My Inner Torch
My Inner Torch offers direct and personal insight with help for those of us in a relationship with someone who is undiagnosed/diagnosed with a Cluster B Personality Disorder. This is a safe place to come for words of inspiration that draw from my personal experiences and is produced to gain understanding and to find direction as we navigate through the often difficult relationships with those we love who suffer with a Cluster B personality disorder that includes BPD and NPD. PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is NOT for those who suffer with these disorders. This podcast is for survivors of these challenging and difficult relationships.
Episodes
252 episodes
Letting Go.....
🎯 Key TakeawaysCore Points:I recognize the cycle of abuse: love bombing, devaluation, discard, and potential hoovering. I am aware that these patterns can still affect me even if hoovering is not present.
•
12:21
Forgive Yourself!
🎯 Key TakeawaysCore Points:I need to shift my focus from forgiving the cluster B individual to forgiving myself to start my healing process.I acknowledge that I may have made less than ideal choices, li...
•
13:26
Sleeping with the enemy.
🎯 Key TakeawaysCore Points:I’ve learned to recognize that Cluster B individuals prioritize themselves in relationships. They view relationships as transactional, focusing on extracting resources from me.
•
13:08
The Great Pretender
🎯 Key TakeawaysCore Points:I recognize the “false self” in Cluster B personality disorders as a constructed persona used for manipulation, control, and validation.I understand that love bombing is a tac...
•
13:34
Saving Yourself!
🎯 Key TakeawaysCore Points:I now recognize when I’m in a one-sided relationship where I consistently give without receiving.I prioritize my well-being; I’ve stopped trying to fix someone who doesn’t wan...
•
12:22
Recognizing The False Self
🎯 Key TakeawaysCore Points:I’ve learned that Cluster B individuals often present a “false self” to gain trust and loyalty. This is not mere flattery, but a carefully constructed persona.This false self ...
•
13:44
The Cluster B Manifesto
🎯 Key TakeawaysCore Points:I recognize Cluster B personality traits and have learned to identify manipulative behaviors like gaslighting and love bombing.I understand the trauma bond and can now recogni...
•
12:39
Do THEY Care?
🎯 Key TakeawaysCore Points:I recognize that Cluster B personalities often create narratives where they are the victims.I won’t get drawn into arguments; I’ll maintain a neutral stance.I’m recla...
•
12:36
Hidden Abuse of the Cluster B
🎯 Key TakeawaysCore Points:I’ve learned that emotional abuse from Cluster B personalities is insidious and often goes unnoticed, causing internal damage like anxiety and self-doubt.I now recognize how s...
•
13:55
The Cluster B Con Game
🎯 Key TakeawaysCore Points:I’ve learned that Cluster B personalities often engage in a long-term emotional con, slowly eroding their partner’s emotional well-being.I understand the initial phase involve...
•
13:28
NEW PODCAST: "I'm not OK!"
🎯 Key TakeawaysCore Points:I acknowledge that it’s okay to admit “I’m not okay” when facing emotional abuse. Ignoring the problem leads to my self-erasure.I recognize the signs of emotional abuse: gasli...
•
12:19
"You can't fix what you didn't break"-A revisit from January 2022
Let's look back to January 2022 and one of my most downloaded podcasts. This resonated with many listeners. I hope it will with you too!🎯 Key TakeawaysCore Points:I cannot fix someone with Cluster B perso...
•
12:42
It's Okay to Hurt!
🎯 Key TakeawaysCore Points:I recognize the pain caused by relationships with cluster B personalities. It’s okay for me to feel hurt.I understand that these relationships are often doomed from the start ...
•
15:07
The Emotional Con Game-A 2022 Podcast
Today we take a "Look Back Listen" to the Emotional Con Game, originally uploaded three years ago in 2022. Unfortunately, this is something that remains relevant in Cluster B relationships today and was one of my downloaded episodes....
•
14:16
Look Back Listen-January '24 "Living in the Shadow of a Disordered Mind"
🎯 Key TakeawaysCore Points:I’ve experienced how Cluster B abuse leaves me grieving lost relationships, identities, and futures.I often blamed myself, feeling trapped in the abuser’s delusional reality.My healing involved rec...
•
13:13
Intimacy Interrupted
🎯 Key TakeawaysCore Points:I’ve learned that intimacy with a Cluster B personality is often distorted or nonexistent due to their inability to be vulnerable.I’ve realized that Cluster B individuals may mimic intimacy but lack ge...
•
13:16
My Secret Fantasy
🎯 Key TakeawaysCore Points:I recognize the difference between the idealized fantasy of a relationship with a Cluster B personality and the harsh reality of abuse.I understand that the initial “love bomb...
•
12:56
Leaving?
🎯 Key TakeawaysCore Points:I know staying in a relationship with a Cluster B personality is incredibly challenging, and I understand that leaving isn’t always an immediate option for me.I’m learning to ...
•
13:45
Cognitive Dissonance and your Cluster B. A tragic mix.
🎯 Key Takeaways from this week's Podcast:Core Points:I’ve learned that cognitive dissonance deeply hinders escaping abusive relationships. As a victim, I constantly questioned my experiences, blaming myself.
•
12:34
Look Back Listen: What to Expect from your Cluster B Part 2
🎯 Key TakeawaysCore Points:In my experience with Cluster B relationships, I’ve learned they involve a false initial identity, often including love bombing and idealized portrayals.I’ve come to expect si...
•
14:16
What to Expect from your Cluster B Part 1
🎯 Key TakeawaysCore Points:I know I must expect a false initial persona from a Cluster B individual, involving love bombing and idealized presentations. This is not who they truly are long-term.I need t...
•
14:16
The Cluster B Titantic
I’ve come to understand my relationship through the metaphor of the sinking Titantic. Just as the Titanic’s unsinkable reputation proved false, the initial charm of my relationship masked its ultimately destructive nature. I entered the relatio...
•
13:10
Stop feeding the monster!
I’ve learned through painful personal experience how challenging it can be to maintain a relationship with someone who exhibits Cluster B personality traits. My journey has been filled with emotional turmoil, constantly investing love and energ...
•
13:16