115 – Healing for Love: Why Reparenting Your Abandoned Inner Child is the First Step to Secure Relationships

In this solo episode, Gemma explores one of the most foundational concepts when it comes to healing relationship patterns—the abandonment schema.

Whether you're currently dating or in a long-term relationship, understanding your own abandonment schema and how it influences your emotions, choices, and reactions is essential for cultivating emotional safety and secure connection.

Gemma explains:

• What the abandonment schema is and how it develops
• How it shows up in dating and relationships (from clingy overcompensation to total avoidance)
• The 3 common coping styles triggered by this schema—and how they quietly sabotage your love life
• Why working with your vulnerable child mode is key to healing the abandonment wound
• 3 powerful reparenting practices to begin calming your inner alarm system and making more grounded, self-honoring choices in love