154: Unlocking the Secrets to Effortless Success and Happiness with Liam Naden

Unlock the secrets to a fulfilling and balanced life by leveraging the untapped potential of your brain. In our latest episode, my guest is Liam Naden, a celebrated speaker, teacher, writer, and researcher. From sailing through Europe while managing businesses from his yacht to coaching couples on navigating relationships, Liam’s journey offers inspiring insights into overcoming challenges and achieving true success. Discover how understanding our brain's natural functions can help eliminate frustrations and lead us toward a more harmonious existence.

Ever wondered how a shift in mindset could transform your life? Liam shares his profound experiences of achieving material success only to face personal and professional collapse, which ultimately led him to surrender to life's natural flow. This pivotal moment transitioned him from a state of stress and struggle to a life of effortless joy and fulfillment. Learn how embracing simplicity and trusting in the biological principles of success can guide you to a more intentional and satisfying life.

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I’m Carol Clegg, your host, an accountability coach and curious conversationalist inviting guests from a wide range of backgrounds to share insights on how they live, think, and navigate change.

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Transcript

Unleashing Brain Secrets for Success

Speaker 1 0:00

Well, hello and welcome to Connect, inspire, create. I'm your host, carol Clegg, a progress and mindset business coach, here to help you thrive and flourish and turn those challenges into opportunities for growth. I'm so pleased you're here. Join me for the discussions that I hope will not only encourage you, but also provide the dose of inspiration that you might just need today. This podcast is all about giving you your weekly dose of practical strategies, motivation and insightful conversations designed to boost your business skills, personal growth and happiness.

Speaker 1 0:40

So, whether you're looking to find balance, say goodbye to procrastination, or just in need of a friendly nudge towards your goals, remember we're all on this journey together. So grab your favorite cup of something, be it coffee, tea or something else, and let's dive into this conversation today. Well, hello and welcome everybody to the next episode of Connect, inspire, create. In today's episode, our focus is going to be on the secrets of the brain that we have never been taught, and I have with me today Liam Naden, who is going to teach us, or share with us, what that looks like, and a whole lot more. So, liam, welcome and thank you for being part of the show today.

Speaker 2 1:38

It's great to be here. Thanks very much for having me.

Speaker 1 1:40

And I love that. You know I have a link that I set up conversations asking people where are you in the world? Let's get together and talk, and I have Liam. You have to share where you are today. It's wonderful.

Speaker 2 1:51

I'm in sunny Denmark, fantastic.

Speaker 1 1:53

Is it really sunny today?

Speaker 2 1:56

Beautiful Danish summer.

Speaker 1 1:57

Nothing better. Well, I'd love to just share a little bit about you with my audience. So Liam is a speaker, a teacher, a writer and a researcher, and he helps you create true success in your life by understanding how to use your brain in the right way, overcoming your problems, achieving your goals and ending frustrations. He is the host of Let Yourself Off the Hook podcast and the coaching program and explains how to achieve success without the struggle. So Liam is also an experienced marriage and relationship coach, the host of Growing in Love for Life podcast, the author of two books and the 20 volume Growing in Love for Life series of short books on marriage.

Speaker 1 2:47

So, originally from New Zealand, liam has completed an eight-year adventure sailing through 15 different countries in Europe on his yacht, and we were just sharing a little bit about before we jumped into the recording, because my husband and I raised our children on a sailboat in the Caribbean for six years, never got ourselves across to Europe, but never know, one day maybe. So just tell me, how was that, the journey of the eight years? I know you mentioned you changed boats.

Speaker 2 3:16

It was just basically an adventure, just exploring every country in Europe that we could by water, just taking our time calling into little ports and bays. And the great thing is, you know, I had three businesses at the time, still got two of them, and I was able to manage those businesses from the boat, which was a dream life really.

Speaker 1 3:37

Absolutely, and I have to say, the community around the sailing is one of a kind. I think that we've certainly noticed it's very supportive and it's just yeah it was a wonderful experience you do. You certainly do Part of the fun. But with that I know I've shared a little bit about your background, you know, with the official bio, but I would love to hear what you would share if you were, you know, meeting somebody, getting to know you, just a little bit about your journey, from where you started and where you are now.

From Success to Surrender

Speaker 2 4:09

Well, that's the thing, because what I do really now is I help people to find true fulfilment and balance in life. And you know, because for me it all started a few years ago and I remember the scene very clearly I just was putting the finishing touches on my dream home, and it was this enormous mansion. And one of my dreams had always been to have a music room, because I used to be a musician in my university days I played the pipe organ. So I had this beautiful music room constructed in this new house and I went into the music room one morning and it was a beautiful, sunny day. I remember it really clearly because the sun was shining on the mountains in the distance, we had a beautiful piece of land, we had horses. It was absolutely magical. And so I went into my music room and I thought I should be really happy because all of the things that I dreamt, or a lot of the things that I dreamt of achieving, I've achieved it. I had multiple businesses, I was a multimillionaire, just built my dream home. I'd done lots of great things.

Speaker 2 5:12

But you know what, instead of feeling good, I felt absolutely terrible. I was frustrated. I was so stressed and I got to thinking what is this? What's this all about? What's the success thing? Because I've been working all of my life I mean, I was in my mid-40s, I wasn't in my 20s. I thought I am so stressed, I am so unhappy and I just had an argument with my wife, a big row and I thought, you know, I've been working for the success all my life. I've put in all of this effort and I've been studying success as well. I've been learning about goal setting and motivation and I've just worked so hard and now that I've actually got these things to really enjoy, I can't enjoy them. Why is that? Why do I? Because I had all these problems in my marriage and even my businesses. There were always problems and stress and things going on and I thought is this really what it's about? Is there no way I can really enjoy my life? And I also thought, you know, I'd actually got to breaking point and I pretty well said to myself I can't take this anymore. You know this isn't worth it.

Speaker 2 6:23

And whether you call it a voice or I had this thought, I actually would be quite happy to just throw all this away, get rid of everything and start again, because I thought maybe it'd be better to lose everything than to lose my soul, because that's what it felt like. It felt like I was just. I was so frustrated, so unhappy. Well, the funny thing was, you have to be careful what you think and you have to be careful what you wish for, because it was literally within a couple of months that I did lose everything and I went from this mansion and all these great things. I lost it all All my property, all my businesses collapsed, my marriage and I had to move back in and stay with my elderly mother at the opposite end of the country. This is New Zealand, where I lived, and you know she lived in a very small apartment and I had to sleep on the sofa in the living room in her small apartment. And here I was.

Speaker 2 7:17

For a start, I didn't realise when I said to myself I'd be happy, well, I'd be prepared to lose everything. I didn't realise how difficult'd be prepared to lose everything. I didn't realize how difficult, what it meant to lose everything, because there's this dark place that you get to and I was continually saying to myself how did this happen? I don't deserve this. Why has this happened? This was never on any of my goals lists or anything like that. This is so unfair.

Speaker 2 7:41

I've worked my entire life and I've got nothing to show for it, and I also said to myself I don't know what to do. What do I do now? And so I was in this really dark place. What I did then was what I realized was the turning point, the real sort of transformational moment in my life, if you like. And that's I'm going to do the opposite to what I've been doing. I've been struggling, I've been trying to figure things out. I've been trying to work out what to do with my life. I've been trying to work out how to get out of this mess and what to do. I give up. I'm too tired, I'm too sick of all of the pressure. You know, people ringing me up wanting money that I didn't have, and all these terrible things that just kept happening.

Speaker 1 8:25

It was like a cascade of disasters, if you like.

Speaker 2 8:26

Right like a domino effect.

Speaker 2 8:27

It's kind of just one thing that's what it felt like right and I thought I'm just going to do the opposite, I'm just going to give up. I'm not going to do any, I'm not going to try anymore, I'm just going to. You know, I don't care. Literally, I got to this point of desperation and what sort of happened then was really weird, because it was like these synchronicities started showing up and so I found a new business and then I found three business. I had three businesses again. I found a new relationship with someone who was amazing and I started.

Speaker 2 8:56

All these things started happening, happening in my life, like I've got a sailboat before that we bought a brand new motorhome. This is from having nothing Quite. Shortly afterwards I was able to afford to buy a new luxury motorhome and travel around New Zealand for 18 months. Then we went and bought a boat and then we did all these things, lots of travel. But what was strange was everything was. It was like this flow state. Everything was working in a different way. I wasn't struggling, I wasn't trying to force things to happen. So I thought, well, but the best part about all of this was not the good stuff that was happening, because I'd had good stuff happen before, but what was different and what was amazing was the feeling. It was this feeling that I had, that, oh, I don't know. I'm in the flow. I'm in the zone here. Things are just falling into place. Ease the flow. I'm in the zone here.

Speaker 1 9:45

Things are just falling into place. Ease and flow that's a word that I use very often. Ease and flow it was just coming together.

Understanding the Biology of Success

Speaker 2 9:50

More than the stuff, even though the stuff was wonderful. But it was after that feeling that, feeling that life, that I really was in the flow of my life, and it wasn't just in one area, it wasn't like I had a great business that, but I had stress and problems in my relationship and it wasn't going well, or you know, it wasn't like that it was.

Speaker 2 10:08

Everything was just flowing like it does when you're on a yacht right, so I thought, you know, I thought this feeling, I don't want this to go and I don't want this life to go, so I need to figure out what I'm doing differently. And I thought because, because I don't want to stop doing it, I don't want to mess it up this time around. And I also thought, you know, maybe this is of help to some other people in life as well. Maybe, if I can figure it out, I can share it with other people, because it wasn't just me.

Speaker 2 10:36

I knew the pain that I was going through as this outwardly successful entrepreneur and I think that's so many people you know they're striving for success and they're probably achieving a lot of success, but they still have this feeling inside that they're full of stress and problems and it's like you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel and all areas of your life aren't going well.

Speaker 2 10:56

So I thought, you know, I really want to figure out what I'm doing, because something's happening, something's different. And when I figure it out, well, I'm going to share it with other people and see if I can help others not go through the same journey I went through in terms of having to lose everything before you start to change direction. But through understanding not having to go through that experience you can make big improvements in your life, and really that's what I do now. That's what I you know I back engineered. All of the things that I worked out was going on differently and I came to a very different conclusion about what success was and how we really create the results we do in our life. To all the stuff that I'd known before.

Speaker 1 11:36

And I have some questions that I'm going to keep the one about setting goals towards the end, because I know that you took that, you turned that one on its head, so we're going to look at that from a different aspect. But yeah, obviously there's something that's going to come into this about our brains and it's what we're thinking. So you talk about the fact that there's four parts of our brain and they work together.

Speaker 2 12:01

So tell us more about these four parts and what we should be aware of know if you really take it back to basics about and ask the question what makes things the way they are? Well, one thing we know for sure and everybody has a different view on the purpose of life and how things work, and you know all those sorts of things but one thing we can all agree on is that biology and the natural world rules everything, that controls everything you know. I mean, for instance, the law of gravity. It doesn't matter what you think, what you believe, how motivated you are, how much you pray. If you walk off a 10-story building, the law of gravity will be, will take will be applied right, and it's the same with all bio, or same with their own life.

Speaker 2 12:47

It doesn't matter how, how determined you are not to breathe, you're going to keep breathing, and your heart.

Speaker 2 12:53

Your heart's going to keep beating. So what we've forgotten, I think, and what you know, I'd studied so much to do with success. I read so many books on personal development, spirituality, I'd learned to meditate, I I'd learned all my goals, lists and vision boards and affirmations. I knew all of these techniques on how to change your beliefs, change your subconscious mind, use your brain in a different way. But what I'd missed was the fact that, despite all of that, we have this natural. There's a natural biology, a natural way that all life works.

Speaker 2 13:24

And if you'd ask any biological scientist, how does nature, how does life work? What's the primary focus and purpose of all life? They would say all life is wired for one thing, and that is survival. Everything is biologically designed to survive and what that really means is that everything is designed well. If you extend that thought out, what that means is that everything is designed to be the best that it can be, so that it has the greatest chance for survival. And science has a word for this. It's called homeostasis. And homeostasis means the perfect functioning of the organism. And what people have you know, even going back as far as Charles Darwin and a lot of the biological scientists, what they've observed in nature is that over billions of years, maybe even longer, the natural world, all of nature, has figured out the most efficient way to survive, and so it's ironed out all of the problems. If you like, it's ironed out all of the problems. If you like, it's ironed out all of the struggle parts. It's found the most efficient way for every living thing to have the greatest chance for survival by being the best that it can be. So there's literally a natural design for success. Everything is designed to be successful, be the best that it can be, achieve this homeostasis.

Speaker 2 14:46

But the problem is the only exception to that is human beings. Because if you were to ask people, are you being the best that you can be? Is your body functioning in the best way Not necessarily perfect, but the best way for you? And, more importantly, are you happy? Do you feel fulfilled? Do you feel like you're living your best life? Because, for us, being the best that we can be isn't just physical, it is mental and emotional, because we all know when we're feeling great, when we're grateful, loving, we're resourceful, we're creative, we're motivated. That's us being the best that we can be. So we are biologically designed and wired to be in this state of being the best that we can be, but most of us aren't. And why is that? Someone did a study and the conclusion was that in nature, nature is 98% successful. If you look at any living thing, it is being its biological best a tree, a plant, an animal, a bird. There's a little bit of imperfection, you know. A tree might be planted in the wrong place.

Speaker 1 15:47

Right wrong soil, whatever it might be.

Speaker 2 15:49

Yeah but for humans? The study concluded humans are 98 successful, unsuccessful, rather, we've got around the wrong way. And you again, you ask most people, they'd say they're not successful. So the question to ask is why aren't we right? And what I also realized what we should understand is that nature hasn't just decided that everything should be the best that it can be for survival. It's actually provided something to ensure that happens, and that's a brain. A brain is a machine or an instrument that every living thing has for one purpose, and that is to ensure that organism is the best that it can be, so that it functions. So if we are not functioning at our best, there's only one conclusion, and that is we're not using the machine the right way. Any machine you take, a motor car, it'll do the job it's designed to do, perfectly.

Speaker 1 16:41

As long as you put in oil, and water and fuel.

Speaker 2 16:45

Well, you have to put in the right fuel, but you also have to drive it the right way. I mean, if you don't know how to drive a car and you leave the handbrake on and you don't know which pedal to push to make it go forward, you might think well, maybe the way to drive a car is to get up from behind and push it.

Speaker 1 17:00

Right.

Speaker 2 17:01

And you put in all the effort and struggle and motivation but it doesn't go very far and it just makes you exhausted and you don't get anywhere or not very far. And then you might think well, the problem is me. I'm not trying hard enough, I'm not motivated enough. Because everyone knows that driving a car is difficult. It isn't. When you understand, excuse me, that it's not supposed to be difficult.

Speaker 2 17:22

The machine is designed to get you there. And this is the same with the brain. The brain is a machine designed to make you the best that you can be, to live in the state of homeostasis, so that you have the greatest chance for survival. And if you've got problems in your life and if you're not being your best, it's literally because you're using this machine the wrong way. And that's when I figured out I was doing differently and why my life.

Speaker 2 17:48

And you know the funny thing about all this this is so simple because it's how to do. This is so simple because it's natural. It doesn't require you to spend 100 years on a mountaintop meditating to really get how to do this. It's simply just like you would with a motor car. Someone comes along and tells you this is how you drive it. You press that button, you push it in gear and then it works. It does its job and I really found that the proof for me was how my life was flowing in a completely different way. So, in other words, I was working. What I realized I was doing is I'm, and what I'm still doing. You're working with nature. You're working with your natural body. I mean, your body does. How many things does it do in a second that you're not even aware of?

Speaker 2 18:32

trillions gazillions and we don't doubt it, we don't worry about it, we don't um think, oh, maybe it's not going to keep us breathing. We just know that's the way it works. You cut your finger, you don't focus on it and try and heal it, and stare at it and, you know, visualize it you just allow the natural process to heal it.

Speaker 2 18:54

So why is it that we trust our body is going to do all these things, or should I say our brain is going to make sure all these things happen to us, but we don't trust it for the other things we don't trust it when it comes to our relationships or our finances or our life.

Speaker 1 19:08

I have to ask you is that thoughts? Is that that we're not managing our thoughts?

Speaker 2 19:14

Well, here's the thing we have two. There are four parts of the brain. For time purposes, I'll just talk about two of them, because basically we've got two. They're almost conflicting parts of the brain. The way we use them is what causes conflict. But there's one part of our brain that I actually call the creative brain, and this is centered around the pineal gland and other places. Science is increasingly discovering how this works. But basically this is the part of your brain that's operating when you are in homeostasis, being the best that you can be, because this is the part of your brain that has all of your creativity, your imagination you can be. Because this is the part of your brain that has all of your creativity, your imagination, your intuition, your motivation, your higher awareness. It's where you get those aha moments. You know you're thinking about a problem and you suddenly get the answer.

Speaker 2 19:58

Find the solution right, yeah, and so many people have described this particular brain state. Any artist or someone who achieves great things, they will say to you the ideas that they get. They don't know where they come from, they just you know. You say it's interesting. People who write songs, famous songwriters I've seen lots of interviews and they say to them where did you get that idea for that melody or that tune? They go, I don't know, it just showed up.

Speaker 2 20:25

Writers, the inspiration painters, artists, athletes, talk about the state of being in the flow, where they're assisted by something. So here's the important thing to realize it's not about your thoughts when you come up with a new idea. It's not because you're sitting down thinking about it and trying to figure it out. It comes to you when you're being creative, when you're being in the flow and things are working really well in your life and we've all had that experience. You're making the right decisions, you're doing things right and things are happening the right way. You're not sitting down trying to figure it out. You're not all stressed and worried and trying to say I don't know what to do and I need to create a plan to do it.

Speaker 1 21:03

So I have to ask you on that, because what you're sharing right now is so familiar and similar to the coaching method that I use, which is based under positive intelligence and mindset, and we too divide the brain into two sides, so we have the analytical side and then we have the creative side, and now you've shared, you know, the creative side, and then, of course, there's the analytical side that serves us when we do need to make some decisions, and then, of course, there's the analytical side that serves us when we do need to make some decisions, but the fact is… my model.

Speaker 2 21:31

Yeah, my explanation is actually a little bit different to that.

Speaker 1 21:34

Okay.

Speaker 2 21:34

It's not an analytical side, and so I hope I don't tread on your….

Speaker 1 21:39

Not at all, but we've got to come with different opinions and what works, but essentially this creative part of your brain.

Speaker 2 21:46

This is designed to ensure that everything right happens in your life. You make the right decisions, you avoid the wrong decisions, all of the right things happen for you to be the best that you can be. But there's another part of your brain that's there that thinks it's protecting you, but it's not. What it's doing is keeping you stuck, and that's the part sometimes I call it survival brain, because it includes your fight flight mechanism. But what happens when you activate this part of your brain?

Speaker 2 22:14

Instead of activating the creative part of your brain, what you literally do is you prepare your brain to fight.

Speaker 2 22:21

Your brain is telling you there's a threat to your survival and in that moment, when you activate that part of your brain In the state of preparation for survival even though most of the time there isn't anything to be afraid of or to survive against any danger you literally shut down all of these creative abilities and you activate this very stuck, very, very limited part of your brain.

Speaker 2 22:46

It's only designed to react and fight. So the thing to realize is what's triggering which part of your brain you don't want to be using, like this little fighting boy who knows nothing other than reacting and lashing out against a danger. You don't want to be using that part of your brain to figure out what to do in your life, but 99% of people are Absolutely. But you want to have access to infinite intelligence. Absolutely, but you want to have access to infinite intelligence. And what creates the difference between which part of the brain you use is how you feel. And here's the thing Any feelings of fear, stress, worry, anxiety, anger, frustration. What you're doing on a biological level is you're activating this shut down stuck part of your brain and you're shutting down the creative brain.

Speaker 2 23:36

The strange thing about all that is is all the answers to all your problems are in your creative brain Sitting on that side.

Speaker 1 23:42

I love what you're sharing because there's definitely a similarity between what I am using and we use something basically to still that flat side of your brain, and it's actually something so simple.

Overcoming Unconscious Fear and Goal Setting

Speaker 1 23:56

It's called the PQ rep and you stop for a moment to get in touch with your sensation. So we do something so simple like just feeling the sensation of your fingers rubbing against each other, counting your breaths, listening to what you hear, feeling where your feet are on the floor and, the interesting thing, what you shared that side, we call those saboteurs, and the saboteurs get in our way and create these dramas and these problems and shout loud in our head and rob us of our happiness and our peace and our calm and that ease and flow. And then it's something simpler we go across. When you talk about creative, we talk about empathy, explore, navigate, getting advice from your older, wiser self. So it is. It's so fascinating to realize exactly what you've shared is that we have this power that if we could recognize what we have on the side, the creative side, and that it's there but learning how to tap into it Well.

Speaker 2 24:50

I use a different approach. Again, sorry to pre tread on anyone's toes, but what I've come to realize through researching into the brain and what I've discovered is there's a trigger for that stuck state, and what the trigger is is some unconscious fear. Now, it's unconscious, so you don't even know you have it. But remember, this is the brain's reaction to what it sees as a physical danger. So it makes you afraid, because fear is good when you've got a physical danger to approach, but when you trigger an unconscious fear without even knowing it, that's what's going to activate the state. So all you simply need to do is find out what that unconscious fear is and, as I say, it's unconscious. This is what I help people to do.

Speaker 2 25:36

Sometimes it doesn't take very long. Sometimes people get it like straight away. But you want, instead of having to think about this, you want what's going on in your brain. You don't want to trigger this unconscious fear and activate that part of your brain. So if you can deal to that unconscious fear and activate that part of your brain, so if you can deal to that unconscious fear and stop the trigger and there are two types of trigger. We haven't got time to get into this. This is what I teach Two types.

Speaker 2 26:02

One is an external trigger, something outside of you that happens, that triggers your brain to say, ah, there's a danger, right, put you in shut down state. And the other one is an internal trigger, which is like a belief or a thought. Again, these are unconscious and they're not difficult to eliminate, actually. But when you do, the great and we'll talk about the goals thing but when you do, instead of you being in control and thinking, well, what do I need to think about? And I have to be careful what I think about. Or I have to, um, you know, analyze what I'm thinking about and create some new ritual or some technique to make sure, I think, the right thoughts.

Speaker 2 26:38

Your brain does this automatically. That's the beauty of it. It's because it's natural, it's biological, and that's what I slipped into was I got rid of some unconscious fears without knowing it, and my brain switched and said you don't need to be afraid of that anymore, so forget it. So, when it so, it was no longer triggered by those things. So that's when my creative brain said right, good what are the solutions now?

Speaker 2 27:03

yeah, we get on with life we can get on with making your life the best that we can be. And remember we're dealing with something infinite here in the power of your brain, so you, you don't need to figure it out. You trying to figure out how to make your life the best you can be, you'll never do it. I talked to a billionaire friend recently and he had this amazing company a few years ago. He's retired now and he had a million customers in 83 countries. He had two private jets, he had the largest company in the world teaching what he used to teach. And he said to me, Liam, I said, how did this all come about? How did you make this happen? And he said I don't know, Just like I'm saying with all those creative people who say where did that idea come from? Where did your life? How did your life turn out the way it did? I don't know. He didn't know.

Speaker 2 27:48

He said, but I just gave up trying to figure it out because, I would never have put this on a goals list that I'd be doing this. So when you activate this part of your brain you're this part of your brain you can just let it naturally do its job to lead you and make sure, in the easiest and quickest way possible, that you live in your best life and you don't know what it is. But your creative brain does, because how many times do we set a goal and this comes into a little bit about goal setting.

Speaker 1 28:16

Right, because we were going to talk about setting goals and you said it's unnatural and it plays into sabotaging our success.

Speaker 2 28:24

Well, the problem with goal setting it's one of those ideas that everybody's doing it and everyone thinks it works, but it doesn't. And there have been again been studies on this and people are really honest and I've even done my own surveys with people I work with and say you know, what percentage of the goals that you set do you ever achieve? Is it 100%? And they say no, no, I never achieve 100%. Well, is it 90%, 80%, 50%? I still get a shake of the head. And if people are honest and you might like to think about this, anyone who's listening or watching about the average or the accepted percentage of goals that are set, that actually achieved is about 2%, wow. So, in other words, everybody's thinking well, everybody else is working on their goals and they're all achieving their goals except me, so I must be doing something wrong. Nobody is really achieving their goals except me, so I must be doing something wrong. Nobody is really achieving their goals.

Speaker 1 29:15

I would then say, most of the time, if you achieve, sorry. No, go ahead yeah.

Speaker 2 29:21

Well, and even if we do achieve those goals, a lot of the time, like I achieved goals that I thought I wanted of being wealthy, didn't make me happy.

Speaker 1 29:28

And I think it's that differentiation between your to-do list and goals. You don't want to make a to-do list and those you get done. You know you want to get the washing done, you want to ride the horse, you want to you know go for a walk, those kind of things you get done, but it's more those goals you're talking about that are forward thinking. In three months' time, I want this. In a year, I'd like this. Those kind of goals.

Speaker 2 29:51

Oh, this in a year out like this, those kind of goals, oh, yes, I mean we're not talking about to-do lists action plans.

Speaker 2 29:56

I mean, you can have a goal to get it up in the morning, but it's not really a goal, is it Right? And I thought about this for a long time and I thought, well, why, if I'm really honest, there's something different. Because instead of and again this happened to me instead of setting goals, I had no clue. If someone said to me you're going to end up there, you are on your mother's couch, really uncomfortable, totally miserable, you're going to end up with your own brand new yacht sailing around europe for eight years, yeah well, I I would have thought they were crazy, not only because I didn't believe it. I would have thought like that can't happen, so I wouldn't. But I also didn't even know that's what I wanted. I didn't know that that was my goal.

Speaker 2 30:35

And that comes down to the way the brain works again, and the way we're designed, the way nature is designed biologically. Remember I mentioned earlier that nature's sorted out the easiest and fastest way and most efficient way for everything living to be at its best, so that it has the greatest chance for survival. It's had billions of years to figure out the best way to do this and avoid anything that's difficult or creates obstacles and problems. Nature has designed a way to work around all that and the way your brain is designed, and this is why, a you achieve so few goals and, b when you do get goals, you often think that's not really what I want or it's not making me as happy as I thought is because we operate on biological efficiency as well. There's a law of biological efficiency, which means that every living thing has the maximum amount of result for the minimum amount of energy, maximum amount of input for the minimum amount of energy expended. You know efficiency and what's the most efficient way for you to get to where you're supposed to be, for you to be the best that you can be. It's not your brain telling you what the goal is.

Speaker 2 31:45

Because, again, if someone had said to me, if my brain came along and said your goal is you're going to be living in a motor home and you're going to be spreading this idea of how the brain works and you're going to be talking to lovely people like Carol Clegg about these ideas in a few years' time, I said, well, I don't want that and how can I do that? I don't know anything about it, so immediately I would start to doubt it and question it. And what does that do? That slows you down. It means you don't take action, you're analyzing, you're doubting, you're not taking the action necessary and your brain doesn't show you the next 20 steps either.

Speaker 2 32:18

Because if, if you were to be shown, well, you've got to do this and this and this and this. This is the plan, then what would you do then? You'd be questioning it as well. You go and analyzing and saying, well, I'm not sure if I did that, well, what happens if that would happen? Instead of that, and you know, is that really the right step to take? And I don't know how to do that and how am I going to figure that out. What are you doing? You're wasting all that time right, absolutely moving on.

Speaker 2 32:44

So the way your brain works. What's the most efficient way to?

Speaker 1 32:47

show your very next step. I was just gonna say one next step. Yeah, nothing else, yeah nothing.

Speaker 1 32:52

And we get, we over complicate our lives because and that's so freeing, because if you just set yourself one next step and I we use that in one baby step forward, it's one baby step instead of frightening yourself looking at the entire picture. So, liam, I mean this is. There's so much more to share and I wish we had a lot more time to dig into. But for other other people that are curious and would like to find out more about what you do and of course, we haven't even got into the marriage side and all the wonderful books that you've written, but I'll be sure to have all those links in our show notes so that people can find everything else. You know that they need to know that you've got available and how they can work with you.

Speaker 2 33:38

But what are you passionate and working on at the moment for your business that you'd like to share with my listeners? Well, really, I'm sharing this information about how simple and easy it is to switch to using your brain in a different way, by recognizing what's causing you to stay stuck and to get in a much more natural way of living, and what's really exciting about that is what it makes me do is work on the present moment, enjoy the present moment. And you know, every day, literally if people, if you were to say to me well, how did that happen? It's like it came out of the blue. So many different things, so I've given up planning ahead because it would have limited me so much. So the pleasure I get out is to help people particularly. So many people are stressed and they're frustrated and they'll do anything and they have done so many things to try and achieve what they're really looking for, which is inner peace, inner balance and being able to enjoy everything and create everything that they create in their life.

Speaker 2 34:30

So that's my focus and I have a coaching program where I help people with this. And can I just say about my coaching too, because some people think, oh dear, this means a whole lot of meditating and I'm going to have to be on a Zoom call every week and I'm going to have to do all these exercises and it's going to take a long time to figure this out. This is so simple. Sometimes people get it almost instantly. Other times when, when we start to work, when I help people dig out these unconscious fears something there's a process I have for that, but called brain rebalancing but but sometimes it takes a little bit longer. But once you get it, it's like a car you can't unlearn it and your life goes in this different direction. And people contact me and say you're not going to believe lee and what I'm doing. Now you know this is you when you knew me and were helping me.

Speaker 2 35:15

That's what I was doing, but you're not going to believe this and it's something they're saying change their life changes and they say you know, liam, if I just didn't realize life could be like this, why did I make it so difficult? Why did I over complicate things? So? So that really is. My mission is to show people how simple this all is.

Speaker 1 35:35

Wonderful. And then with that, I know we've got the webinar as well. I'll make sure to link to that how to unlock your brain's hidden power.

Speaker 2 35:43

Well, that's what this is about. It's about showing people a couple of little things you can do to start getting experience of this other part of your brain, because when you do, then you go oh wow, that's working. I'm going to do more of that.

Speaker 1 35:58

And I took a look at your website so you've made it really simple for people to book that call with you, or book a package or do whatever they need to do. So thank you for just enlightening, for just putting a new perspective, a new way that we can think. We have our brains. Why not find the best way for them to serve us and bring ease and flow and happiness into our lives? So thank, you today for being my guest and for sharing.

Speaker 2 36:23

Thank you so much for having me.

Embrace Your Unique Path to Joy

Speaker 1 36:24

Absolutely For those that are listening to the show. If you have found something that's just piqued your interest, or you can think of somebody else who needs to know about this, I ask you to please share this episode, review and rate so we can get out to other people and you can connect with me on LinkedIn really easy. You'll find me at carolcleggcom. So, liam, again thank you, and today I encourage you embrace your own unique way of connecting, inspiring or creating, and let it bring a sense of joy into your world.

Speaker 1 37:03

In my role as a coach, I love to work with women, business owners, entrepreneurs, solopreneurs and help them explore fresh ways to focus on their projects, find the right tools for accountability and learn how to build a positive mindset which, in turn, allows for more empathy, not only for yourself but for others and situations. With my personalized accountability and progress coaching, which I combine with the powerful Positive Intelligence Program, you will find ways to shift into an overall happier space. If you would like to take the complimentary saboteur assessment, I offer a follow-up complimentary coaching session to help you explore your results. Do take a note of the link in the show notes or visit my site, carolcleggcom. Until the next time, thanks for listening.