The Compound Commitment

Recruiting Kids These Days: How to Engage with Generation Y w/ Gonzaga Basketball's R-Jay Barsh

Mike Nilson Episode 17

Episode 017:  In this episode, I sit down with Gonzaga Men’s Basketball Assistant Coach, R-Jay Barsh, to talk about something that goes way beyond X’s and O’s—building real relationships in coaching. R-Jay shares incredible insights on why authenticity is non-negotiable, how listening can be just as powerful as speaking, and why understanding generational differences matters when connecting with athletes.

We dive into his personal journey, from growing up with seven brothers (which taught him how to relate to all kinds of personalities) to coaching at the highest levels. R-Jay opens up about creating a family atmosphere in programs, the role parents play in athlete development, and how recruiting isn’t just about talent—it’s about character.

This conversation is packed with practical advice for coaches, parents, and anyone who wants to lead with impact. We even touch on how coaching principles can apply to parenting—because at the end of the day, it’s all about communication and trust.

If you’re curious about what it takes to build a culture where players and alumni feel connected, this episode is for you.