5 Ways to Let Her Dominate You: She's Been Fantasizing About This!

She's been waiting for you to figure this out.

For a huge number of women, watching a confident man willingly submit to her is one of the most erotic experiences that exists. Not a weak man — a man who is secure enough to give her complete control and trust her to lead.

This episode is about real submission. Not performing. Not topping from the bottom. Actually letting go.

What you'll learn:

• 5 specific ways to submit that she'll never forget
• Why real submission requires more confidence than dominance
• How to give her control without losing yourself
• The psychology behind why this creates intense desire
• Safety, consent, and nonverbal signals for power exchange

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Transcript

Five Unforgettable Submission Moves

Where To Find More Content

What Submission Really Means

Face Sitting With Full Control

Edging And Begging For Permission

Stay Still While She Takes Pleasure

Obey Her Commands Without Hesitation

Ask Permission Before Everything

Trust Safety Words And Boundaries

Listener Question Coaching And Contact

Closing Cheers

SPEAKER_00 0:53

Do the sex. I'm Annette Benedetti, host of the podcast formerly known as Locker Room Talk and Shots. The show has a new name: Talk Sex with Annette. But at its core, this is still your locker room. It's where we strip away shame, get curious, and speak the unspoken about sex, kink dating, pleasure, and desire. Around here, nothing's off limits. These are the kinds of conversations we save for our boldest group chat, our most trusted friends, and of course, the women's locker room. Think raw, honest, and sometimes unapologetically raunchy. Welcome to my podcast where desire meets disruption and pleasure becomes power. Let's talk about sex. Cheers. Ringloop. Today's Talk Sex with Annette topic is five ways to submit to her that she'll never forget. She has been waiting for you to figure this out. Here's what you get from submission that dominance can never give you. You get to see her in her full sexual power, the version of her that most men never access because they're too busy trying to stay in control. You get to be wanted so intensely that she loses herself completely, not performing for you, not responding to you, purely taking what she wants from your body. You get the relief of not having to lead, not having to perform, not having to manage her experience. You just receive. And you get a level of trust and intimacy that changes everything because real submission requires more confidence than dominance ever will. Here's what almost no one is saying out loud. For a huge number of women, watching a confident man willingly submit to her is one of the single most erotic experiences that exists. Not a weak man, not a man who doesn't know what he wants, a man who is secure enough in himself that he can give her complete control and trust her to take him somewhere he cannot take himself. Today I'm giving you five specific ways to submit to her. Real submission, not performing, not topping from the bottom, that will give you access to desire that most men never experience. This is for men who are confident enough to explore this. And for the women listening, send this to him if you've been hoping he'd give it a try. But before we dive in, I have to remind you that I'm over on OnlyFans and there I'm sharing my sex and intimacy how-tos, demonstrations, and audio guided self-pleasure meditations. You can find me there and on Substack with my handle at TalkSex Withinit. Also remember to like and subscribe to this podcast wherever you're listening, so you can continue to get hot tips and how-tos like this every week. All right, let's dive in. Before I give you the five ways to submit that she's just dying to experience, I need to reframe what submission actually is because most men have it completely backward. Submission is not weakness, it's not emasculation, it's not giving up your power. Real submission is the ultimate act of trust. It's saying I'm secure enough in myself that I don't need to be in control right now. I trust you to lead. I trust you to take me somewhere I can't take myself. And here's the part most men miss. Masculinity that is sexually secure doesn't need constant control. Insecure masculinity does. Confident masculinity can let go, surrender, and find power in that vulnerability. For her, this is everything. Most women spend their entire lives with men who are too insecure to ever truly let go, men who always need to be steering, directing, managing the scene, men who can't be still, men who can't receive without performing. So when she meets a man who can actually submit, who can ask her what she wants to do to him, and then stay completely still and let her. That's rare. That's powerful. And that creates a kind of desire most men will never access. According to research on sexual power dynamics, women who experience power reversal with a partner report some of the highest levels of sexual satisfaction and arousal. Why? Because it's the opposite of what culture tells them sex should look like. It's subversive, it's freeing, and it lets them access a part of themselves they almost never get to express. Here's what real submission looks like, and here's why it's the hottest thing you can do. Let's dive into the five ways you can start submitting to her tonight that are gonna fire up things in the bedroom. The first one is let her sit on your face and give her complete control over the pacing. This is not you going down on her while she lies on her back. This is her on top of you, deciding how deep, how fast, how much pressure. You don't control anything. She does. Here's what this looks like: you're on your back, she straddles your face, and from that moment forward, she's in charge. She's deciding when to grind down, she decides when to pull back, she decides the angle, the pressure, the speed. Your job is to stay exactly where you are and make her feel good however she directs you. You don't grab her hips and pull down. You don't try to control the rhythm. You receive her weight. You use your mouth the way she's positioning yourself, and you let her take what she wants. Here's why this works: this is visual and physical dominance at the same time. She is literally on top of you. You cannot move, you cannot speak, you can barely breathe unless she lets you. And that, that total surrender of control while you're giving her pleasure is submission in its purest form. For her, she gets to use your mouth for pleasure. She's not lying there hoping you're doing it right. She moves her body exactly how she wants it, taking exactly what feels good, controlling the entire experience. Most women never get that level of agency during oral. And visually, looking down and seeing you underneath her completely at her mercy. Oh, completely focused on her pleasure. That's power. For you, you cannot perform your way through this. You cannot manage her experience. You can only be present, attentive, and let her body tell you what she needs. The relief of not having to guess, not having to ask, not having to lead. She is showing you exactly what she wants by how she moves. You just follow. The move, lie on your back, let her straddle your face, do not grab her hips or try to control the movement. Let her grind, rock, lift, lower, whatever she wants. Stay attentive to her body, but let her lead entirely. Breathe when she gives you space. Stay present when she doesn't. Safety note here. If you need air, tap her thigh twice. That's the signal. She lifts up, you breathe, you continue. Establish this before you start. Submission move number two. Let her bring you to the edge over and over. And when you can't take it anymore, beg for permission to finish. This is orgasm control, and it's one of the most intense power exchanges that exists. Here's the setup. She's touching you, using her hand, her mouth, her body, however she wants. And every time you get close to finishing, she stops completely. She pulls back, she slows down, she makes you wait. And then when your body has calmed down just enough, she starts again. She does this over and over, building you up, stopping right before you tip over, making you feel how badly you want it. And when you finally can't take it anymore, when you are desperate, you have to ask her permission. It's not, I'm going to come. It's can I come? And she decides. So here's why this works: she has control over your orgasm. You cannot finish unless she allows. And that, that complete removal of control over your own body is submission at its deepest level. Most men have never experienced this. They've never had to wait. They've never had to ask, and they've never had to beg. For her, watching you lose control, watching you get desperate, watching you beg, that's power. Real, tangible, erotic power. She decides when you get relief, not you, her. And the longer she makes you wait, the more intense your need becomes, and the more she gets to see you come completely undone. For you, the buildup is excruciating in the best possible way. Every time she stops, the need intensifies. Every time she starts again, you're more sensitive, more desperate, and more out of control. And when she finally says yes, when she finally gives you permission, the release is so overwhelming that it doesn't even compare to a normal orgasm. Delayed gratification makes everything more intense. And this is delayed gratification at its peak. So here's the move. Let her touch you however she wants. When you're close, tell her she stops completely. You do not finish. She waits until you've calmed down and then starts again. This repeats as many times as she wants. When you can't take it anymore, you say, Can I please come? If she says no, not yet, you wait. If she says yes, you let go completely. Here are some ideas for what to say when you're begging. Please. I can't take it anymore. Please, please let me come. The more desperate you sound, the hotter for her it is. And for her, make him wait as long as you want. The longer you make him beg, the more powerful the release will be for both of you. The third submission move is let her use your body for her pleasure and do not try to make her come. This is the hardest one for most men because it goes against everything you've been taught. You think your job is to give her an orgasm. It's not. Your job right now is to be still and to let her take what she wants. Here's what this looks like. She's on top of you or she's using your body in whatever way she wants. And instead of performing, instead of thrusting, touching her, trying to make her come, you stay completely still. You let her grind, you let her move, you let her touch herself while she's using you. Your only job is to be there, to receive, to let her take pleasure from your body without you managing it. Here's why this works: most women never get to be purely selfish during sex. They're always aware of the other person. They're always performing, responding, making sure he's having a good time. When you stay still and let her use you, you remove that entire layer. She's not performing for you. When you stay still and let her use you, you remove that entire layer. She's not performing for you. She's taking what she wants, and that permission to be completely selfish is something most women never experience. For her, this is pure selfish pleasure. No pressure to respond in a certain way, no performance, no managing your experience. She gets to move however she wants, touch herself if she wants, take as long as she wants. And the fact that you're not trying to take over or help, the fact that you're just receiving tells her body, this is for you. You can completely let go. For you, you get to be the object of her desire, not the giver, not the performer. The thing she wants. And that specific role being used for someone else's pleasure is a kink most men never access because they're too busy trying to be in control. So here's the move: let her get on top or position your body however she wants. Stay completely still. Do not thrust, do not move. Let her grind, move, touch herself. Do not try to make her come. Just be there and receive. Let her take what she wants. The fourth super hot move of submission is when she gives you a command, obey it immediately, no hesitation. This is verbal submission, and it is one of the most powerful forms of power exchange that exists. Here's how it works: she tells you something to do, and you do it immediately, without questioning, without redirecting, without suggesting something else. You, you obey. Why this works. Most men cannot do this. They'll hear the command and then try to negotiate direct or take control back. That's not submission, that's resistance. Real submission is hearing her words and responding instantly because in that moment, her voice has authority and you're choosing to give her authority. For her, when you obey without hesitation, it tells her my words have power over you. I can direct you, I can move you, I can make you do things. That power, that verbal control, it's intoxicating. Most women never get to experience it with a man ever. For you, it's the relief of not having to lead, the relief of someone else deciding, the relief of just following instructions and not thinking about what comes next. That mental release is its own kind of pleasure. And most men are so conditioned to always be in charge that they never get to feel it. Here's what this looks like. She says, touch yourself, you do it. She says, get on your knees, you do it. She says, don't move. You stay still. She says, look at me. You hold eye contact. No questions, no hesitation, just obedience. Here's the move. When she gives a command, respond immediately. Don't question, don't suggest or redirect. Let her voice move your body. Stay present with how it feels to follow instead of lead. And now we're to the fifth move of submission. Ask for permission before you do anything and wait for her answer. This is an intense level of submission because it puts her in control of everything. The pacing, the escalation, the release. And here's what this looks like You want to touch her, you don't do it. You ask, can I touch you? She decides if she says no, you don't. If she says yes, you do. And only what she's giving you permission to do. If you're getting close to finishing, you don't just let it happen. You ask, can I come? She decides. If she says not yet, you wait. You hold it. You stay exactly where you are until she gives you permission. She's on top of you and you want to flip her over. You don't just do it. You ask, can I change positions? She decides. Here's why this works this removes your ability to control the pacing of the scene. You can't escalate when you want to, you can't finish when you want to, you can't move things forward. You have to ask and you have to wait for her answer. That delay, that pause between wanting something and getting permission to have it is where the submission actually lives. For her, she's controlling everything, the speed, the intensity, when you touch her, when you finish, when things change. That level of control, that total control over your body, your pleasure, your release is a power most women never get to hold. For you, it's delayed gratification, building need, trusting her to give you what you want when she's ready. And here's the thing: when she finally says yes, when she finally gives you permission, the relief is so intense that everything feels 10 times more powerful. So here's the move. Before you touch her, you ask, can I touch you? Before you finish, may I please come? Before you change positions, can I move you? Or will you please move us? Wait for her answer. Obey her answer, even if it's not yet. And of course, never forget to thank her after she gives you what you want. Before I close, I need to say this clearly. Everything I just walked you through requires something most people don't talk about when they talk about submission, trust. You cannot submit to someone you don't trust. You cannot give up control to someone who doesn't have your best interests in mind. You cannot be vulnerable with someone who will use that vulnerability against you. So before you try any of this, you need to establish safety. Here's what that looks like: a safe word. Something either of you can say that means stop everything right now. It should be a word you never use during sex. Red works, pineapple works, whatever feels clear to both of you. And because some of these moves involve being restrained or being told not to move, you also need a non-verbal signal. Two taps. You tap her body, the bed, your own leg twice deliberately, and everything stops immediately. No questions, no let me just finish this part. You stop. Here's the other piece. Submission is not about erasing your needs. It's not about pretending you don't have boundaries, and it's not about tolerating something you don't want. Real submission is a choice. You're choosing to give her control, you're choosing to trust her, and you can take that choice back at any point. If something doesn't feel right, you stop. If you need to check in, you check in. If you want to shift the dynamic back, you shift it back. Submission is not about disappearing. It's about being so present and so secure that you can let someone else take the lead for a while. And that level of trust and presence is what makes this so powerful. Here's the through line in all five of these. Real submission is not being weak. It's not about losing yourself. It's about being secure enough to let go. The men who can actually do this, who can ask her what she wants to do to them, who can stay still, who can give up control and trust her to lead. Those are the men women remember. Not because they performed perfectly, but because they were brave enough to be vulnerable, brave enough to trust, and brave enough to let her see them in a way that most men never allow. Submission is not the opposite of masculinity, it is the evolution of it. You don't have to be in control all the time to be confident. You just have to know when to hold it and when to let it go. That's not weakness. That's a skill. If you are a woman listening, drop it in the comments. Have you ever had a partner who could truly submit? What did it feel like? I read everything and I'll share responses on the audio podcast if you send them my way. Remember, if you're looking for someone to help you in your own intimate life, a wingwoman, if you will, a coach, my books are open for sex and intimacy relationship coaching. You can find out more about that on my website, talksexwithanet.com. If you have any questions or comments about this topic, make sure you drop them in the comment section of my video podcast on YouTube at TalkSexWithNet or email me at Annette at talkswithinette.com. Until next time, I'll see you in the locker room. Cheers.