparison-itis
• would like to learn how to reframe situations in order to foster growth
• need help quieting the ego and learning to embrace mistakes

Tune in to learn more!

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Episode148: The Law of Vibration and Your Creative Practice with Sara Fisher

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Transcript

Melissa Hartfiel: 0:00

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Melissa Hartfiel: 0:58

Welcome to the And She Looked Up podcast. Each week, we sit down with inspiring Canadian women who create for a living. We talk about their creative journeys and their best business tips, as well as the creative and business mindset issues all creative entrepreneurs struggle with. I'm your host, Melissa Hartfiel, and after leaving a 20 year career in corporate retail, I've been happily self-employed for 12 years. I'm a graphic designer, an illustrator and a multi-six figure a year entrepreneur in the digital content space. This podcast is for the artists, the makers and the creatives who want to find a way to make a living doing what they love. Hello everyone, and welcome to another episode of the And She Looked Up podcast. As always, I'm your host, Melissa, and this week I want to wish you all a very happy new year. I hope that you have all have a happy, healthy and successful 2024. However, you define success for yourself, I always think the January is an interesting month because most of us start the year feeling like it's a fresh start, a clean slate.

Melissa Hartfiel: 2:11

We're feeling optimistic and excited about our plans for the year and then, somewhere around the end of week two, start of week three, we realize that all the bright lights of the holiday season are long gone. We're stuck in the depths of a very dark and dreary Canadian winter that's not going anywhere for a while yet. Maybe some holiday bills have landed in your inbox and you're regretting some of the decisions you made in November and December and you realize that nothing has really changed from last year. There's a reason why the January Blue Monday was coined it's meant to signify the most depressing day of the year and I think this year it's supposed to be on January 15th, so probably very close to when this podcast airs.

Melissa Hartfiel: 3:00

So this year I wanted to do something a little different on the show for the month of January. I wanted to bring on some guests that could help us maintain that new year positivity and help us build our confidence to continue to grow and help us find the courage to make the changes that we need to make in order to continue to move our businesses forward, develop our creative practices and just live our best personal lives. And with that I'd like to introduce this week's guest Sara Fisher. Welcome to the show, s

Sara Fisher: 3:33

Thank you for having me. I'm so excited to be here.

Melissa Hartfiel: 3:35

I am excited to have you. We're going to be talking about some really interesting things today and I'm really looking forward to this conversation. But for those of you who may not be familiar with Sara, let's just get a little introduction so you know who she is. Sara is an influential and grounded speaker who is on the pursuit to ignite and support others in their self-development journeys. So she uses positive energy and a genuine approach and compassion in order to facilitate a safe space for people to dive deeper into their connection to their higher self. So she draws on her knowledge from her experience as a certified life coach, as well as extensive research into the law of vibration, which we are going to be talking about quite a bit today, and positive psychology. So all of that in order to bring a very fresh perspective to self-development. So, Sara, before we dive into all of that, the very first question I ask everyone who comes on the show is did you feel like you were creative as a kid?

Sara Fisher: 4:41

You know I yes, I would say I was a very creative kid. I wasn't afraid to express myself and I think that is really where creativity stems from is your unique expression and how you view the world. And I definitely wasn't afraid to do that. I did it in very fashion forward ways. I remember growing up and I had like these pink, bright pink, sparkly pants that I would wear everywhere I would go. I was obsessed with like the biggest earrings I could ever find. I would. Every time I went to the mall I would run to Claire's, yes, and I would get like by their earring packages and I would buy the most like outrageously obnoxious earrings I could find. And I think at one point I remember my dad built me this earring holder that I could display on the wall and I think I remember counting at one time I had 113 pairs of earrings.

Melissa Hartfiel: 5:50

Oh, wow, yeah, Art in its own right.

Sara Fisher: 5:53

Yeah, so I definitely, I definitely express myself in very visual ways.

Melissa Hartfiel: 6:00

So what led you on the path to becoming a life coach?

Sara Fisher: 6:06

I would say. Growing up, I knew a lot of people and a lot of people in my family as well that had always dealt with forms of depression or anxiety, and I've always been the half glass bowl kind of girl. I've always tended to have a very positive outlook on life Doesn't mean I didn't have like negative days or anything like that, but that was always my view on the world. And yet there was still days that I struggled. There was still days that I wasn't my best self. And then to see that someone who didn't deal with depression or anxiety but still had these struggles, I couldn't imagine what those other people were going through and what kind of headspace they would be in.

Sara Fisher: 7:00

But I just think life is such a beautiful gift and there's so much to live for that I really wanted to help people discover what it is that they wanted to live for and how they can make the most of their time here. And because it's not something that we should just, you know, get out of bed, go to work, come home, watch TV, then get up and do the same thing Like. There's so many beautiful things to explore in this world, and I think everyone was put here for a reason to show the world their unique gift and I really just found passion in helping people find that unique gift and finding how to live a life that they are just obsessed with, that they just bring out of bed, you know, in the morning and just get on with their day, because they are just so in love with their life, because I think that's a really beautiful gift to have.

Melissa Hartfiel: 7:53

So how did you yes, I totally agree how did you go through the process of becoming a life coach? Because I think there's a lot of people out there that build themselves as coaches but don't actually have the certification or anything. But you, you are a certified life coach, so you've been through some training, so maybe you could tell us a little bit about what that involved and how you, how you went through that whole process.

Sara Fisher: 8:18

Yeah, definitely. I actually got my certification through COVID, so I did it all morning. You know I had a lot of free time on my hands.

Melissa Hartfiel: 8:29

We all do yes Right.

Sara Fisher: 8:32

And I was like, you know, now's the time I have the free time. Let's do something useful with this time. Let's make the most out of the situations that we're given and that we can't control. That's something I've always been very active about is, you know, we can't control our circumstances, but let's make the most out of them. So I did a lot of research. I looked into like a lot of local programs as well. I ended up settling on an online course out of the States called I think it's just called life coaching, bci, and it was a really unique process doing it online, because they also hooked you up with other people online as well, from around the world and see, you actually got to do like coaching sessions with other people in the program, which was really cool because I got hooked up with people from I think I worked with somebody from London, somebody from India another time.

Sara Fisher: 9:33

So it was really interesting to work on life coaching with people who have different cultures than you were, you know, and to see how they took the material versus how you took the material.

Sara Fisher: 9:44

And it was really neat because we dove into, you know, your relationship with food, how that's such a big one, your personal relationships, your relationships with other people, as well as your relationship with your work, and it was really I kind of did as like a therapeutic work for myself as well. I think that's really. That was really my only intention out of it was just to gain the information for myself, and if I could share it with anyone, I love the opportunity. But it really was just a therapeutic work and I loved how they incorporated like a food aspect into it as well, because I think in order to feel our best, we have to feel our body with the nutrition that can allow us to feel our best. So it was really interesting learning how we approach food as well, as well as like the relationships in our lives and how to cultivate deeper and more meaningful relationships, and it's something I've been able to take with me now throughout any job or career relationship I develop. It's something I really draw on in my own.

Melissa Hartfiel: 10:53

Yeah, what were you doing before you, before COVID hit? Were you doing something completely unrelated, or I was?

Sara Fisher: 11:02

I've kind of had the I've jumped around from job to job because I really struggled growing up with what I really wanted to do my life.

Melissa Hartfiel: 11:14

I think that's pretty normal for our audience.

Sara Fisher: 11:16

actually, I hope people can relate to that because to give context, I'm 29 years old now and, growing up, the only thing I've ever known that I've ever wanted to do is actually become an actress, and it's something I'm really passionate about and something now that I am pursuing as well in my life, because I tend to need lots of different things on the go.

Melissa Hartfiel: 11:40

I like to be have my, I like to dabble in lots of things.

Sara Fisher: 11:45

So I always wanted to be an actress, and it's a tough business to be in, you know. You just don't go in there and make all this money. It's something you really have to work towards. So I also wanted to find a different career that I was just as passionate about, that would support me through my acting journey as well, and I actually worked for the clothing company Bootlegger, if we know about that.

Melissa Hartfiel: 12:09

I came back to my youth.

Sara Fisher: 12:10

Yeah, the good old, the good old Jenna and the silver jeans and all that stuff. So I actually worked at their head office as a buyer and product developer. So I have a big fashion background is cool and then I I kind of left there. I worked for a couple local boutiques out in Fort Langley if anyone's from the lower mainland and because I was really pursuing acting as well and doing classes weekly and it takes up a lot of time, so I found I couldn't have a typical Monday to Friday, nine to five job.

Sara Fisher: 12:48

So I decided to like leave bootlegger, find something with flexible hours, and I worked in retail for a while doing that and then I realized retail wasn't for me anymore. You know, take special people to do retail for a long time. While I did love it we're working with people it just wasn't what I was like truly passionate about doing and I ended up working as like a strata manager assistant for a while, which I really did not like and I don't do that. And then I ended up bouncing and now I'm also work as a costume designer for film and TV.

Sara Fisher: 13:28

Oh how cool, that is fascinating, yeah, so I get to kind of work behind and in front of the camera, which I like to do, it all so I really bounced around but the, the life coaching and the self development positive psychology, I believe has really led me to each of my jobs because I've actually I had no experience being a costume designer and I got hired on the spot Wow and I really contribute that to my energy that I bring. Because I had no experience, no experience at all. I got hired on as an assistant costume designer and I really contribute that to how I present myself through everything I've learned through my life coaching and through the law of vibration and the energy that I bring, because I feel like that speaks for itself and is really powerful and a tool. You don't have to have all the education or all the backgrounds.

Sara Fisher: 14:25

You know, especially in the creative industry.

Melissa Hartfiel: 14:28

Exactly, yes. So yeah, I'm still excited to the costume designer. That is something that I would have loved to have done. Something along those lines. I did theater all through high school. I wanted to be a stage manager. Stage yeah, that was. I wanted to be behind the scenes, I didn't want to be on stage.

Sara Fisher: 14:46

Yeah.

Melissa Hartfiel: 14:48

I spent 20 years in retail as well, so I'm on the front line and behind the scenes so yeah, yeah. But oh, costume manager, that's, that is really such a cool gig, so that would. That would be worth the whole episode on its own, I think. Oh, definitely yeah, there's a lot to it and it's a very creative and go and very, very hectic at times, but it's all I would imagine, do you work mostly on film and TV it's, or do you do live theater as well?

Sara Fisher: 15:18

Just mainly film and TV. So just yeah, locally in Vancouver, cool.

Melissa Hartfiel: 15:22

Well, there's a lot going on in Vancouver in the film industry. So, exactly, yeah, very cool. So tell us a little bit about what it is you do on the life coaching side, like what is your business? You're also you do speaking engagements as well as part of that. So, yeah, tell us a little bit about what it is that you do away from the costume designing.

Sara Fisher: 15:48

Right now my business is primarily speaking engagements the life coaching I really loved and I have incorporated into my speaking engagements.

Sara Fisher: 15:58

I did it for a while where I was coaching one on one as a life coach and while I got a lot out of it, it just it didn't.

Sara Fisher: 16:05

It wasn't overflowing my cup, it wasn't something that I was like super, super passionate about until I found and really started working with the law of vibration and realizing how intertwined they are and realizing that I can take my own unique spin on the law of vibration through my past experiences with studying positive psychology and my life coaching. So and that's where I come at with the law of vibration I bring like a nutrition element into it as well, because I fully believe like in order to function and have the energy to incorporate the law of vibration into your life, you have to be functioning and have the energy, and that starts with from the inside out. So I've been able to use a lot that I've learned in that program into my talks. But right now I don't do coaching at the moment. It's something I might go back into, but right now my I primarily do speaking engagements where I coach on the law of vibration as well.

Melissa Hartfiel: 17:07

Okay that that is a nice way to sort of incorporate almost the acting side of it. There's a lot of that theater energy that you have to bring when you're a public speaker.

Sara Fisher: 17:21

That's why I love it because I get to bring all my passion.

Melissa Hartfiel: 17:24

Yeah it's perfect. It's perfect for you. Okay, so we have mentioned the law of vibration a few times now and I was just wondering if we could. So there's there's the law of vibration, law of attraction and and also manifestation, and correct me if I'm wrong, but I think all three are different. So maybe if we could start off by explaining to the audience what each of these things is, so that they have an idea of what what we're going to be talking about today.

Sara Fisher: 17:53

Absolutely. I. I really love talking about their differences because, while all three are super interconnected and woven together, they do have their own unique features and differences, and right now it's manifesting. That seems to be the trend, it seems to be, but what everyone's talking about or you hear like the, everyone saying, oh, the, the vibes were good, like these seem to be like these trending topics and like hashtags and everything, and sometimes I think they can be used a little loosely without actually having like meaning and backing behind them.

Sara Fisher: 18:35

And so right now, the law of attraction is something that has been talked about heavily and the law of attraction is actually the secondary law to the law of vibration. So the law of vibration and the law of attraction are universal laws and the law of vibration is the law that states that everything is made up of energy and vibrates. So everything is in constant movement and and we can kind of go into like the, the scientific approach where we talk about like atoms and neutrons and get into like their vibration. But science was never my forte and I suppose I'm going to take a more, you know, relatable approach. So I don't ever say that I'm a scientist and can talk about going into like that form, but it really is backed by solid, by science. And everything is vibrating and in constant motion, and the only difference between objects, people, things, our thoughts and emotions because even our thoughts and emotions have a vibration and the only difference is the rate or speed at which everything vibrates at, and that is known as its frequency. And before you can use the law of attraction, you need to have your personal frequency, and so the rate at which you vibrate match your desires. So, whether you're looking to bring a new partner into your life, you're looking to change careers, you just want, you know, to take more vacations. Whatever it is that you're looking to bring into your life or maybe it's better health you need to ensure that you are a vibrational match with it.

Sara Fisher: 20:22

And in order to start mastering the law of vibration, it really comes down to understanding that how you think creates how you feel, and how you feel becomes an emotion, and our emotions are our most powerful vibration. And after that then comes into the law of attraction, which states that you can use your thoughts and your feelings, which are your vibrations, to dictate what you're able to attract into your life. So the law of attraction states like, like attracts like. So if you have positive emotions and you're in the state of joy, excitement, content, you will get people and experiences that will match that same frequency, whereas if you're maybe more in the state of jealousy, shame, fear, you can't attract then things that are on the level of joy or love or abundance. If you feel yourself full of self doubt or anxiety or you don't feel like you can have those things, then then you won't because you're not on that frequency with them.

Sara Fisher: 21:38

Okay, and then if we go into what manifesting is, manifesting is is a tool for the law of attraction. So manifesting is all about creating a vision for your future and then being able to put the energy and the intention and the actions behind that vision and bring it to life. And you can do that through visualization, mindfulness, meditation, things like that. So they're all very closely related but they each have their own unique properties.

Melissa Hartfiel: 22:16

Right. Okay, so it sounds like in order for the law of attraction to come into play and to allow us to manifest what we want, we need to have a better understanding of what energy or frequency we are putting out into the world. And I think I saw on one of your Instagram posts you had a list, or maybe it was on anyway, somewhere. I saw that you had a list of the different emotions and sort of ranked them in order of the frequency that they put out. Have I got that right?

Sara Fisher: 22:52

Is that something I saw? Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Melissa Hartfiel: 22:55

And so the more positive emotions have a higher frequency and the more negative let's call them negative emotions have a lower frequency. It's that, basically, what we're looking at.

Sara Fisher: 23:07

Correct. Yeah, it's called the emotional guidance scale. The one that I use is by Abraham Hicks, who is one of the original founders of the law of vibration and attraction and manifesting, and so the most powerful frequency, which is your emotion, is like joy, knowledge, empowerment, gratitude, and then the lowest negative frequency you can be on is fear, grief, lack, lack of feeling worthy, self-doubt, things like that, and I use it as a way because sometimes it's nice to start your day and be like so where am I on this scale?

Sara Fisher: 23:59

Like when, I wake up in the morning, how do I feel? And you wanna be honest with yourself, you don't wanna lie and be like, oh, I'm feeling happy today, but really you're not. And it's a great way to check in with yourself and to be like, oh, you know what, today I'm the scales out of 22. I'm only at a nine today. Or you wake up and you know what, I'm actually at a three today.

Sara Fisher: 24:22

Today's a great day. But it's a great way to check in with yourself, because if you're only at a nine today, then maybe you're like you know what? Today I'm just gonna try and get to the eight. I'm just gonna try and move up the scale a little bit. You don't need to make leaps and jumps, but it's a great way to check in with yourself because then you know if you need to be a little extra more kind to yourself or if you need time alone or you need to do any self care to bump yourself up on that scale. Because ideally, in order to feel your best and do your best, you do wanna be radiating joy and contentment and curiosity and happiness and abundance, cause those will really put you in the state of being able to start to attract and work towards what it is that you really want in your life.

Melissa Hartfiel: 25:12

Right, okay, and where does anger fit onto the scale? Cause I feel like some people find anger or something very motivating and other people find it very negative. So I'm always curious about anger.

Sara Fisher: 25:27

It's true, some people can like use it as like a motivation and they're, like you know, get into the mood, but Anger is actually on 17. Okay, so it's quite low down on this. It's quite low down, yeah, on the scale. So, again, like, number one is joy, knowledge, empowerment, freedom, love and appreciation. And then number two is passion, number three is enthusiasm, eagerness and happiness, and then, yeah, then, the further down you get, the more it goes. Like you know, number 20 would be jealousy, 21, insecurity, guilt, unworthiness. So that's why it's nice to just check in and see where you are, because so you can know, be like oh, you know, today I am a 21,. You know something happened and I'm not gonna get to one, but maybe I can get to 17.

Melissa Hartfiel: 26:24

You know, maybe, like Cause I think that's important to recognize is we don't all wake up feeling happy every morning and it is totally normal to have, like those darker emotions or more negative emotions. But I guess what the idea here is is how can you raise those emotions up and improve your day, as opposed to wallowing in them? I guess would be sort of Exactly.

Sara Fisher: 26:55

We're humans, we're all gonna have negative emotions, we're all gonna have bad days, and you're not gonna track doom and gloom to you just because you have a negative thought or you have a negative emotion. I think some people get hung up on that. They're like, oh, I'm thinking the same thought, so like something bad is gonna happen to me. It's not. It's only if you ever act upon those emotions Right, if you let them dictate how your day goes. So I'm always saying you know you can have a bad day, but then the next day try and make that day better and then make the next day better and then make that next day better, cause it's always just about improving where you are a little bit, at a little bit, where then you can get to the point where your natural frequency tends to be higher up on the emotional guidance scale. But that takes time and that takes commitment to yourself and it doesn't come easy.

Sara Fisher: 27:45

And one thing that I have created is a seven step process to maintain a high frequency, and it's something I've developed through positive psychology and my life coaching program, and it's something that you have to do every day, like you have to commit to yourself If you wanna feel your best and create this life that you are obsessed with. That's a commitment that you have to make to yourself and that's something that you have to show up to every day. And I think right now we can be in this mindset where it's like, oh, I just have to think positive thoughts and then everything's gonna come to me Right, and it's no you. That's part of the equation, but more so, and that's why I really like the law of vibration. It's about understanding how you wanna feel and what you want to do with your day, what good you want to bring to the world. And I really like the law of vibration because I use it as a tool to figure out what I wanna manifest internally, not externally, because that's important there.

Sara Fisher: 28:54

Yeah.

Melissa Hartfiel: 28:55

That's important. I do think there's this you hear, you mentioned it right off the top that manifestation is kind of this buzzword right now and it's sort of like this whole idea that if we just think happy thoughts and we just say, oh, I want, you know, tell the universe, I want $100,000, like it's all just going to appear, there's no work involved. It's just saying the thing out loud and that is not the case. So yeah, maybe do you wanna tell us a little bit more about the seven steps that you go through, because I think the idea here is you wanna get yourself up to a point where you need the tools to get you to this point where you are seeing the glass half full as opposed to half empty on a regular basis.

Sara Fisher: 29:43

Absolutely, and that is the whole point is I really have taken the law of attraction, the law of vibration, manifesting as not tools to bring money or materialistic items into my life? I would be a fool to say I don't want more money in my life. It's human, but it's about being happy and content without having it. It's about not needing it in your life, but it just those things as like a nice perk, but not necessary, and I feel like right now they seem to be a necessity in our lives, you know, with social media, and so I wanna help people figure out what it is that they want to do with their lives and how they wanna feel, without needing the materialistic and money side to it. I want them to be content with just them, cause I think that's like the key to living a grateful and abundant life and a really amazing life is just really being happy and content with who you are and with what you have right in front of you and you can have all the money and still be miserable.

Sara Fisher: 30:56

Really you totally can Like, and there's so much and that's part of my positive psychology that I talk about there's so much research that money and materialistic items don't bring any extra value into your life. You know, once your basic needs are met, you've got food on the table, roof over your head, access to basic healthcare. Any amount of money beyond that isn't going to increase your happiness or your worthiness or make you feel any better, because once you get a certain amount of money, you get used to it, and then what happens is you just want more and more and more, and so you're just. You're in a constant cycle of always wanting what's next instead of being focused and grounded on what you have now. And so the steps that I'm going to go over are a way to really connect with yourself in the present moment and figure out how you want to feel and what you want to do to make this world a better place, because I feel like that's something that we can all harness our energy on.

Melissa Hartfiel: 32:02

Alright, alright, let's hear about them.

Sara Fisher: 32:06

The first step that I have is to take accountability.

Sara Fisher: 32:12

I feel like we can talk the talk about this grand life that we want for ourselves, but few of us will actually hold ourselves accountable to achieve it.

Sara Fisher: 32:21

It can sometimes be easy to play the victim or to just wait and hope that things are going to change and get better, but in order to actually move your energy and start to create energy, you actually need to do something about it, and so it's important to assess where you are currently in your life, and even if you're not where you want to be, but no one put you where you are, you put yourself there, and once you're able to realize that, you know if you're the cause of all your problems, then that means you're also the solution to all of your problems, which I think is a great mindset to have. And as soon as you adopt that mindset and you're like okay, well, if I'm where I am because of me, then that means I can get myself out of it and I'm going to take accountability for where I am and I'm going to do something about it. The second step is to quiet the ego, because, you know, let's face it, we all have one.

Sara Fisher: 33:27

we all want to be seen in a positive light, we all want people to think we're great and you know, and for people to love us. But in order to live a harmonious life with the universe, it's really important that we understand how to listen to ourselves before we give importance to other people's opinions of us. And so, while the ego is important to have, because it does help drive and motivate us towards our goals, we do need to understand how to turn its volume down and be okay with failure. Be okay with not always being seen in the best light, because that's where you're going to grow and that's where you're going to learn and that's where you're really going to find the power to go after what you truly want, regardless of what other people are going to think of you.

Melissa Hartfiel: 34:18

Yeah, that's huge. That's huge. I think fear of failure holds so many of us back because we don't want to either admit that we were wrong or we need something. You know, I think it also kind of relates to taking accountability. We don't always want to admit that we did the wrong thing or we screwed it up. But yeah, you're absolutely right, we don't grow if we don't make mistakes or fail forward.

Sara Fisher: 34:43

Absolutely yes, and I think failure is a beautiful thing. I think that's where you really learn the most and it's something to actually embrace in life.

Melissa Hartfiel: 34:55

Yeah, I mean I'll say this about pretty much everyone we've had on the show who has embraced, like the people who embrace, failure are the ones who I find are the most successful because they've learned the lesson and improved upon it and grown from it. So, yes, the people who fail are the ones who move ahead.

Sara Fisher: 35:16

I love that. I love that. That's a compliment. Thank you very much so yes, the third step I call is unlearn old habits and develop new ones. They have concluded that 70% of our waking behavior is habitual behavior, which is quite bad.

Melissa Hartfiel: 35:42

That's so funny. Actually, I was just saying to her friend the other day because I lost my dog last month and I'm so sorry, thank you, but losing him I realized how much of my day, from the moment I wake up, revolved around him. Like I get up at the same time every day because that's when he needs to go out, and then he gets fed, and then we go for a walk, and then I do this and it was just like whoa, I didn't realize how structured my life was without like. And it doesn't have to be a dog, it can be your kids, it could just be being on your own. But we just fall into this. I don't want to say trap exactly, but yes, and it took losing him to realize like wow, I am so doing the same thing every single day from the moment I wake up. So that's interesting, yeah.

Sara Fisher: 36:35

Carry on. No, it really is when you actually think about it. If you go through your day to day life and how, like your morning routine or your bedtime routine, or your commute to work, anything like that, or your creative process, it's so habitual that you don't even have to think about it anymore. And like, sometimes when you're like driving home from work and all of a sudden you get here like how did I just get home? Like because you don't even have to think about it anymore, right, yeah, our habits are really powerful because they determine the outcome and success of our life to an extent, and our habits can even be how we talk to ourselves and because, if we have a to-do list, say, can we only get through half of our to-do list or do you have the habit of beating yourself up and being like, really Like, you kind of like finished your to-do list really like?

Sara Fisher: 37:29

And being hard on yourself, or are you in the habit of you know what? I did my best, this is what I was capable of. Tomorrow's a new day, because how we treat ourselves is a habit as well, and that's something to take inventory of, because they know that our habits are a direct reflection of our identity, and so the more you repeat a behavior, the more you reinforce the identity associated with that behavior, and so we can hide behind our habits, and everyone has habits that aren't serving them anymore. There's always habits that everyone wants to incorporate and they just aren't able to make it happen. And so in my talks I really dive into how to break and maintain habits, because they really are the fundamental building blocks of your success.

Melissa Hartfiel: 38:25

I was just going to ask you do you have any tips on how to unlearn those habits and learn new ones, because that's a hard thing to do. I mean, we hear about it, particularly in the month of January when people are talking about resolutions and things, and how hard it is to keep going on something that we want to do. You know, whatever it is make more money, lose weight, all the usual things so do you have any tips on how we can A unlearn a habit and then B learn a new habit to replace it?

Sara Fisher: 38:58

Yeah, they do kind of go hand in hand. I think the very first thing to do when you are either learning to break or maintain a habit is to first take it easy on yourself. You have to prepare yourself to know that some days are going to be easier than others and you have to treat yourself with kindness, that if there is a day that you either revert back to an old habit or you don't bring your new habit into play, you have to tell yourself that that's okay. You know, because if you beat yourself up and you're negative, you're not going to want to continue. When you treat yourself with kindness and you allow for error and you allow for failure, you'll have a much easier time either breaking or maintaining the habit.

Sara Fisher: 39:42

You also want to start very, very small. So we can just say you know the typical I'm trying to get healthier and maintain like a gym routine. You know, we'll take that as the example. Instead of going come January, I'm going to work out five days a week for an hour each day. You know you might be able to do that for a week or two, but then afterwards it's going to taper off and then you're going to beat yourself up for that right. You're going to be like, oh well, I only went three times this week or I only went two times, I'm just forget about it.

Sara Fisher: 40:15

You really want to start your habit where you're going to set yourself up for success. So, instead of five times a week, maybe it's just the two days a week, because you know you're like I 100% can do two days a week at the gym, and maybe it's not an hour, maybe it's 40 minutes, whatever it is, but you're like I 100% can do those two days. So you go the month and you're and you do the two days, no problem, and you didn't have a single issue doing it and that creates success and that creates good feelings. So then you're motivated to want to keep going. The opposite would be true if you're trying to break a habit.

Sara Fisher: 40:48

You know, if you're trying to break a habit of smoking or drinking coffee or whatever it is, instead of just quitting cold turkey, maybe it's just, you know I'm there's one day a week, starting right now, that I'm not going to have coffee or I'm not going to smoke, whatever it might be, and you start really small and then you build upon that over time. So breaking and maintaining habits are a gradual process, because after the month maybe it's like, okay, now I can commit to three days a week going to the gym and you build upon that. But maybe you will never get to five days, maybe you will only ever get to three. But that's okay, you have to meet yourself where you are.

Melissa Hartfiel: 41:26

Three days is better than no days.

Sara Fisher: 41:28

Absolutely right and also one of the things that I like to do. It's a visualization exercise that I adopted from Dr Andrew Huberman. He's a neuroscientist out of the States and he has a visualization exercise that has been proven to drastically increase your likelihood of either breaking or maintaining a habit. And the visualization exercise is just taking time to visualize the sequence of steps that it takes to either break or maintain a habit. So if it is going to the gym, you maybe can take 10 minutes out of your day before you go to the gym to visualize what you need to do in order to get there Putting on your clothes, filling your water bottle, driving and then the visualization of actually going and being at the gym and science has backed his visualization exercise up that tenfold. People will either drastically improve their chance of breaking or maintaining just by incorporating a visualization exercise. So instead of just thinking of the outcome that you want to achieve, you actually want to visualize the process that it will take to get there.

Melissa Hartfiel: 42:40

Yeah, so we've mentioned this on a previous episode, but this is something that professional athletes do all the time. It is a huge part of their actual training is the whole visualization process, and not just being on the podium with the medal, but the whole, all the steps to get them to the podium. So that's yeah, that's fascinating. That's a great tip.

Sara Fisher: 43:03

Yeah, yeah, it's one I love, yeah, going on to the fourth step now, I call control your thoughts, control your life. Okay, as I had mentioned earlier, our thoughts are a vibration, they have their own frequency and you know it's. It's really easy to spiral in life when bad things happen to us that we can't control and maybe we think, oh, we're so unlucky, this would happen to me. You know, bad things always come my way and if that's what we think, then that is what we will get. And it's really important to understand that your thoughts create your reality, because your thoughts create your feelings, which create your emotions, and your emotions are your most powerful vibration and they will really predict what you're able to attract into your life.

Sara Fisher: 44:01

And if you're stuck on the constant loop of, you know, self doubt, the feeling of unworthiness, those thoughts will keep you in your same environment until you're able to change your thought pattern and break out of that. And that is a process in itself. That's not something that you can just do overnight and it's easy. It does take a while to work through your mindset, but a positive mindset is really the key to unlocking your potential and unlocking your future. One of my favorite quotes, which is by Ralph Waldo Emerson, and he says that you become what you think about all day long, and so I always say it's important to choose your thoughts with intention, because they really do have the power to create a different reality for yourself.

Melissa Hartfiel: 45:01

Yes, that's a very good lesson. I think a lot of people think that sounds a bit woo-woo, but you know, because I mean it does when you say it out loud.

Melissa Hartfiel: 45:10

It's like oh, I'll just think it and it'll happen. But yeah, I think as you, especially as you get older, you start to realize how much those thoughts play a role in, like you said, what your reality is and how much time is wasted dwelling on things you cannot control and what I used to worry about. Everything when I was younger, like everything, and I always joke that if there's one thing I could tell 20 year old Melissa, it would be just all that worrying, it was ridiculous, it didn't get you anywhere, it didn't change anything and most of it was completely unwarranted, you know, and it was just a colossal waste of time and energy.

Sara Fisher: 45:55

Absolutely. And I do feel like people think oh, that's woo-woo. I just think positive thoughts and then I, my life changes. And that's not 100% true. There is different. There's a lot more that you have to do on top of that.

Sara Fisher: 46:09

But you know, through affirmations, because your subconscious mind so much research has been proved to back this that your subconscious mind can't differentiate between a lie and a truth.

Sara Fisher: 46:23

So whatever you tell your subconscious it believes, and your subconscious has to have its beliefs match its reality. So what you believe about yourself through what you tell yourself and what you act upon because your beliefs are just thoughts that you act upon they do create your reality, because your subconscious mind can't have it be different. It has to match. And so that's why they say your beliefs will create your experiences, and then the experiences that you have will confirm your beliefs. So it all has to coincide together. So the moment that you're able to break through this and change your mindset and truly start to believe what you tell yourself, maybe at first you don't believe the positive things that you say about yourself or what it is that you're trying to change, but the more you repeat it, the more it gets ingrained into your subconscious and the more your subconscious starts to truly believe it, and then that's where it'll start to become a belief that you have and we act upon our beliefs, which then will create our experiences, and when we experience it, it confirms what we believe.

Melissa Hartfiel: 47:35

Okay, so let's talk about that a bit here, because I think first of all, as women, we are notorious for negative self-talk. But I also want to just say, as artists and creatives, we do this all the time. How often do we look on social media and just say, oh, my work will never be that good, or I suck at what I'm doing, or this is so hard I'll never put out anything that's worth looking at? We do this all the time. It is just such a trait of creatives. Oh my God, it's not helpful.

Sara Fisher: 48:17

No, it is not, and it's honestly something that I struggle with myself Still to this day. It's something I always catch myself doing. I always have to remind myself not to do, and I definitely used to scroll through Instagram, look at other people and look at other people in my industry who are also speaking on this topic and I'd be like, oh, my God, wow, they're so good, they facilitate that better than me or they're prettier than me. Their page is more aesthetic than mine. You go through all these stupid things in your head, but in your head they're logical, right, and yeah, and it stunted my growth and made me not want to work on my business. It made me not want to post-reels Because what's the point?

Melissa Hartfiel: 49:02

I'm never going to be good enough right yeah?

Sara Fisher: 49:04

Exactly, and I always used to look at it through comparison, and it wasn't until I was like you know what? Enough is enough. This isn't going to lead me to the life I want to live. If this is what I'm going to do, I know better than this, but knowing is always only half the battle.

Sara Fisher: 49:22

I was like let's reframe this. Let's, instead of looking at them with jealousy and judgment and comparison, let's look at it through the lens of inspiration. If they can do it and be successful, then that means I can do it and be successful. If they have a following, then that means that there are also people out there who want to follow me. And look at it through a lens of creativity, being like oh, you know what? I would love to partner with them on something in the future. Instead of using it as a let's pin each other, let's actually collaborate and do something together. What can I learn from them? Instead of what are they better at me, better than me at Well? What can I learn from them? Right, so I can improve myself. And it was when I was able to kind of adopt that new mindset that things really started to shift for me and I really started to go after what it was that I wanted. And, yeah, I think social media can be a great tool, but it can also be a very negative tool yeah exactly.

Melissa Hartfiel: 50:28

So you mentioned reframing there, and to me reframing sounds like it could be a very powerful tool in helping you move up. The scale in terms of here is being able to take those negative emotions and turn them into something positive. So you're not necessarily getting rid of the emotion exactly, but you're finding a way to turn it into something that has a positive impact, I guess. So would that be a good way to kind of say, or am I off base here? Like reframing just sounds like a good tool.

Sara Fisher: 51:00

Yes, no, not at all. It's kind of part of the four step which was control your thoughts, control your life. I am solely in control of my thoughts and I can change my thoughts and so if I have the thought of, oh, they're better than me, there's no point in me trying to do this. Well, I can just change that thought and I can change it to a better, more inspirational thought and I can reframe it and then I can take action upon that thought. And it doesn't come easily. It doesn't mean that like it takes time to really be able to do that and then to act upon those positive thoughts. But that's the first step is to know like you control your thoughts. So if you don't like the thought you're having, start changing it, you know, start reframing lots that you have.

Melissa Hartfiel: 51:46

Okay, so I think that brings us to number step five. Are we? Is that where we're at now?

Sara Fisher: 51:50

Yes, yes, there's just so much to talk about.

Melissa Hartfiel: 51:55

Oh, it's super interesting. It's super interesting.

Sara Fisher: 51:58

So the fifth step, which I call be it to receive it. So as powerful as our thoughts are they? When you pair them with action and actually taking inspired action with your thoughts, I truly believe, like anything that you want to achieve can be yours. And, as we kind of said earlier, it seems people are tend to be like, oh, if I just see you sit and meditate and think these positive thoughts, all these things are going to come to me, and while that's half the equation, the other half of the equation is actually taking action towards what it is that you want to achieve in your life.

Melissa Hartfiel: 52:37

Yeah, it doesn't just show up and knock at your door.

Sara Fisher: 52:40

No, okay, it's just to be lovely though. Oh, it's all you.

Melissa Hartfiel: 52:45

It's all rings and there it is.

Sara Fisher: 52:47

There, it is right. Yeah, oh, I wish, but no, and it's, and it takes time. So I call be it to receive it, because I really think about again. Ask yourself the question who it is, who do you want to be? How do you want to feel in your day? And then you have to start to show up as that person.

Sara Fisher: 53:08

You have to start to do their daily habits, maybe their daily habits that you don't like, but you know that your ideal self would do them in order to get to that place that they want to be.

Sara Fisher: 53:19

You know, whether it is posting on Instagram, whether it is doing cold calls or networking, reaching out to people, whatever it is that you need to do in your business, or sitting down, or you know, like carving out an hour a day to work on your creative business, like whatever it is that you need to do.

Sara Fisher: 53:36

You actually have to begin to do it and you have to embrace and embody the thoughts, feelings and actions that your ideal self would take to get to where it is that you want to go. So when you can envision who it is that you want to be in your life, you have to then ask yourself okay, so how did they get there. What do they do? Like, yes, maybe they have all this money and take all this vacation and stuff like that, but that's just the side effect of it. You know what? Even though they have the money, even though they take the vacations, they still have to do these daily habits in order to maintain and sustain that life. So, what it is, what do you have to do to get there? How did they get there? And then you have to start incorporating those actions and by being that person, and that's truly the key to to unlocking your success in life.

Melissa Hartfiel: 54:28

I think it probably has to be important to remind yourself, too, that the person that you're looking at today, who is successful in whatever way you measure success the actions they're taking today may not have been the actions they took a year ago or five years ago to start the path right. Like you can't expect to just jump in to where they are today because they've done all the work to get there.

Melissa Hartfiel: 54:52

So, yeah, I think yeah, you've got to think back to the beginning of where they were, which can be hard when all you see sometimes on social media is the present date version of them.

Sara Fisher: 55:03

Oh, absolutely. And that's why I kind of have that love hate relationship with Instagram, because you're seeing everyone's successes, you're not seeing the scenes, you're not seeing the struggles. And that's where I think you just always have to remind yourself when you see other people on Instagram. Okay, I'm seeing the best version of them, but what did it take for them to get there, you know. And so what is it going to take for you to get there? What do you need to implement into your daily life? And they can be really small actions, really small habits, because those are the building blocks of success or those small daily actions that you can take on a consistent basis.

Melissa Hartfiel: 55:43

Yeah, yeah, so that is something important to think about. And sometimes the best way to learn what those things are is. You have to go outside and meet people you know like in real life and have actual conversations with them, absolutely.

Sara Fisher: 56:01

And the thing is and about like the law of vibration and the trap and attraction is it's really about trusting as well, trusting that what you want will come to you. It might not come to you exactly how or when you want it, but it'll come to you when it's supposed to happen, and so you don't need to know how it's going to come to fruition. You just need to trust that, with you taking action, it will come to you when it's meant to, but you just sitting there, hoping and praying isn't going to change it. You need to take the action, but then with the knowing and the firm belief that it will come to you when it's supposed to.

Melissa Hartfiel: 56:42

Yeah. So when we think about all these sayings like success is, like you know, 10% luck, 90% preparation and things like that. They're really kind of based in this whole process that we're talking about here. It's like the success showed up because it was meant to at that time, because you had been taking all the steps to prepare yourself and for it to show up, to give it the opportunity to show up 100%, 100%. Yeah.

Sara Fisher: 57:17

I couldn't agree with that. That sums it up perfectly.

Melissa Hartfiel: 57:22

Okay, all right, so we are being it to receive it. So what is step six?

Sara Fisher: 57:29

So step six I call savor the moment, because gratitude is such a powerful thing to practice and to be. But I wanted to take it one step forward and I came across, through positive psychology, the term savoring, which is the act of stepping outside of an experience to review and appreciate it. And the reason I love savoring is because it keeps you grounded in the present moment. Gratitude is fantastic, but for me, gratitude builds upon the past. You know, you can sit down and write your gratitude list. What were you grateful for today or this week?

Sara Fisher: 58:13

For savoring is you're in the moment and you're experiencing it, being fully present. You're not your mind's not wandering, you're being grateful for it right at that moment that it's happening. And it's really, really powerful when you can actually take that moment to step aside. And whether it's you're watching a sunset or you're having a nice hot bath after a long day, or you know you're having a glass of wine with your girlfriend and you're killing yourselves laughing, or you know you're cup of tea by yourself in the morning, whatever, it is for you just to tell yourself I'm appreciating this moment right now. I'm going to just take a second to just really appreciate this moment, because that creates powerful emotion in your body and that will raise your frequency, and it's. I've been doing this ever since I learned about it and I just I can't speak more highly of it. It really just boosts my frequency to a whole other level and it really makes me appreciative for what I'm experiencing at that moment.

Melissa Hartfiel: 59:18

So how do you remind your because I think this is something a lot we we all kind of struggle with a little bit without realizing we're struggling about it even but how do you remind yourself to be there in that moment, Like, do you have something that like a trigger or something that reminds you like, hey, just, let's just be here for now?

Sara Fisher: 59:38

I think what happened was when I learned about it. I started to do it mainly when I was experiencing like a great life event, like I actually remember savoring a moment from my wedding and or if I was on vacation, there would be certain things that I'd be like, oh, this was a great time, let's savor it. And so it first started. Again, it's like a habit, it's like a muscle.

Sara Fisher: 1:00:00

You do it, the more you'll remember to do it. At first, I would remember to do it when, like, really cool things were happening to me or I was on vacation, and then, when that kind of became a habit, then it started to become a habit in kind of like my mundane life. I started to savor the things that we might say are like boring or you know, but just like my cup of coffee in the morning, when I sit on the couch and enjoy it, and then the sun would come up and I'm like, oh, like, savor this moment. It doesn't have to be these great ran life experiences. True appreciation comes from just appreciating like your mundane life, because when you can take the ordinary moments and turn them into extraordinary moments, your life becomes an extraordinary event.

Melissa Hartfiel: 1:00:44

Yes, there's a Tom Cochran song that is kind of my mantra in the back of my head about. It's a whole verse in the song, but it's basically about life is made of small moments and they're all strung together and if you don't sit down and savor them, it just passes you on by like the weather. I think is the rhyme in the quote, but it's always stuck with me because it's so true. Life is, yes, the big moments happen and they're great and they're wonderful and we should celebrate them and savor them. But all those little small moments are what adds up to make a life and those are the ones that I think probably influences and how we feel on a day to day basis, more than the big ones overall. So yeah, that's just always stuck with me. It's one of my favorite songs.

Sara Fisher: 1:01:36

I love that so much. Great reminder to have and then puts you in a good mood too as you're singing it.

Melissa Hartfiel: 1:01:43

Absolutely, absolutely. So. That brings us to the last step in the process and step seven.

Sara Fisher: 1:01:51

Yes. So step seven happens to be my favorite step as well, because it's the most fun. But one of the purest ways that you can raise your frequency is to radiate joy. Joy is one of the number one emotions on the emotional guidance scale and it's true because when you radiate joy you leave no room for like fear, doubt or shame to show up and kind of what we were touching base on before.

Sara Fisher: 1:02:19

But you aren't only supposed to feel joyful in those big life moments, when you're on a vacation or when you got a promotion or at your wedding. True joy is found in the simple acts of your mundane life, when you decide to make the most out of each moment. And it's when you're in those moments of joy, or when you can find joy out of like one little thing out of your every day, that you'll start to boost your frequency and you'll start to live a really joyful life and a really positive life as well. So I always say you know, dance your heart out to your favorite song when you're cooking dinner or like, slow down and take an extra long bubble bath, or have those belly laughs with your girlfriends or your partner, whoever it may be, but really try and embrace those small moments of joy and always seek them out.

Melissa Hartfiel: 1:03:11

Yeah, okay. So those are really helpful steps, I think, for us to get into that space where we're increasing those vibrations and getting us into the right mindset. So really all of them, when I look at the list, are a series of habits that you're trying to develop. Each step is a habit in its own right. So, before we have some we've come almost to the end of an hour and I don't want to keep you too long with your time but let's talk about this from a bit of a creative process. So for artists because most of the people who listen to this show are women who create for a living. So they're artists, they're makers, they're doing all of that thing, and maybe we could talk a little bit about how they could use all of this in their creative practice and their creative business from that perspective, yeah, kind of how we were talking before, like creative creativity.

Sara Fisher: 1:04:17

to me, being creative is all about your self expression and how you express yourself.

Sara Fisher: 1:04:23

And if you're not feeling your best, if you're having those down days, if you're in self doubt or negative talk, I think that can really hinder your creativity, or maybe not being super motivated to work on on your business or your creative outlet that you have where, when you get into the alignment with your abundant energy source through your frequency and those positive emotions, I think it opens the door to creativity that you didn't even know that you had, because you're aligning yourself with all these amazing emotions that you feel in your body and I think that just like opens you up to new possibilities and it's a way to just express yourself how you weren't able to express yourself before. And it's really it's really amazing when you can kind of get into the flow of having that high frequency and having this new outlook on life and appreciation for it, because it really does just open your eyes to new ways of doing things and it'll attract new people and experiences into your life. That can also help you expand your creativity and your business as well.

Melissa Hartfiel: 1:05:43

Yeah, I think you're absolutely right. I think things flow better. When everything is flowing better, your creativity flows better. And I don't know, are you familiar with Julia Cameron's the Art of Sway? Have you heard of?

Sara Fisher: 1:05:55

it.

Melissa Hartfiel: 1:05:55

Yes, I read that for acting. Yeah, okay, awesome. But, one of the things I've always found super helpful from her is the whole morning pages. I don't do them in the morning, I do them in the evening because I like to clear my head before I go to bed.

Melissa Hartfiel: 1:06:08

I'm the same way, but the whole idea there is. You are putting all of that stuff out onto a paper and getting it out of your head, all those frustrations, negativity. It's just if you're not familiar with morning pages, it's just basically three handwritten pages of stream of thought, consciousness, writing. You're not trying to create anything for anyone to read, it's just getting all the things in your head out and in a way, that's kind of how you're. It's a way to deal with all those negative thoughts and negativity and getting them. It clears it out of your head and I find it to be super helpful for me to just deal with that in conjunction with doing a gratitude journal as well between the two. I find that it really helps with that creative flow because I'm not bogged down by all those negative thoughts that I would have. The negative thought that's fine, but at the end of the day I just spew it out and away, it goes and I go to sleep.

Sara Fisher: 1:07:14

It's nice, and then you leave yourself open to new ideas, fresh ideas, because you're not constantly thinking about, oh, like the bad things that have happened or what you have to do with your day. You're open minded and you're allowing yourself to be open to new ideas and experiences.

Melissa Hartfiel: 1:07:33

That's great, and you can remove that negative block. The block is gone and so all the other things can start trickling in and yeah, well, this has been super interesting, sarah, thank you so much. I've really enjoyed our conversation. It's given me a lot to think about. I think it's going to give the audience a lot to think about in terms of how they can take this and use this to kind of keep their momentum going through the year, and I think there's a lot of valuable tools here that we can use to raise that frequency and allow us to let the law of attraction come into play.

Melissa Hartfiel: 1:08:12

And so one of the things just before we wrap up you did mention that manifestation is kind of the act of, I guess, visualizing what you want to have happen and writing it down. And so is that something that you suggest or recommend for people is to take a moment and write down these things that they want. I always find I do better when I write things down. It's just sort of visualize the process and write down what it is that you're visualizing in your head that you want to come, and then you have to do the work to make it appear 100%, and it's hand to paper too.

Sara Fisher: 1:08:50

I know now we're in the digital age, but there's way more power in putting pen to paper. But yes, I fully do that myself as well. There's a lot of science, research backed by just I think. They say you're 80% more likely to achieve your desired goal if you write it down on a piece of paper. Maybe it's not 80. Maybe it's a little bit less. I can't, don't quote me on that one.

Melissa Hartfiel: 1:09:16

It's something like powerful neural connections when you use your hand to write it down.

Sara Fisher: 1:09:20

Yeah, Absolutely, and the more you write it down, you don't want to obsess over it, you don't want to everyday look into what it is that you want to attract, but you do want to know what it is. But then you want to put it away and just go live your life and just radiate joy and have a good time and be with people that you love and do what you love. And that's when your manifestations will come to you more easily, because you'll be on the frequency of them, because you're too busy, having a great time with what you have now and you're not worried about the things that you think you're missing, because you don't feel like you're missing them. You think that they would just enhance your life, and I think that's the whole key is not manifesting from a place of lack, but manifesting from a place of abundance.

Melissa Hartfiel: 1:10:12

And I've had this happen. I've had things where I've written them down in a journal or whatever and then come back 10, 15 years later and realize that all the things that I had put in there have happened and you don't even realize it's happening. I had forgotten. I had written it all down, but your brain doesn't forget. It's working away in the background.

Sara Fisher: 1:10:33

It's in that subconscious mind and you tell it and I always write what I want as if I already have them. Because if you tell your subconscious mind that you have something, it believes it and then it has to actually make it happen.

Melissa Hartfiel: 1:10:44

I write it as a story, as if I'm writing a novel. So it's happening to the character. And so that's their life, but the character is me, so it's.

Sara Fisher: 1:10:53

That is beautiful. That is a really good story.

Melissa Hartfiel: 1:10:56

Yeah, so this has been great. Thank you so much, sarah. Where can people find you out there on the interwebs?

Sara Fisher: 1:11:07

Yes, right now it's just my Instagram page. It's called Vibein High Club and I post just little tidbits about the law of vibration, as well as manifesting positive psychology all the good stuff. Anyone, please, please, please, reach out to me. I love connecting with anyone. If they have questions or anything like that, or they want to learn more, I'm more than happy to connect with you.

Melissa Hartfiel: 1:11:31

Yes, you do have a great Instagram account. There's some really great short little videos that just kind of give you tips or explain things in a very approachable way, and yeah, we'll leave links to that in the show notes for anybody who is looking to reach Sarah. And yes, thank you so much for coming on the show this week. It was great to have you here.

Sara Fisher: 1:11:52

Yes, thank you so much. I really enjoyed our conversation and I hope everyone gets something out of it.

Melissa Hartfiel: 1:11:59

Yes, I think they will. That's it for us this week, everyone. We'll be back in another two weeks with another brand new episode and we will talk to you all then. Thank you so much for joining us for the Anchi LookDepth Creative Hour. If you're looking for links or resources mentioned in this episode, you can find detailed show notes on our website at anshelookdepthcom. While you're there, be sure to sign up for our newsletter for more business tips, profiles of inspiring Canadian creative women and so much more. If you enjoyed this episode, please be sure to subscribe to the show via your podcast app of choice so you never miss an episode. We always love to hear from you, so we'd love it if you'd leave us a review through iTunes or Apple podcasts. Drop us a note via our website at anshelookdepthcom or come say hi on Instagram at anshelookdepth. Thanks for listening and we'll see you next week.