How To Tell If He'll Really Commit (Without Asking Him)

If you keep decoding mixed signals and second-guessing your standards, this one is for you.

I wrote about the quieter, behavioral signs that a man has already decided whether you're short-term or long-term, and how to actually see them.

No scripts, no games, just a clearer way to read his effort, his calendar, and your own confusion.

If you're ready to stop negotiating with "busy" men and start honoring what you actually want, then listen to this.

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And ladies, here's something that nobody wants to admit not your girlfriends, not even yourself, when you're looking in the mirror and figuring out whether or not a guy will commit to you. A man will know whether he'll commit to you long before he says it out loud. In fact, he's already decided very early on in the relationship, and studies show that men fall in love much faster than women do. And here's the crazy thing he's broadcasting it in everything that he does, every little action that he takes, everything that he does or does not do in order to please you. And the raw truth of it is the woman he sees a future with is treated so radically different than everyone else in his life. Not just slightly different. I'm talking radically. And by the end of the short video, you're gonna know exactly which category he's putting you in. Are you kind of a short-term fling or are you a long-term focus? My name is Adam LaDolce. I'm an executive love coach and the founder of Love Strategies, where we help successful single women just like you get out there, open your heart to the right man, and say next to the wrong guys. And here's the crazy thing before I started Love Strategies over a decade ago, I actually used to coach men on how to get out there and meet you. I used to help them with their flirtation, their body language, what to say. And honestly, I used to help kind of the good guys out there be able to connect to all of you beautiful ladies out there. And one thing I noticed when I was working with these guys is how quickly they would know whether or not the woman was right for them. And I'm not talking about just like, do they want to go on another date with this woman? These guys would fall so fast, it's ridiculous. And the research kind of supports this. I mean, Penn State did a research project on love confessions, and they found that the average man says, I love you first in a relationship around three months before the woman even expects it. So basically, a guy is opening up his heart to you, telling you how much he loves you, and you're kind of sitting there being like, Um, thank you. But then I learned something even crazier. When I started working with women, all few successful women, and we've coached over 42,000 women over the past decade. I realized that a lot of women are looking for the signs if a man is going to commit to them. And usually the confusion that they have is the answer. If a guy is being confusing through this early part of the process of whether or not he really wants to commit, whether or not he even wants to get married, whether or not he wants a relationship, usually that's the big kahuna. That's the sign that you need to be really listening to and looking for. So let's jump into some of these four signs I think are going to really help you out a lot. The fourth one, this is very important, is that a man, when he is ready to commit to a woman, he is going to rearrange his entire life without you having to ask him to. A guy who sees a future with you, he doesn't just fit you into his schedule. This dude is rearranging his entire schedule to be around you. I don't care how busy he is with work, I don't care how busy he is going golfing with his buddies on the weekend. I don't care if he wants to go to a local dive bar around the street and hang out with his buddy Joe. No, not anymore. Not when you're in his life. And here's the kicker: it doesn't require for you to have to nag this guy to be like, why don't you spend more time with me? No, he's going to be doing it on his own because that's how important this relationship is to him. And so many women are watching these guys' words, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. The words that they're saying, telling you how much they really like you and how much they want to spend time with you, but that is the wrong metric. That's not the metric to be looking out for. Watch this guy's calendar. How many times is he shifting things around in order to fight for your time? I want this dude calling his golf buddies and being like, sorry, man, I can't make the tea time tomorrow because I got a chance to be able to see this woman and I don't want to mess this up. And for you golfers out there, you know how hard that is to do. That's a big freaking deal. And then the man who's lukewarm is gonna use the B word all the time. I'm freaking busy. I got a lot going on. I'm really exhausted. I don't know if I really have time for all this. If a man tells you that he's really busy right now, he's not busy. He's just not busy with you. There's a difference, and you already know it. And if you want to dive deeper into some of these commitment triggers and understand what makes a man really commit, head on over to he commits.com. I have a very special seminar that's gonna walk you through this step-by-step process to understanding how to get the right man to commit his heart to you. Again, he commits.com. We'll leave a link in the description. The third sign that he's ready to commit to you, and you can see this without him even saying a word, is that he's showing up for you when it's really inconvenient for him. This is different than changing his calendar. This is all about effort. Effort that's convenient, it doesn't really mean that much, honestly. If he is texting you at five o'clock on a Friday trying to hang out with you last minute, is that inconvenient effort? No, he doesn't have anything else going on for him, and you're kind of a last resort. I want inconvenient effort where he has to drive two hours to come and see you. He's not the type of guy who's saying, No, you gotta come halfway to me. No, it is a man's job early on in the dating process to inconvenience himself to be with you. And it doesn't have to be any like grand gestures, it can be those very small moments of inconveniences for him so that he pleases you. For example, let's say this just happened the other night with my wife. It was really rainy out. We were getting to a restaurant, and I could have just parked my car and made her walk to the restaurant, but I'm like, no, I'm gonna just drop her off at the front, wait for her to get out of the car, then I'm gonna go park the car and walk my ass in the rain so she doesn't get wet and make sure she's good to go. It's just one small example of a man inconveniencing himself and putting in that extra effort in order to make your life better. Now, here's the kicker. When he does things like this, it's so important for you all to show appreciation, even in the smallest moments. Because honestly, you gotta treat us guys kind of like we're puppies. Like if we do something that you like, give us that kind of rub on the head, let us know that it was the right thing. Because if you do that, you give that positive reinforcement, he's gonna do more of it. The masculine energy thrives off of that positive appreciation. The second sign that he's ready to commit, and you can see this again, without words, is that he's constantly asking himself how to make you happy, how to light you up. When a man's really in love with a woman, and I'm talking like head over heels, he would move mountains to be with her. He's not thinking to himself, how do I keep her? No, that's a basic question. He's thinking to himself, what else can I do in my life right now to light her up, to make her ecstatic? And this is a tricky one to look for. I can recognize that because it's invisible to you in some ways, because it's happening in his head. He's quietly thinking, what brings this woman joy? He's not thinking to himself, how do I impress her? How do I get validation from her? No, he's thinking, how do I make a positive impact in her life? Now, here's the thing when a man does do something really thoughtful, and I'm talking like he it doesn't have to be big, it can be small, but he really goes out of his way. It's so important to send the signal that he has genuinely made your day, that he's genuinely making a positive impact in your life. Nothing makes a man thrive in his life more than knowing that he's creating the right type of impact in a woman's life. And now to the number one sign that a man will commit to you. And this is the most important of them all. A man knows very, very quickly whether or not a woman is a short-term fling or a long-term partner. If it's been two, three months of dating and he's still kind of treating you like a short-term fling, read between the lines. He's already put you into a category. He's already decided that this is not the woman for me, it's the woman for right now, but it's not the woman for me. And I know that sounds really harsh, but it's important to recognize that it's not necessarily a reflection on you. It's just a reflection of the reality of the situation. Something isn't right there. And he's kind of putting you into this casual fling box. And when you're part of love strategies and everything that we do around here, we don't accept that. Because the moment you can say next to that particular guy is the very moment you can start opening up your heart to the guys who are leaning in, who are pursuing you, who do want something real. And if that sounds like something that you really want in your life, then it's time to have a strategy. And I would love to open up an opportunity for you to speak with some of my team. They're called the professional love strategists who's going to speak with you directly, really understand what it is that you've been struggling with, your patterns, understand your vision, your big vision for a relationship for a man. We'll we'll help you through it. And then ultimately we can see whether or not our executive love coaching program is right for you. Sessions are completely free. You can head on over to loveapply.com. You can click that link in the description. And this is a great opportunity for you to really set that new standard that says no more short-term flings from these guys, no more short term effort. I need a man who actually steps up, who steps in, who fights for me every single day. Thank you all so much for watching this video. I'll speak to y'all very soon. And uh leave a comment if you enjoyed this video because I know it's been a while since I shot one. All right, speak soon. Bye bye.