Is this NORMAL....??

In today's podcast, I explore the complexities and emotional turmoil of being in a relationship with someone who exhibits Cluster B personality traits, such as narcissism or borderline personality disorder. I often find myself feeling confused and imbalanced, needing to tread carefully to avoid triggering my emotionally immature partner’s reactions. I have personal experiences of living with a spouse who displays childish behaviors when she doesn't receive the attention she expects. This has led me to recognize that her emotional development may be stunted.

I’ve come to understand the importance of setting boundaries and not feeling obligated to forgive abusive behaviors. I advocate for self-empowerment and the rejection of enabling dynamics. In reflecting on my relationship, I’ve seen the toxic nature of these dynamics, where I sometimes make excuses for my partner’s abusive actions, often rooted in their past traumas. I realize the futility of trying to “defeat” someone with these personality disorders, and I encourage myself to prioritize my well-being.

I’ve recognized the signs of an unhealthy relationship, including manipulation tactics like gaslighting and silent treatment, which I now see as unacceptable behaviors. Ultimately, I aim to acknowledge the emotional toll of these relationships and empower myself against the damaging effects of emotional abuse.