Marriage Lab
Aaron and Jenna have been married for over a decade and love talking to people about their relationships, the messiness, the struggle and the victories in all of it. If you're married or planning on it, you can expect 1) Tools for the growth of your marriage and you personally 2) Hope for a healthy marriage no matter what you've experienced up to this point 3) Laughter and comfort when you say, "That's totally us!" and "We've been there!"
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Episodes
112 episodes
Avoiding Birthday Blues & Blowouts
Birthdays—love them or dread them, they can be a surprisingly tense topic in marriage. 🎂 From unspoken expectations to last-minute letdowns, these special days often carry more emotional weight than we realize. In this episode, we’re diving int...
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Season 3
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Episode 76
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37:37
You're Blocking Your Own Connection (Without Even Realizing It)
In this episode, we’re tackling the hidden ways we sabotage our own connection in marriage—especially when we expect our spouse to read our minds. No matter what it is, waiting for them to magically meet our unspoken needs is a passive approach...
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Season 3
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Episode 75
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31:34
Internal vs External Processing Styles
In this episode, we talk about our respective styles of processing how we are feeling. Aaron is an external processor, needing to externalize what's he's feeling in order to understand it. Jenna is an internal processor, needing time to interna...
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Season 3
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Episode 74
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39:14
The Compassion Cup vs. The Identity Cup: A Marriage Game-Changer
In this episode, we continue our conversation about changing how we show up in conflict by focusing on the choice we have in how we respond to our spouse’s pain. When your spouse shares hurt, are you holding out your compassion cup, or are you ...
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Season 3
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Episode 73
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32:26
Ditch the "Courtroom" tactics in conflict
Most people use Courtroom tactic when in conflict in their marriage or in other relationships. In this episode we unpack why this strategy is ineffective for real transformation. We get stuck "lawyering up" and end up adding pain to th...
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Season 3
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Episode 72
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39:56
What to do when your spouse is triggered
This episode is the third in a series on being triggered. So what do we do when our spouse is triggered? Well, we certainly don't tell them they're triggered. That never helps. Instead we get to offer our own peace and calm as we approach them ...
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Season 3
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Episode 71
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33:02
The Four Typical Triggered Responses
Following up the last episode titled, "The Science of 'Triggered'", we talk about what the four most common triggered responses are (Fight, Flight, Freeze & Fawn), what they look like in action and ultimately what growth and healing looks l...
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Season 3
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Episode 70
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50:45
The Science of "Triggered"
"Triggered" has become a buzzword in our culture in recent and it's been commonly used to describe an experience for which someone else is responsible and therefore someone else's responsibility to manage. In this episode, we break...
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Season 3
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Episode 69
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48:29
What You Feed Grows: how our small choices are creating big spiritual transformation
In this episode we talk about how our connection with Jesus has grown and been shaped over the past year through small, consistent action.How to Build a Bible Habit That Sticks!...
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Season 3
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Episode 68
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46:50
Scientist vs Judge: Curiosity over Contempt
In this episode we talk about one of the central tenets to experiencing life-long sustainable change both within yourself and within your relationships: learning to engage your inner scientist instead of your judge. The judge is your inner crit...
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Season 3
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Episode 67
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1:01:25
Peaceful holiday plans for couples with different opinions
In this episode we talk over how we intentionally plan for a peaceful holiday season when you both have different ideas about what that means. If you would like an assist in your planning grab a copy of Jenna's
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Season 3
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Episode 66
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25:27
When Logic Turns to Emotion
In this episode we discuss how often our logical conversations can turn into emotional ones and what to do when that happens. Refer to our episode:
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Season 3
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Episode 65
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28:24
The Best Way to be Heard by Your Spouse
In this episode, we dive deep into the art of sharing pain with vulnerability and compassion. We also address the common challenge of feeling a deficit after sharing and how to turn to the Lord to fill those emotional gaps. This episode is pack...
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Season 3
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Episode 64
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47:59
The Successful Order of Navigating Conflict
How many times has conflict in your marriage led to a huge blow up? One person starts off by trying to share their heart and an hour later you're both left with more hurt than where it started? There's a reason this happens. Most of the time it...
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Season 3
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Episode 63
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38:20
Connection for Empty Nesters
In this episode, we interview Jill & Mitch Martin who’ve been empty nesters for the past 7 years and what connection has looked like for them before and after their kids left the house.
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Season 3
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Episode 62
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52:05
How to change the culture in your marriage Pt 2
In this episode we talk about the culture shifting power of apologies; offering them freely and frequently. This is different than fawning which is apologizing for anything and everything in an attempt to appease or placate. This also different...
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Season 3
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Episode 61
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34:13
How to change the culture in your marriage Pt 1
This episode shares one of the simplest and yet most profound keys to changing the culture in your marriage. Gratitude. Now hear us out! We will share how gratitude provides one of the greatest ROI's in relationships, how we will face internal ...
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Season 3
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Episode 60
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42:20
Change your marriage: what your spouse needs the most
In this episode, Jenna and Aaron share the secret sauce to seeing change in your marriage. It's simpler than you think. Just more humbling.
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Season 3
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Episode 59
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37:52
Is your spouse pushing your buttons? Conflict & Boundaries in Action
In this episode, Jenna and Aaron talk through a conflict they had that morning. This particular one was not a new dynamic in their relationship and had created disconnection many times before. However, this time they successfully paused in dysr...
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Season 3
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Episode 58
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45:26
Behind the Highlight Reel: not falling for comparison in social media
In this episode we explore the pitfalls of comparing your spouse to others and the negative impact it can have on your relationship. This comparison can create feelings of judgment and inadequacy, leading to a decline in positive affection and ...
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Season 3
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Episode 58
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37:47
Breaking Free from Passivity: Empowering Your Marriage with Intentional Action
Take 10 week to invest in building better habits with Jenna's Mastery Course <click to-register: open NOW>Class starts Oct 1, 2024-Can passivity be the ...
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Season 3
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Episode 57
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37:13
Reconnecting Through the Everyday: Small Habits, Big Impact
Take 10 week to invest in building better habits with Jenna's Mastery Course <click to-register: open NOW>Class starts Oct 1, 2024-In this episode of
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Season 3
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Episode 56
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31:05
Unmasking Defensiveness: Identify your protective patterns
In this episode, we talk about our tells around defensiveness. What are the signs that we are becoming defensive as a listener, specifically when our spouse is sharing pain? Here are a few we identify within ourselves:The desire to ...
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Season 3
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Episode 55
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48:37
Will my needs ever get met? w/ Jordan & Claire
In this episode our good friends, Jordan and Claire, share with us how they each grew in the ability to care for each others needs despite the fear that their own would never get met. Jenna and I (Aaron), have done a number of Couples Coaching ...
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Season 3
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Episode 55
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1:04:06