Understanding your own red flags ft Maddie

Hellllloooooo psycho sista's and mista's!!

We have the marvellous Maddie back on the pod today to talk all things understanding your own red flags!!

But First! Maddie shares a slithery pit with us! 

We often talk about red flags in relationships and friendships, but rarely do we open a discussion around red flags in ourselves and that’s exactly what we are here to do today! 

This episode is not about labelling certain behaviours as wrong or bad or toxic. It’s more about deepening our own understanding of self and our red flags can be used as important signals of information that we might be out of alignment with our values, that we need to feel safer or more authentic with self and others, Or they’re sometimes part of old memory systems remind you to have limited interaction with a person.

This is about growing our capacity to show up better for ourselves and to improve the quality of connection we’re experiencing. 

Red flags in ourselves: It’s me, hi, I’m the problem, it’s me,

1.Avoidance 
2.You rely on others and external sources for worth: If you’re constantly looking for validation and if you feed off of others’ good views about you, you will always be looking for gratification on the outside and never find it within.
3.You struggle to communicate
5.Criticising and putting ourselves or others down
6.Boundaries only going one way – controlling behaviour or needing to be in complete control. 
7.Struggle to apologise, take responsibility and own your part 
8.Assumptions 

Consider the perspective of, what can I learn here? What is this trying to teach me? 
This red flag I'm experiencing, what direction is it going to guide me in? and can I use my red flags as that, signposts and signals to re-direct. 



We hope you enjoy! 

Aimee, Kat + Maddie 

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