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Healing For Love
Healing for Love
A podcast for anyone who wants to stop shrinking, start healing, and grow into their most grounded, authentic self in love & life.
Hosted by Dr Gemma Gladstone — relationship coach, former clinical psychologist (25+ years), and expert in schema healing — this podcast offers thoughtful, insight-rich episodes to help you understand your patterns, heal from past emotional wounds, and gently rewrite your relationship template.
If you’ve ever felt stuck in familiar dynamics — seeking approval, fearing abandonment, dating narcissists or losing yourself in relationships — you’re not alone. Healing for Love is a space for self-reflection, emotional insight, and steady encouragement. Here, you’ll learn how to reconnect with your worth, trust your inner voice, and build relationships that support who you truly are.
This is for the woman who’s ready to feel more secure, more whole, and more herself — in love and in life.
Healing For Love
123. The Fears That Hold You Back: 5 Limiting Beliefs Keeping You From Healthy Love
Gemma answers the most common questions she’s received about Love Wisely and widens the lens to address the deeper fears and limiting beliefs that stop women from changing their relationship patterns. You’ll learn how schemas (like abandonment, emotional deprivation, defectiveness/shame, subjugation, approval-seeking and unrelenting standards) quietly shape attraction, tolerance, and your choices and what it looks like to shift from fear-driven decisions to wise, Healthy Adult decisions.
What You’ll Learn
- Why “I want love” is not neediness and why there’s no shame in wanting a partner, the goal is a good partner.
- 5 fears that keep you stuck (and the schemas beneath them):
- “What if I can’t change?” → defectiveness, hopelessness; how willingness and skills create traction.
- “What if I’m behind everyone else?” → inner critic, comparison traps; using the paradoxical theory of change (accept where you are to move forward).
- “I’ve tried before and it didn’t work.” → learned helplessness; why the right framework goes deeper than tips.
- “Maybe I’m not meant to find love.” → self-fulfilling prophecy; moving from fate to agency and changing actions that drive outcomes.
- “There’s no one for me / no one could love me as I am.” → defectiveness/shame; how this belief warps dating behaviour and tolerance for crumbs.
- Rewriting your Love Template: bringing unconscious maps into the light, strengthening your Healthy Adult, and re-parenting vulnerable parts so they’re not making dating decisions.
- A hopeful reframe: your beliefs are learned, not destiny and learned beliefs can be unlearned.
Key Ideas & Takeaways
- Limiting beliefs are echoes of the past, not predictions of your future.
- Compare yourself only to your own trajectory, not to others.
- No relationship is a waste if you extract the learning.
- Real change is skills + practice: noticing triggers, choosing different responses, and getting out earlier when needed.
- You already have an innate wisdom, schema work helps you hear it again.
Who This Episode Is For
Women who want a healthy, emotionally available relationship and are ready to stop repeating patterns with unavailable or narcissistic partners.
Resources & Next Steps
- Join Love Wisely (12-week transformational group coaching) - doors close Wed 17 September (midnight AEST). First 5 enrolments receive a complimentary 1:1 intention-setting call. Program starts Wed 24 September.
- Questions? Email hello@drgemmagladstone.com
✨ Connect with Me
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📧 Email: hello@drgemmagladstone.com
🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com
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