The Psychology Sisters

Deep Dive: Am I too independent?

The Psychology Sisters

Hello hello!

Welcome back for a deep dive into hyper-independence. 

Independence is praised a lot in our society and often described as a strength, so can you be too independent?

Here's a little summary of what we dive into:

  • Signs of hyper-independence, how would you know if you were too independent?
  • Hyper-independence is often a solution to instability and inconsistency e.g. if family is unstable the solution is my own rules for security and certainty. 
  • Rules and self-reliance compensate for unmet needs and the emotional guidance that you didn’t get.
  • Rooted in control, fear and mistrust.
  • Attachment and dependence. To foster healthy independence, we must first invite dependence. We need to have had enough consistency, safety and security to develop a healthy level of autonomy.
  • How to work towards interdependence (healthy independence)

We loved having this conversation on hyper-independence and this quote can be so relevant:  "what keeps you safe keeps you lonely".

Let us know what you think in the comments!

Aimee + Kat



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