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175 Overcoming Addictions and Embracing Positivity with Mary Beth Shrudder

• Season 5 • Episode 175

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After decades spent in the corporate world, juggling being a single mom while secretly battling addictions to alcohol, food, and toxic relationships, my guest today is now an expert in Spiritual Recovery, and she is passionate about empowering others to live their best life. Mary Beth Schrudder is a Spiritual and Transformational Life Coach and founder of Day One Life Coaching. 

A significant portion of the conversation includes demystifying the law of attraction. Mary Beth explains its scientific roots and universal relevance, encouraging listeners to harness its power intentionally to manifest success and positivity in their lives. She emphasizes the role of vibrations and frequencies in attracting abundance, particularly financial prosperity, and discusses the impact of childhood programming and limiting beliefs on wealth attraction.

We also take a deep dive into overcoming addictions, with Mary Beth sharing her own path of transformation through addiction recovery. She sheds light on how acknowledging issues can lead to reclaiming one's power, critiquing societal norms that glamorize unhealthy habits, and offering alternative paths to personal transformation. Her story is a powerful motivator for anyone looking to break free from addictions and elevate their life to new heights.

Do connect with Mary Beth and take her up on her offer using the Coupon Code CONNECT for $10 off her Self Help/Addiction Recovery cards.

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Carol Clegg:

Well, hello and welcome to Connect Inspire Create. I'm your host, carol Clegg, a progress and mindset business coach, here to help you thrive and flourish and turn those challenges into opportunities for growth. This podcast is all about giving you your weekly dose of practical strategies, motivation and insightful conversations designed to boost your business skills, personal growth and happiness. So, whether you're looking to find balance, say goodbye to procrastination or just in need of a friendly nudge towards your goals, remember we're all on this journey together. Well, hello everybody. We are back with a new episode on Connect Inspire Create, and thank you for being here. Joining me today is my guest, mary Beth Schrader. So welcome, mary Beth.

Mary Beth Schrudder:

Thank you so much for having me. I'm so excited to be here.

Carol Clegg:

Yeah, this is going to be a good conversation, I think, an important one for people to listen to, and I'd love to just share a little bit that I have here about you, what you had put as your bio, to let us know just a little about your background. So, after decades spent in the corporate world, juggling, being a single mom, while secretly battling addictions to alcohol, food and toxic relationships, my guest today is now an expert in spiritual recovery and she is passionate about empowering others to live their best life. So Mary Beth Schrader is a spiritual and transformational life coach and the founder of Day One Life Coaching. So, mary Beth, before we dive deeper into our conversation, I'd love to ask you some fun questions, if I may, sure.

Carol Clegg:

Go for it All right. So let's start off with this one. If you could instantly master any skill or start a new hobby completely unrelated to your work at current. What would you?

Mary Beth Schrudder:

do, completely unrelated. So I really, you know, when I first got into college I wanted to do fundraising of college. I wanted to do fundraising. So like I never got into it because it turns out that it's pretty political and really hard to get like a one of the good jobs where, like you, were making basically almost minimum wage out of college. But I love it. I love helping people in that way and setting up events and and and doing things that are going to kind of create money for for people who like for charities and things like that. So I think that would be my, my skill, that I cause I went to college for it but never actually actively have done it, just as a volunteer only. But I would love to do that, I would love to start a business doing that.

Carol Clegg:

What a gift that's such a gift Cause if you have the passion and talent for that, that is absolutely needed in in in so many different areas. It requires a lot of energy too, I have one more if you could spend a week somewhere with no interruptions.

Mary Beth Schrudder:

Where would that be? You know, the first thing that popped in my head is bora, bora, bora, bora, like that. To me that just looks so peaceful. I've never been there, right, amazing, yeah. And then maui. Then Maui's a close second.

Carol Clegg:

Pack away all those electronics and just disappear for a week, right.

Mary Beth Schrudder:

Just disappear. Yes, yes, yes. We all need that. We all need to get rid of those distractions, right?

Carol Clegg:

Self-care to the max, head off somewhere. Well, I am looking forward to learning a little bit more about your coaching around addictions. And let's just start with something which you had shared, which is the law of attraction, and the law of attraction is often misunderstood, so how would you explain it in maybe it's a layman terms, in a way that would resonate with our listeners today?

Mary Beth Schrudder:

Yeah, thank you for asking that's a great question. So basically, you're right, a lot of people think it's like woo woo, but it's actually a science. It really is, and it's just based on energy. It's a universal law, just like the universal law of gravity. We don't get to say, well, I don't believe in gravity, I'm not going to apply it today. It know, it's not a religion and it's it's working, whether you believe in it or not, and so it's just really good to embrace it and learn how to use it deliberately instead of by default, because that's we're always manifesting. We can't turn that off. We're either manifesting things we want or things we don't want. It works both ways. So it's really great to become intentional about it and essentially, everything's energy. So it's really great to become intentional about it and essentially, everything's energy.

Mary Beth Schrudder:

Everything vibrates at a certain rate, different frequencies, and we attract things that are similar to our own frequency. We attract things, so, like when it comes to money, like I know a lot of your listeners are like into you know, they're entrepreneurs, solopreneurs, you know wanting to attract money. We need to learn how to raise our vibration to the frequency where we're attracting it, instead of actually putting up resistance. A lot of us put up resistance and we block our ability to make money and a lot of that comes from childhood, just like addictions, like a lot of this stuff comes from childhood programming and we really need to get rid of, like if we had parents who were always complaining like I don't have enough money, and we get stuck in that like mindset and we want to really get to an abundance mindset and that's all teachable, we can learn.

Mary Beth Schrudder:

All of these things Like those are just limiting beliefs and that's the great news is we can raise our vibration and it is daily work and it's daily stuff and I, you know, every day we don't get to say you know, I reached my goal of my weight loss goal, I look perfect and I've got the perfect body, I'm done. You know, we there's maintenance, it's every day We've got. We can't go back to our old habits, our old ways. We've got to still move our body. We still got to eat, eat healthy and and food that loves us back Right, food addiction was one of my things too. The food like you mentioned, so like um's, like super important to what we're putting in our bodies is also going to affect our vibration, our frequency.

Carol Clegg:

So I know that you mentioned, you know, the food addiction and the other addictions that we've spoken about. Turning pain into power. Is there a pivotal moment in your story? Because you've certainly walked your journey and lived the life that you've experienced to put you where you are now to help others, but is there a moment where you just felt that shift? I'm no longer stuck and I'm reclaiming my power.

Mary Beth Schrudder:

Yes, and I would like to say I thought I had that shift a few times before until I actually had that shift. So that's going to happen to a lot of people. It's like like my biggest addiction was alcohol and I had made those promises, like a lot of us do, like I'm done. I'm done with it Cause we know like it's not the best thing for us. Everybody knows it's not great for our liver. But then when I actually added an addiction recovery niche to my coaching, I was already coached because I'd conquered a lot of things in my life and the truth is, with alcohol, carol, I was in denial still, like I cause. What do we do? We compare ourselves to people around us and it's so normal, it's so glamorized, even. And guess what?

Carol Clegg:

Now I'm the weirdo, the oddball who doesn't drink, you know, and I was going to say probably not so much anymore, because it's so interesting just to look now at all the non-alcoholic drinks that are available.

Mary Beth Schrudder:

Yeah, they are doing a terrific job.

Carol Clegg:

And really I'm seeing the shift of the availability of that. But you're right, we do, we glamorize the fact of everybody else does this, and then the other thing, of course, is that, well, I'm OK, everybody else, the other people who are worse than me, kind of thing.

Mary Beth Schrudder:

Exactly, and that's who we compare ourselves to. We're not comparing ourselves to the non-drinker. So I'm looking and, plus, we kind of tend to surround ourselves with people who will drink with us too. So, like, like you mentioned, I'm in the corporate world. I'm like using it as a reward, like, oh, today was a rough day, I didn't like my jobs in corporate, that I had Right. So, um it be, I did stop drinking as much, like reduced it a lot when I became a coach, because I started to love my life.

Mary Beth Schrudder:

And I think that's one huge thing that people need to realize is, the more you become purpose-filled in your life, you start living your passion and you have a sense of purpose.

Mary Beth Schrudder:

Sometimes, like those, those addictions just start to fall away because you're just like loving your life. And when I learned about addiction when I was, when I was doing those courses, and I read a book, also called Alcohol, explained by William Porter, I was like, oh my gosh, I had to wake up because it was like and I didn't quit right away, but I'll tell you that but this book really shifted me and it was the first real big shift, because I was like this is a problem and we can't heal anything that we don't acknowledge Right. So I was like, okay, I might have a problem. Finally, like I realized it, my mom had told me you know, I think you drink too much wine or whatever. Cause mine was red wine and like sometimes I would drink vodka drinks, but mostly red wine was my vice. Like I wasn't like drinking and I think a lot of us in corporate are like this you know where I wasn't drinking? Out of a brown paper bag.

Carol Clegg:

You know some sort of like, so it's hard to tell.

Mary Beth Schrudder:

It's hard to tell you have a problem. But this book you know when they're talking about it. He was really talking about how he was researching his sleep, sleep disorder.

Carol Clegg:

I was just going to talk about that because people don't realize. They think, oh, just as you said, you've had a hard day, let's have a glass of wine to unwind, which is just such a temporary fix, and the effect on one's sleep and that keeps coming back time and time again, is the power of sleep without it.

Mary Beth Schrudder:

Yeah, and I blamed my hormones for everything, because I'm in my forties, right, like well, I'm 50 now. But when I quit drinking alcohol officially was right before I turned 45. So, like in my forties, I'm noticing these, the alcohols. It is progressive. It starts affecting you more the older you get and your body can't handle these toxins as well as it used to. And you don't bounce back and I, when I read that, I was like oh my gosh, I was blaming my hormones in a way. It probably was, partly, because there's nothing that dysregulates your hormones more than alcohol. It messes up your endocrine system. Everything starts so. So it is the hormones. But guess what? I'm 50 now, when my hormones should be totally wackadoo. I feel great and balanced, you know, because I got rid of that and now I can sleep well and we don't sleep well. It just it lowers your vibration for that whole next day, right and um, and maybe more. In your forties it seems like you're half masked, kind of. For two to three days even it can last.

Mary Beth Schrudder:

And I knew too much about law of attraction. I was already teaching it once. I acknowledged it finally and I got out of denial. I was like I can't do this anymore because this is lowering my vibration. I'm literally teaching people how to live their best life. I can't be a hypocrite, you know I I'm a very someone who wants to be an integrity at all times. I don't, I don't teach anything that I don't practice and follow myself or have been through. So that's, that's how I live, and so I knew I had to give it up.

Mary Beth Schrudder:

Now, it wasn't as easy as that, like I. Just when I acknowledged it wasn't, I wasn't like, okay, I'm done. Like I realized it was really difficult and that's when I started incorporating all these spiritual recovery techniques. And because AA was not for me and I'll tell you why it didn't and if it's a great tool for someone listening or someone you know, absolutely use whatever works. I'm big on that. Like whatever works for you. Yeah, yeah, I'm not telling people don't go to AA, but with me, and I know a lot of people are like me and so they might feel relief when I say this like so my spiritual background is like it's. It's very important to not say I am and then something negative.

Carol Clegg:

So when you go.

Mary Beth Schrudder:

When you say I am an alcoholic, you're recreating that identity and for me, my spiritual recovery works all about shifting and changing that identity. You're no longer going to be that person, so you don't want to go in and groups and keep telling that old story about yourself. We're creating a new personality. So I, the AA route was not for me, um, so I I. That's when I got delved into the spiritual recovery work and I was already a holistic life coach. So I'm already mind, body, spirit. So I'm using all these techniques that um are that that are really important to ground yourself, for instance, like grounding is really important. Um, breath work, all these things that cause a lot of us drink because we have anxiety, like especially social anxiety, and when we do these other alternative techniques, we can help get rid of our anxiety naturally, instead of thinking I need to numb out.

Carol Clegg:

I need to numb out, I resonate. So when you talk about that grounding, I mean we are gifted with our own bodies, with our own mind, with our breath, with our own cells, that we have the power. And it's taking back that power and recognizing that you don't need to give that over. And as you said, it's not only alcohol, it can be food, it can be other addictions, work, work is a huge addiction, you guys.

Mary Beth Schrudder:

That's something that I like to clarify with people is they're thinking alcohol and drugs all the time, but we've got work shopping and, by the way, work's an important one and people blow it off but, like I, have clients who are workaholics and have destroyed their families over it. So it's really a big deal. It's bigger than we make it. Shopping can also be really harmful to your family, because if you have that addiction, you know what are we doing.

Mary Beth Schrudder:

We're trying to fill a void, fill a void, fill a void and the only thing that worked for me to fill my void would be spiritual stuff. So spiritual recovery this is how it had to be for me, and I know other people are out there like me that the typical programs aren't going to work for them. We need that extra and we need to really realize how powerful we are as creators. We are powerful creators and that's that law of attraction and manifestation stuff that we need to really realize how powerful we are as creators. We are powerful creators and that's that law of attraction and manifestation stuff that we need to realize that we do create our own reality and we need to know that every single day and do things to set ourselves up for success every day, every day.

Carol Clegg:

I was going to ask what are some surprising forms of addiction that people don't realize they're struggling with? But you've, you know, you have. You've just shared some of them Netflix, so so simple. Yeah, I know. For me, I work a four day work week and it's Monday to Thursday, and I actually call Friday my CEO day, and not CEO for work, but CEO for Carol Nice. I love it. And so that you know I can get to choose if I want to work on something. And the other thing that I find that's beautiful, what you identify in here is if we can address that we have these powers within us. From a business point of view, I find creativity comes out of that 100%, absolutely.

Carol Clegg:

It releases so much, which then brings joy. Yeah.

Mary Beth Schrudder:

And that's a great point. Creativity, yeah With, because there's a saying, it's Brene Brown. She says you cannot selectively numb your feelings, and I'm going to say that's what happened is with me especially. We also were going to numb all of the joy, all of the happy stuff, all of the good things, not just the scary, fearful, anxiety feelings. We're numbing everything. So that's what I noticed when I finally let go of my addictions alcohol, my toxic relationship addictions and food addictions I was like, wow, like my life has just become. I'm so much more creative that to your point and I also attract better clients. I, my business, has improved 180, like everything. It was good before, but now it's like you know. Just, I manifest things every day. It's just like synchronicity after synchronicity. I'm attracting all of these beautiful things effortlessly, when before, you know, I was blocking a lot of these beautiful manifestations. I was blocking them.

Carol Clegg:

And that's so powerful. Because that's one thing I want to remind listeners as you run and grow your own business is that you do have the choice to work with the people that light you up and the synergy you know. So, as you talk about that law of attraction, I mean sometimes there's struggling clients and we can each learn from each other, so there can be a gift in that learning experience. But, yeah, just lifting up those levels, as you say, Mary Beth, is wonderful. So I would love to just ask you for our listeners, if they want to learn more about you, learn, find out more about your coaching and whatever else you have available for them, where will they find you?

Mary Beth Schrudder:

Yeah, so my website, if anything I said, sounds like something you might need to work on and you want to see if coaching might be right for you, I do offer a free discovery call one-on-one with me via Zoom, so it doesn't matter where you live, as long as you speak English, I can help you. And that would be my website dayonelifecoachingcom D-A-Y-O-N-E. Lifecoachingcom. And just click on the contact and I will definitely contact you, fill in your information and if I can't help you because I'm not a match for everybody Like I can tell pretty well these days after doing this for seven years like I will be able to guide you somewhere else or to a program or another person you know through my, through my network of people and you know, so there's nothing to lose with that call, you know. Hopefully I can guide you somewhere if I'm not a good match for you. And also, I would like to offer your listeners a coupon code for these cards that I made, if that's okay, absolutely.

Carol Clegg:

That'd be wonderful. That's super, thank you.

Mary Beth Schrudder:

Yeah, they're Addiction Recovery with the Law of Attraction. This was like a download for me. I was vibing really high one day and my mind was free of chatter, which is kind of a good place to be when we want to receive information. Right, we're always receiving guidance, but what we do, guys, is we get too many distractions around us scrollings and addiction, scrolling on your phone, you guys. So, um, we got get rid of those distractions. We're going to get receive all of these inspired ideas and this, this deck of cards. There's 44 cards in each deck and it's got, um, a picture on the front and content on the back which teaches law of attraction without the misconceptions.

Mary Beth Schrudder:

We could do a whole show on just misconceptions of law of attraction that there's so many things that are like more superstition and not how it really works. So they teach law of attraction. They also are just a way you start the day. They give you something to to focus on that day, um, instead of your addiction. So, um, and each card has the techniques that I used to to get rid of my addiction. So that was this idea just flew to me, and I know how it works when someone, when that idea is out there and the electromagnetic field there's a. There's a field. If you don't take, if you don't take advantage of that idea, somebody else is going to. And I'm sure most of your listeners have had that experience at one point in their life where they received an inspired idea and didn't jump on it. They didn't act, they didn't take action. There's no law of attraction without taking action.

Mary Beth Schrudder:

by the way, then someone else that you see has your idea Like you see it like within a year or something, like they actually they actually took the action and manifested it into reality, because everything we look at surrounding us was once just an idea, and somebody's had, and someone took action.

Carol Clegg:

Fabulous office. I will make sure to have the link not only to your website, but I'll pop your link tree in which will be able to take people to find your card and then the coupon you said they must be-.

Mary Beth Schrudder:

Yeah, I forgot to mention. I forgot to mention. I was just like oh, I got off on a tangent. The coupon code is connect, in honor of their show Connect.

Carol Clegg:

Awesome, awesome.

Mary Beth Schrudder:

And it's $10 off.

Carol Clegg:

Fantastic. This has been wonderful and very, very inspiring. So thanks for joining me and just sharing with our listeners, and the offer is there. So do connect with Mary Beth, and I just want to say thank you to those that have been listening. So if this conversation has just sparked a touch of inspiration, something you need to know or somebody you want to tell about it, I invite you to share, and I also encourage you this week to find your own joyful way of connecting, inspiring and creating hence the name of the show.

Carol Clegg:

And if you're looking for a coaching program to help you build some powerful habits around a lifelong positive mindset, I'd love to explore what results you are looking for in your life and your business. As a marketing mindset and accountability coach, I work with women coaches in midlife who are feeling overwhelmed with their marketing and tools for growing their coaching business. And if this resonates with you, I'm here to support you on your journey. And you can connect with me on LinkedIn. Just look for Carol Clegg, or you can go to my website at carolcleggcom. So until the next time, take care.

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