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Ep #154: Mark Collins: Income Does not Determine Identity-Your Identity Determines Your Income

• Beate Chelette • Episode 154

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Mark Collins shares powerful strategies for designing your long-term vision that aligns your core values and business goals. Mark discusses how to create your unique roadmap that brings clarity and purpose to both your personal and professional life.


🌟 "Your identity isn't tied to your outcomes. You’re the secret sauce to the success in your life." 🌟

In this episode, I had the privilege of speaking with Mark Collins, author of Life Mastery: Living Life by Design, Not by Default, and founder of Freedom for Life. Mark shared  how we can break free from the grip of imposter syndrome and live a life grounded in authenticity, purpose, and alignment.

One of the key takeaways? Success isn’t about what you achieve—it’s who you are. Mark explains how our identity often gets tied to our accomplishments, leaving us feeling like imposters when we step into new challenges. But what if we could reframe our mindset? What if we saw ourselves as inherently valuable, capable, and worthy, regardless of the outcome?

🎙️ Mark also shared actionable strategies for separating your self-worth from your work, overcoming self-doubt, and building a life that reflects your deepest values and vision. Whether you’re a business leader, an entrepreneur, or simply someone striving to align your life with your goals, this episode will leave you inspired and empowered.

👉 Tune in now to listen to this life-changing conversation!


 đź’¬ After you listen, we’d love to hear from you: What’s one belief about yourself you’re ready to let go of? Join the conversation in the comments below or share your thoughts.

Resources Mentioned:

Mark Collins:  Website | Life Mastery: Living Life by Design, Not by Default
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/FreedForLife/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_freedomforlife_/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCw1A7tteCrpLj_d9ejzDWRg
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/mark-collins-freedom-for-life

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Mark Collins:

Hi. I'm Mark Collins, the author of the book"Life Mastery, Living Life by Design, Not by Default". And also the founder of Freedom4Life. On this episode of the Business Growth Architect Show, we really started to unpack your spiritual as well as your business growth, who you are as the person that you're created to be really having an impact in your business relationships. In life, one aspect that I had a great opportunity to have the conversation with was about overcoming imposter syndrome, really being able to have the answers that overcome it in your business, not have it come along for the ride. And we've talked about strategies to be able to do that, and how that would impact all sorts of areas of your life. For the answer to that, how you can overcome imposter syndrome in your business, so that isn't a part of your business any longer. Listen to the full episode. I hope you enjoy.

BEATE CHELETTE:

And hello, fabulous person! Beate Chelette, here. I am the host of the Business Growth Architect Show and I want to welcome you to today's episode where we discuss how to navigate strategy and spirituality to achieve time and financial freedom. Truly successful people have learned how to master both a clear intention and a strategy to execute that in a spiritual practice that will help them to stay in alignment and on purpose. Please enjoy the show and listen to what our guest today has to say about this very topic. Welcome back to the Business Growth Architect Show today. I'm here with Mark Collins from Life Mastery, and we're going to be talking about two very interesting topics. One is overcoming fear imposter syndrome, and kind of like all these things that so many of us are dealing with on a daily basis. And the other thing is, how do you become very successful? And then kind of, what do you need to watch out for as you become very successful, or if you're successful and it's not what it was meant out to be, what the heck are you going to be doing right now? Mark, I'm so excited to have you on the show.

Mark Collins:

Welcome. Thank you so much. I'm excited for the conversation.

BEATE CHELETTE:

Excellent. Mark, for somebody who's never heard of you or is not familiar with your work, will you tell us a little bit about yourself and how you solve clients problems?

Mark Collins:

Yeah, absolutely. So for me, the thing that I do, I you talked about it, Life Mastery is kind of the umbrella under which we do all the work we do with our clients. And for us, it's really starting to unpack, you know, the things outside of success. The people that I work with are either initial business owners, those early stage entrepreneurs, or people who are highly successful. They both have different areas of their path, but they have the same issues, and those are the things that we had talked about. So for us, it's really bringing tools and strategies and those abilities to really understand life beyond success. For us, we don't invite our clients into a successful environment and try and succeed in business. What I try and do is I tell people is to I'm not here to make your business better. I'm here to make you better in your business, and the outcome is higher level achievement, greater level net worth, but also greater level fulfillment and the things that you've had. So it's life beyond business, but it actually impacts your business as well as, like I do, who you are in your business is who you are everywhere. And so when we can start to really elevate and maximize who we are in those spaces, now all of a sudden, the outcome of that is relationships are better, communities are better, and my impact in the world is greater than I would have expected,

BEATE CHELETTE:

right? I like that a lot. Thank you for sharing that mark. One of the questions that I'm personally very interested in, and that I get a lot is people that are in business for themselves, entrepreneurs, business owners, consultant, coaches, oftentimes there's such a deep definition with the work in the self expression where I am this, for me, it's literally indistinguishable on who I'm here versus who am I outside. But the question does come ever so often, if I didn't have that, who would I be? Is that something that you see, is that a fear that people have, or is there a definition, or maybe, is it an over reliance on what the business is supposed to give me, where there's a like, you know, where I'm trying to get with this question? Go ahead, I'll let you take it.

Mark Collins:

No, absolutely. And in fact, it's a very core and foundational part of what we do, what I tell people is really because it's a skill set versus identity issue, right? I've got skills and ability, gifts and talents, and those outcomes are whatever I'm doing in my business, whatever type of business, whatever role I have within it. The challenge is when you start to look at yourself as whatever those things you are that you're doing, part of that mindset shift is starting to unpack who you are versus what you achieve. What I tell people is you either living from who you are or what your life has told you. And for us, that looks like my outcomes, telling me who I am, versus me having my outcomes because of who I am. The difference between the two is I've had businesses that have succeeded, and you feel amazing and great with them. I've had businesses. That failed, and for any of and I'm sure every entrepreneur that's listening to this right now has had both as well, because they're all both part of the journey. The challenge is, when my identity comes from my business, when I'm successful, then I'm amazing. I'm this thought leader. I'm the person that's so great in what I do. And when I'm failing, or when I the business, I have to shut the doors, I have to declare bankruptcy. I have to do those things that happen when businesses don't work out. Now, all of a sudden, there's this thought process, there's this mindset, there's these mental games that say, Okay, well, am I? Am I really worth it? Am I somebody that that can actually do this? And what I find with the people that I work with is most of who we tell ourselves we are right now comes from who we've believed from our past experiences, even all the way back into childhood, overcoming past trauma, past issues in your life. For myself, me business success was proving to my father that I was somebody that was as good as not feeling like you're measuring up in your own house. You always try and try and measure up elsewhere. And the thing I found out, that I'm sure most of the folks that are listening found out as well was fear of failure and imposter syndrome. They didn't leave when I was successful. No, what? They just came along. They just came along for the ride. Yes, because my identity wasn't living from who I was created to be. It was trying to prove who I am by my outcome. And as you know, maybe from the people you've worked with. For sure, it's this hamster wheel of success, where when my outcome and my business and my success has to prove who I am, then it's never enough, and I'm always having to reprove it, and the next one is always having to be greater than this one, otherwise you have these feelings of, I'm not as good as Bill Gates, I'm not as great as Ed bylet or whoever the person is that you're trying to measure up to. So for us, it all starts with identity. And for us, it's this separation of who are you apart from your things, your outcome, your income, your possessions, your titles, your roles. When we set those things aside, the person that's looking in the mirror is who you really are, and when we can start to unpack that and start to find out that that person actually is the reason for the success, now all of a sudden, the success we have becomes fulfillment, because it's a byproduct of me living out my calling, my impact, right that maximize life that I'm desiring for, versus me needing to do those things. So I showed who I am.

BEATE CHELETTE:

So I mean, basically what you're talking about is like spirituality and strategy in one bucket. There is no difference between how to approach this because so what I'm hearing, and I really, really want to make sure we get this clarified, so the beehive gets this you are saying, then the traditional way on how we're being taught how to run a business, it means that if you work hard and you put everything in, you sacrifice, you do all the things that we are told to do, money doesn't grow in the tree, by the way, that's why you have to hustle, hustle, hustle. So if we do that, then our reward is when we become successful and we have money in the bank. But you say that's not true, because if you do that, then you're making dependent on how you feel about the success you're able to achieve. So that means if you don't have the success, you fail, or you always have to look for the next level of success, because this piece is not fulfilling. Am I getting this correctly? Yeah, absolutely.

Mark Collins:

And here's your test. You being the listener, the watcher, the person who's looking into this program. What happens when you don't succeed, and what happens when you do? The people that I work with who are at that mountain top experience, they experienced the same thing I did, which was that, you know, those things I thought would be cured at the top just came along for the ride, and unfortunately, they were actually intensified. Because when I fail at the bottom, meaning at the beginning of a journey, beginning of the business. I've got a few 1000, 100,000 whatever in and, you know, there's an impact in that, and we never want to waste the resources. But the difference between that and somebody who's got a multi million dollar business, and now all of a sudden there's a catastrophe, there's a business decision, there's a direction I took that really led to UN financial downturn. Now all of a sudden, there's employees, there's homes, there's incomes, there's futures, there's College, there's all these things that are attached to it. So not only do those things come along for the ride, but now they're more intensified, because now all of a sudden, there's more at risk. There's more to lose. So yes, it is that challenge of succeeding and understanding that what is the definition of success versus fulfillment? Success is really that thing you're talking about. And by the way, hard work is awesome. I do believe in affirmations. I do believe in drawing to the outcomes that you believe you're meant to have. But at the end of the day, if my hard work is everything I need to do to succeed, then it's really just success. Fulfillment isn't just success. Fulfillment is me really achieving those goals in my life, but really me living out from who I am. So at the end of the day, I'm not defined by success or failure. You already know people at the top of your head, if I would say that this person was amazing in business and the rest of their life was a disaster, we probably both have relationships with people that look like that. Well, that's a person who I need success to prove who I am. Not because of who I am, and the reason I know that is because if all of your life isn't and if you're not fulfilled on all of those areas, again, the same person. You are one place, you are every place. If one area is amazing and another area is a disaster, that's a great indicator that maybe you're using your success as a substitute for identity. Because who I am at work is a person of passion, compassion, you know, strength and fortitude and ability. That's the same person that you show up in marriage and relationships and the people that you have in your life. That's the same person that you show up in parenting and social relationships as well. Who are you? It doesn't mean I'm not focused and intense on the things I'm doing, but again, when I'm living from who I am, those are outcomes of who I am, and so I'm not striving to prove who I am. I'm actually accomplishing because of who I am.

BEATE CHELETTE:

So let's shift into into that a little bit. I found this absolutely fascinating. It is very difficult in my own experience to detach yourself from this, getting somewhere to the being more, yeah, how do we start even doing that? So let's say I'm listening to this and I'm going mark, that's all great, but the truth of the matter is, I can't take my wife out to a nice dinner. My relationship is not as good as it would be if I could spoil her with all the things I would want. So I am not sure if you're telling me the truth, because my wife very clearly told me last week that I need to step it up so I can pay the bills, so the kids are taken care of. And now here we are, and we're having in this podcast, we talk about focus on your self fulfillment and step into your purpose, and then the rest will all come to you. What do we do? How do we explain this in in a way that our audience goes, Okay, this makes sense and doesn't think this is just a whole bunch of bogus for people that are already very successful, that then have a really good problem to solve, because they don't have on the muscles, hierarchy of needs, the bottom problems, you know, the food, shelter, safety,

Mark Collins:

yeah, absolutely. It's, it's that phrase champagne problems, right? I'm not that person with the champagne problems that has too much excess, and I need to figure myself out in the journey along the way, right? And that person, that's that, that entry level entrepreneur, I'm just starting out, and I'm and I'm trying to figure this out, and maybe my wife, or my husband, or whoever the person is, is on board or isn't, and I'm trying to walk towards those things. I mean, while there's just so much you can unpack there, and the truth is, activity does not have to stop when I try and work through those issues and challenges in my life, right? It doesn't mean I don't strive for success and fortitude and whatever, whatever the social and relational responsibilities that you have. Right? I'm not asking you to go out on a retreat and find a guru somewhere and sit on a mountain top and wait till you find yourself the thing I'm talking about from the mountaintop was an experience I had that I didn't know about when I was in the valley, when I was an entry level entrepreneur, and really start to try and figure it out, and struggling with fear and worry and anxiety and all those issues that happen when you're trying to figure out something you don't have answers to, while at the same time trying to prove you can be successful, to make yourself feel accomplished, but also to prove somebody else wrong, or whatever the thing is, that's your thing. So at the end of the day, there's a couple of things going on here. One is a level set on a relationship, and we get into the relational part of it. Am I married to a partner, or am I married to a roommate? And at the end of the day for myself and my life with my wife, it was a partnership that walked through that nothing that I did to walk through that journey, those strategies, those tools and to those truths that I walked in to be able to find out who I was, the person that first impacted was my wife. Here's the interesting thing again, who you are in business is who you are in life, right? When I understand who I am in my relationship with my wife, I not only am showing up as the person that she married and the one that she desired, but I give her permission to be who she is as well. When I understand who I am. My relationships are amazing. When I don't, my wife has to make up the difference in that place of trying to strive and succeed and do those things. The truth of the matter is, every relationship suffers because everybody else has to be perfect in my life for me to feel good about me, my business does, my relationships and everything in between. If you don't walk in this journey, there's two things that are going to happen. You're either going to forgo your relationship, put it on the sideline so that you can succeed and prove who you are, or you're going to have challenges in both. Yeah,

BEATE CHELETTE:

to me, it's the line in this movie Mrs. Doubtfire. That was the reason I made the decision to get a divorce. And there's this moment where Mrs. Doubtfire, who is really the separated husband posing as Mrs. Doubtfire, the nanny, sits at the kitchen table and says, what was it that drove you to this? And she says, because he didn't keep his part, I had to become. Someone I didn't want to be. And to me, this is so profound. And I think from what I see in my work, and I'm sure you do the same, is that most problems go back to that if you take a heavier weight on your business, then it takes time away from your relationships, with your partner, with your kids, with family and friends. Then they suffer as a result of it. In order for this to work, now they need to adjust or become something tip toe. Don't upset you, so that the little time that they have with you. You're not flying off the handle. You're not getting cranky, you know, doing the laundry even though you said you would do it, putting your stuff away, even though you said you would do it, taking the kids where as you said you would do it, just to keep some sort of experience of a normalcy in my life, but that can only work for so long, until you've had it. What do I do? How do I know if I put this strain on the people around me? So you said, the telltale sign is, honestly, I think the telltale sign, if you're in a partnership, is if your intimacy is going down the drain. If you miserable and grumpy, nobody wants to sleep with you. Let's just be really clear about that. What are some of the other things that you see where people could say, Oh, my God, that just happened yesterday. Yeah,

Mark Collins:

absolutely. And if I could clarify, and it probably was the way I said it, but what I said in general was, if I don't understand who I am, my wife has to make up the difference my Life Mastery looks like living who you're created to be at the maximum level that you're created for in every area of the life, and that's in your spiritual realm, that's in your vocation or your business, that is also in your relationships, including with your spouse, your boyfriend, girlfriend, whatever it is that you have. And so the goal that we have is identify who you are created to be, not just vocationally in that amazing business you have, but relationally, who's the man or woman that needs to show up to invest in the relationship in a way that's authentic, that's vulnerable, that's honest, that's open, that brings the best of you. And the truth is that there is a agreement that happens in any business, and you know it as well as I do because you lived it and, you know, coached it as well. There's this agreement that we had this goal for and it was the conversations that my wife and I had. We had this goal for business. Well, I had a job at the same time I was starting businesses. Those are both time constraints that happen. Business doesn't happen on accident, and it doesn't happen on weekends. It happens in maximizing your time on a daily basis, until you get those successes so that you can do it as a full time venture. Well, there's agreements that happen in that place that well, then I'm not going to be able to always go and do those relational things, those parties with friends, those birthdays, which not the close and intimate people, but those acquaintances that you kind of should be at, but you don't have time for when you have goals that are intentional and that are agreed to, then you understand and you can have conversations about what sacrifices need to be made, because we've got this that we're going towards. I love my friends and I love my family, but us, my wife and myself and our household, we've got these goals to go for. This is non negotiable, because at the end of the day, it's you and me against the world, and this is what we believe, is the maximized life that we desire. Well, in the short term, that means that nights and weekends, right? That means long hours, that means those things. It doesn't mean that my I ignore my wife for 234, years until we get there. What it does mean is that we have these negotiated and understood agreements because we both have the same vision. We have the unity and a partnership, and we're working towards that. That's not always the case. Sometimes you get inspired and you get, you know, impassioned with the things that you desire after relationship happens. So how do you know that there's a challenge that's happening? And definitely intimacy? You're definitely right there. But the first one to me is conversation, when you when you stop being a partner and you start being a roommate, when you start passing each other in the night, when you're talking about tasks lists more than your relationship, when you're talking about the to do's in life, Hey, pick up the laundry, or you need to go do this, but you're not sharing time with each other. You're not sharing conversations. You're not sharing those things about what you're walking through. When it stops to be conversation, it starts becoming checklists of these are the things we need to do, but we've never even asked each other how we are, and we haven't shared a glass of wine, we haven't sat to dinner together or what have you. When you start losing those small things, intimacy is definitely a big one, and when you get to that point, I would say that you probably want to have a conversation and take some time out of pause to find out where you can reconnect before you've stopped reconnecting in the bedroom. You've probably stopped reconnecting in the kitchen, in the dining room, and everywhere else. It's the roommate versus partner men. Reality. And sometimes it can happen. Busy happens. Schedules happen. I like this idea a

BEATE CHELETTE:

lot, you know, and I and for full, full disclosure, I mean, I think I'm definitely something of a workaholic. And what challenges me in this is that I love what I do. Yeah, I really, really deeply am connected to my work and the purpose helping people to take these ideas and businesses and architect their growth. I mean, when I see some of the things that happen as a result of the work that we do together, the impact this makes is is just extraordinary, and I feel so privileged to get these thank you notes, but that does come at an expense sometime, and then when my partner does the same thing, then what we have an hour a day to be together, and that's really not enough for for this. So let's talk about a strategy. I've listened to this and I'm going like, I'm going down that road. My work is too important either because I need to make the money, or because I'm willing to sacrifice, or I love it so much that it's not even work that I want to do all of this. How do I break the pattern? Yeah,

Mark Collins:

that's a great question. First and foremost, the thing I would tell you, you as anybody listening watching, is, I don't believe you have to apologize for your passion. The truth of the matter is, people of great impact in the world are that way because they are singularly focused and passionate about what they do, and that's what makes entrepreneurs so unique, and what makes them amazing. One of my biggest challenge in relationships is is disconnecting from what I'm doing and passionate about in business and in relating myself business coaching and life, life coaching as well, in order to invest in the things that matter as well, which is my wife, my children and family. So the truth of the matter is, I mean full disclosure on my part, I think I think balance is a fallacy. I think, I think if you're trying to balance everything and give equal time to everything in your life all of the time, then you're not successful at anything that you minimize your impact and your ability to do those things that you're really created to do again, living from identity who you created to be. Yeah, that impact that has, I tell people that I work with, there's an impact in the world that has your name on it, and it's undeniable once you find it, and in that place, there's other things that you need to do. So for us, it's really understanding that, Okay, so first and foremost, we have what we call the Life Mastery, life, right? Living life who you're created to be at the highest level you're created for in every area of life. Well, the only way you can create that highest level life is, first and foremost, having goals. And so one of my goals is relationship. So there's those times that what I have to do is, like with my business, sometimes we're so good at our business, right? We master our business, we manage our lives, and in that place, we take the tools, and we don't take the tools that we've used in business to create in our life well. So the first one is, everybody has a calendar, you have tasks, you have goals, you have those things that you're doing within the business realm. That's why you succeed at it. Well, where are your tasks? Where's your calendar, where's your goals for your marriage, for your relationship, and for me, it doesn't mean that I have three to four hours every night to spend with my wife and to be in relationship. We have those moments. We just had a vacation in Santa Barbara That was wonderful, right? We had time, and it was hard for me to get away and to intentionally not bring my computer and so I wouldn't accidentally start working on things, accidentally, yes, right? Oops, you know, oh, you're, you're doing

BEATE CHELETTE:

really quick opportunity. Yeah, I must respond to right,

Mark Collins:

but the truth is, right, what you focus on, you increase in your life. So how do I focus on intentional relationship, okay, not just accountability, but the vulnerable and authentic and awesome relationship that I can have. Well, am I calendaring it? Am I finding time for it? Am I strategically putting those things in place? Am I giving us goals right? That trip didn't happen on accident. It happened because I blocked the time out ahead of time. You had to plan conversations, and we planned it, right? And I had to follow through on my part, yeah, and for those of us who are high achievers, it's kind of challenging to do, right? Because it's like, ah, but there's, there's these 10 things I could do, or these,

BEATE CHELETTE:

what do you? What do you want? Why do you why do you want? Two weeks? Yes,

Mark Collins:

and and two weeks can be a challenge, but I guarantee every entrepreneur is able to find that time and to structure their business in a way. If they're doing well with their business, it's because they're delegating, well, it's because they're scheduling, well, it's because they're not just Task Managers, but task masters, and they're making sure that their time is meticulously crafted to really maximize their business. And if not, there's skills and abilities you can do. But how do you calendar it in it doesn't mean that eight to eight hours of business means eight hours of home time. It means that these are the things we're going for. Again, we're unified in our vision and our goals for our relationship, our family and our life, and there's these nuggets of intentional you know, in. Them at specific time, where I'm checked out on everything else, and we're doing first time in those places. So there's a deep investment, even if there's not, you know, that ongoing every hour of everyday investment. And you know, for myself with my wife, I mean, we check in several times a day, right? I have time to have a conversation, even if I don't have all the time to go to a dinner every night, or lunch together, or what have you. So you can find those moments of time. But when you both agree to your vision, you both agree to your calendar, and the calendar means that sometimes things get set aside so that what's most important for this moment, these times this relationship gets fully invested, and it starts with a goal. What is your goal in that area? If you have none, you'll accomplish nothing. But if you have something that you're striving towards, if you have a vision for your marriage as well as your business, you'll start to see those moments where you can invest in the ways that will have a really powerful impact, more so than if you were just that work a day, person coming home watching TV together and going to bed. Yeah, they're less invested in than somebody who's intentionally, specifically, eye to eye, face to face, conversation together, having that really specific time that they can spend together.

BEATE CHELETTE:

I like that. This makes a lot of sense, and I think that is to be said for self care, for all these things that are important, if it's in the calendar, it gets done. If it's not in the calendar, you won't have time for it, then it doesn't get done. My final piece I wanted to speak to you briefly for the last couple minutes of the show, is talk to me about imposter syndrome. Where does this show up and why does it show up for people? Yeah, that's

Mark Collins:

a great question. Two fold question. Well, the first, where does it show up? The things that I've noticed in most people's life, right? Imposter syndrome is not feeling like you're qualified for X, whatever your ex is. It could be, you know, your promotion into the boardroom. It could be you elevating your business. It could be starting your business and trying to go from that vocational world of having a job to starting a business. I've been there and in those places, right? Here's the time when imposter syndrome happens, when I'm reaching beyond what I could normally do, when I'm reaching just beyond my control, when I'm dreaming higher, when I'm looking higher in my life, and I'm reaching for that thing. None of us gets imposter syndrome by doing the ordinary, right? The things that we can go to

BEATE CHELETTE:

the grocery store at all, even in a foreign country, I'll figure it out. Yeah, exactly.

Mark Collins:

Or doing bookkeeping, or whatever the business functions, are those things that we are just experts at. Or, man, I could do it blindfolded. We never worry about those things. But it's in those times where I'm reaching higher, that's where it happens. And that happens for a multitude of people, a multitude of ways. Why it happens is the interesting question. Because why it happens we think is a result of me just reaching for greater goals. And here's the thing that I would tell people that I'll give you, their imposter syndrome is an activity issue. It's an identity issue. Because when we have a failure in business, right? We have a downturn in the market, we make a decision, and it doesn't work out the way we want it to. It's never really about the activity. It's what the activity says about me. An imposter syndrome, is that identity statement that says that I may not be good enough. Or for those of us who are really hearing those thoughts in our head, that arm wrestling that's going on in our mind is saying this, you're not good enough, they're going to find out that you shouldn't be in this position or in business, they're going to find out your wife, your spouse, or your employees, your people around you, that you don't know what you're doing, and this outcome, right? Whatever it is, is going to be a result of that. It's, I like what somebody has said, it's pre catastrophizing the outcome in your life. It's, it's already assuming the worst before you get to the result. But it's always an identity statement. And again, we start with identity of the work that we do. Who are you apart from those things? If who I am is tied to those things, then my identity is really in my outcome with the work you do. That could be exhausting. It is exhausting because I always have to succeed, and I always have to be on and eventually, there's a few things that are going to happen. You're either going to burn out, you're going to give up, or you're going to use things, what I call your personal medication, to overcome those feelings, alcohol, drugs, sex, money, power, whatever those things are. We all have our things if we're trying to medicate against the life we don't want now we work with imposter syndrome is start to pull you apart from what you're doing as your outcome. Are you good enough before you do those things? Then you're going to be good enough after. If you're not good enough, if you don't have value, if you don't have worth, if you're not a person of impact, until you succeed, then you won't be one when you succeed, because it'll always have to be, yeah, but what about next time? So imposter syndrome, the why is the thing that really helps us to not just unpack it, but to overcome it. Because when you start to walk in as the person you're created to be, you start to find out what you're created for. I tell the people I work with, you're the answer to the circumstance you're walking into. You're not the question to be figured out. Imposter syndrome, is you being the question that needs to be figured out? Can I do. It? Am I good enough? Is it not going to work out like it did in past circumstances, or whatever the circumstance that you've walked in? The truth of the matter is, when we start to unpack identity, you are star to realize that it's not about your strategies, it's not about your business. Know how, it's not about your education. You're the secret sauce to the success in your life. You're the answer to the circumstance you're walking into. When you start to unpack who you are, you'll start to see that all of this has just not, I wouldn't call it pre ordained, but all of this is a part of the impact that you've been created for when you do that, when you walk in that, when you understand identity, imposter syndrome has no place to land, because I'm not impostering anything. I'm showing up authentically, and that's going to bring the success in the boardroom. Give me the answers in the business. And back to the thing we talked about, make me the person I'm supposed to be in the relationships I have wonderful.

BEATE CHELETTE:

Well, I think this is a great place to end the interview. So Mark, for somebody who now is interested in checking out more of the work that you do. Where would you like them to go?

Mark Collins:

Yeah, I try and be a one stop shop to make it easy for everybody. That one stop shop is my website, which is freedom-for-life.net, freedom-for-life.net, my course Life Mastery is out there, Avatar yourself with that. I also have my book out there. You can get my book on Amazon, but I created an e-book on my website so that you can have it in your your iPad, your phone, whatever device you have, you can carry it along with you. But for some people who like the hard copy, like my mom, it's on Amazon as well. But all that is on my website, freedom-four-life.net, you can also reach out to me at Mark M, a, r k, at freedom-four-life.net,

BEATE CHELETTE:

wonderful. Thank you so much for being on the show. I really appreciate you sharing with our audience

Mark Collins:

today. Thanks for the conversation. I really appreciate it. Thank

BEATE CHELETTE:

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