138. The Love Paradox: Why You Keep Choosing the Wrong Partner - And How to Break the Cycle

This episode is a special one - I’m sharing the audio from a recent live masterclass where I walk you through the deeper psychological patterns that drive attraction, and why insight alone often isn’t enough to change them.

If you’ve ever found yourself drawn to emotionally unavailable, avoidant, or self-absorbed partners - even when you know better - this episode will help you understand why.

I explore what’s happening beneath the surface, and what it actually takes to begin shifting these patterns from the inside out. 

What you’ll learn

•  Why high chemistry is not always a sign of compatibility 
•  The “love paradox” - wanting one thing, but being pulled toward something very different 
•  How your early schemas (core emotional patterns) shape who you’re drawn to 
•  What schema chemistry is and why attraction can feel so compelling - even when it’s not right for you 
•  The role of people-pleasing, self-sacrifice, and loss of voice in dating 
•  Why “just date more” or “choose better” doesn’t solve the problem 
•  The key stages involved in breaking long-standing relationship patterns 
•  How to begin rewriting your “love template” so you can move toward emotionally available partners 

This episode is for you if…

•  You keep finding yourself in similar relationship dynamics 
•  You’ve dated emotionally unavailable or avoidant men 
•  You struggle to trust yourself in dating 
•  You tend to over-give, over-accommodate, or lose yourself in relationships 
•  You’re ready to understand why this keeps happening - and start doing things differently 

These patterns are not random - they are shaped by deeper, often unconscious processes. And once you understand them, you can begin to shift them.

Want to go deeper?

If this episode resonates, I also share more about my Love Wisely group coaching program inside this training.

It’s a 12-week experience designed to help you:

•  Understand your patterns clearly 
•  Work with your schemas 
•  Build self-trust 
•  And begin relating in a way that supports the kind of relationship you actually want