Bulletproof For BJJ Podcast
Discussions on improving your BJJ, navigating mat-politics and all aspects of the jiu jitsu lifestyle. Multiple weekly episodes for grapplers of any level. Hosted by JT and Joey - Australian jiu jitsu black belts, strength coaches, and creators of Bulletproof For BJJ App. Based out of Sydney, Australia
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Is Setting Goals In BJJ Actually Holding You Back?
When pursuing a black belt in jiu-jitsu becomes your north star, you might be setting yourself up for failure without even realizing it. The fixation on belt promotions and tournament victories—while natural—often becomes the very obstacle standing between you and meaningful progress on the mats. We dive into this goal setting epidemic and go over ways how you are able to navigate staying consistent on your BJJ journey.
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Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to another Bulletproof for BJJ podcast. Goal setting is holding back your jiu-jitsu. Let's explain why we all set goals. We all want to get that next belt, but is our focus on getting the thing limiting us from getting better?
Speaker 1:Joey and I today unpack exactly why the method of focusing on your goals isn't getting you there. Number one knowing where you are on the map doesn't guarantee your success to go from point A to point B. Number two unpacking why your coach's advice of training every single day might actually be limiting you and not helping you get that goal of getting better. Number three why the result takes care of itself. When you are only focused on the scoreboard, the score doesn't change. When you think about the daily habits and we actually get into them, of those things that keep you on the mat, then your success is absolutely ensured. Focusing on the right thing is going to help you get there and that's what we do today. Let's get into the episode Also, while you're there, we appreciate if you would like share and subscribe on this episode. It goes a long way to helping good folks like you get to see this. It helps us and we appreciate it. Essentially, at this point, the fight is over, so you pretty much flow with the goal. Who is worthy to?
Speaker 2:be trusted with the secret to limitless power.
Speaker 1:I'm ready. Goal setting will not get you a black belt and in fact, goal setting won't get you anything. And we're going to talk about why. Now this might sound strange, Joe, because I've been a very goal-oriented person. I even have a journal, and journaling business was all about setting goals.
Speaker 2:We might have even made a whole YouTube video about filling in said journal and setting said goals.
Speaker 1:We may have this might come as a shock filling in said journal and setting said goals. We may have this might come as a shock, but this was highlighted to me by someone way smarter than myself talking about when was I talking about this? Wow, it's funny. Someone who might even be smarter than you, joe. Oh, okay, imagine and you may have done this yourself where you said to yourself right, I'm going to lose 10 kilos, or I'm going to go to the gym five times a week, or I'm going to get X amount stronger, or I'm going to get this belt this year, and then it doesn't eventuate, because you've put a lot of attention on the end point without actually thinking about the process that gets you there. And so I really want to talk about this kind of process versus attainment thing, but talk about directly in the context of us getting different levels of I guess, better at jujitsu, essentially, whether you consider it to be a belt, a tournament, whatever it is.
Speaker 1:And so this is where I see the big problem lies for a lot of folks who start jujitsu, their coach will say to them right, this is what I want you to do, I want you to come to this many classes and do these techniques and do this and do this and do this and do this and do this, but this actually doesn't bring people's attention to what they need to do on a daily, weekly, monthly basis to actually help them show up. A lot of people are just doing as much jujitsu like if I just do jujitsu to death, then I'll be really good at jujitsu. When actually people flame out and I think we see this a lot, not just in jujitsu, we see it in the gym realm, the business realm People come in with a ton of enthusiasm, heaps of froth, but then, because they don't have any systems or any good habits in place, they just fucking flame out and then they never get their goal.
Speaker 2:So to that point. Tell me, is what the coach is saying in that regard wrong?
Speaker 1:I would say the common advice. Now, not every coach is the same, but I know I've been to trained a lot of different schools. The coach will just say just keep showing up, just be here, but be here as much as you can. I think that is the thing where it goes wrong. Like yeah, of course you've got to be there to get good, but how much you go to jujitsu is very individual as to how good you get, cause there's some people who dominate off three times a week and there's some people who train Three times a month.
Speaker 1:Case in point, it took me kind of twice a day every day to get good, and it is different for different people. But that idea that you just have to go to jiu-jitsu as much as you can is not going to get you as good at jiu-jitsu as you might think Right. Actually, it might cut you short. It might end up resulting in, in, uh uh, terminal failure. Oh yeah, you might quit the fucking end of the road, yeah, before you'd even kind of realized your true potential do you?
Speaker 2:can you think of? Some examples of people flaming out, not necessarily jujitsu I mean, it's funny when you, when you, when you brought it up, I instantly thought of there's like a few people that come to mind, but one in particular, and this is just like. I often have the conversation. No, because you know Fair, Fuck that guy Respect Okay.
Speaker 2:But no, you often have being who we are in jujitsu but even prior to us having the show and whatever, just being the guy that did jujitsu amongst a lot of my friends, right, people would tell you, hey, I'm starting jujitsu, I had did my first class and I loved it.
Speaker 2:And so I knew a guy who was actually he was a podcaster and a gym owner and a pretty boy and just pretty much trained for aesthetics and that was his whole thing. And you know, like great right, like whatever you're into. And there was a dude, there was a famous influencer who had taken up jiu-jitsu in the area and I know that this guy wanted to really get in with that influencer and they had a friendship from what I could tell. But he's like, hey, I start going to jujitsu with said influencer. And I was like, oh, and he's like, yeah, because he trains just, you know, down the block and I'm working and it's, it's super convenient. I'm just gonna go once a week. And I was just like that's not gonna last, like you're too pretty you're too soft wanker you're too busy Wrong idea.
Speaker 2:I'm like you're not hard-nosed, you don't want to be hard-nosed enough and you can't show up enough that it's going to work for you. Right, make it count. Yeah, like this guy could totally, absolutely make it work. It's just like no, but you've got to commit to it. You know, and I just made that prediction and I've been wrong. But this case I was absolutely right, you know, but it's, but it is that thing, right, where someone gets the froth and they're like, fuck yeah.
Speaker 1:I'm getting this into my life. I don't know where, cause I've got no space, but I'm doing it and this is this is the biggest challenge, you know, I I think for most people we have our lives and then we discover jujitsu and we're like shit, shit, I need to shape my life around.
Speaker 1:I need to leave my family, quit my job yeah, you know, and just jiu-jitsu is my whole life, but for the best part we we can't get rid of certain things. But yet we expect minimum effort input into jiu-jitsu, which if us like, compared the rest of our lives, it's maximum because it's all your spare time, right, but actually if you think of your total energy that you put into it, it's maybe only like five or ten percent of your total week. I I think the misunderstanding here is like not giving jiu-jitsu its proper respect in terms of it being a commitment, it can hurt you because you just I actually believe, uh, someone who say like a, say I don't even like the term hobbyist, but someone who is only doing jujitsu a less amount and they're doing it for fun versus someone who's a full-time competitor, is no less likely to get injured than a full-time competitor, right?
Speaker 2:I personally believe this because it's like any, everyone can get injured. Anyone, everyone could get it. The injury same, everyone can get it.
Speaker 1:The injury is lurking everywhere. So it doesn't matter if you're oh, I only train once a week. That doesn't mean you're not going to Rico Uni, you know, and that doesn't mean you shouldn't do jujitsu.
Speaker 2:It's just, we just need to know that, that is-. Well, you shouldn't do it if you really don't want to get injured.
Speaker 1:Let's just two. There's a few elements, but if we just think of this at the start, with any goal and I've had clients over the years, you know I've trained thousands of people with PT People will come to me and say I've trained thousands of people with PT. People will come to me and say, right, I have this goal, all right, cool. But they don't know where they're at right now. They want to go from point A to point B, and point B being the goal, that's the big focus.
Speaker 1:But they actually don't know where they're at and what they don't realize is point A is much further away from point B than they realize, until you say to them oh, have you considered this? Do you do this? How about this? Oh, no, no, no, no, fuck, all that, I'm just trying to get there. You're like, yeah, but you're not going to get there, dude, if you don't address a couple of these key things. So knowing where you're at right now is super important and I think that this is something we've touched on it before in jujitsu as long as you can breathe and move, they'll slap a gi on you and you get out there Jiu-Jitsu, as long as you can breathe and move, they'll slap a gi on you and you get out there.
Speaker 2:No one goes. Oh, how many knee reconstructions have you had. You don't even have to be able to move. No, If you're alive and you can be at the front desk, you're in Sign up.
Speaker 1:You're in.
Speaker 2:Just smear your way onto the mats here. Have a great session. Take it easy in the rolling part.
Speaker 1:This is take it easy in the rolling part. It's also this is also a beautiful thing about jiu-jitsu very inclusive, right, oh, it's beautiful, yeah, anyone can do it. But let's, let's think about this. There is not a good level of understanding, or it's not. It's never really developed in jiu-jitsu where it's like well, where are you at currently?
Speaker 1:You know, like I think this is not when people start jujitsu. They're not actually questioned or asked or assessed about where they're at physically. Can you touch your toes, like you know? It's like the great thing here at uh, jungle brothers is I love the assessment. You know the assessment when people come in. It really gives the feedback to the individual and it gives it lets the coach know this is exactly where this person is at coordination wise, strength wise, flexibility wise and that's a really good starting point. It really hits home to you, the person who's starting fuck, okay, this is truth, this is where I am. And now it puts it puts really into focus like, oh, that's how far away that goal is. Then the next step is how the fuck do I get there? Like I've got a goal, but how do I get there?
Speaker 1:And I believe that this isn't really blaming jujitsu coaches. I think it's just many, many people who are in jujitsu don't necessarily know how to help another person get there. They know how they got there themselves. Mate, I just trained every day, blasted a ton of gear and had great genetics. Fuck, all right. Thanks, josh launders. Appreciate it, bro? Uh no, I love josh launders. Shout out hpu, you're a legend. Respect, don't kill me. No, it's all good, but I think that the difficulty is it is individual, so there's got to be a degree of self-inquiry and discovery. You can't just take your coach's word for it, you know, I think this is a huge challenge that.
Speaker 2:Well, your coach doesn't know what's going on in your life. Yeah, your coach is just there at the academy when you get there and usually that's all they're sort of focusing on, and it's really. I think what you're getting at correct me if I'm wrong is that it's a lot of what's going on in your life outside of being at the academy that influences your ability to stick with it.
Speaker 1:I think it fully determines your success on the mat, and this is what we don't talk about. The lifestyle factors, and you know I've said it pretty openly before, like I keep my life pretty simple, or like pretty boring, pretty Spartan, if you will, almost Wow. Oh, thank you Joe. I thought you were going to say sparse, I was like that's pretty gay.
Speaker 1:I knew you were going to take it there I was going to say minus the gayness. I knew you were going to take it there. I was going to say minus the gayness. But no, shout out to Spartans warrior race.
Speaker 2:Shout out to the gay listeners too by the way. I'm from the 90s, where that's just something we fucking said to.
Speaker 1:It's a slur to call out in.
Speaker 2:Australia.
Speaker 1:No offense to you, I'm not man enough for that whole game. I'm not man enough for that whole game. The truth be told that when someone says, hey, go do this thing, they don't know how much stress is going on at work. They don't know you've got a sick kid. They don't know. You're like sure, whatever you say, coach, I'll do it, I'll do it. But you compared to, say, the 18-year-old kid who is just like fresh as a daisy and comparatively you look similar. You're showing up the same class. This is very different demand. They're living at home, maybe they have a job, maybe they don't. The lifestyle factors really change the game on the mat and how much energy you can bring to it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think about a lot of the people who really like, because everyone anyone that's been grappling for a while knows that, like in the academy, there is always a very interesting diversity of humans.
Speaker 2:Like it's always quite eclectic, yes, and I think that for a lot of people they don't like, for a lot of folks who find jiu-jitsu they don't necessarily have much going on, you know, they might you know they might not be into like fitness related, like active type stuff, yeah, uh. And so they kind of like, oh, I'll go and give that a go. And then they find you to like I fucking love this. And so they're like I'm going to stop going to the pub, right, yes, as a as a kind of some accrued example. Yeah, like I'm gonna just divert whatever that kind of time wasting thing I was doing and I'm gonna start coming here.
Speaker 2:And for those people it's a very easy transition because they kind of have the time yes whereas you also get these people who have a million things going on, yes, and are often, and, and sometimes those cats are like going to the gym a bunch of times and fucking looking after business and doing whatever, and they're like yeah, I love this, I'm going to get it in, yes, but the reality for that person is they already are very time poor.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I think for many people, if you work a second job like which is becoming much more of a thing for so many people now you're like where do I have time to just do the shit? I like you know, and, and so you do fit in whatever you can because that's your, your joy or your happy spot. But there is a bigger cost, um to jujitsu, in order to sustain it, and this is the thing I can't. I can't remember who said it, but basically, uh, someone was saying if it's not sustainable, you shouldn't do it, because it will just stop. The lack of sustainability means this crash and burns sometime soon. If you're working at a pace, whether it's excessive or just it's done in a way that's not efficient, you will have to stop at a critical point, whether it be through injury or finance or life demands or whatever it is.
Speaker 1:And so this is a phrase that I think it's probably from Tim Ferriss or Seth Godin or some kind of intelligent person with a podcast the map is not the terrain. So you can have a map, like we were talking about this whole idea of going from point A to B and say, oh, in the middle, there's some mountains there, and then you know, like if it was, you know, a wartime situation or something, you're like these are, this is fucking. This is the Alps we can't, we can't climb. You just go over the mountains to get there. You're like dude, this is a this, this climb will fucking kill me. And that's the thing that oftentimes it may have worked for someone 10 years ago and they say to you oh, I just go, I just do it like this. And then when you come to do it now, like whoa, that's fucking way harder for someone in their early thirties with family living their life.
Speaker 1:And so, even though someone might be able to give you the map, say a coach is like we've got the formula, follow this formula, you'll get to black belt. That doesn't mean the daily ins and outs of being on the mat week in, week out reflects that Like I think it's far harder. The reality of staying in jujitsu and being consistent it's way more demanding than anybody tells you. Jiu-jitsu and being consistent it's way more demanding than anybody tells you. Probably similar to like raising kids, because I don't have any kids. A lot of my friends have kids and they're like no one tells you about the first year. Man, that first year. It's like war stories Well.
Speaker 2:JT and I got 40 plus years of experience in the gym on the mats and we came together to build an app that's going to help you get the most out of your jujitsu training Bulletproof for BJJ app strength and mobility programs targeting jujitsu specific hotspots. Take a two week free trial right now. All you got to do is go to the app store, search Bulletproof for BJJ and we'll see you on the inside. Yeah, I guess an alternative take on that is that like, and kids are actually a great example, because kids will often, you know, kids will come into your life and you're like whoa, like I'm not ready for this. It's not like you're just sitting around with I mean, you kind of realize that you have just been sitting around.
Speaker 2:But it's not like. You're like, sweet, I've got all my afternoons available and shit to like, take you to fucking daycare or whatever you know, whatever it might be. All of a sudden, you have this thing that requires energy and attention and you're like holy shit, I've got to take this from other areas, right, yep. So you start, you do whatever needs to be done yes, get your parents to move in with you, or you start chopping away at your work schedule, or you know, just to make it work. And, um, so in that scenario, the having that impetus, which is we've now poured in too much, the buckets overflowing, yeah, it's like, all right, we're gonna pull shit out of the bucket, start chopping away.
Speaker 2:and so you know, to that point of doing an unsustainable thing and I and I know this too from business is that many times has been, I've been in a scenario of unsustainable output yes but if, if something that has to be a priority gets forced into the bucket, then it forces you to chop away at what's not essential, other things, yeah, and then you're like, oh shit, all right, we're gonna make some changes here, and I and I think that jujitsu probably does that for a lot of people right where they're like oh my god, I'm loving it so much I think I'm about to crash and burn, or maybe they just crashed and burned and they're like all right, that's it, I'm gonna stop drinking or I don't know, whatever yeah, it could it.
Speaker 1:It it forces people to prioritize to make it sustainable. Yeah, but the reason I think the reason why I wanted to have this chat is there is so much on the internet about goal setting and I think sitting down and writing down what you want is great there's nothing wrong with that but what I wanted to do with our discussion here is talk about what are the actions that keep you on the mat, what are the activities that you should really be dialing in and focus on to keep you there week after week, month after month, which will eventually bring you to your goal right. Like you know, I always use the car analogy, because I was someone who used to just thrash, destroy whatever vehicle I was driving, and that was expensive and has been expensive. And even now, even though I do look after my car and do not thrash it, it is still expensive because I drive a lemon, but, that said, too poor to upgrade the car, so I'll just keep spending the money. But, truth be told, that I didn't understand the repercussions for my actions until I melted the engine. I didn't understand the problems I was creating until I started putting enough water in the radiator or putting coolant, or oh, I've got to top up the oil, I need to check the oil. It wasn't until I fucked up that I actually started to realize, holy shit, that was very expensive learning. Holy shit, that was very expensive learning.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and, and the challenge is, with jujitsu, the learnings are often at the cost of bodily capacity. Like you don't, you don't. You're like, oh, that's a weird pimple scratch. No, it's. Oh, my god, my arm's twice the size. I've got a fucking mutant zombie arm. Jesus, that's called staff, my friends, and that shit could kill you. So you know. So next time you get a bump or a bit of a rash, you start to you go, oh, maybe I should pay attention to this and it is a learning process and it's. It is difficult for someone to spell it out for you, and most of the time someone doesn't. But when we come back to those good habits that we need to kind of focus on week to week, uh, month to month, um, making your life sustainable to support jujitsu is really what is going to get you there if you're someone who wants to go a long way in jujitsu, and and this is something that no one's talking about, so we're fucking talking about it.
Speaker 2:no, we are, we are, we are.
Speaker 1:Mate, that's all we talk about, that's right, let's, let's. Let's go head on with this and go okay, let's talk. Let's talk about like we. We can talk all day about failure cases, right, we, we see it all the time and it's not through lack of enthusiasm. If anything, it's a by-product of enthusiasm. People, you know, they go too hard or they kind of come at it the best way they can, but they don't know any better. Let's drill down into, like, because I think there might be a little bit of a difference between you and me for it. For yourself, joe, what do you think are the three things that help jujitsu be sustainable for you? Like, when you think about, obviously, obviously you're a busy bloke, you've got family, you've got businesses how do you make it so that you can fit some jujitsu in? Or what is it you do that enables you to fit it in? When you think about your own organization?
Speaker 2:I think a very top priority one is making sure that your partner is on board with it.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, Wow yeah, Wow Big.
Speaker 2:Yeah, which is just like making it like them understanding what it means to you and how important it is to your sort of identity and your sort of daily well-being that when you leave the house to go and train that night or on the weekend or whatever, they're not putting that guilt on you. You know of like, oh fuck, when are you coming back? You know what? Like, we all know that right, there's plenty of times when that happens in relationships and I think that a lot of time it just comes down to a proper discussion has never been had about how important this thing is to me yeah and how that allows me to be the best I can be when I'm here, you know.
Speaker 2:So I think I think getting getting your partner on board is paramount.
Speaker 1:That's, that's huge. I hadn't even think about that, so that's, that's awesome. Um, is there anything that you do um from a like, if you think about your week and your organization, like, obviously we've all tried different things, like training in the morning or training at lunch or training at night Like. Is there anything you do when you think about your week to make it fit or make your life work with it?
Speaker 2:Yeah, scheduling it in, so having it set in my calendar as I go into the week so I know when I'm training. I'm less concerned with that these days because I'm just less concerned with getting to train generally these days, but that has been huge for me in the last sort of 10 years when I don't start the week and then go, oh, when am I going to train? Am I going to go tonight? No, I'll go tomorrow. It's like no Tuesday, thursday night, saturday mornings that's when I'm there.
Speaker 1:Lock it in.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and my partner knows that and everyone's expecting that and you know the coach knows that, like it's kind of which are other forms of accountability in that way, right?
Speaker 1:Yeah, actually that's really good, that's fucking. That's pretty powerful right there. How about you, Mate? For me it's got to be an organizational thing in terms of and this is kind of interesting I mean, some people have training bags.
Speaker 1:I know you've got like a not for jiu-jitsu, but you've got your training bucket, like a not not for jujitsu, but you got your training bucket, training bag. No, not those bags, um, cj special. Uh, no, like you've got your training bucket which has like clipboards and you know like, oh yeah, my gym bag. Yeah, you have a way to organize your stuff. Yeah, what Ola did for me I think this is probably back 2019. For me I think this is probably back 2019 she started doing like jujitsu kits for me, which was like like like there's your gi, there's your belt, like wow, in a, it's in a like a shopping bag. In australia we have green bags. You know, like a, a bag that you could. You can basically put sweaty junk in it and then you can also throw the bag itself in the wash. Yeah, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2:And uh, flood your local ecosystem with microplastics. Don't worry about it, don't feel bad, everyone's doing it. Hey, please go on.
Speaker 1:Hey, if anyone, anyone wearing gym gear, you're doing the same, so shout out Lululemon. Um no, let's keep it on positive note, shut up. Ah, fucking Ola. No, no, but, no, no, but yeah, that's a great idea.
Speaker 2:So you chuck that bag, then anytime, potentially You're like I got the shit.
Speaker 1:But it doesn't have to be made of microplastics, it could be made of cotton, whatever.
Speaker 2:Hemp, if you will. Yeah, but you know how you see these. I actually thought about this on the way in this morning, because I'm covering a bit of Vantage at the moment. I'm like, fuck, I don't have any gear with me and I'm like I should just have my kit, which often I do just in the car. But yeah, perfect.
Speaker 1:You know how it's always in, like spy movies or operative movies, they've got a go kit somewhere in the house.
Speaker 1:Passports Hit a button, guns money bang, bang, but they just armor up in like 10 seconds. Yeah, it's kind of like that for jujitsu. Yeah, there's already like a bottle of water in there, a little sachet of soda or something. It's just like shit. I don't have to think, yeah, I just put it in the boot, I go to training. A little acai in a glass cabinet, it's like in more than one mouth guard. Yeah, stuff like that, like having it in your boot so you can just if the opportunity, like obviously you're saying you've got to plan it and I'm, I'm definitely with that.
Speaker 1:For me, when I'm doing jujitsu consistently, it can only be at certain times. I don't really have room in my life to just fucking be like, oh, I'll just go to jujitsu, but if something happens to cancel and I'm like shit, I could make a 10, 30 open mat. Fuck, the kit's already in the car. Yeah, that's, that's the thing that helps me. The other thing I do is I just don't. I leave free space. Like, even though I do try and do lots of stuff, I deliberately allocate free time in the week and just lock in this little break, which could be I go visit my parents or I help a friend do something, or if it, if nothing crops up, fuck that could be jujitsu time. Like, by keeping less going on in my life, I leave more room for jujitsu. And also, if I get fucking jacked up at training, say, I do go to jujitsu and I fight too hard against a cross face and I fucking nail my neck's jacked that space is there to maybe go see the physio, and I think this is one of the hardest things. There are all these hidden costs to jujitsu, like getting muscle cramps or getting banged up, that you need a little bit of leeway in there to go to a therapist or go get a massage or fucking do a yoga class or just do something additional to look after yourself.
Speaker 1:Yes, and that's what's making it unsustainable for people. And then, last but not least, I have an obsessive focus on just looking after my fucking body. So I stretch every day Like that's something that's already in my life. I'm already going to go to the gym three times that week. I'm already going to fucking have my magnesium. It's a bit of an unfair advantage that I already have a lot of those habits in place that other people don't, which means I can wake up the next day and fucking go hard again, and all of my cyclic rhythms are about keeping me as fucking out of kilter as my life gets. As much as I consume enough caffeine to kill five humans all this stuff I will repeat the same process. That processes day in, day out. So I can somehow show up and do it again. So I go to bed early. There's a lot of things I do which mean I can keep showing up.
Speaker 2:And there is an unfair advantage there in terms of when you start to build in habits like this into your life like training, like stretching, like supplementing, all that stuff, things that we talk about a lot on the show it gets easier and easier to do it. Yeah, and then over a longer period of time, you've now done this shit for 10, 15, 20 years, don't think about it. And for someone that is maybe just starting to do that, they're finding it really hard to do it. So there is something that comes with like, just like gradually layering on new things and retaining the old ones, right, um, but word of warning there, right For the listener is that you probably like, if you're not doing any of that stuff, you can't jump in to that level and do it all.
Speaker 2:So it's like all right, get, get the gym training thing going on. Yeah, get into the gym a couple of times a week, start following a program. I want to Get into the gym a couple of times a week, start following a program One of ours might be a good idea Sure, and make that a thing, and then whatever in six months' time. All right, cool, what are we going to do now? All right, let's get the supplements on. Let's get magnesium going. Yeah, you know, like piece by piece.
Speaker 1:Man, it was a hilarious conversation to me. Just a co-worker of mine, gentleman named Charles he doesn't, he doesn't do jujitsu, he doesn't listen to this podcast he hurt his hip, uh, ages ago and I was like, oh man, how's your hip going? He's like oh, it's back. I mean what? I was like, what do you mean by that? He's like oh, I hurt my hip and I did rehab and I was like, yeah, and he's like but now it's like fucked again. I'm like well, what do you mean? He's like well, I did a rehab. It didn't work, it didn't fix it. I'm like what do you mean fix it? He's like, well, I got the injury, I went to physio, I did the exercises and it felt good. But now it's bad again.
Speaker 1:And I said do you go to the gym or do you do anything to strengthen your hip? No, do you do any other exercises? No, it's like. What were you thinking, bruh? And he knows that I'm into health and fitness, right. And so I was like dude, what made you think that? Like it was going to stay strong by doing nothing? Like you know you've said it before, Joe like you brush your teeth once. That's doesn't mean you're cavity free for life, it's a process. And he was like are you serious? You mean, I got it.
Speaker 1:He's a grown man, the guy's in his thirties. He's like, so you mean, I got to go to the gym for the rest of my life. I was like, yeah, dude, and it's going to get harder and it's going to get worse. And you have three kids, bro. Like, even if you don't do it for you, he loves his kids. He's a great dad, right, he lives for his kids. I'm like, bro, just think this If you can't bend over and pick up your kids, they think that you don't love them. Bro, I'm just hitting him with the emotional guilt. He's like don't say that, man, I love my kids. I'm like, yeah, I know you love your kids, but what I'm saying is you, if you can't be motivated on your own behalf just to be there for your kids, you will have to stay fit, healthy and active. So, bro, you've got to start doing something.
Speaker 2:He's like okay, fine.
Speaker 1:He's like how do you be giving me this fitness advice? I'm like, bro, it is my life. You know I just want good for you, man, I'm not trying to con you into some fucking pyramid scheme. You know he was looking at me suspiciously. What? I've got a gym forever, are you serious? I'm like, yeah, dude, yeah, just facts. Man, don't take my word for it, just Google it.
Speaker 2:There is. I think that probably misconception is probably many people experience, yeah, a lot more popular than we believe. Right, like them, then we would know, because because we're so we understand so differently obsessed with it. But yeah, for people that are like no, I don't really do anything, like to look after my physicality, I got this injury, I went to the thing, fix the thing. Pretty good, that's how it works for you to be like no, it doesn't work like that. Like whoa, what do you mean?
Speaker 2:like, because it's always worked for me up until now, you know yeah and so, and there is even as someone who goes to the gym, something a little bit depressing when you think like fuck, if I stop doing this it all goes backwards, yeah, yeah you know.
Speaker 2:But but as an insight to those who are, like, maybe feeling that depression right now after what I just said um, it's not about that, because you don't go to the gym every day with the end in mind. No, it's just a habit, it's just a thing, and it makes you feel better and it makes you feel more energetic, and there's so much good that comes from it in the immediate and then also down the track. So it's just, it's like a great thing to do.
Speaker 1:It's the best thing you can do, and more and more research supports that. So, yeah, I think anything is difficult. When you start anything, it doesn't matter what it is, but once it is uh, you know within your routine, it becomes enjoyable, whatever that looks like. But the thing I wanted to finish with here, which is something that we we tend not to do, and I believe that this is the biggest falling down of modern society is a lack of introspection. We are constantly taught to look outside of ourselves. For example, you might go on YouTube and be like what do these authoritative Australians have to say about how I can get better at jujitsu? They must have the answer no, we have. We have. We have some ideas and some questions. But here is the question which is worth asking yourself.
Speaker 1:You do a bit of a self-audit. You look at you, look at what you do, week in, week out. Separate of jujitsu sounds a bit scientology like, but no, not at all. No, no, you're not going to get any fucking n grams and you're not going to get ranked higher in our society. If you give us a ton of money Unless you do give us a ton of money We'll shout you out on the pod. You get mad social clout.
Speaker 1:Are there things that you do which are handbrakes on your progress? Like you were saying, potentially someone has an active social life and they love to go to the pub. Nothing wrong with that. Go to the bar, go out, be social. Socializing is a key part of just being a good human being, a happy human.
Speaker 1:But what you notice is you go for a couple of drinks on a Friday and then you're like fuck, I'm so wrecked. On a Saturday I go to jujitsu and I am a bag of, I'm a sack of crap. And so you go. You know what, maybe I'll go out on Friday and I won't go as hard. And then you go oh, I actually feel better on the Saturday. And then that kind of reinforces the behavior that you take that handbrake off and then that enables you to perform better at jujitsu. But then a handbrake in and of itself might be that you don't bring a drink bottle to training. You know, I'm just not a drink bottle guy. I don't, I don't want to fucking lug around 40, 40 gallons of water. You know, I don't know what trend it was when people, you know, but you know when people used to have those big ass like bodybuilders. They, they have those big ass like bodybuilders, they have those, those big plastic barrel, looking things it looks like something you would put in a water vending fountain Stupid bottle with a silver lid.
Speaker 1:Yeah, this whole thing right.
Speaker 2:We used to bring them to the gym.
Speaker 1:I'm like bit of a trend, but I mean we-.
Speaker 2:I'm glad you're drinking a lot of water, hey, credit, respect hydration.
Speaker 1:But people, it's funny how we associate our habits as part of our identity and we go I'm not that fucking drink bottle guy.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I'm not that stretch before class guy. Look at that guy, he's a fucking wanker. That guy fucking wants to do yoga. What's that? Bullshit, bulletproof fuck. And so, as a result of that, we have these kind of hangups or handbrakes that actually, if we just tried to do the thing, we actually oh, I feel better now that I've done that by doing a little bit of introspection and just going. Are there things I'm doing which I could stop doing, which would actually make this more sustainable, get me to the goal faster, et cetera, et cetera. I do this probably on a quarterly basis. I go back and I go fuck. What have I been doing in the last three months which might actually be a bottleneck? What am I? Am I actively doing something which might be fucking me up?
Speaker 1:maybe I should stop doing x yeah or maybe I need to, not, maybe I just need to cut this out, and you've got to try for yourself to find out. But I think it is an experiment that's worth running. To just do that little bit of a self-audit and you go, you know what, this month I'm going to not do that. Take something out of the schedule and just see if it makes things easier, because this is this kind of inversion effect. You don't necessarily have to add a habit, you might need to just pull something out and then jiu-jitsu gets better, the floodgates open, success. There it is, folks. It is a challenging thing when you are so focused on the goal, but when you bring your attention to the process, the goal comes a lot closer, a lot quicker. But when you bring your attention to the process, the goal comes a lot closer, a lot quicker. We thank you for staying here this long and while you're here, please give us a like, a subscribe and a follow. It means a lot to us. Peace.
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