My Inner Torch
My Inner Torch offers direct and personal insight with help for those of us in a relationship with someone who is undiagnosed/diagnosed with a Cluster B Personality Disorder. This is a safe place to come for words of inspiration that draw from my personal experiences and is produced to gain understanding and to find direction as we navigate through the often difficult relationships with those we love who suffer with a Cluster B personality disorder that includes BPD and NPD. PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is NOT for those who suffer with these disorders. This podcast is for survivors of these challenging and difficult relationships.
My Inner Torch
Finding Peace
In my journey toward finding personal peace while interacting with individuals who exhibit Cluster B personality disorders—such as borderline, narcissistic, or psychopathic traits—I’ve learned some valuable strategies. I’ve realized there are five key behaviors I need to avoid: engaging in arguments, pouring my energy into one-sided relationships, trying to “fix” others, hiding my true feelings, and overthinking past events. I’ve come to understand that it’s futile to try to change these individuals; any genuine desire for change has to come from them.
I’ve noticed that people with Cluster B personalities can often be manipulative, using tactics like love bombing, and I’ve learned that seeking external validation from them is unreliable. It’s also been challenging to navigate toxic relationships, especially with family members. Sometimes, I’ve had to limit contact for the sake of my well-being. Ultimately, I’ve encouraged myself to recognize these toxic relationships, appreciate the blessings in my life, and shift away from people-pleasing behaviors. This has helped me approach my interactions with a more discerning mindset, which feels empowering.