Have you ever felt like an invisible force was holding you back from reaching your full potential, especially while juggling the roles of entrepreneurship and parenthood? Tanessa Shears, a health consultant and mother of two, graced the mic with us on this week's Mindset & Action podcast for a Mindset Monday special that will resonate with anyone facing internal obstacles. Through her own experience, Tanessa reveals how she confronted and overcame mindset blocks, transforming challenges into stepping stones for success.
As we delved into our chat, Tanessa didn't hold back on the candid moments that shaped her understanding of the influence of mindset on our lives. She artfully shares how the birth of her first child became a catalyst for re-evaluating her choices and the impact of her actions on her business and personal growth. This mini-episode is just a taste of what we unpacked – a precursor to Thursday's deep dive into Tanesa's expertise on harnessing health for heightened productivity. Make sure you're subscribed to catch the full story and arm yourself with strategies to supercharge your entrepreneurial journey.
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Donna:
You're listening to the Mindset in Action podcast, the place to be to grow and streamline your business. I'm your host, donna Eade. Let's jump into the show. Welcome back to this mini Mindset Monday episode. Guys, I am so excited to bring to you today a lovely guest. Her name is Tanesa Shears. Welcome to the show, thank you.
Donna:
Donna, I'm excited for this mini episode, so am I. And guys, you know that when I have a guest on on Monday, it means that we have got a bigger episode coming on Thursday and you want to make sure that you are here for it, because we've just finished recording it and it was brilliant. So make sure that you are here for it, because we've just finished recording it and it was brilliant. So make sure that you are subscribed where you listen so that you can listen to that one. But today we are going to be talking about mindset blocks. You know it's my go-to thing with my guests to kind of pick their brains on what has been a mindset block for them. So just before we jump into that, tinessa, do you want to just give a little intro into who you are? They've got to come back for Thursday for the full. But a little bit about who you are and what you do.
Tanessa Shears:
Yeah, my name is Tinesa Shears, I'm a mom of two and I'm a health consultant. My work is with entrepreneurs to help them work on their resilience, their energy, their focus, their productivity, and a lot of that is through really making sustainable upgrades to your diet, to your food and to your stress level, so that you can, you know, feel the way you want to feel in your business, get a little bit more done and just get your health back.
Donna:
Get your health back Love, love, love that, and we talk all about that on Thursday. So definitely make sure that you come back. For that I'm excited. So in this episode, what we like to talk about is mindset blocks and what it is that kind of has kept you stuck or is keeping you stuck, and what it is that you do to kind of move past that. So is there something that you can pinpoint within your entrepreneurial lifetime, which I know you've had a personal training business way back at the beginning, when you graduated and now you're doing the coaching? Is there something within there where you were like this is a block, I can't get past it, I don't know what I'm doing, and then you found your way to overcome that.
Tanessa Shears:
Yeah, I can actually pinpoint it was a very pivotal moment. I keep in mind I have a four-year-old and a one-year-old and I was pregnant with my four-year-old so this would have been about five years now ago, I guess, because my business is 10 years old. I've been around a little while for this now and I remember being 26 weeks pregnant and I was on a coaching call with my coach and I said to her I was like I don't know how I'm going to take on this new thing which is obviously being a mom and run my business. How am I going to make it all fit? When am I going to have time to do this? It's all going to fall apart. What am I going to do?
Tanessa Shears:
Right, and I was introduced, really, to this idea that your brain is what is going to create that result and I would have to actively choose to stop doing the things to create that, create the business and the results. And that would have to be an active choice by me. And the question I was asked is like, if you know that X, y, z or what create the results, why would you choose to stop doing those things and then put the blame on having a baby and the blame on your kid when it is you having to choose. She says there's nothing wrong if you choose to take your foot off the gas and take a season away, but like it's really important to go into this and recognize like you are making these choices and you can be okay with that, because I was so worried and I was worried about having a resentful relationship with this new person coming into my life, right, and so I think it was just really recognizing that and then in that same conversation it was just understanding that like I was like I don't see it's my brain causing that. And she's like, yeah, if you don't see that your brain is the problem in this, you'll always think that the solution is outside of you. Because you think the problem is outside of you, you think that it's having a baby that is going to cause your business to fail and not your own brain. And as long as the problem is outside of you, the solution is outside of you. If you want control of your results, you have to recognize that the problem was within me and my brain and it was in that moment that I recognized that is how I was thinking about becoming a mom. That was, if I continued that path, going to result in the shutdown of my business, because I had already decided in my brain that becoming a mom meant I couldn't run a business. And here I am, two kids later, still making it. So obviously got through that.
Tanessa Shears:
But that was just a huge thing. Is that becoming a mom and even if you know you're in a stage right now where you have kids or you're not a kid yet like bringing X new big thing into my life means this what would you have to stop choosing in order to do that and to create that result? And I would just ask myself, like, why would I choose not to keep my business afloat? I could see a season of step back, but I'd have to be okay with that. But recognizing that those choices were mine to make and I could make them either way and I could be okay with them either way, it was great. It was great.
Donna:
It just took the weight off. Oh, it's amazing. That is such a good one because I think and a lot of my listeners will be able to relate to this because a lot of them will have stopped working to have babies and then built their business because they didn't want to go back to work because of the restrictions that that causes. But still having those fears around am I going to be able to do enough? Am I going to be able to create enough income to be able to stay at home and do it this way? And we have a lot of fear around that stuff.
Donna:
Yet, hearing you say that you know these are choices that you make, it's not a reality until you choose it for your reality, that's a big one. Like I hadn't even thought of that being the truth, because I think a lot. This is what my Monday mindsets are about. It's all about me learning. Really. It's just I want to learn from everybody else, but it's true because we sort of sit there and mindset is something that I don't think like.
Donna:
Thinking about 20 years ago wasn't really something that was talked about a lot when it, when you talked about anything, and now it's kind of where it's the root of everything, because you are the person that is choosing your reality and it is exactly what you say. It's choice, it's what you're choosing to do, what you're choosing to believe, your thoughts, your feelings, etc. And just realizing that and taking that power back, that actually, you know, I get to choose my reality and I get to choose what I'm doing. And just because you're having a child doesn't mean that all of a sudden the rest of the world stops. People have babies every day and they make it work.
Donna:
So there is other ways of doing it. Like you said, you could step back, you can take that time if that's what you want to do, and or you could have chosen to continue. I know plenty of people that barely take any maternity leave and I know in America they don't even get much maternity leave and they do that and they still succeed. So I love that. That was brilliant. Thank you so much for sharing.
Tanessa Shears:
Yeah, of course. Yeah, it's a really cool thing when you just recognize how much. And if you're listening to this and being like, yeah, but I didn't choose, you might have chose to have a baby. What if I didn't choose? This situation Fair enough.
Tanessa Shears:
You can still choose how you want to experience that Like you don't have to perceive it as negative. You can just perceive it as neutral or you can perceive it as something that is a growth opportunity. You know what I mean. It's like why would I choose to perceive something in a way that creates deep negativity?
Tanessa Shears:
And this is not just a flippant thing of like just change your mind and you won't ever be mad again. It's like it's been since 2015 that I have been working this and and growing through this concept and I there's new levels of it, because just when I unlock this thing over here, I have I'm you know, blaming circumstances on something over here before I'm like, wait a second, it's me again and it's it's. I think the best thing you can give yourself is that awareness to the gift to be able to see, in any circumstance, what role your thoughts are playing and you get to decide if you want to continue buying into that system of thoughts, or if you want to step back and assess if there's something that might serve you a bit better.
Donna:
I love that. So so good. Thank you so much for sharing. I think that that will be one that a lot of people can relate to, especially in my audience. So thank you so much. So, guys, that was our little quick, little quick mindset for you. That's something to get you going on a Monday morning and they will be thinking about that all day. Let me know on social media, tanessa, where can people find you on social so they can come and pick your brains about that one?
Tanessa Shears:
Yeah, I'm on Instagram at Tanessa Shears. I hang out on there quite often but my podcast like if you're like, I like the mindset, I like how she thinks my podcast Becoming Limitless, is a great place to see how I apply this thinking to your health, brilliant, brilliant.
Donna:
I shall link those in the show notes for you guys. So make sure that you head over and have a listen to the podcast and connect with Tanesa on Instagram. Fantastic, thank you so much for your time today. Tanesa, join us on Thursday for our big episode. It's going to be fantastic. I've really enjoyed our conversation. Thank you so much, much for coming on. Thank you, okay. Speak to you later, guys.