Ready to Let Go of the Old You? A Simple Year-End Reset to Step Into 2026 With Clarity and Focus

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Are you ready to let go of an old version of yourself - not because you failed, but because you’ve outgrown it?

If the past year stretched you, challenged you, quietly changed you, or even if it was successful but left you feeling like something still needs to shift, this episode is for you.

In this guided year-end reset, you’ll be walked step by step through a powerful reflection and planning process designed to help you:

• release emotional baggage from the past year
• understand what your challenges taught you
• recognize what you admire about yourself
• clarify what no longer works for you
• focus on what truly matters next
• and step into 2026 with clarity, calm, and self-trust

This episode introduces a simple but transformative Goal-Setting Method to help you ground yourself in truth, define your priorities, and create realistic, repeatable actions that fit the season of life you’re in.

You’ll also learn why:

• focus is one of the most important qualities of successful people
• saying no is a strategic skill, not a failure
• consistency beats intensity every time
• and why feeling stuck is often a nervous system response - not a lack of motivation

Grab a pen and paper, slow down, and give yourself the space to close one chapter and begin the next - intentionally.

🎧 Perfect for year-end reflection, personal growth, nervous system regulation, and setting realistic goals for 2026.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Letting Go Of The Old Self
• 1:04 Why This Reflective Practice Works
• 1:28 Naming Lows Without Judgment
• 3:17 Lessons And Benefits From Pain
• 7:10 Admiring What You Did Right
• 8:37 Focus Means Saying No
• 10:16 The GPS: Grounding, Priority, Steps
• 13:12 Consistency, Friction, And Adjustments
• 15:04 Tracking, Visibility, And Support
• 16:21 Nervous System Before Willpower
• 17:53 Free Masterclass Invitation And Closing
• 18:19 Align Brain, Biology, And Goals

Transcript

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Are you ready to let go of an old version of you? Not because you failed, but because you've outgrown it, and now you are ready to move forward in 2026. So if the past year has stretched you, if it's challenged you or quietly changed you, or you wish you had done more, or you just want to build upon the success that you've already had, this episode is for you. Today I'm going to be guiding you through a set of questions that will help you close this last chapter and step into the next version of you with clarity, focus, and self-trust. So grab your pen and some paper and let's begin. Because 2026 is knocking on the door right now. This is something that I do every year, and sometimes I think I'm not going to do it this year. And I always end up doing it. Not because it's trendy, but because it does work. It helps us reset at this season of life. Because it's easy, it's honest, it's simple. And we know we're not here to fix ourselves, but we're here to upgrade each year. And you're here to understand yourself so that you can move forward and just become better and better each year. So let's begin. Before we talk about the future, we always need to look back. And it's not so that you can feel bad about yourself or look at what didn't go wrong or dwell it or get really excited about all the great things that happened. We need to start with the lows, not to judge, but to acknowledge. And there's something really important because if you can let go of your baggage before you move on, you are lighter and you're clearer and you start feeling like I can really trust and believe in myself moving forward. There's no point in carrying around bad feelings or rocks in a rucksack. They just hold us back and they hold our nervous system back as well. So what we're gonna do is we're gonna counteract that by writing down three low points that you had in your past year. Now, like I said, we are not gonna be mean to ourselves. We want to do it as though it's a matter of fact, you're analyzing. If it feels like it's been a hard year, this is really important. I'm not here to make you feel shame or guilt or any of that. If you wished you had done more, there's nothing wrong with you. It means that we are wanting to pay attention to what didn't quite work for us so that we can let that go to create some space to move forward so that we can create what we want moving forward. So that's why we need to just put down those three low points. Now, make sure you've got some space underneath each low point. So you want to leave like a big block of writing underneath each low point. Once you've done that, then we can move on to the next question. So now we're ready. Under each low point, I want you to answer this question. What did this teach me? Not what you should have learnt or what sounds good. It's this is for you, you know, for yourself, right? This is time to be ruthlessly honest with yourself so that you can really move forward and let go of everything. What did it actually show you? Maybe it showed you that you need boundaries, or it showed you that you have needs, or what your limits are, or maybe it's just what do I not want to keep doing? And if your mind says, I don't know what it's taught me, it just was terrible. Maybe it's just taught you you don't want to do that again. Stay with it a little bit longer because pain always leaves information behind and it's valuable information. So just give yourself some time. And once you've done that, we'll move on to the next question. Now, this is the question that shifts everything. How did this benefit me? So you're looking at all those low points, you've done what did it teach me, and now you're gonna look at what did it benefit me. Because this is not about pretending you're glad something painful happened, because truth is none of us are glad something painful happened. It's only when we see the benefit of what has the opportunity. The deeper truth here is sometimes something has to end for something new to begin. And that's the only time we feel glad that something bad happened. It's only when something new has the possibility. Because the old version of you had to fall away. If something painful didn't happen, you might be in that same role, same relationship, same pattern, same job, whatever it is. But because it was so painful, you had to close the door completely. Or know that this is so painful, you don't want to continue it. The truth here is we don't have problems without an opportunity for something even better. There is no breakdown that doesn't create space for growth. Every single thing that you don't like or has been painful is an opportunity for something new to come in. That's the reason why it happens. So you can close the door, you can let that go. And sometimes it can be just like clarity or boundaries or self-respect, courage, rest, honesty, or a new standard for your life or new values. And if you don't see it yet, that's okay. You can still write, I'm becoming the person who will understand why this painful experience happened. That counts. Just leave some space and you can always come back to this in about three months' time. Just put a note in your calendar or your diary that you want to revisit this work so that you can look at what opportunity did this bring you by closing the door on that. Because when you start seeing that pain sometimes is about opportunity, you stop seeing that year as the one that went wrong, and you start seeing it as a year that I cleared the ground so that I could seed new plants, so that a new harvest could come in 2026. So then you start seeing, ah, I get it now. It's because I had to say no to that relationship so I could have this relationship or even just peace. Okay, so now you've done that work and well done for doing that. It's deep work that you're doing. Now let's look at changing the lens. Most people finish the year by asking, what did I do wrong? But strong people are something else like you. Looking back, what do I admire about myself this year? Might be initially that your brain says nothing, that's not true, that's conditioning. That's not going to work with me, I know that's definitely conditioning. It could be that you carried on when things were tough, or you went for that job interview, or you carried on despite the challenge. You protected things that mattered and you survived without becoming bitter somehow. Or you showed up when it could have been easier just to give up. Sometimes the thing to admire is simply, I didn't quit. I'm still here. And that's not just a cop-out, it's massive sometimes. So try and write down at least three things because how you see yourself determines what you believe is possible for you next. You're not planning the future as someone who failed. You're planning it as someone who proved they can handle hard things. You got yourself, you're gonna get through anything. Not that I'm saying that we want more challenges, but you can walk into 2026 knowing that you're stronger. Now, the next question. Let's talk about focus because research and real life agrees, and I think so many multimillionnaires and billionaires agree on this. Focus is the most important quality of winners. Not doing more, not pushing harder, focus. And what is focus? It's basically what are you saying no to? Saying no is not selfish, is actually strategic. It's time to write this down. What clearly does not work for me anymore? What am I saying no to? That might be habits that drain you, expectations that you've outgrown, roles you're tired of playing. Maybe you just haven't got that capacity anymore. Patterns that keep repeating that you're ready to let go of. Urgency, you're doing lots and lots of things, but you're not really getting anywhere. Now choose one thing that you're going to say consciously no to, just one, because you can't say no to lots, and we want to make sure that you really bed in, maybe saying no to one thing, maybe in the first quarter of 2026, and then you can add in another one. Or maybe you decide to just focus on saying no to one thing for the whole year. Because if it's costing you your peace, your health, your self-respect, your mental health, it's way too expensive. If you're ruminating over something, it's way too expensive. It's not worth it. Now let's turn insight into direction. Think of it like a GPS. To go anywhere meaningful, you need three things. And we need to know where we're heading, right? G is grounding in the truth where you are now, and you've already done this. The lows, the lessons, what you admire, what no longer works. That's your starting point. No GPS can work without it. We need to know where we are before we can tap in and say, okay, this is where I want to go to. P is your priority direction. Where are you going? So let's finish this sentence. By the end of 2026, I want to have. And it might be three or four things that you want to have, but be concrete about it. If you can put numbers in, that really helps because clarity is key. Clarity creates momentum. Saying things like, I don't want to be healthy isn't enough for the brain. It needs something clear. So some numbers can help. It's I want to lose this amount of weight. Once you've got that, you want to ask yourself, why does this version of me matter? Why does this version of my life matter now? Why should it matter having this now? At this point in your life. This is the difference between goals that you abandon and goals you grow into. So this is a really important question. Please don't miss this one. Why is very important? Now you've done that, let's go for the S. These are the simple steps. We all need some sort of structure of how we can move forward. Ask yourself: if this version of me already existed, what would my weeks look like? Write down three to five repeatable actions because actions that you compound on make a huge difference. That's where success really comes into play. If you can compound on the actions that you're taking, you will create success in what it is that you desire. We don't want dramatic changes. We don't want to be doing loads in just say two or three or four weeks and then we give up. We want steady, repeatable actions. Yeah? So then really think about that. And then I want you to ask, would I realistically do this as I am right now? This is really important, okay? Because sometimes we do all these actions and actually we're setting ourselves up to fail because it's not realistic. If it's not realistic, simplify it. Please go back, simplify it. And maybe you need to really look at your goals. Is this something you really want? Because the consistency beats intensity every single time because of the compounding effect on everything you do. You will become so much more successful if you just compound on what you're doing. So consistency is key. Changing is not easy. So let's write down the top three things that could slow you down. Maybe it's overwhelm or losing focus or old habits or emotional exhaustion. How realistic is this for you to achieve? Yeah, the top three things that could stop you achieving this. And then maybe you want to go back and adjust, do a gentle adjustment to those three to five things that you're going to do every day or consistently, and support yourself in a way that you would support someone you love. You would help someone, you would help create a structure. Maybe you want to put it in your calendar. What would help you remember so that you do actually achieve it without overwhelming, without losing focus, without getting exhausted. Be realistic and really make sure that you're doing the things that you love as well. Now, change doesn't stick if we stay abstract. You want to choose at least one of these, like scheduling, tracking. Our brain will make sure that we achieve something if we track it. Just simply tracking it. There's loads of studies on this. If you just track how you're getting on, you're more likely to actually achieve your goals or set a reminder or tell someone what you're committing to, as long as they're not someone that's competitive or you know, someone that's really got your back. And then maybe you help them as well meet their goals. Because visibility turns intention into movement. And one last thing, okay, and this really matters. I want you to know. If you know what you want and you know what to do, but thinking about it makes you feel heavy, anxious, or frozen, or I don't think I can do this, or it's not going to happen, or I'm really not bought into it. I just don't feel motivated to do this. That's often not a willpower issue. It's normally your nervous system protecting you based on the past. So it's a biology problem, if you like. Yeah, it's probably because there's some sort of trauma that you've been through where you might have tried, you've done so much, but you're you feel like what's the point? It's your nervous system protecting you based on the past. It might be that you've had difficult scenarios, really challenging situations where you have some trauma that is triggering your nervous system. So you just feel heavy about it, like you don't really want to do it. Or you find that you're going through it and you get into January and then you just give up, then know that's most likely your nervous system protecting you. In those moments, and I really want to make it clear, pushing harder won't help. It'll actually make things worse. Slowing down will help you more than pushing harder. Because safety comes before momentum. Because if you just try and push harder, you'll just burn out. Or you will do lots but not get anywhere, and you'll just be continuously feeling lost all the time, or feel like it's not possible for you. Safety comes before momentum. You're not broken, you're not behind, you're in between, say, the old identity of you, so the old version of you and the new version of you. And sometimes we just don't know how to become that new version of you because you've got some trauma, you've got some nervous system, anxiety or depression or heaviness based on what has happened before. And that's where you can't get to that new version. So don't let the old version of you quietly block the new one that you're trying to become. If you're meant for more, and this next year can still be the one where you finally allow yourself to step into it, regulate your nervous system, regulate your biology, and let go of the trauma and start releasing some of the conditioning that's holding you back. So it's aligning your brain, your biology, your thinking to who it is that you want to become. And if that is you, then I invite you to download my free masterclass. It's on the biology of success. I'll make sure that the link is in the show notes so that you can make 2026 the best year yet. So there's nothing blocking you from moving forward. You've done this exercise and you're gonna make sure that your biology is not holding you back either. I'm sending you so much love. Till next time, have an amazing 2026. Happy New Year!